Just need to talk to my friends (194)

Lorita

All quiet tonight. Storms got within two or three miles south if US but only a little hail here. They had baseball sized hail about 15 miles west of us.. Lots of pictures of hail on the news that people sent in. It just said this same storm went on into Ohio. Did you have storms, Mint?

David the apple bread sounds good. I used to make a fresh apple cake that was probably about the same. Hope all of you can sleep well tonight. Today has been stressful.

See you tomorrow.

Iris L.

Today was Pi Day, we went to San Diego to eat chicken pot pie, then visited several areas of San Diego. This statue commemorates Victory over Japan @Times Square in 1945, the original photo was in LIFE Magazine.

This statue composition reflects Bob Hope entertaining the troops, there is also sound of Bob Hope's voice telling jokes.

Iris

Mint

Good morning

Hope those cinnamon rolls turn out nice Beth. I do like cinnamon rolls but I’ve never been motivated enough to try it.

Apple bread sounds easy enough David. Maybe when fall comes if I remember, I’ll give it a try. I really like fresh apple cake. I have some in the freezer now.

we did not get any bad storms last night. We got a little over an inch of rain yesterday, but it looks like during the night we didn’t get any. We did have thunderstorms several times during the day, but they were peaceful, thunderstorms.

going to try to clean my house today. First thing I need to do is get my roast out of the crockpot. It smells good.. Also, have to check on mom today. Think I’m noticing that she doesn’t do as well on cloudy dark days. I bought a lock box that was mentioned on another thread few days ago. I didn’t want her just to see it because she wouldn’t know what it is so I told her. it’s one of those things after you tell her you feel like she would’ve been better off without that information. But I know she would get upset if she just found it. she called me a couple of times telling me how safe she keeps the house. I kept explaining to her It wasn’t about keeping the house safe. It was about the squad having access to the house without having to wait on me to come. She didn’t mention it this morning so maybe I got through we’ll see.

Take care, everyone

JeriLynn66

6 am with Heavy rains here. Lots of lightning. Tornado warnings in Scottsboro so hopefully both of DH’s brothers are safe. I hate this weather. We have to get on the road shortly as I have a lung scan this morning. DH will drive us.

I fixed a good supper last night: baked glazed salmon, asparagus, baby red potatoes and onions. Stuffed mini cherry peppers and fresh sugar snap peas. Finished up the rest of the chocolate cake so later today I’ll make something sweet. Not sure what I have a taste for.

DH got 4 acres mowed yesterday before the rain. The front of my house has a small pasture that I’m thinking about fencing but DH says no.. I’d really like to have a small shelter closer to the house so any pregnant mamas and their babies would be right out the front door. Again, DH says no.

Well I gotta get dressed and out the door to my test. Have a safe day everyone

JeriLynn66

Water water everywhere!

harshedbuzz

@JeriLynn66 Good luck with your scan today.

@Iris L. We celebrate Pi Day here as well. It's Scientists Day as well as DH's birthday which is fitting as he is a happily retired scientist who basically reads all day. He wanted hamburgers, so we did that, chocolate cake from Costco (phoning it in here) and amazon gift cards for more books.

I enjoyed your pictures. My son and DH sometimes watch EarthCam/San Diago on YouTube where they can watch the ships and air traffic.

@Mint I'm thinking about a lock box for mom now, too. I need to make that happen.

I make my store-bought Greek yogurt with dark cherries and top with my homemade granola. It's like dessert for breakfast but healthier. Calcium, protein, antioxidants, some healthy fat and fiber and I'm good until late afternoon.

@Lorita That weather sounds terrifying. I am glad things have passed. I have never seen hail as large as you are describing. That said, I once got stuck driving home from work for an hour during a hailstorm in my old Fiero. They have a plastic body. By the time I got home my eye was twitching.

@David1946 The apple bread sounds delicious. Does your wife use cubed, sliced or pureed apples for her bread? My mom used to sometimes sub out applesauce for part of the bananas when she made banana bread.

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We've been enjoying a glorious false-spring of late, but today brings showers and a change to more seasonal weather. I need to catch up on some cleaning as next week I'm out of the house for a couple of half-day appointments on Monday, Tuesday and Friday.

