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The driving discussion
I know you are not supposed to rationalize and explain with someone who has anosognosia, but what kinds of things can I say to appease my mom, who has become OBSESSED with driving again, especially when she asks why her 3 friends who invite her to lunch can drive themselves but she can’t? Her eye doctor told her earlier…
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Ready to give up
Anyone who has been following my saga knows I’ve been staying with my recently widowed mom for over a week because I became alarmed about her confusion during my last visit. At the beginning of this week, I was determined to get her into AL right away. Now after seeing 2 doctors who both basically told her she is fine and…
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Having trouble with Mom
Hi, I'm new to the Alzheimer's world, as my mom was just diagnosed. The doctor wants her to have a brain MRI and she is giving me a hard time about scheduling the appointment. My dad and I took my mom to the doctor last week to be diagnosed and at that time, both of my parents were fine with the idea of the MRI. Now my mom…
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Juggling changes (driving, moving) with grief
My 84-year-old Mom lost her husband of 60 years — my dad — just 2.5 months ago. She is really grieving hard. So we are hesitant to add more unwanted changes to her life just yet. The problem is, we believe she is around Stage 3 or 4…. (Doctor just did MMES and she scored 24 out of 30, which was just below normal but we…
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New Here - Spouse with Young Onset
Hi all, I'm new here. My wife was formally diagnosed at the ripe young age of 51 this past December. I, myself, am her 34 year old wife. I just wanted to come in here and say hi and kind of vent to folks who may know. These past 2 years of confusion and emotional and financial upheaval have been incredibly difficult to…
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New… Dealing with Mom’s Hallucinations
My mom is in her 60s and her pcp says she is having brain slips and in stages of dementia. I am trying to get her seen by a neurologist and someone recently recommended a geriatric psychiatrist as an alternative for an assessment. It has been 3 months since the diagnosis and she was given an antidepressant. She is now…
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Help With Checking for Dementia
Needing help with the beginning process of figuring out how to check for dementia. My mil just had a CT scan and is going to have an apt to check the results tomorrow. She has a lot of signs already, but more recently it's been forgetfulness more so plus incontinence (she doesn't try to go to the toilet anymore) and won't…
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New To The Group
Hello All - I am taking care of my 80 year old mother who was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year. She has lived with my wife and I since 2024. She has had noticeable behaviors since 2022 when our dad passed away. Mom has progressed to the point where it is not safe to leave her home alone for extended periods…
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Mom Passed Away & Dad’s Struggling - Advice Needed Badly
Hello! I’m in bad need of some advice. My Mom passed away on January 4th and my Dad, who is in the middle stage of Alzheimer’s, is really struggling. They were married for 66 years and had been living in assisted living for the past couple of years. Neither of them could drive or leave the facility with our help. They were…
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Mom Passed Away & Dad’s Struggling - Advice Needed Badly
Hello! I’m in bad need of some advice. My Mom passed away on January 4th and my Dad, who is in the middle stage of Alzheimer’s, is really struggling. They were married for 66 years and had been living in assisted living for the past couple of years. Neither of them could drive or leave the facility with our help. They were…
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Burn out
Hi, Lately, I feel so tired and burnt out physically, mentally, and emotionally. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers in August. He started his first treat with Leqembi on Tuesday. He was sicker than a dog. I am watching my mom struggle to take care of him. I feel like I don't know what to do. I give my mom good advice. I…
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New to Memory Care
MY DH just moved into MC three days ago. He has now not eaten in 24 hours and is refusing his meds. He sometimes wanders around the unit but cannot find his room to return to. He asks those who come into his room to leave. The nurse tell me this is standard behavior for new residents and that there are others in the MC…
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Wants me near always
My husband only wants me with him to care for him - no relatives or caregivers. He wants me around all the time and if I leave the house, he forgets where I am and thinks I am dead, even with reminders from the relative or caregiver with him. He worries the whole time I am gone. I am his everything, which is a lot to…
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Caring for mom at home
I’ve been caring for my mom pretty much full time since 2020 but my Dad helped until he passed in early 2024. She already had mobility issues from a stroke and a fall, but since he died she’s gone downhill with her dementia. She’s maybe a mid-stage 5 but it’s hard to assess since I’ve been helping her do her ADLS for years…
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Mother to Mother
Hi everyone, My name is Stacey. My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year at 64 years old. We saw signs for a few years now looking back, but we always just chalked it up to anxiety symptoms. My mom is my best friend and I am having such a hard time with this diagnosis. Since last year, things have really progressed…
