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Stepdad with Alzhemiers getting possessive
I am definitely looking for help and not sure what to do. My mom has stage 4 breast cancer and is at home on Hospice. She does not have much time left. My stepdad is also here and has late stage AZ. I have been trying to find a memory care facility for him, but I am not his power of attorney or next of kin so I am having…
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Bed bound & aggressive -looking for advice
I'm new here and looking for advice. A little background -I help care for my 84 year old father. He has late stage Alzheimer's, bed bound and completely dependent for care. Communication is difficult as his eyesight and hearing are poor and his ability to speak coherently is mostly gone. We are having a terrible time with…
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A Cautionary Tale: Details Emerging About Hackman's Death
I'll put a trigger warning here. This is difficult reading. It has been determined that Gene Hackman died from cardiovascular disease and Alzheimer's a full week after his wife succumbed to Hantavirus. She was among the oft quoted 1/3 of caregivers who died before their LO. Friends describe his wife as fit, healthy and 3…
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Picking at skin
please help! My husband was diagnosed with Lewy Body dementia. He picks at his arms, face, hands, ears and legs. Today he picked at his hands from morning to night. I can’t keep him preoccupied long enough to stop. I put bandages on him but he takes them off. I’m at a loss and he’s getting more and more open areas…
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Warning: Avoid Brain Injury in mAb Clinical Trials.
In 2023, I was in a clinical trial similar to those mentioned in the NY Times article posted here by Crushed. (Alzheimer's drug horror story from the NYT, posted 10/23/2023). I was tested and accepted into the study in January. After taking 5 doses, one injection each week for five weeks, I started getting side effects. I…
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Doctored: Fraud, Arrogance, and Tragedy in the Quest to Cure Alzheimer's
Been hearing a lot about this book recently through podcasts and interviews with the author. Very important to know about this misconduct in the Alzheimer's research field. It's so discouraging to know this is happening. Doctored: Fraud, Arrogance, and Tragedy in the Quest to Cure Alzheimer's…
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A Local Nightmare
This was in the news not far from me. A woman was found wandering near 2 very busy streets in a primarily residential (mostly single-family homes) area. It's interesting that she seems dressed for the weather.
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My Dad has gotten aggressive and totally opposite of how he used to be
I know so many are dealing with this horrible disease and know it is a struggle!! I stay with my parents to help my mom with my Dad and she doesnt have the best health herself and I am also a single mom to a 10 yr old boy. I feel as if I am trying to carry the world on my shoulders as between work and taking care of…
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Update on Decision & Question: Decline, delusions & agitation-next steps?
Mom (87yo) is declining rapidly in past 4 months and we (step-dad and I, sis occasionally) are seeing increase in her delusion that he has a GF, she comes in in middle of night and takes things, brings things, breaks things-mostly kitchen items or things in closets she doesn’t recognize-hairdryer, coats, utensils, serving…
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Vermin Rat and Mouse Problem
About four years ago California's Governor Newsom banned rat and mouse poison replacing it with birth control in an effort to save the mountain lions and wildlife. Unfortunately this has created an increasing epidemic of vermin. The entire neighborhood as well as others I speak with locally are suffering. This is…
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Holes in the walls
Our father has been cutting out holes in the walls, creating a significant challenge for my sister and I. We have so many repairs to do after he dies. We have found that taking away tools does not deter him from causing damage, as he resorts to using alternative objects, such as metal rods or other items he can find in the…
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New to this and seeking guidance
I’m new to this whole world and the challenges it presents! Mom is showing many signs of Dementia/Alz and in the process of additional health tests. No official diagnosis, no cognitive testing. Limited healthcare in the area and PCP is generalist. We are trying to get her to Geriatric Dr in a few months tho haven’t brought…
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Guns
Hi my father is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s. We live in rural Alaska and he has always had an arsenal of guns in our home. He always carries one with him everywhere we go. He hasn’t given me any reason or worries about his guns. He also hasn’t shot them in almost year or so. But I know there is going to be a day…
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I am very sick with covid DW also infected. Help with ER visit
my DW has rapid Demetia, she is in late stage. Which is challenging enough, trying desperately to get some respite relief which I have been granted 12 hours a mont( which are now cancelled due to the Fact, we both now have Covid… DW doesn’t have the severity of symptoms as I do. I am trying to get to the hospital ASAP for…
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Trying to Do What is Best
We are about to hit the wall with rehab discharge and getting my mom into AL instead of letting her return to her IL apartment. This is going to be very hard since her perception of her abilities and safety issues does not align with reality and she is itching to get back to her bridge games and friends. She has a left arm…
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When do you take the keys?