I think I've uncracked the code to a shorter appointment for mom's AMD injections-- take the last appointment of the day. If you take the 1pm appointment, you don't get out until a little after 4pm. They do a vision exam, and then take pressures and then dilate wait and do imaging first and then she gets the injections. If you get the 3pm appointment, they get all that done in about an hour so you're on your way home a little after 4pm.

Next Friday is mom's nuclear stress test. We were told to set aside 4-5 hours for this. She's supposed to eat a light breakfast without caffeine 4 hours before and bring a snack and caffeinated beverage along with her. I'm trying to decide whether I stay with her or if it's OK to leave. I have a hunch she might "fail" at some point-- she's much more winded than she's been even 3 months ago. If it doesn't go well, they'll stop the test and move onto other options.

HB

Lorita

Morning, JeriLynn, hope all goes well with your lung scan todsy.

It's windy, chilly and really cloudy. Really hated to get up- hit the snooze button twice. Got out before 7:30 and fed Gray Lady and put her in the lot and opened the gate for Toad. Saw him coming as I came back. Girls were already out grazing but started up to the MHwhen they heard his truck.. Saw the four little ones with their moms. Later one came back down looking for mom. He's getting here earlier so guess that's because he's not feeding as much hay. Went back out and let GL out to graze west of the house.

JetiLynn, fencing in that area sounds like a good idea to me. Would be easier to watch for little ones. Our barn is close and I can't count the tines I've gone out there during the night watching for a new baby.

The pictures were so good, Iris, thanks for posting them. Sounds like you're getting out and around quite a lot.

So many pictures of the hailstorm on TV this morning. One yard was completely covered in hail. Glad we didn't have much.

Made a fresh loaf of bread last night so guess I'll have toast with apricot preserves and peanut butter for breakfast. Sounds weird but really good. So guess I'll go and make the toast.

A locked box for a key sounds like a good idea. When our neighbor fell years ago Charles had to break the glass in the door to get in.

Enjoy the day and stay safe.

jfkoc

Love all the photos...keep'em coming.

No bad weather here...I sent it over to Lorita.

Who and how can get into the lock box???

9a zoom with the new meseum exhibit...O'keeffee/Cunningham. The Santa Fe museum was so helpful in putting this together.

Mint

Well found out there was some bad storm damage in the northwestern part of our county. I would have still been up at the time. Mom didn’t notice anything either as we talked about that this morning.

This is a picture of the one i bought Judith. It also comes in a wall mounted version. That little tab pulls a window up and down to cover or expose the numbers. It serves as protection from the weather if you need that. Instructions come in the box. When it opens it is like a little box where you could put several keys in there. There’s a little tab that inside there that allows you to reset the code and you could reset it every day if you wanted to. So the answer to who can get in and out of the box Is anyone who knows the code. It takes me 20 minutes or so to get to my mom‘s house, my sister lives about 10 minutes away. But anytime mom is in a panic I am her 911. So this way when I call 911 I can give them the code to the garage door and then right inside the garage door hanging is the lock box and I can give them the code to that and then they can get into her house without knocking the door down which is a good thing. I bought it at a small key and lock shop but you can get them anywhere. I probably paid more, but that was OK with me because I had somewhere to go back to if I have issues. But it was actually very easy and I had no issues so far.

Lorita

Thanks, Judith. It was mostly just south of us a few miles but close enough. There was baseball sized hail 15 miles west of us.

So, Mint, what if the fall detector on the medical alert goes off and they send an ambulance if I'm unable to answer and tell them the code? Could be a problem in some cases.

Windy and cool here but the sun is shining. One of the girls has been walking the pasture bawling and bawling. I had laid down for a few minutes but figured she couldn't find her baby. Went to the mailbox (road is great, should be for ($3745). Then went out in the pasture in the Gator. I knew there are four little ones so saw them and cow had quit bawling songuess she saw her. Guess she got distracted and couldn't locate baby. My mother always checked when a cow was bawling- said there is always a reason. The grass and maples are so pretty and green. Lots of allergens from Hack berry trees right now.

