How to support mom?

LPerl · August 11

We moved my dad to memory care this week after a stroke one month ago. My sister and I are physically, mentally, and emotionally drained, but also want to be able support my mom (82 yrs) with this life altering event. I call and she’s sobbing but won’t talk to me and just tells me she has to go. As exhausted as we are, I know it’s tons worse for her. I just don’t know how to help and support her.

SDianeL · August 11

Welcome. Sorry about your Dad. Does your Mom live alone? Are there friends or neighbors or church members who can help? A pastor? Is she visiting him often? Do you live near her? I would just keep trying and give her time. If you get a chance to talk with her, let her know that you didnt do it to him, you did it for him because he needs 24/7 care that she and you can’t provide.

JulietteBee · August 11

Though your dad is not dead, your mom is grieving. Give her lots of love, understanding, and support.

I am so sorry you feel helpless but you are not. Make time to visit her. Do more listening than speaking. Best gift of all, cry with her. It will show her you have immense insight into the grief she currently bears.🌷

LPerl · August 11

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/250259#Comment_250259

she does have friends and neighbors but she’s not good at asking for help.

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