Not taking it well...

Kachenka

Hi, I am totally new to this...writing and my husband behavior. I also have a hard time with sharing about our life but my daughter told me...mom find some group for your self I can't help you. My husband developed sings of dementia last year in february which we didn't noticed right away. It has been getting slowly progressing and now he is obsessed with sex. Hope I can find someone who may understand my nightmare because that's what is coming to be very soon.
There, is other difficulty I have to deal with, does not want to take shower, does not have any appetite, does not want to walk...he wants to sit all day and watch YouTube, and more.
Now I feel like a complainer but it somehow helps a little to find someone there with similar distress

midge333

Welcome. I am sorry you are having to deal with this. It sounds like your husband my be further along than you realize. He needs a medical evaluation for dementia. You also need to get your legal affairs in order ASAP. You need durable POA and healthcare POA.

harshedbuzz

You are describing moderate to late stage behaviors. If he hasn't been diagnosed, that needs to happen.

The obsession with sex is not uncommon. There are medications which may help to tamp that down.

HB

addy103

https://alzconnected.org/discussion/71625/not-taking-it-well

My husband was diagnosed with Alzhemiers two years ago and his first symptoms were behavioral. He became obsessed with sex. He also became jealous and paranoid. Went they just kept increasing the meds to control his behavior, but eventually he became aggressive and I had to place him in MC. It was a heart wrenching decision, but it was the right decision. Does he have a Nuerologist?

BPS

I understand you not wanting to sharing about your life, I am the same way but I have slowly opened up more on here and it has been helpful. between everyone here there is a lot of experience. Now I have sherd more about my life with the people here that I probably will never meet or don't know where they live or even most of their names then I have with friends or family. You can feel free to ask questions, add comments, or just vent.

jsps139_

Hi Kachenka. My husband went through the sex obsession also. It was the absolute worse part of this journey so far, with not driving a car running a close second. His obsession lasted a few years and then stopped. He no longer mentions sex at all anymore. That was before I found this wonderful forum, so I never knew about medication to help with it. I hope you can get some meds to help with this because as you stated, it is a nightmare.

Please … never feel like a complainer on this forum. Sharing what you’re going through is exactly what this place is all about.

Biggles

Hi I too was and still am a very private person outside this forum. This is such a good platform to share, vent, even cry, I was nuts before I found this very knowledgeable and caring group. The symptoms you describe have been faced by us all at different stages and they are all horrible. I haven’t used extra drugs so far, my DH reacts so badly to most new meds but I continually look for calming and soothing ways to deal with his problems in a way that suits me which I think is important. Good luck keep venting, act on the advice that you like from this group, keep asking and importantly get him formally diagnosed and your financials into your control.

Jgirl57

Welcome Kachenka, glad you found us. Keep reading all you can . Take a deep breath …..exhale and know you are stronger than you think and will be able to tackle this one step at a time .

SDianeL

Welcome. We have all been there. Learn all you can. Read the book "The 36 Hour Day" which really helped me after my DH's diagnosis. Also Tam Cummings videos online are good. Talk to his doctor about medications for the sex drive. It's common. A Geriatric Psychiatrist is the best doctor to help him and you. Get a referral if you can. I got my husband to shower with a tip from the book. I picked 2 days a week and told him those were "our shower days" — get his shower ready for him. He may have forgotten how to shower, afraid he'll fall or doesn't like the feel of the water. It worked for my husband. Watching TV is comforting as people with dementia have anxiety. Old movies, music, documentaries. Limit news watching or shows with too much action. Keep us posted. Come here often to get info & vent.