mom is in the early stages. She loses her phone and is surprised that all she needs is her pocket book to start the car (keyless ignition and “key” in her purse). She does drive to the same three places all the time and the doctor said she passed “that part” of the cognitive test. Given that she came to my house the other…
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Memory Care to Skilled nursing journey
My DH had a fall 3 weeks ago at his MCF and they transported him to the hospital. I didn't want him to go because I knew most likely he wouldn't be able to return to the memory care unit. I know how these things work. Well, they've said he is not going to be able to come back there. So I'm looking at skilled nursing now. I…
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Dementia and Muscle Weakness
My mom has been diagnosed with Dementia / Alzheimer's for about 2 years now. This past year i have been staying at my parents house as the adls for my mom are getting more difficult for my dad to care for her alone. We would like to keep her in her home as long as we are able to still care for her.💓 My mom's left side of…
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Doctor ordered MRI but she probably can't stay still. Is it worth it to try?
Hello, This is in Pennsylvania. My mother-in-law is 83, living with us, certainly has some kind of dementia, but we don't have a specific diagnosis. Her primary care doctor ordered an MRI to help us get a diagnosis. I told the doctor that MIL has a habit or tic of snorting and sniffling. It is almost constant. I am sure…
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Is this sundowning
My Dh has been increasingly waking up after a couple hours sleep getting dressed and going outside. He doesn't go anywhere just thinks it's really early in the morning. Last night I got to him before he went out. Should I think about getting a alarm or lock? To be honest I don't know what I'm suppose to be doing. Don't…
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Pool Safety?
I’m new here and this is my first post.. my mother (67) is a few years into Alzheimer’s and still living at home with my father who is her primary caregiver. I am about a 10 minute drive away, often busy with my kids (6 and 3), but I spend time with mom a few days a week to give my dad some down time. Mom is left alone…
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My DH went to MC today
My family and I have been thinking for a long time that because of his angry and agitated behavior DH needed a safer environment than I could provide for him at home. We had chosen a facility in February but we had to await an opening and also had difficulties getting doctors to sign off on their forms. I will say that the…
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Is it wrong to continue driving?
Hi there. I'm new here. My 54-year-old husband was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's, although we've been working for a diagnosis for over a year, and I think his symptoms probably started three or four years ago. Here's my question/dilemma: Is it wrong for me to let my husband continue to drive? I ride with him in the car…
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Moving to a Memory Care Community
Does anyone have suggestions on how to talk to your parent about moving to a memory care community? I’m trying to find the words that my Dad would understand. He’s not able to rationalize anymore and has never liked change.
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New fast progressing signs of Dementia
Hi new here and in search of helpful feedback. My 85 year old dad has not been officially diagnosed with dementia yet but his pcp and er doctors all agree that he is showing all signs of being that. His behavior has changed so rapidly. He started with spying on all of us, my mom, my boyfriend and myself. We thought it was…
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New paranoia- Passenger Seat
It was around a year ago when I first saw my mother have a severe panic attack riding in the passenger seat. I had no idea why she was so upset, she couldn't look at the road, and eventually started crying. I try to comfort her from the back seat. The person driving wasn't speeding and it was not heavy traffic yet she kept…
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How to do long-distance move into memory care
My uncle has dementia and has recently progressed to the point where he can no longer live alone. He has no close family or friends nearby and my father (his brother) has found memory care near his home, but it is many states away from where my uncle currently lives (18 hour drive or 3-4 hour flight) My uncle is confused…
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Mobility concern
Hello everyone. My mother is 75 years old and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia officially in 2020. Lately, my mom has been needing more help with walking around the house. Last week, she fell in the bathroom; she was looking in the mirror and just fell backwards. I’ve also noticed that she leans to her…
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Convincing LO to Move
New here and need help... 4 months ago, I came to my parent's house out of state thinking I was going to support my parents for a few weeks, working remotely, for my mom's knee replacement surgery. Long story short, I have been back home for 56 hours because my mother fell and fractured 4 ribs, contracted asymptomatic…
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Younger onset, or forthcoming Alzheimer's at later date?
Symptoms with start dates. Some dates are guesses because I only began paying attention to symptoms this year (2023): 2023: Difficulty judging distances. Think I stopped the PWD from jumping in front of cars coming from two directions recently. The look on the PWD's face indicated they were going to try to cross a street…