My DH went to MC today

My family and I have been thinking for a long time that because of his angry and agitated behavior DH needed a safer environment than I could provide for him at home. We had chosen a facility in February but we had to await an opening and also had difficulties getting doctors to sign off on their forms.

I will say that the way he was induced to go to the facility was unique. The nursing director had visited us once at home to assess his suitability for MC and was favorably impressed by him. However, after all of us (myself, DS and DDIL) told her about his rages, and especially after his taking a rideshare and disappearing for about 3 hours 10 days ago, she decided it would be best if she picked him up. She visited again last week with the activities director and they offered him a "consulting job" seeing "difficulty patients" at their "rehab facility". (DH was formerly a clinical psychologist). She even brought a badge. To my surprise, he accepted, although he later forgot. Then today, they came back and told him they were taking him to Starbucks and then to see the facility. He got in the car with them at mid-morning today.

I texted the nursing director later and she told me that he was so angry with her that she had to leave the building. However, he is still there and she told me this is not at all unusual. Because of his anger issues we were told to wait until next week to visit.

I feel like a bomb went off in my life today. I'm in this house all alone and just keep looking around for the next angry outburst and there's no one else there. I think this is one of the most draining experiences I've ever had in my life. But at least now I feel safer than I did each day with him.