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A Local Nightmare
This was in the news not far from me. A woman was found wandering near 2 very busy streets in a primarily residential (mostly single-family homes) area. It's interesting that she seems dressed for the weather.
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My Dad has gotten aggressive and totally opposite of how he used to be
I know so many are dealing with this horrible disease and know it is a struggle!! I stay with my parents to help my mom with my Dad and she doesnt have the best health herself and I am also a single mom to a 10 yr old boy. I feel as if I am trying to carry the world on my shoulders as between work and taking care of…
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Update on Decision & Question: Decline, delusions & agitation-next steps?
Mom (87yo) is declining rapidly in past 4 months and we (step-dad and I, sis occasionally) are seeing increase in her delusion that he has a GF, she comes in in middle of night and takes things, brings things, breaks things-mostly kitchen items or things in closets she doesn’t recognize-hairdryer, coats, utensils, serving…
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Vermin Rat and Mouse Problem
About four years ago California's Governor Newsom banned rat and mouse poison replacing it with birth control in an effort to save the mountain lions and wildlife. Unfortunately this has created an increasing epidemic of vermin. The entire neighborhood as well as others I speak with locally are suffering. This is…
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Holes in the walls
Our father has been cutting out holes in the walls, creating a significant challenge for my sister and I. We have so many repairs to do after he dies. We have found that taking away tools does not deter him from causing damage, as he resorts to using alternative objects, such as metal rods or other items he can find in the…
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New to this and seeking guidance
I’m new to this whole world and the challenges it presents! Mom is showing many signs of Dementia/Alz and in the process of additional health tests. No official diagnosis, no cognitive testing. Limited healthcare in the area and PCP is generalist. We are trying to get her to Geriatric Dr in a few months tho haven’t brought…
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Guns
Hi my father is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s. We live in rural Alaska and he has always had an arsenal of guns in our home. He always carries one with him everywhere we go. He hasn’t given me any reason or worries about his guns. He also hasn’t shot them in almost year or so. But I know there is going to be a day…
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Warning: Avoid Brain Injury in mAb Clinical Trials.
In 2023, I was in a clinical trial similar to those mentioned in the NY Times article posted here by Crushed. (Alzheimer's drug horror story from the NYT, posted 10/23/2023). I was tested and accepted into the study in January. After taking 5 doses, one injection each week for five weeks, I started getting side effects. I…
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I am very sick with covid DW also infected. Help with ER visit
my DW has rapid Demetia, she is in late stage. Which is challenging enough, trying desperately to get some respite relief which I have been granted 12 hours a mont( which are now cancelled due to the Fact, we both now have Covid… DW doesn’t have the severity of symptoms as I do. I am trying to get to the hospital ASAP for…
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Trying to Do What is Best
We are about to hit the wall with rehab discharge and getting my mom into AL instead of letting her return to her IL apartment. This is going to be very hard since her perception of her abilities and safety issues does not align with reality and she is itching to get back to her bridge games and friends. She has a left arm…
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When do you take the keys?
mom is in the early stages. She loses her phone and is surprised that all she needs is her pocket book to start the car (keyless ignition and “key” in her purse). She does drive to the same three places all the time and the doctor said she passed “that part” of the cognitive test. Given that she came to my house the other…
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Memory Care to Skilled nursing journey
My DH had a fall 3 weeks ago at his MCF and they transported him to the hospital. I didn't want him to go because I knew most likely he wouldn't be able to return to the memory care unit. I know how these things work. Well, they've said he is not going to be able to come back there. So I'm looking at skilled nursing now. I…
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Dementia and Muscle Weakness
My mom has been diagnosed with Dementia / Alzheimer's for about 2 years now. This past year i have been staying at my parents house as the adls for my mom are getting more difficult for my dad to care for her alone. We would like to keep her in her home as long as we are able to still care for her.💓 My mom's left side of…
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Doctor ordered MRI but she probably can't stay still. Is it worth it to try?
Hello, This is in Pennsylvania. My mother-in-law is 83, living with us, certainly has some kind of dementia, but we don't have a specific diagnosis. Her primary care doctor ordered an MRI to help us get a diagnosis. I told the doctor that MIL has a habit or tic of snorting and sniffling. It is almost constant. I am sure…
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Is this sundowning
My Dh has been increasingly waking up after a couple hours sleep getting dressed and going outside. He doesn't go anywhere just thinks it's really early in the morning. Last night I got to him before he went out. Should I think about getting a alarm or lock? To be honest I don't know what I'm suppose to be doing. Don't…
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Pool Safety?