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How to handle my frustrations
My husband has lost his short term memory. I get frustrated with being asked the same questions and topics. Need advice or tips. Thank you
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Looking for Resources in Maryland
Hi there! I am seeking guidance to assit my MOL with my FOL's dementia diagnosis. He is going to adult day care three day per week, but still car tasks at home are getting overly challenging. Here are some of the main issues we are working with: -sundowning (lots of frustration throughout the day) -insomonia -inability to…
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Caregiver - Therapy
I've been primary caregiver for my mom for nearly two years. She's still living at home but no longer driving. Moods are hard, depression is a thing. My SO and daughter help with check ins but it's still a lot. I've been considering looking into therapy for myself. Any suggestions? Tips? Things to consider when finding the…
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Mom diagnosed with eo which caused drivers license recall
Hello, I am new to this forum and very much respect all the insight and answers that I have read on the various discussion boards. My mom was recently diagnosed with eo. It was becoming apparent to me with her repeating her questions numerous times, not remembering where items were and minor memory events. She is still…
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DH is fighting his care every step of the way
I am not sure I can keep caring for my DH. He is in his late 70's with vascular dementia and Alzheimer's. He is in a later stage. He is always combative when it comes to his care. Recently he has needed disposable briefs. Actually I guess I needed them as I could not keep up with the cleaning and laundry when he was…
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New diagnosis, new to group. Having a rough ugly cry day.
I have been very emotional, ugly crying today. Today is hard, others are not- those days I am "numb". I am 41, married for 19 years, I have 5 kids ages 8, 10, 17, 18, 20. I have tested positive for PSEN1 which is one of 3 variants known to cause young onset Alzheimer’s. I have had cognitive symptoms since August 2023. I…
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rough day w dad in MC "Get me out of here!"
Hi community, Dad was pretty agitated today during our visit. Redirecting was not working, so I had to cut my visit short. I'm wondering what I am missing or if you all have more ideas for me to consider. Here's some context plus what I'm seeing lately. He tells me that he just has to get out of there. Over and over. I…
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Terrified!
My 60 yr old husband was diagnosed a bit more than 4 years ago with EOAD/FTD w/ behavioral variant. He is late stage 6 with some components of stage 7. He is at home w/ me and I have part time care that comes to help. After an appt w/ his dr treating his symptoms, he tells me that because my husband is so physically…
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Feeling sad and drained.
Hi everyone. I am new to this group, as I am finally trying to better myself by seeking some sort of help. I am 20 years old, and my mom has just been officially diagnosed with Alzheimers. I am the youngest of 4 siblings by 10+ years and I am still living at home and going to school. My dad is still working and my siblings…
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Missing my mom
My mom has dementia and she fell a couple of months ago fractured her pelvis and was in the nursing home for a couple of months for rehab. She did come home but we felt she needed more care than what I could give her. It’s just been me and my mom since my dad passed away in 2002. I’m so full of guilt for putting her in a…
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Double Trouble - New to the group
I moved back to NE from Florida almost 3 years ago. I knew before I moved to Florida that my mom’s memory was getting increasingly worse. Once I moved back, I realized just how bad it had become in that short amount of time. We were able to get her to a neuropsychologist and have her tested. She has Alzheimer’s.…
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Home for the Holidays
Hi to all, I ran across this video while checking to see if any new ones popped up on my YouTube channel. I found it to be quite helpful and relevant for this time of year. The title is “Caregiving and the Holidays: From Stress to Success” through the Wellmed Charitable Foundation. (If the link below doesn’t open for you,…
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Guardian-family angry at my decisions
I have been a guardian for 5 years. We make very difficult decisions daily. Family members always think it is their right to tell me my decisions are wrong. I always ask prior for professional advice. My person has not asked for their wedding ring. I have been told to not give valuables to your loved one. Yet family…
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Ashamed father doing bare minimum for wife, home and self
I live at home with my senior parents, acting as a part time caretaker. My dad is in his late 60s and my mom just turned 70. She was an alcoholic, had a stroke at 65 and was diagnosed with vascular dementia (VD). Before her stroke, their marriage was strained and he was planning on a divorce. For 3 years she was in…
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Continual Grief: I Miss My Mom
I visited my mom again today at her skilled nursing facility. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2018 (she had probably been experiencing it since the early 2010s, in reality), and I made the gut-wrenching decision to place her into an SNF in 2021. She's currently experiencing late-stage Alzheimer's. She has…