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Incontinence

UTI Test for Incontinent?
Hello. Is there any way a nursing home can test a patient who has Alzheimer's and is incontinent? My mom is 87, and recently, her agitation and combativeness have continued to escalate. She is hitting…
Behaviors
Asking for Help
Toileting
Started by LucyStone
Most recent by Jgirl57
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
331
Jan 22, 2025
0
15
Dad removes depends during night
Hi, I am new to this. My father is dealing with dementia. He's 80 years old. My mom is 82. I live here with them. What's brought me here is that I'm looking for any suggestions. My dad, during the nig…
Behaviors
Toileting
Incontinence
Started by itsmebecka
Most recent by itsmebecka
Caring for a Parent
94
Jan 12, 2025
0
3
when should caretaker prepare for incontinence in bed?
Hoping for some advice from the more experienced here... I've been reading posts about pads and adult diapers and getting up with a demented spouses at night, and while we're not really there yet (no …
Incontinence
Started by blues
Most recent by ImMaggieMae
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
389
Jan 2, 2025
1
10
Lack of Showering
Our father has been going for extended periods without showering or changing his clothes (40 days at a time), which has led to skin lesions. He has incontinence-related issues too. These challenges ca…
Behaviors
Self-Care
Dementia
Started by Ossom
Caring for a Parent
106
Dec 24, 2024
1
Lack of showering
Our father has been going for extended periods (40 days at a time) without showering or changing his clothes, which has led to skin lesions. He also has incontinence issues on top of it. We are limite…
Behaviors
Self-Care
Dementia
Started by Ossom
Most recent by tboard
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
132
Dec 23, 2024
0
5
Mom combative when having brief changed
Hello. My 87-year-old mother is the best person in the world. This horrible disease has caused her to become combative in her nursing home. She is mostly pleasant, but when the staff has to change her…
Behaviors
Dementia
Incontinence
Started by LucyStone
Most recent by jfkoc
Caring for a Parent
104
Nov 18, 2024
0
3
Urinary Incontinence/retention
My brother lives with me and is struggling with urinary retention. He has Alzheimer's and Down Syndrome. One option that has been mentioned as a solution is a Suprapubic Catheter. Does anyone have exp…
Toileting
Incontinence
Started by WendyBH
Most recent by Iris L.
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
85
Nov 4, 2024
0
4
Am I being written out of DH history?
DH is in ES stage ALZ, but most likely moving into MS. Married 65 years. This week DH has told two stories from our joint history where he has written me out of the story for the most part. What he di…
Early Stage (Mild)
Behaviors
Incontinence
Started by Maru
Most recent by SDianeL
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
264
Oct 13, 2024
7
18
The incontinence blues - I'm not handling it well
We've had a couple of rough days. Over the last few weeks my husband has moved into full time incontinence. He's been incontinent for a while, but until a few weeks ago it was almost always urinary an…
Incontinence
Started by Jeanne C.
Most recent by GothicGremlin
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
317
Aug 28, 2024
9
6
New definition of a bad day
Found DH on his hands and knees in the bathroom with poop everywhere. He was trying to clean it up by putting chunks down the shower drain. I managed to get that stopped and got him in the shower whil…
Burnout
Toileting
Daily Care
Started by Buggytoo
Most recent by FTDCaregiver1
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
399
Aug 12, 2024
7
17
When he can't stand up anymore
My dad is 81 with dementia and heart failure. He is in hospice at home. My mom (81) and myself ( I'm 50 and have severe treatment resistant depression and physical disabilities) care for him. Twice a …
Caregiving
Caregiver Health
Dementia
Started by Stori
Most recent by mrsabaldwin
Caring for a Parent
160
Jul 29, 2024
0
4
Incontinence before Dementia - forgetting pads
My Mom was diagnosed with dementia 5 years ago. She was having kidney/bladder/incontinence issues before that. She recently started forgetting to put in a pad. Yesterday she stood and peed while we we…
Incontinence
Started by DLewis2024
Most recent by DLewis2024
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
263
Jul 27, 2024
0
15
Incontinence help!
My DH has been urinary incontinent since December 2023. I have tried everything, every overnight product on the market (yes parentgiving as well), doubles, extra pads, 5 washable bed protectors for le…
Incontinence
Started by Mary Anne B Ware
Most recent by jfkoc
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
268
Jun 19, 2024
3
8
Grieving and Planning
Hello All- My first post ever. I am 40 years old and moved in to help my father 78 who was diagnosed with alz in 2020-- but had been declining for over a decade. He has really progressed and is incont…
Asking for Help
Anxiety
Incontinence
Started by Meredith1284
Most recent by mabelgirl
Caring for a Parent
104
Jun 9, 2024
3
2
Caring for father in mid-stage Alzheimer's
Hello, I am new to this discussion board. I am one of a few people caring for my father in mid-stage Alzheimer's. One of the biggest challenges we have is changing his depends and getting him to showe…
Bathing
Incontinence
Started by anngarner14
Most recent by SusanB-dil
Caring for a Parent
87
Apr 8, 2024
0
1
Tips for dealing with some issues I am having with my FIL (85)
Hello, I am primary caregiver during the day for my father-in-law who has been dealing with memory issues 10 years, diagnosed with Alzheimers 2 years ago. And Jennifer previous post about this being h…
Behaviors
Burnout
Anger
Started by krissanne2011
Most recent by caregiver53
Caring for a Parent
245
Mar 1, 2024
0
4
Hello
