The other shoe has dropped
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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I am sorry for the loss of your dear partner.
Thank you for sharing her with us. She sounds like an amazing character.
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Such a beautiful tribute to the life you shared. I am so glad you can bring her home to the place she loved. I wish you peace and healing as you move forward. Your insights have been invaluable to so many of us, and the strength you have shown an inspiration. I hope you are comforted by the many prayers being said for you here on this forum. I am so sorry for your loss. May God bless you both!
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I’m sorry for your loss M1- but I’m happy for you that you two had such a blessed life together with so much love and respect. What a gift- I hope this will bring you comfort in your grief.
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Please accept my condolences on the loss of your dear partner. Thinking of you and wishing you peace and healing. With thanks for your wise advice.
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My sincere condolences M1. You were a tireless and devoted advocate through it all. Your love story is awesome. I hope you will continue to come here with your wise words and advice but understand if you can't.
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M1.
i carry your heart (i carry it with me in my heart) ee cummingsI’m sorry. May you find peace and only cherished memories going forward. ❤️
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you are in our thoughts………..
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Thinking of you and hope you know we are thankful for all your advice and we grieve your loss and hope happy days are ahead for you.
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Sorry for the loss of your dear partner. Thank you for the wisdom you have shared with us and thank you for sharing you and your partner's journey with us too.
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My condolences.
When I married my now husband, our vows were centered on being the witness to each other's life. We shared deep friendship and enduring love. But mostly, we were partners, independent partners, choosing to share our daily lives with each other and to bear witness.
Your partner will live on in your stories, in your memories, in your shared families and in being the other's witness.
May peace find you.
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M1 - I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your DW, but also relieved that this chapter is over for her and you. You were there for her every moment. You've described a beautiful fall day, on her beautiful farm that I know she put such love into. Enjoy your memories.
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M1, cherish the good memories, I know you have many. You and your partner shared true love, what a wonderful thing. Look after yourself
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M1, so glad her passing was painless and didn’t linger. She must have been so very tired. You two have a beautiful love story, and it doesn’t end here, only her suffering. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hold tight on your beautiful memories!
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M1, I too am sorry for your loss. Be gentle with yourself through this upcoming transition. Thank you for sharing your relationship with your partner and your journey with us. You are a very generous and caring person.
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M1, Wishing you peace and love. Your loved one is also now at peace and I am grateful to hear that she didn't have to suffer alot before her passing. I have been with you since you began this journey and you have been and continue to be a wonderful helpful and understanding person on this site. You always posted encouraging works to me and I hope you can get some comfort knowing how many of us care for you. Stage 8 is a relief but also very difficult. I know you mentioned your son was getting married in 2025. Now you won't have to worry about your dear one's care. She is now out of pain!
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M1, my sincere sympathies on the loss of your dear partner. Please give yourself some grace moving forward; grief will take the time it needs and pop up whenever/wherever it wants. Remember now that she is pain-free and home with you which is where you both wanted her to be. Thank you for all your advice and counsel on this site, you’ve been more helpful than you will ever know. Sending hugs to you!
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M1, I can't say I'm sorry that she passed. That was her way out. But I am sorry that you have to deal with the coming times.
"She keeps apologizing for ruining my day." I know that really is taking a toll on you. My wife, like your partner, went peacefully after the morphine drip was started.
But that part is over, and now you have to face the coming times without her. I wish there were something I could do to make that easier because I know it was the most hurtful thing I ever went through. We were married 64 1/2 years when she left me. So for now, I'll just send best wishes your way, and promise that it will get easier with time.
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M1, sending my sympathy to you. May your beautiful memories of your life together bring you comfort. Thank you for all your input on this forum as it has helped so many of us and hope you will continue to check in.
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just responded to Ed’s thread also. I don’t think I would have made it through the last four years without this group. You all are so kind to say that my voluminous posts might have helped you-often as I’ve said before I just felt like a blabbermouth.
Like Ed, my internal instinct is that it will be best for me to put some distance between myself and the throes of caregiving. My days have been so limited up until now that I’ve found myself here multiple times a day, and it helped keep me going. I suspect that’s going to need to change now for my own sake. But there are so many of you that I will both miss and worry about, wonder about. We will see, I’m sure time will tell and it will likely be a gradual wean.
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M1 … you have been a treasure to all of us and to your partner. Your posts showed us your obvious love for her and that helped me to be more patient and understanding with my DH after I read them. All I can say is … a great big Thank You! Take care of yourself now. ❤️
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Oh the sadness, but you shared such beautiful words. Protect your heart, be kind to yourself & take a deep breath. You were and are such a tender caregiver, don't ever forget that.
Please do accept my deepest sympathy.
eagle
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The time has come to be a caregiver to yourself. I hope your continued journey is peaceful.
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Everytime you ever responded to any of my posts it was more helpful than you will ever know. I have so much gratitude for you, your strength and your support. I am happy for you and your loved one - for your peace. Enjoy your life. And I hope you experience a different kind of relationship with her now. It’s not over or gone. It’s just different.
Thank you for sharing your journey and providing us all with comfort in our darkest days.
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RIP…
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so sorry for your loss. Thankful for her peaceful passing and that she’s no longer suffering. Praying for your comfort. Cherish the beautiful memories. 🙏❤️
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I hope someone can be there with you. Those final moments are waves of emotions. I am so sorry. I'm thinking of both of you tonight.
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Thank you for being helpful to us over the years. I can understand the need to get away from all of this, but hopefully you will drop in from time to time like Ed does. Wishing you the best in the coming years.
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You continue to be an inspiration to the rest of us. It is so good to know that you are feeling relieved and seeing your love continue. Know that all of us are thinking of you, praying for you, whatever it is that we do for people we care about. Please keep coming back here to let us know how you are doing.
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