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Struggling
I posted back in April about my mother and struggling then. My Dad had also had hip surgery and everything spiraled out of control. Anyway things did calm down once my Dad recovered and was able to better manage the concept of working with my mother instead of against her Alzheimer's. However things have of course…
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DH's cruel and angry outbursts
Today was so horrible. My DH has Alzheimer's. This morning began with him thinking that is Mom was still alive (she's been gone for 20 years) and that I was moving in and trying to take over her house. No matter how gently I tried to tell him that it was mine and his home, the angrier he became. I don't believe he would…
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Emotionally draining
For the last 4.5 years I’ve tried convincing my mom to see a doctor because I was concerned. She is unable to see her symptoms. It took behind the scenes convincing my stepdad that she was a getting worse for over a year and him finally noticing to get us to the point that we had an appointment with a geriatric doctor this…
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Cognitive Impairment Changes
Hi. This is my first post. It's been two years since I noticed significant changes with my DH. He is 79; I am 66. I am in great health. We've been together 37 years so I recognize what is normal with him. He has been diagnosed with MCI (Nov 2024 even though I noticed changes four years ago), but significant changes after…
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Anger and depression
My father has been declining rapidly mentally. His depression hasn't been able to be controlled with meds and he keeps getting meaner. He's in denial but sometimes I think what I say actually makes it to his thinking process sometimes but is often turned around on me and it's my fault or something I did or didn't do. I'm…
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Beginning to Resent My Mom
Hello everybody! My dear spouse recommended I write about my recent feelings in here to vent, maybe get some more insight. I am 26 and am the main caretaker for my mom for about 5 years now since her Alzheimer's diagnosis in 2022. Her main "team" is myself, my spouse, and my best friend who moved in with us. I realized I…
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Quiet Weekend = Worry
Why is it when I get a quiet weekend I am more paranoid of what might come in the following days is going to be a big one. This past weekend I had 2 calls, both for an alert that dad fell AGAIN, trying to get to the bathroom or just out of bed. Both times they didn't seem worried, but I was. I mean one of the times he hit…
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Taking Mom Out
New here - Mom has been in MC for a year (this week actually), she still asks when she is going home and her anger and agitation has increased. We did not take her out of the facility for several months following her admission but have done so more recently (breakfast, shops, etc.) but the last two visits she seems to be…
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Father Angry & Unhappy in SNF
My father(86 yo), who from what I’ve read has recently entered Stage 6, he has been in a SNF since April. Until recently he has been fairly happy there and hasn’t complained much. I’m not sure most days he really understands where he is, often times he calls it his apartment or thinks he is at work. Other than the dementia…
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From the NYT: The Pain of Caring for a Parent Who Abused You
Gifted link. C&P into your browser. https://www.nytimes.com/2026/06/15/magazine/elder-care-parent-abuse.html?unlocked_article_code=1.qVA.g6x3.dCf7rxwmWlbP&smid=url-share
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DW Doesn’t recognize me
My DW (65) has been battling Alzheimer’s for the past 8 years and is now in early Stage 7. I have been her primary caregiver throughout this journey, although earlier this year I hired a caregiver who comes four days a week during the daytime to help. Over the past several months, my wife has continued to decline. Most…
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Dad gets aggressive
My dad has a bandage over his wound per his dr and wound clinic. It gets changed by the wound clinic as well as my sister and I every 3 days. The dr. Said it needs to stay on to help it heal. He forgets it needs to stay on and keeps trying to take it off; gets mad at us for not taking it off when he asks. He feels he…
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Her Sun Has Risen...
I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…
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New Here - Suggestions for Getting Spouse To Give Up Driving?
To be clear - I have joined this group on behalf of my niece who is the caregiver of her 62 year old husband with ALZ. She still works full time (so has little time to do this kind of online research herself) and he is home alone all day. He is now at the point where he shouldn't drive anymore, both because of his current…
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Dad's Almost Totally Impossible to Communicate With - Help Needed
[I've been a lurker for a few months, but I'm hoping to get some advice. Thanks, in advance.] My Dad (82) was diagnosed with early-stage Alzheimer's just under a year ago. Yes, I was floored. But it made sense, too. We'd been fighting for a few years regarding how he's [not] been communicating me in a reliable manner. For…
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Mother very angry - need help
My mother was diagnosed about 2 years ago, and she's steadily declining. She has haunting memories come every week or so of when my father had an affair over 20 years ago. They got back together and had a whole life after the affair, but she is reliving the experience of when she first found out about it all those years…
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Young diagnosis of early onset ALZwgat to do first?
