Grief

Good morning ALZ family! It is with heavy heart that we have finally put my Dad to rest after what seemed to be a short battle with VD. It became very evident to my sisters and I, in May of this year, that he was declining and could no longer be cared for by our mother so he was placed in a facility for "rehab". From there…

My DH entered stage 8 yesterday. The last couple of weeks were rough as he was in a memory care facility. I ended up spending most of my time with him so that I could help with his care. He was fortunate to be accepted at Our Lady of Peace Hospice. We moved him in on Monday and he took his last breath early Thursday…

Hi friends, I am continuing to teach this year with a lighter load (which means a "lighter" paycheck too). The amount of not okay that I had reached was no longer sustainable. So I go in for 2 periods this year. Honestly, I thought it would help more than it has. I am still exhausted and overwhelmed and honestly worried…

Hi friends, Dad has started mentioning wanting to kill himself. He barely has language ability, so for him to get a whole thought like this out is unusual and obviously the content of his thought is alarming. He is stage 6. On hospice. History of behavioral expressions that lead to a geri psych inpatient stay in July and a…

Hi everyone! I know the title is,,,a lot. My mom is the youngest of 4, adores her older siblings. One of them unfortunately has passed two days ago, a doctor caused more damage than repair. It was completely sudden, and I am struggling with how to tell my mama. She is extremely emotional, and I’m concerned that telling her…

Hello all, Dad really wanted to come with me today as I was leaving. He hasn't done that for a while, so I was out of practice. It was also a very low staff day today. For instance, I had to ring the doorbell three times (with long wait periods in between) for someone to come let me in. So I know there's a pretty good…

I’ve been dreading this day and it finally came - DH not knowing me! I thought I was prepared after reading what so many of you have already experienced, but that question hit me hard! I was speechless and caught by surprise. But I managed to take a deep breath, look DH in the eyes and stroke his cheek while I replied “My…

Caring for my auntie who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s/ Dementia. She continues to relive the past and often refers to my mother and grandmother (who is deceased) as being among us! She calls out to them and talks to them as if they right there! My grandmother also passed from complications of Alzheimer’s! My mom…

For the last 4.5 years I’ve tried convincing my mom to see a doctor because I was concerned. She is unable to see her symptoms. It took behind the scenes convincing my stepdad that she was a getting worse for over a year and him finally noticing to get us to the point that we had an appointment with a geriatric doctor this…

Hi. I just joined this group today, I'm not sure if I'm the intended demographic as I'm not the primary caregiver for my loved ones with Alzheimer's and dementia but I have been struggling with the grief and looking for support. If anyone knows a better group please let me know! My grandfather has late stage Alzheimer's…

Good evening. I am new to this site; just searched for Alzheimer's support groups and this showed up. A little (moderately long) background: My mother is in a memory care facility in Washington state. My sister holds ALL of my mother's powers of attorney. My sister and I have been estranged for more than 15 years. For…

My Mom, who has Alzheimer's, asks about her deceased mother a lot. Her mother died over 20 years ago. Some days Mom believes that her mother is alive, and we go along with that belief. More often, Mom knows that her mother is deceased but thinks that it happened more recently, and that no one told her or took her to the…

I am new to this site. My significant other (SO), is battling Alzheimer's. I just need to know what I am able to do to make both our lives easier. I feel like I have already lost a lot of the man I married. He has good days and bad days. But, it has taken a toll on us. I am having to do the things he use to do along with…

Just a vent… I made the tragic error today of forgetting that my mom is not really the same person anymore, the mom I used to be able to have meaningful talks and heart-to-hearts with. … We were having such a nice visit today. I took her my old baby book and we had such a fun time reading it together. Things took a turn…

Hello dear community, I am having one of those days when I question my decisions and see faults and what's lacking. I know that's silly because over these 2+ years I've done several things that needed doing to keep dad safe. Ugh. The reality, though, is that even when I remind myself of the positives I still feel critical.…

Hello! My name is Aaliyah. I am 23. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was 2 months old. They've raised me without any help from my biological parents. In 2016, my freshmen year of highschool, I lost my grandfather to Alzheimer's. I took it insanely hard. I was one of the only ones he remembered in the end. I had…

I know the discussion title is a little unusual, but I chose to title it that way to reflect her freedom from the disease on this side of life. That's how I like to think of it anyway in order to retain some sort of sanity. My mom, diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2018, transitioned in late-August of this year. I am her only…

Right away I found that sharing my story online helped me begin to heal. I started a website in her memory that is still around, although it is in need of updating, and I'm trying to work on that as I have time. It's still here: https://www.zarcrom.com/users/yeartorem/ Also, I will be walking this fall for my 29th year in…

My mother has dementia. Her brother died recently (he had Alzheimer's and died of natural causes). My mom is confused and upset by his death and has been believing her brother committed suicide (which is absolutely not true). We are comforting her but does anyone have advice for disabusing her of the suicide notion.

This piece is a witness to my mother’s final days with Alzheimer’s. I wrote it some time ago, but I wasn’t ready to share it until now. For privacy, I’ve changed names and identifying details, including her last name and the town where we lived. This piece includes honest descriptions of the dying process, including…

I was really taken aback today. My father passed away in December. My mom has been heavily grieving him ever since— I know she would look at his picture every day and have a good cry. We moved her from their home into AL near me this past week. Today I had lunch with her, and I was thinking "Wow, she seems really with it…

10 years of dementia and the last three were exceedingly difficult and I feel I've been through a meat grinder (I am a different person now). I was the only person in the family (her only daughter) to step up and try to help navigate all of her care needs, as well as the legal and financial situation of my parents (both in…

Hello there. I'm posting because I don't know what else to do, I guess I'm looking for guidance, someone to let me know that I'm not going crazy. My Great Grandma is 101 years old, lives alone in her house she's lived in her entire life. We've tried to get her into assisted living but she refuses and her doctor says at…

My friend since 1980, the person who has stood by me through thick and thin, who has always been there for me, even when I was living far away…had a fall resulting in a brain bleed in October 2025. I had been visiting her one afternoon a week before this happened and even then, I thought there was a slight amount of…

Hi, Dad went for his first MRI after 1 month of being on Leqembi. The doctor's found internal bleeding and brain swelling. Dad will stop taking infusions. In June the doctors will give him another cat scan to check his brain. If he improves, they will put him back on leqembi. Honestly, I am against him doing this infusion…

Preface: (DAD WAS VERY RECENTLY DIAGNOSED & PUT IN A HOME ABRUPTLY SO IM STILL IN SHOCK) Hey! My name is Blair and I’m 28, I have 4 beautiful boys, ages 1,3,5&7. My dad can’t remember their names or how many I have. I’m having a hard time. He was just out into a home in September. He hates it but it’s for his safety. We…

I suspect a dear friend of mine has early onset. This person's mother had Alzheimer's and passed away as a result. My friend is in their mid-60s and is dealing with the recent death of a spouse so for the past two or so years I've attributed recent behavior changes (verbal outbursts, mostly) to grief and having to navigate…

My 84-year-old Mom lost her husband of 60 years — my dad — just 2.5 months ago. She is really grieving hard. So we are hesitant to add more unwanted changes to her life just yet. The problem is, we believe she is around Stage 3 or 4…. (Doctor just did MMES and she scored 24 out of 30, which was just below normal but we…

Spouse of the loved one with dementia just passed last week. They are good with day to day activities of course have moments of grief but they keep asking when the funeral is although the funeral Was last week. Then get upset to re-live that and to then upset because they cannot remember the funeral happened. How can we…