Overwhelmed caregiver.

locqueenlove

My mom just got diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia 6month ago. Sometimes she will be her normal self then she someone I don’t recognize. Someday I can get her to take her medication with no problem then another day she resist. I’m having hard time keeping the house clean because she leaves things everywhere and brings her clothes down from her room and put in the living room. I’m so overwhelmed. Im only 31 and i have to manage a 3 bedroom house because my 62 mom can’t. She always leaving the house. She doesn’t want listen to me anymore. My family doesn’t wanna help me. They keep telling me to throw her into a home.

terei

You dont ‘throw her into a home’. You help her have 24/7 attention and care which cannot be given successfully by one single person. Placing her in a facility is doing something FOR her, not TO her. You can ruin your own physical + mental health by insisting you can do ‘everything’ for her on your own. Your choice.

Sizzle2

While I agree, caring for her alone will be almost impossible. You do need a community and additional help. Most people today can't afford a "home" unless you get support from your family...it's very expensive. Find a local Alzheimer's chapter and get to know others who can help offer ideas on resources. Look for an "adult daycare" location to get reprieve. Call "nursing homes" to find out if they have staff that does part-time, in home care. If she's on Medicare, contact your insurance company (e.g., United Healthcare, Aetna) for in-home resources (CNA, etc.). Talk to local churches. Often, volunteers will come to give you respite for a few hours while you take a break.

Re: Meds. Crush pills and put in "pudding" or something sweet/tasty.
Re: Clothes: Find a cabinet downstairs and make it her hidey hole...tell her it's a game.
You have to try to be "creative" and find "different" approaches. It's hard...but don't give up. GOOD LUCK!