David1946

My wife cubes her apples.

JeriLynn66

"Well found out there was some bad storm damage in the northwestern part of our county. I would have still been up at the time. Mom didn’t notice anything either as we talked about that this morning." @Mint My daughter told me 6 fatalities reported somewhere near her.. she didn't say where.

Stopped by the ALF to make sure they had my FIL shower yesterday. I specifically instructed them on what to say, do and to call me if he refused because if I talk to him on the phone: he will comply. So the tech tells me they set him up and left him in there ALONE only to come back and find he had left the water on, didn't get in the shower but had soaked three towels by trying to get water up off the floor. So THEN they put him in the shower and scrubbed him, helped him get dressed. The little Tech tells me "you know he would do better in memory care, why isn't he there"? Well DUH!!!! Because your Director of Nursing scored him 25/30 on the mini-mental exam. (which is complete BS)

Since the move to ALF from Independent, he has declined. Although adapted well. Still goes to first floor to eat in the dining room at dinner, to the Library. Eats breakfast and lunch on his floor. Visits with his "girlfriend". But enough changes that I was thinking we had dipped a toe in Stage 6. Well today, there was no doubt. He cannot remember the steps to wash himself (big change), there was feces smeared on the toilet seat (poor hygiene) and used toilet paper on the vanity.

Today, he couldn't call my name. That's also a first. I was showing him pictures of the animals, the kids and grands, the pond. When he saw a picture of me, he said 'You're Michael's"... Michael was his son, my deceased husband. So, at least he knows WHO I am, maybe it's just an off day. Gut feeling: No. Makes me angry because I specifically questioned the DON on the mini-mental score. I dread the thought of moving him again, but if I have to - he has a friend in memory care there.

I was hoping he would just go to sleep one evening and not have to get so far along. He's 98 and has always said he was going to live to 100.

Sorry for rambling on so long..

David1946

Well everyone I finally got my hearing aids through the VA. WHAT A DIFFERENCE they make I can hear the page when I turn the pages of the newspaper. EVERYTHING HAS ITS OWN SOUND.

David1946

ronald71111

David, I have to get my hearing aids adjusted when I go for my vng/balancing test, hearing is a little worse and battery on right ear want charge. I had trouble wearing them during COVID because a lot of times when I took the mask off they would go flying off somewhere, usually under car seat.

Some of the medical gurus on the porch; is it unusual to have three endoscopyes in a 7 or 8 month time span? They are still trying to find the cause of my problem, but it seems to me three times is a lot.

Ron

Mint

Yes Lorita sometimes it can be a problem for them to get into house. Does anyone beside you carry a key to your house?

The fatalities were not in our county. The EMA Director just talked about two houses on one road. One of the houses was damaged to the point that they cannot live in it, a car was turned over and a camper was destroyed. The house across the street had siding missing and she said she thought she’d heard that some windows were blown out. I don’t listen to the news, so I’m not sure where they were. I just listen to our local news and it doesn’t tell very much usually. I could see a huge row of pine trees were blown down in the footage. This occurred about a half an hour north and west of me. Did hear someone at grocery store talking about damage from the storm.

Hope things settle down for your FIL a little Jerilynn. 98 is getting up there and I know what you mean.

Great David.

Ron sorry I don’t know much about endoscopies. Maybe someone else does.

JeriLynn66

Ron, are they attempting to dilate your esophagus?

ronald71111

They dilated the esophagus January when they went down looking for the nodule the second time. Last I heard wa what the pet scan was picking up could have been the wrap from fundilmacation due to my achalasia. They are still concerned about other findings. What I was told was the dr would be using a smaller scope this time where he could see more.

Ron

Mint

Good morning

just saying Hi to move this up to top.

harshedbuzz

Good morning early risers.

@Lorita The lock boxes were shared as an option by Kevcoy the other day after he heard his area was served by Smart911. In those places 911 dispatch has your information (code, and special needs residents might have and even number of pets) and can let first responders know. Smart911 isn't universally available; my county has it but my friend in Philadelphia doesn't. I suppose you could inform local LE and EMS, if you installed it.

