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Hi there, I am new here. I am the caregiver to my father-in-law, who was fairly recently diagnosed with Alzheimers. We will know more about the exact stage he is in once he has an upcoming test on 10/19. Until then, my father-in-law is also on the spectrum and has a tendency to fixate on certain things, particularly…

My mother has always been the queen of guilt tripping me, but now that she has dementia, it has reached new levels. I have worked through a lot of this in therapy, and have somewhat learned to let it roll off my back. But I still do struggle. Right now, I'm getting ready to go away for a long weekend with my husband for…

Hi, dad lives with me and has moderate stage Alzheimer's. Despite lots of other health concerns, his progression has been very slow- I've been giving him care (first IADLs like paying bills, now progressing to physical, Hands-On hygiene and such) for a little more than a decade. In addition to this stressor, last summer I…

I'm new to this discussion board and just joined this as a way for support. My family just recently told me that my grandmother has been recently diagnosed with Early on set Alzheimers and this weekend me and my mom are going to tell her the news that its becoming a reality that she will be starting to live with us most of…

Hello everyone, my name is raffaella and I am caring for my 76 yr old grandma . Last two months have been very hard, she talks to all these ppl not present from the time she wakes up to the time the meds put her to sleep. In the beginning wasn’t so bad it was regular conversations, almost like telling stories, now she is…

Hello. New to the discussion board. I have been reading lots of post and so happy to have found a tribe. My mom lives with me and my husband. She was diagnosed with alz and lbd a year ago. It's heartbreaking, frustrating, difficult, and exhausting. I'm pretty much on my own caring for her as my brother passed away several…

Mom is calling siblings, extended family and friends a huge amount of times a day asking for assistance in moving her back to her home from care center. An example...my sister received 30 calls on Tuesday and by early afternoon yesterday had 15. My brother received 15 calls yesterday and his wife as well. Care staff…

Hello all! I will try to keep this brief. My mom was taken out of one nursing home without my consent back in 2021, and is now in a rehabilitation center as of April ‘26. I have POA since June 2020, but somehow non-family members allegedly have POA for 2026. I am my moms only blood family here and I need advice on how to…

Hi all, This is my first post. Just sharing. Dad (83) was diagnosed with dementia in 2024. At the time of diagnosis, he was already in hospital due to having a TIA. The doctor cautioned he had probably had dementia "for a while" which led to a rather intense conversation and mom (73) running out of the room. When dad was…

My husband is 70 and was recently diagnosed with “MCI due to Alzheimer’s” after going to the doctor after experiencing memory issues. He had an MRI, then PET scan, which led the neurologist to his diagnosis and starting Aricept. (This is our first week on it.) (The dr also suggested he think about infusion therapy, which…

I need some advice regarding my parents and how I can best support them. My mom has Alzheimer’s, and as a result, my dad has had to pick up much of the slack around the house. He is 92 and I can see that he is wearing out. I have offered to help as much as I can by grocery shopping, preparing meals, running errands, and…

I'm in Early Stage Alzheimer's and receiving Leqembi infusions. My friends say I don't exhibit much in the way of symptoms. My partner is not one to discuss the situation other than for passing on medical information and does not discuss feelings. He notices every slip and gets angry when I forget, make a mistake, get…

Hello all, Dad really wanted to come with me today as I was leaving. He hasn't done that for a while, so I was out of practice. It was also a very low staff day today. For instance, I had to ring the doorbell three times (with long wait periods in between) for someone to come let me in. So I know there's a pretty good…

I am struggling trying to keep up with my step-mother, who has been diagnosed with Dementia. In 2024 she went in for knee surgery and had a cardiac arrest. Since then it has been downhill. I feel like I'm living in the movie "Groundhog Day" living the same day over and over. I have three siblings who live closer to her,…

I posted back in April about my mother and struggling then. My Dad had also had hip surgery and everything spiraled out of control. Anyway things did calm down once my Dad recovered and was able to better manage the concept of working with my mother instead of against her Alzheimer's. However things have of course…

My mom was starting to show signs of Alzheimer’s but she refused to admit it. I was doing all the work when she needed help or forgot things and finally had to step back for a few months so my brothers would step up. Now they see how bad it is and after a 2 am phone call they see she should not be living alone. The only…

Compassion fatigue TED Talk [https://youtu.be/ZsaorjIo1Yc?si=L07hszirRcCX-mXP]

My father has been declining rapidly mentally. His depression hasn't been able to be controlled with meds and he keeps getting meaner. He's in denial but sometimes I think what I say actually makes it to his thinking process sometimes but is often turned around on me and it's my fault or something I did or didn't do. I'm…

My oldest sister told me she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's a month ago. I know she's had mild memory loss for years, but she hid it well. It still seems mild to me, but I've never known anyone with this disease. She calls me to tell me that I never call her, although we speak frequently. When the conversation starts, she…

Today dad goes in for surgery. He has severely unmanaged type 2 diabetes and his last surgery advanced his dementia so much that he has gone from stage 3 to stage 5 quickly. He is having yet another digit removed from his foot and the hospital is acting like it is no big deal… I feel it is a bigger deal than they are…

My Dad was a narcissistic man my entire life so far and now he is in the nursing home for PT from a back surgery he had at the end of April. Since his surgery, we have discovered he has had multiple strokes, he has been delirious and he has vascular dementia. The surgery took 8 hours and with all of his other issues such…

Hi, all I found the video below just yesterday; and in my case it was quite timely. The video is a little over 10 minutes, but I think it is worthwhile for those of you who feel like you’ve lost who you used to be through all this physical, emotional and mental stress of caregiving. And if you feel like sharing with others…

Just a vent… I made the tragic error today of forgetting that my mom is not really the same person anymore, the mom I used to be able to have meaningful talks and heart-to-hearts with. … We were having such a nice visit today. I took her my old baby book and we had such a fun time reading it together. Things took a turn…

Hi everyone, my mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's and I started living with her about a month ago because she requires full time care. She was able to hide her mental decline for a long time because she has always been very independent, and we didn't have the best relationship. She is already in stage 5 or…

Only child caring for 90 YO Mom. Started with neuro last year, and he diagnosed dementia. Didn't really tell much info. She'd had several episodes of people spying on her, trying to break in, etc. We put up cameras, etc and that seemed to stop that kind of thing. That let us know there were things indicative of something…

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My DW’s psychiatrist and non-residential memory care activities director have recommended residency, telling me that my caring for her at home is “unsustainable” and that I’m harming myself by trying to be her sole caregiver. What form could/will that “harm” take? What could happen to me? I’m stressed, sure, but feel that…

Hello, I'm really glad I found this resource and hope I can get some support from online. Brief history: I live about 6 hours from my family. About 10 years ago my mom had a TIA and was fine until about March last year, when she fell and hit her head--either another stroke or balance problems; no idea. My dad covered for…

My grandma has dementia and needs help doing things. She has been wanting moved every 5 mins to her chair and bed. She keep saying she don’t no what’s wrong and can’t see her dog in front of her everything is on repeat for her. How do I confront her or help her? Trying to not get upset but it’s hard