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Alternatives to Driving

Daphne28227
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Hi Everyone, this is my first post here. I read a lot of the past conversations on driving, but have what I think is a twist on the question.

My best friend's husband was just diagnosed with Early-Onset Alzheimers in his 50's, and like many is having problems accepting that he can no longer drive. My question is about the pressure it puts on her now that she has to do all the driving for the family (they have a child in elementary school). They live in area where you need to drive to get to things (suburbs of Charlotte).

Outside of taking Ubers everywhere, are their resources that can help with transportation? What strategies have you put in place?

Thank you!

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  • harshedbuzz
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    @Daphne28227

    Such a sad and difficult situation for your friends and those who care about them.

    There probably aren't many options to ease your friend's need to take over the driving. She could reach out to the Area Agency on Aging to see if there is a ride service for the elderly/disabled in your area. Uber will work for her DH so long as he's cognitive OK to manage the process but the child is too young for Uber. Perhaps she can reach out to other parents in her community/child's friends' parents and see if others are willing to drive her daughter to places she goes with their kids? Maybe mutual friends could pitch inas people sometimes do in a "meal train" for transportation.

    HB

  • Daphne28227
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    Thanks, @harshedbuzz, for the support and the ideas. I will follow up on the "drive train". I'm organizing a chat for friends and family to take some of the pressure off my friend when it comes to keeping everyone updated. This could be a good task for us to take on there. Appreciate you!

  • terei
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    Contact your local senior center + dept of aging. many communities orgs have volunteers that drive for people. approaching the kids’ friends parents could turn up someone who would be willing to transport the kids when their own children need to be driven

  • ronda b
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    Was it possible that he was in the service? If so va will transport

  • psg712
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    Check with his doctor's office or a hospital social worker to see if he can qualify for rides on county transportation for the disabled.

  • H1235
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    I would just be cautious that he not get lost on public transportation of some sort or confused about where he is going. It’s kind of tricky because if you wait til you think he might get confused or lost then you have waited too long.

  • Daphne28227
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    Thank you @terei. Especially wonderful that there are those that volunteer this way!

  • Daphne28227
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    Yes, @ronda b , he is a vet. Will definitely look into this option. I know his wife found the VA helpful in the diagnosis. I didn't realize they help in this way as well. Thank you!

  • Daphne28227
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    @H1235 and @psg712 , I hear you both in saying that he may be okay to travel independently today, but we don't know when that may change. It is taking precautions ahead of need that presents the challenge for him. But you already know that!❤️ Thanks for taking the time share your insights.

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