@David1946 It sounds like you're happy with your hearing aids. DH trialed a pair in Costco and hated that the world is noisy. I've made a deal that he can opt out of hearing aids and accept the risks involved so long as I can use his hearing glitches as material to amuse my friends. FTR, he still tells stories about his mom's terrible hearing.

@Mint I talked mom into a lock box yesterday. We both have Smart911 available where we live. FWIW, I think the model you chose is the one recommended by the NYT Wirecutter crew. I trust their recommendations as a rule.

@JeriLynn66 GRRR, on that DON. A MMSE is a quick'n'dirty snapshot that shouldn't override the concerns of family in a situation where they're asking for a higher level of care based on their knowledge of the PWD. Some 6-9 months before dad died when he was solidly stage 6, I took him to his geripsych for a med check-- we wanted more Seroquel to deal with delusions, aggression and agitation. Dad not only gave an Oscar-worthy showtiming performance in the office-- peppering his act with quips in Yiddish for his Israeli doctor (Dad's not Jewish) -- he managed to score a 25 on the MMSE. I didn't get the Seroquel. The doctor complimented him on his score and dad bragged all the way back to the valet stand about being "off the charts". Then, while my back was turned, he toddled off and got into some random little old lady's car. I will never forget the look on her face. Serial subtraction is not the best predicter of ADLs.

Pleasant here today. It's still a little warm and I have little to do today. The post office, the grocery store, laundry and a little gardening.

HB

JeriLynn66

Thank you HB!

ronald71111

Looking for advice from my front porch friends!

This does not happen all the time, but last night was the worse. When I get her ready for the bed, she always uses the bathroom. Last night she wanted to sit without pulling her drawers down, I finally got them pulled down. After she finished she wanted to pull them up without cleaning herself, I stopped her and she started slapping out at my hands and ended up digging her nails into my arm. I got her in bed and me being on blood thinner, I spent the next half hour cleaning and wrapping my arm where I don't bleed all over the bed. I believe the days I have trouble with her she doesn't realize it's me. I honestly feel like in her mind she thinks it's someone she doesn't know trying to do something to her. She's never talked about any abuse in all of our years together, but I wonder now how her childhood was.

Memory care is not a option!!

Ron

David1946

If anyone is a Veteran and needs hearing aids go to the VA for them they are excellent.

Lorita

Morning, I agree, David. Charles wore two of them and got a set from the VAs in OKC and North Little Rock. Both sets were great. I think he also got two from Muskogee VA. So glad you like yours.

Ron, does Lou watch TV? If she does the problem may be from something she saw there. Sometimes they think TV is real. Charles was a newshound, watched all the TV news shows and read all the magazines. As his dementia progressed we had to stop watching the TV news. He thought they were talking directly to him and he couldn't tolerate it. Think about it - the newscaster is looking at us.

Mint, I never lock the house when I leave except for the front door. I think I know where the key is but have never used it. No one else has one. We have three outside doors- two are steel but one has a window. The other is mostly glass so two could be broken to get in.

Looks like a pretty day is in store. I fed Gray Lady and left the gate open. Went out to check and she had gone out into the pasture and four had come in. They checked out the hay and are grazing so closed the gate so others wouldn't come in.

Decided I'd cook some beans to go with the cornbread. I have never soaked them overnight but thought I'd try it. I was surprised that they had absorbed most of the water. Maybe the outside will be softer and will probably cook faster. I never salt then until they're almost done.

Need to mop the kitchen and bathroom today and finish the tax compilation. Did some more of that last night. I'll be glad to get that finished. JeriLynn, it's vs scary thing to not have an advocate or someone to check on you when you're in any facility. When my.parent s were in nursing homes I made a point of visiting often and at different times. I don't recall ever finding anything that was wrong. One thing though- mother had a red negligee set she loved so I took it over to her- wasn't anytime until it disappeared. Scary thing to think about being in any facility. Hope I never have to go that route. Hope things turn out all right for you and your FIL. How did your lung scan go?

