When you take care of family members with AD,what can cheer you up or bring back old happy memories?

Mia Parker · April 8

Sometimes I feel frustrated when taking care of my grandpa with AD.I don't feel like he's the same him anymore, and we seem to be the most familiar strangers.I wonder what will bring you guys the old happy memory that cheer you up to continuously look after your family members.
Hoping to receive some kind answers to help me out! Wishing we will all have a better tomorrow!

SusanB-dil · April 8

Hi Mia - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason.

I know that MIL is not the same. not at all. All we can do with her to get her smiling is to go with the flow of what she may be in the mood for on any given day. Sometimes it is an old TV Show or movie, sometimes the music she liked (oh, gee, mention Conway Twitty), and sometimes just letting her reminisce (albeit the confabulations can be incredible!), but just agreeing with whatever and getting her into a good mood is a good thing.

She no longer remembers who is in photographs, nor even who I am, so we just do what we can.

jfkoc · April 8

Sadly I think the memories are yours alone now. That does not mean that you cannot still have an ongoing bond with your grandfather. Be with him. Love on him even if/when he does not know exactly who you are.

The time spent will in the future, become a part of your memory book.