Breaking Appliances

Ossom

My father has developed a tendency to break appliances in our home, adding a new layer of complexity to our responsibilities.

 

Over time, he has managed to break the washing machine, dryer, oven, and now the refrigerator, which is barely functioning due to the damage. We have been left to find alternative solutions for daily household tasks, such as washing clothes by hand, using a drying rack, and cooking on a stovetop.

While these alternative methods may require more time and effort on our part, they are necessary. Continually replacing the appliances like we used to is just throwing money away and he becomes more obsessed in those parts of the house.

Just waiting for him to die so we can get this place in order again and eventually replace the appliances. We just can't do anything while he is alive.

Emily 123

I'm very sorry Ossom—you're trying your best. It almost sounds like it would help to use the slimmest of pretexts to get him to the hospital so a psych hold could get him on some meds to start addressing his unsafe behaviors. Please stay safe.

Ossom

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/231894#Comment_231894

Thankyou for your empathetic response and understanding of our situation. It's the complexities of the medical and legal systems that are incredibly frustrating, especially when our father is in need of care and treatment.

In our case, we've encountered challenges with the authorities, who seem more focused on protecting our father's "rights" than ensuring his well-being.

H1235

Have you tried submitting a petition for evaluation? You should be able to do it yourself. You can get one at the courthouse. On this form you explain why he needs to be evaluated ( by a doctor) and a judge reviews it. If the judge agrees, police come and pick your dad up and bring him to the hospital for evaluation. I found that the evaluation by the doctors was handled much differently when a judge was asking for it. If he is found to be a harm to himself or others he would be admitted for a psychiatric hold. The mental health department might also be able to help.

Victoriaredux

https://clearbehavioralhealth.com/5150-hold/

the electrical issues, the vermin , etc - have you had the police come - see all that and request a 5150?

Ossom

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/comment/231953#Comment_231953

Oh absolutely! They said he was fine and told us to leave him alone. "He has constitutional rights."

So we live in the same house and help from a distance in secret. Always present if needed and never seen. Respecting his wishes so he doesn't call APS or the police on us again. They told him if we bothered him anymore to go to the courthouse and file a protective order. Someone could help him with it since he can't read or write anymore.

We were simply asking for help. "Please help us, help him." Is what we pleaded.

It's like living with Inspector Gadget and my sister and I are Penny and Brain.