The daffodils are almost bloomed out but they have been glorious this year. Mother used to have a row of big, double ones on each side of the walkway to the front gate but they had disappeared over the last 60 years. However one big clump bloomed this year. At night I put a small bouquet of them on my bed side table and I put a couple of them in the vase last night. They have a pretty heavy, wonderful fragrance and I smelled them all night. Difference fragrance than the others.

Guess I.better stop and get to work. Have a good Saturday!

David1946

I as reluctant to try the VA because I do not have any disability from my time in the Navy . I found out you just have to be a Veteran (you do not need a disability ) to get hearing aids. I could have had them sometime ago. I also found out that there is so much more available to veterans that i did not know existed.

harshedbuzz

@ronald71111 I'm so sorry. How awful for you both.

It's very possible that nothing traumatic happened in Lou's past, she is probably reacting out of confusion at a time of day when she doesn't consistently recognize you as her doting husband. Think about how awful it would be to not recognize your spouse and feel like you're being assaulted.

One of the gentlemen in our IRL support group had the same situation with his dear wife. Initially it was only once in a while and in the evenings. His DIL who lived down the street would come assist him; she was an RN and could sweet talk her MIL into letting her help. Over time it became more often and he hired a bedtime HHA to come get his wife ready for bed as the DIL had 3 young kids to get ready for bed and school the next day. Eventually she couldn't recall him as her husband or even helper and he chose MC because she was so frightened of him at random times. Once in the care of the ladies in MC, she was able relax and enjoy his daily visits.

That said, I agree with @Lorita around curating her TV viewing. Dad used my mom's guilty pleasure crime dramas and become confused that he'd been the victim in whatever show he watched. It made him very fearful. Somedays he'd tell me all about having been raped, kidnapped or murdered by bad people the night before. He could recall what he'd had for breakfast, but he could still tell me about how scared he was.

HB

Lorita

!David, you are so right. I worked 33 years and 3 months at our VA Hospital. I've been retired 29 years so I imagine things have changed and even more help i s available now.

Charles was a veteran and was able to get anything he needed. A veteran has earned everything they need.

I was just dust mopping and heard a knock at the door. I heard the driveway alarm go off but thought it was a cow. It was sweet Darwin. He knows I'm a vegetarian so brought 10 big cans of all kinds of fruit. How nice of him. I take and order things for them every once in a while and he says it really tickles Donna when I bring them things. He's going out to cut trees that have died and might fall on fences. He's 85. Says he cuts a while, then rests. He has his phone with him. Honey bells are on QVC.

Mint

I checked on smart 911 is not in our area. The reason I went to the lock shop I went to is because even though it cost me a little bit more I trust them. They’ve been there many years I’ve used them. They always do good quality work, so I thought they’ll have good quality lockboxes. He told me the next county east of us. The fire department would actually supply it for my mom and they have a key to all of them. That’s great but we’re not in that county.

If there’s anyone out there who needs hearing aids and they’re still working, they might want to check with their state disability . I am aware of this, because my sister had to get hearing aids several years ago, her hearing disability was interfering with her work. So when she went to the clinic, they told her that they would be able to get her help from disability and they did.

David, I think you were supposed to be going for your test sometime soon if I remember right?

Ron scratches can get you into trouble sometimes like a kidney stone can. Know it seems minor, but some times things that are minor become major. Do you have a plan B in place? Im saying this kindly and gently to a fellow porch rocker, but feel it is something we all need to think about, as you know what happened to me last May 5th.

All of us need to think about these things. If tomorrow you landed up unresponsive in ICU is there a system in place for you and your LO? Does someone who would have to take responsibility for LO know that plan or would they have to figure out something for themselves. Would they have the power to do what they need to do. If you don’t recover mentally as they prepared my family for, or you don’t recover physically is there a plan of action that you have that your POA is aware of and could put in place for you and your LO? It is very stressful time for POA already. My sisters were afraid of losing their sister, but the world don’t stop they had to keep dealing with everything.

