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A rare positive report :)

lilacgirl
lilacgirl Member Posts: 92
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We successfully took my mom on a mini-vacation to the beach this weekend! I certainly had my concerns about taking her out of her AL for that long and bringing her into a completely unfamiliar environment, but overall she did GREAT, and I'm so glad we were able to do this.

She definitely had times of great confusion and times of anxiety, but we had a whole team of people (my husband and I, my brother, my sis-in-law) to help, so I think that made a difference. We also basically catered this whole trip toward her needs, rather than trying to make her adapt to our agenda.

People had cautioned us against doing this trip, but I do not regret it at all. I feel like based on her progression, this is probably the last time we will get to enjoy a trip like this with her. I will always treasure the time we had this weekend.

I just wanted to post this as a way to encourage others who might be on the fence about traveling with your LO — only YOU know what they can and can't handle, and if you think you can pull it off, it can be successful and rewarding for all!

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  • SusanB-dil
    SusanB-dil Member Posts: 967
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    Cool! I am really happy for you. So glad it all worked out.

    Probably having lots of help was key, I'm sure.

    Now you have those great memories. Hope you took plenty pics!

    Nice to hear some good news once in a while. Thanks for sharing

  • JulietteBee
    JulietteBee Member Posts: 622
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    I am happy for you. Thank you for sharing.

    I took my last trip with mom last October. She was completely disoriented. I can never inflict that on her or on ourselves again.

  • ARIL
    ARIL Member Posts: 560
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    I am happy to hear this news. Thanks for sharing it!

    Those days are over for us, although I am grateful for some good day trips we had a few years ago when that was still feasible. I looked at a few of the pictures this afternoon, in fact. It was a comfort.

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DH = Dear Husband
DW= Dear Wife, Darling Wife
LO = Loved One
ES = Early Stage
EO = Early Onset
FTD = Frontotemporal Dementia
VD = Vascular Dementia
MC = Memory Care
AL = Assisted Living
POA = Power of Attorney
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