Eating and eating and eating

Whitneyspop

I know this topic can’t only be something that I’m dealing with. Some background here my fiancé and myself moved in with his grandfather a year ago whose health had deteriorated tremendously in the previous year. I thought we would be temporary until he got back on track. Well I decided to remove my blinders about 2 months ago and realized no one was trying to take the situation by the horns 😂🤦‍♀️ oh by the horns is an understatement. He has dementia and diabetes 😩😅 that’s the double whammy of double whammy’s. I need someone what’s experienced or is experiencing this to be my friend and just talk to me I have so many questions. Like how can I get him to realize he’s full or has eaten and doesn’t need to be eating every five mins . Y’all when I tell you I’m up all night because of trusty sundowners trying to stop him from catching the house on fire or cooking 4 or 5 baked potatoes in the microwave at once . He will eat a dozen of eggs at one time if I don’t jump up at the first sound of him rolling his walker down the hallway.. he reminds me of pac man he’s never full . What can I do I have put locks on fridges and then he found a way to rip them off I’ve stopped buying a lot of groceries at once because I couldn’t afford for him to be eating everything insight within 24 hours. I’ve stored things in rooms hidden away but it never fails I’ll hear wrappers rattling or him in cabinets constantly hearing beeping from the microwave.. Im not a terrible person trying to restrict his food I’m trying to control his blood sugar yall it has been no lower than 240 since I’ve been here. Over a year . Yes he goes to the dr and takes insulin. He just won’t stop eating.. has anyone else dealt with this. Plus I need sleep and a little relaxation. Im 35 I don’t really have friends that are going through anything like this and he keeps me so busy that I don’t even try to reach out. But today was a blessing finding this site.. last night was really bad so I’m desperate

SusanB-dil

Hi Whitneyspop - welcome to 'here', but sorry for the reason.

MIL went through a phase where she would eat and eat, and then eat again. Her mind could not comprehend that she had just eaten or that she was full. It sounds like that is what is happening to your dad. Do tell his doctor. I know he is eating anything and everything as well as sugar, but a PWD will absolutely crave sugar. We have a pantry-cabinet, and we have to lock it. We don't keep anything with sugar in the fridge.

Do look into adult daycare at least a few days a week - for your own sanity. There is also 24/7 hotline here, 1-800-272-3900 and ask for care assistance.

Sorry you are dealing with 'this'. It sure can be frustrating, nerve-wracking, and a lot of other things!

Whitneyspop

thank you. Last night I removed everything from the cabinets and set him up with some proportioned breakfast and I made him a board beside his clock and coffee and i wrote the date and instructions needless to say he decided he wanted to do none of it 😅 and broke the locks off of the fridge and got the whole box of pudding and ate those and a jar of peanut butter.. I guess some of it is spiteful I feel like it anyways . And oh yes I looked into adult daycare last night as well because I definitely am realizing I have to have some me time and also getting the house cleaned to !! Thank you so much for letting me know that this is something that happens to others too .. ❤️❤️

SDianeL

welcome. So sorry you are going through this. His brain is broken so he won’t stop. And many dementia patients crave sweets. Talk to his doctor. Buy everything sugar free that you can. I bought my husband Splenda sugar free protein shakes. Can you move the food into a garage that you lock with a dead bolt? Maybe put a fridge there? Read the book “The 36 Hour Day” and watch Tam Cummings videos online about caregiving. He has sundowners and that’s why he’s not sleeping. Ask the doctors for something to help him sleep. You should start looking into memory care now. Will you be able to care for him when he becomes incontinent and bedridden? Many people can’t.

MN Chickadee

Wow. A jar of peanut butter in one sitting is about the number of calories he should have in an entire day. Is he gaining an enormous amount of weight? I would talk to his doctor about meds, both diabetes related and also psych meds. Many caregivers find that some over the top behavior is alleviated with psychotropic medications. I'm not a medical professional, so just spit balling, but I also wonder about a Ozempic type of drug that reduces the urge to eat. That level of eating will kill him, and also make care difficult if he becomes morbidly obese. It may be an obsessive manifestation of the declining brain. Some people with dementia get to be hoarders, or hyper sexual, or obsessed with one thing or another so maybe his is form is the brain signals for appetite being totally haywire. Finding the right cocktail of medications may alleviate this.

H1235

We got my mil a box of her favorite chocolates. She offered us each one. We went for a short walk and came back to her room where she said oh look chocolates and ate another. She had no idea she had just ate one. They were gone is 2 days. I would definitely talk with his doctor. It might also be time to consider a facility if it is just too difficult. No judgement. Sometimes it’s just a more realistic option.

Victoriaredux

If you can't lock the kitchen off at night - can you remove his ability to use the stove [remove knobs] or microwave [unplug or get an outlet cover] so he doesn't set fire to the house or heat up something dangerous and ruin the appliance.

Plastic locks won't work as you've found - there are heavy key locks but that would mar the frig. But , sadly, with the cost of groceries you may still come out money ahead if you have to replace it once his grazing days end.

Does your fiancee hold his grandfather's DPOA and health care proxy? This disease can go on for years and at some point he may be dual incontinent and bed ridden. What plans are there for that- you are 35 and you've got a wedding and, if you want, children to plan for — You've donated two years of your life to helping your fiancee's family— don't forget your goals. Time goes quick.