I’m a new member. My husband (48) was diagnosed Ed last week with Early AZ via blood test and pet scan. What do I do now?? I’m lost. Sad. Angry and need a path.
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how to care for angry person
How do you care for parent who is angry at you. My mom constantly tells me and others I am stealing her stuff (shampoo, and other stupid stuff) She has gotten to a point where she is banning from her home, but I am the closest of family member and the most available to help my dad. She apparently rants all day to him. How…
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Entering the fun new phase of paranoia
My mom has been in AL for just over 2 weeks. She finally had her doctor's appointment there with the doctor on staff to establish her as a new patient. It was a very painless exam, he just wanted to go over her medications and he could not have been nicer — she complained about how one of her pills is not delivered to her…
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A Brain Tumor & Dementia!
My first post & it will be a lengthy back story. Sorry but I am about to stroke out. My wonderful step father of 52 years passed in March of 2023 & then my Dad passed November 2023. In Jan. 2023 found out my Mother had a very large meningioma brain tumor. Only found because she would have what I call absence seizures. She…
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I'm back in this group again
My dad lived with Alzheimer’s for years before he passed six years ago, and it was heartbreaking to watch. This community helped me through that time. I recently lost my mom as well—she didn’t have Alzheimer’s, but caregiving and life without my dad took a heavy toll on her in her final years. Now my best friend, in her…
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Leqembi
Hi, Dad went for his first MRI after 1 month of being on Leqembi. The doctor's found internal bleeding and brain swelling. Dad will stop taking infusions. In June the doctors will give him another cat scan to check his brain. If he improves, they will put him back on leqembi. Honestly, I am against him doing this infusion…
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On the verge of a nervous breakdown
Hi everyone I am new here and not sure what to say or even where to start I just feel like I am losing my sanity. I do not know if I am the only person this type of situation has ever happened to or if I really am going crazy. It is a complex story; 7 years ago, I moved in with my mom who had had a stroke and was in the…
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When friendship is impacted
I suspect a dear friend of mine has early onset. This person's mother had Alzheimer's and passed away as a result. My friend is in their mid-60s and is dealing with the recent death of a spouse so for the past two or so years I've attributed recent behavior changes (verbal outbursts, mostly) to grief and having to navigate…
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Fear and refusal of standing/transfers?
Prefacing with my mom seems to be in the later stages. She recently does not want to get up or stand up. In the morning, she will not want to sit up in bed. Once we get her in a sitting position, she is refusing to stand up. She would rather just sit there. When we get her up with a gait belt, she gets very angry and…
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DH hallucinating that he's going to have an affair
I am going to post this, because I haven't seen anything quite like our story. My husband is in Stage 5-6 of This Crappy Disease, and he is now telling me that he would like to start a new relationship. The woman he's interested in is a neighbor whose name we don't know. He has been irritated with me because I am the…
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Dealing with uncontrollable anger
My mother is 82 and was previously diagnosed with early onset dementia. I didn't think the condition had progressed much, as I was not noticing any severe symptoms, but in the past year she has had more and more outbursts of uncontrollable anger. I didn't know this was a symptom of dementia until I looked it up after a…
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Barely Surviving Everday…
Hi, I am new here. By a grace of God, I was given this website, believe it or not from a woman that was a customer service representative at the Treasury Department. My mom has Alzheimer’s, and I suspected it four years ago and sent the alarm to the family. Nobody believed me, and thought it was natural aging, and…
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being prevented from communication
My DW of 45 years has ALZ and is living in an assisted care facility. The oldest daughter has POA. She and an unknown DR have implemented what they call a "NO CONTACT" plan where I am being prevented from any communication with my wife. They say this is for her "well being" and that it is permanent. She is taking 3 or 4…
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Suggestions on making the move to MC
My father has been the primary caretaker for my 78 y/o mom for the last 5 years of her Alzheimer's diagnosis. A daily routine was working "well" in that it was predictable, and her ability to live in a well-managed environment was working as good as one might expect. In the past 3 months however, she has experienced…