Supporting both parents

slcandler07

Both my parents (79 and 78) live with us in their own attached apartment. My mom (79) is in the very early stages and is still very active. My dad is struggling with her memory changes and becomes angry and frustrated with her. I am looking for how best to support my dad wand how best to support myself as we navigate this new reality.

H1235

Welcome! I would suggest you learn all you can about dementia. On this site there is a place with groups. If you go to new caregivers you will find many resources. I have attended a few. Learning how to interact with your loved one makes a big difference. It might also be helpful to share some of these techniques with your mom. It takes some adjusting.

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6372d16ea4e02c7ce64425b7/t/63f7b80d80d8aa3e3aa4a47d/1677178894184/DBAT.pdf

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/67950/article-understanding-the-dementia-experience#latest

SusanB-dil

Hi slcandler07 - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason.

I hope dad realizes quickly that she cannot help it, and will need to be gentle with her. Also - are DPOA and HIPAA accesses in place? very important.

For you and dad, check out various posts right here. I have found this forum invaluable. Also a couple books available including 'The 36-Hour Day', and quite a few listed in the "I am a caregiver" discussion forum under 'books'.

Glad your mom is still active. Eventually, you may want to look into adult daycare for a day or more a week. It doesn't sound like she needs that quite yet, but something to check out, especially 'later-stages', when dad will need more respite.

Sorry you are dealing with 'this'.