Do you use a medical alert system, that you could use if you need help and the only one with you is LO? My mom still has no trouble using the phone, but I would not trust her at all if something happened to me and we were there alone. She would not make good decisions more than likely. If you had a cardiac arrest or fell and couldn't get up would LO call 911? Last summer when I got those 10 yellow jacket stings picking blueberries at her house. My first thought was I have to get out of here and get on the road so that if something happens to me the person that finds me may have some clue hopefully of what to do. Know my mom could well make a very poor decision, and some wouldn’t be able to make any decision. I don’t expect anyone to answer any of these questions. This is totally your decision and privacy. It’s just that I would like for all of us to think about them for ourselves, LO and family or POA because they’re very important. It can happen so quickly. I was ok, 2 hours later i became unresponsive for around 4 &1/2 days.

My siblings made all my decisions for 41/2 days it could have been the rest of my life. I thought I had all my ducks in a row for them, but it turns out I didn’t. The bank wouldn’t allow my sister to access my safety deposit box, that would’ve been very important if I hadn’t of woke up. So as quickly as I could once I got out of the hospital my sister and I went back to the attorney, which a CELA. We then went directly to bank, and made sure that we now had a system in place that they would accept. Different banks have different requirements, so you need to make sure that whatever you do have in place that the bank that they would have to deal with accepts that. They very gladly will look it over and let you know, sometimes they even have to have their lawyers Look at it.

It is a good idea Also for whoever would have to take over paying your bills and stuff to be introduced to your system so that it’s not totally strange to them when they have to try to deal with your bills cause bills keep coming whether you’re aware or not. My sisters had a little issue with that, but they did get all my and mom’s bills paid. But then my sister came and helped me and we have a very well organized system for me and my mom. Laugh out loud now Sometimes I have trouble finding something I need to find, I know where it used to be. Anyway, this is just things for all of us to think about. I’ve kind of been there and done that already a little bit.

My mom has no one named as her sub for me if something happens to me. That is a bad thing, but not one that I believe that my mom would do anything about so I don’t ask her. She didn’t even like it that I got the lockbox but it’s kind of out of sight out of mind so that didn’t last too long.. She doesn’t want to deal with anything, which is rather challenging.

I need to get myself a medical alert system. Im thinking about an apple watch, we’ll see. There was a thread recently where people seemed happy with them.

Just some thoughts hope they help someone. If you are someone’s POA also gives you some things to checkout and be aware of.

Lorita

Mint, so many important things to think about. I have to get this set up just incase. What I wonder about is' if something happened to me and I was in he hospital unresponsive ,even if I had a POA, how would the hospital know who to notify? Or if I've I passed away how would they know what to do, which funeral home? I do have my funeral paid for and have their card in my purse and the card on the refrigerator at home giving information but would they look?

MInt, was it the yellow jacket stings that caused you to be so bad off? We knew a man who was stung one time and he died immediately.I was stung by a red wasp who was in a pipe gate I closed and disturbed him. Hurt like the dickens. Took a Benadryl and I think I put an aspirin or the cream on it. I was probably 200 yards from the house but it had swollen by the time I got there. Be careful of pipe gates and fences.

JeriLynn66

This discussion came up again today for my DH and I now that he has retired. We are about to update all his documents. (He didn't have anything in place before I came along) Also, I routinely go over with my daughters about what is located where. I even send pictures by text message (most recently of my newly chosen funeral attire and shoes, lol). Since they will become POA for my father in law if something happens to me.. I just don't want to leave them in the mess I was in when my husband passed away. The Tech at the facility said yesterday "it's so sweet of you to take care of your father in law". Well, he doesn't have any living relatives, so who else will do it? DUH... (yes, I'm still so aggravated with them)

So the girls are coming for lunch tomorrow. I got a really pretty pot roast to go with potatoes, carrots. I cheated again and bought Angel Food Cake and will serve that with strawberries and cream. Also got plain cupcakes with white frosting for the great granddaughter to cover in colored sugar or sprinkles. I'm gonna put on a pot of "pocket beans" (giant white lima beans) this afternoon. Supposed to be pretty so I imagine DH will have the little one out on the golf cart with her new "pasture boots". The really cold weather returns Monday night with lows in the 28 degree range.

Back to work on gathering tax documents.. later Gator!