I’m new here and this is my first post.. my mother (67) is a few years into Alzheimer’s and still living at home with my father who is her primary caregiver. I am about a 10 minute drive away, often busy with my kids (6 and 3), but I spend time with mom a few days a week to give my dad some down time. Mom is left alone…
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My DH went to MC today
My family and I have been thinking for a long time that because of his angry and agitated behavior DH needed a safer environment than I could provide for him at home. We had chosen a facility in February but we had to await an opening and also had difficulties getting doctors to sign off on their forms. I will say that the…
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Is it wrong to continue driving?
Hi there. I'm new here. My 54-year-old husband was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's, although we've been working for a diagnosis for over a year, and I think his symptoms probably started three or four years ago. Here's my question/dilemma: Is it wrong for me to let my husband continue to drive? I ride with him in the car…
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Moving to a Memory Care Community
Does anyone have suggestions on how to talk to your parent about moving to a memory care community? I’m trying to find the words that my Dad would understand. He’s not able to rationalize anymore and has never liked change.
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New fast progressing signs of Dementia
Hi new here and in search of helpful feedback. My 85 year old dad has not been officially diagnosed with dementia yet but his pcp and er doctors all agree that he is showing all signs of being that. His behavior has changed so rapidly. He started with spying on all of us, my mom, my boyfriend and myself. We thought it was…
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New paranoia- Passenger Seat
It was around a year ago when I first saw my mother have a severe panic attack riding in the passenger seat. I had no idea why she was so upset, she couldn't look at the road, and eventually started crying. I try to comfort her from the back seat. The person driving wasn't speeding and it was not heavy traffic yet she kept…
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How to do long-distance move into memory care
My uncle has dementia and has recently progressed to the point where he can no longer live alone. He has no close family or friends nearby and my father (his brother) has found memory care near his home, but it is many states away from where my uncle currently lives (18 hour drive or 3-4 hour flight) My uncle is confused…
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Mobility concern
Hello everyone. My mother is 75 years old and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia officially in 2020. Lately, my mom has been needing more help with walking around the house. Last week, she fell in the bathroom; she was looking in the mirror and just fell backwards. I’ve also noticed that she leans to her…
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Convincing LO to Move
New here and need help... 4 months ago, I came to my parent's house out of state thinking I was going to support my parents for a few weeks, working remotely, for my mom's knee replacement surgery. Long story short, I have been back home for 56 hours because my mother fell and fractured 4 ribs, contracted asymptomatic…
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Younger onset, or forthcoming Alzheimer's at later date?
Symptoms with start dates. Some dates are guesses because I only began paying attention to symptoms this year (2023): 2023: Difficulty judging distances. Think I stopped the PWD from jumping in front of cars coming from two directions recently. The look on the PWD's face indicated they were going to try to cross a street…
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Nursing Support for Hospital Visits
Hi All! I'm new to this group. My sister has dementia we believe due to vascular system issues. She lives in a Memory Care facility. Recently, she's had some health issues with declined responsiveness. The facility sends her to the ER via ambulance. The issue is I'm in FL and she is in MO. It frightens me that she is going…
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Risky walking and ALF/MC
How do you balance your LO's desire to walk when it's risky, with the MC / ALF desire for them to always stay safe? Mom is in a wheelchair following a broken hip. She's done a lot of PT / Rehab but is usually only able to stand for a moment and transfer from wheelchair to bed, or wheelchair to toilet, or wheelchair to a…
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Mother in law- and supporting my husband and brothers to best support her
My MIL recently moved close to us from our of state. Since she has been closer we see increased memory impairment and getting lost while driving. I would like to chalk up some of it to learning a new area, however a few weeks ago she came into a restaurant disorientated and confused and the waitress called for a welfare…
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how to proceed with parent's care, disagreements within the family
Hello all, I'm new here and am in need of advice/support from others who understand what it’s like to care for a parent. My mother (60y/o) has been dealing with memory loss since 2019, she was diagnosed with mild cognitive decline at the time and has advanced significantly since. We are working with doctors to get an…
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Need simple companion for someone in nursing home
I need some advice on finding the right companion situation. I can usually find answers to my questions by searching the other posts, but I couldn't find exactly what I needed this time. My mom has late-stage Alzheimer's & went into a nursing home about a year ago. It's a lovely facility with wonderful staff, especially in…