Good afternoon. After reading my Alzheimer’s devotional this morning, I was led to connect with other caregivers. My mother has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia. My sister and I care for her in her h…
Caregiving
Dementia
Incontinence
Started by vhthomas
Most recent by M1
Caring for a Parent
296
Feb 11, 2024
7
12
Incontenence
My 96 year old father refuses to wear pull-ups but he can't make it to the bathroom fast enough with his walker. He wets himself all day. And he makes a mess when using the bathroom for #2. Also, he r…
Bathing
Self-Care
Anxiety
Started by BBR
Most recent by Smilescountry
Caring for a Parent
177
Feb 6, 2024
1
5
Nighttime bedwetting
Hi. I am new to this site. My.mom has moderate alzheimers at this point. She has always been very Independent and was always her wish to be as Independent as possible. We have help during thr day but …
Caregiving
Incontinence
Started by yvette44
Most recent by psg712
Caring for a Parent
119
Feb 1, 2024
0
4
72 yo husband with dementia and urinary incontinence.
I am interested in trying a condom catheter for his condition. Anyone out there with any experience with a brand of these? I like QuickChange.com but they do fill up with 500 cc of urine fairly quickl…
Toileting
Incontinence
Started by annewilder
Most recent by Brokenhearted in Illinois
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
314
Dec 17, 2023
0
9
Panic with incontinence
Hi this is Pat, I care for my 87-yr old, ex who is in stage 6 dementia. My biggest concern is his panic when he feels the urge to urinate. Although he can still walk (slowly) on his own, he is so dete…
Anxiety
Incontinence
Started by PeachyPat
Most recent by M1
Caring for a Parent
151
Dec 13, 2023
0
3
Recent Alzheimer's Diagnosis for Dad - Learning on the job
Hi guys, We have recently had a diagnosis of Alzheimer's given to Dad, compounding his battle with Prostate Cancer. In addition to the mental anguish of the situation, the practical issue we are havin…
Behaviors
Asking for Help
Incontinence
Started by ioanmarkden
Most recent by Emily 123
Caring for a Parent
140
Dec 8, 2023
0
3
So many questions! Ups and downs, rapid decline, toileting issues, when to move....
Hi all, My 82 yo mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers just a few months ago. We moved her into assisted living a year and a half ago with "mild cognitive impairment." In the last month, we have seen a…
Asking for Help
Toileting
Care Options
Started by lauraleaf23
Most recent by lauraleaf23
I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)
362
Nov 12, 2023
1
8
Incontinent tips?
Hi family---any methods to help with avoiding toilet accidents? We have been taking Mom at least every hour to the bathroom. she asks "where is the bathroom" as she doesn't remember where it is. We ha…
Asking for Help
Toileting
Incontinence
Started by patiron
Most recent by jfkoc
Caring for a Parent
237
Oct 13, 2023
4
8
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Incontinence
Started by Vranky
Most recent by housefinch
Caring for a Parent
216
Oct 8, 2023
0
6
The ever popular incontinence care
Has anyone had luck using the North Coast incontinence products? Some of their products look great-on their webpage. I was hoping for a less biased opinion. My beloved is in residential memory care an…
Incontinence
Started by markus8174
Most recent by ImMaggieMae
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
295
Sep 21, 2023
0
10
Pull-up with more coverage in back?
My husband does not have dementia but I have not been able to find help on this issues anywhere else. I’m hoping someone can help me. He has started having occasional bowel leakage and “accidents”. I …
Asking for Help
Toileting
Care Options
Started by tlh8553
Most recent by tlh8553
Caring For a Spouse or Partner
270
Aug 28, 2023
0
11
Bowel Incontinence Cleaning
Hello, I have a routine with my LO involving changing her disposable underwear, and there often is a bowel issue that needs my cleaning attention. Barely able to communicate and largely bedridden (she…
Incontinence
Started by Spirit Wave
Most recent by Linda_Miami
Caring for a Parent
139
Jul 29, 2023
1
2
Newbie - looking for support
Hi, my Mom (88) was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment a few months ago. She is still considered independent in the facility she moved into almost 5 years ago. But she isn’t independent. I manag…
Incontinence
Started by L Stevens
Most recent by M1
Caring for a Parent
72
Jul 18, 2023
1
2
Bathroom Issues
When my mother goes to the restroom. She does not sit back on the toilet seat and when she goes it runs out the front onto her clothes and the floor. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can hand…
Asking for Help
Toileting
Incontinence
Started by awomble
Most recent by harshedbuzz
Caring for a Parent
133
Jun 26, 2023
0
2

Commonly Used Abbreviations

DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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Incontinence

Incontinence

UTI Test for Incontinent?

Dad removes depends during night

when should caretaker prepare for incontinence in bed?

Lack of Showering

Lack of showering

Mom combative when having brief changed

Urinary Incontinence/retention

Am I being written out of DH history?

The incontinence blues - I'm not handling it well

New definition of a bad day

When he can't stand up anymore

Incontinence before Dementia - forgetting pads

Incontinence help!

Grieving and Planning

Caring for father in mid-stage Alzheimer's

Tips for dealing with some issues I am having with my FIL (85)

Hello

Incontenence

Nighttime bedwetting

72 yo husband with dementia and urinary incontinence.

Panic with incontinence

Recent Alzheimer's Diagnosis for Dad - Learning on the job

So many questions! Ups and downs, rapid decline, toileting issues, when to move....

Incontinent tips?

x

The ever popular incontinence care

Pull-up with more coverage in back?

Bowel Incontinence Cleaning

Newbie - looking for support

Bathroom Issues

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