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The driving discussion
I know you are not supposed to rationalize and explain with someone who has anosognosia, but what kinds of things can I say to appease my mom, who has become OBSESSED with driving again, especially when she asks why her 3 friends who invite her to lunch can drive themselves but she can’t? Her eye doctor told her earlier…
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Please help me keep my sanity
I wrote some of this in a reply to a comment, but thought I need some more support. I’ve been with my mom for the past week and she has done nothing but yell at me for the last 3 days. For context, I came to her house last week to take her to a doctor appointment, where she finally was given a memory test and did better on…
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Ready to give up
Anyone who has been following my saga knows I’ve been staying with my recently widowed mom for over a week because I became alarmed about her confusion during my last visit. At the beginning of this week, I was determined to get her into AL right away. Now after seeing 2 doctors who both basically told her she is fine and…
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When to know
I currently live with my mom and she was diagnosed with vascular dementia and Alzheimers six months ago or so. She is definitely starting to change but its hard for me to tell because I am around her all the time. She still drives, etc., and I am not sure when I will know i should take her keys away, etc.
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How do you deal with the trauma of witnessing this disease take over your LO?
It has been 10 years since I knew in my heart that mom had this disease, and that hoping her behaviors were brought about by something else no longer made sense. Before any doctor weighed in, I just "knew". Until two years ago, I watched my dad care for her at home. He carried the weight of the world on his shoulders. My…
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Help With Checking for Dementia
Needing help with the beginning process of figuring out how to check for dementia. My mil just had a CT scan and is going to have an apt to check the results tomorrow. She has a lot of signs already, but more recently it's been forgetfulness more so plus incontinence (she doesn't try to go to the toilet anymore) and won't…
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My Grandma has been diagnose but family won't accept it!
Hey there... long story short, my Grandma was diagnosed with dementia back in 2023 and my mom and aunts and uncles didn't share this information with anyone! Fast forward to today, my Grandma was in the hospital due to an UTI infection, and while I was there, the doctor mentioned her vascular dementia diagnosis and said he…
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Is there any benefit of getting mom to a specialist for her COPD at this point?
Mom is 87 and in MC for over one year. She has dementia, COPD and newly diagnosed early-stage heart failure. She also recently is on oxygen for her COPD. In addition to all of that, she has limited mobility from a recent fall in memory care where she broke a hip and is now getting around in a wheelchair and shuffling her…
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Over medicating ? chemical restraint ?
I need some advice .. My step father who is only 61 years old has been battling frontal lobe dementia for 2 years now but recently his behaviors have increased to being up at night wandering from room to room , pacing and moderate confusing and anger, with possible treats of wanting to end his life , but he was not…
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Dealing with uncontrollable anger
My mother is 82 and was previously diagnosed with early onset dementia. I didn't think the condition had progressed much, as I was not noticing any severe symptoms, but in the past year she has had more and more outbursts of uncontrollable anger. I didn't know this was a symptom of dementia until I looked it up after a…
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Peeing all over himself
My DH with mixed dementia has started having accidents in the bathroom. Some of the urine goes into the toilet the rest ends up on the toilet, floor. He wets his pats and urine runs down his leg into his shoes. His shoes are washable but they need hours to dry. I bought him sone washable slippers so that I can get through…
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Travel documents for parent with dementia?
(Apologies, but I feel like I have to redact this post and the follow-ups at this point to keep some details private. Thank you all, especially H1235 and Victoriaredux.)
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I wrote this essay to help others after losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's disease.
After losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's, I wrote this essay to give a glimpse into this horrific disease, draw attention to the red flags and signs (there are many people at this very moment who have a family member with dementia and still do not realize it), and especially to help people navigate through…
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I wrote this essay to help others after losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's.
After losing my father to a long battle with Alzheimer's, I wrote this essay to help people navigate through the devastating journey of having a loved one with Alzheimer's, because it is the family and those closest to the individual with the disease who bear the greatest burden. Most people find themselves thrust into…
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Forgetting a loved one has passed
What do you tell a person with dementia when they don’t remember their spouse has passed away? How do you deal with them feeling like the death just happened even though it has been years?
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Suspect nobody is following up on discharge instructions for mom in MC, what to do?
My 87-year-old mother is in Memory Care. She was diagnosed with COPD 15 years ago and she controlled it well with an inhaler and occasional use of a nebulizer at home before moving into the ALF. Other than COPD and dementia, she is in relatively decent health. Her facility left me a message three days ago saying "your…
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How to handle my frustrations
My husband has lost his short term memory. I get frustrated with being asked the same questions and topics. Need advice or tips. Thank you
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From the NYT: A Different Type of Dementia Is Changing What’s Known About Cognitive Decline
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/11/28/health/late-dementia-alzheimers.html?unlocked_article_code=1.5E8.jeiC.EuBZiHfxb5a8&smid=url-share An article about LATE, a recently recognized form of dementia.
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Looking for Resources in Maryland
Hi there! I am seeking guidance to assit my MOL with my FOL's dementia diagnosis. He is going to adult day care three day per week, but still car tasks at home are getting overly challenging. Here are some of the main issues we are working with: -sundowning (lots of frustration throughout the day) -insomonia -inability to…
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Worn out and stressed out
Hello all. I’m currently dealing with an 87 year old father with dementia. He has fallen at home about 15 times this year, and ended up breaking his hip in July. I moved him into assisted living as I didn’t feel he was safe to be alone at home. He was a smoker and the last time I was there I watched him not pay attention…
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Inheritance/finances
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Could alcohol be the cause and how do you know if it is?
My husband was diagnosed with early onset dementia (he’s 68) about 5 months ago. He had a neuropsych evaluation and he said it was really tough. I assumed he was having trouble during the testing as it took much longer to complete than I was originally told. Before he finished, the neuropsychologist came out and told me he…
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DH is fighting his care every step of the way
I am not sure I can keep caring for my DH. He is in his late 70's with vascular dementia and Alzheimer's. He is in a later stage. He is always combative when it comes to his care. Recently he has needed disposable briefs. Actually I guess I needed them as I could not keep up with the cleaning and laundry when he was…
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What Should I Say?
I am visiting with my parents for a few days and my Mom is very confused. She has Alzheimer’s . She often does not recognize my Dad and thinks he’s an imposter. She is scared of him. He will tell her it’s him. My brother lives with her and he says “that’s Dad.” My Mom is very confused. She says the only two people she…
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Dad won't let Mom sleep (or clean or be on the phone)
Hello all, Apologies if this is somewhere on the forum already, I wasn't sure how to search for it. My dad was diagnosed with dementia about 2 years ago. He wants my mom's complete attention and so she has trouble going to care for her sister or being on the phone or internet or cooking or cleaning or sleeping! We help as…
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Hello! ☺️
I'm new here, I am an adult taking care of my elderly mom who was recently diagnosed with Dementia. I often find it difficult to understand her strange choices and behavior, and become highly stressed over them. I am wondering whether anyone else is familiar with this, and have any information on how best to help her.
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Alcohol and dementia
My DH was diagnosed with early onset dementia 3 months ago. It was suggested he limit alcohol to 2 or 3 drinks a day. He has been regularly drinking each day at mid-afternoon and passes out by 6 pm for a couple of hours. He cut back briefly but he’s gradually increasing again. We had an argument about it tonight and I got…
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Overwhelmed? It is the loved ones of those with Alzheimer's who bear the greatest burden.
It is the loved ones of those with Alzheimer's who bear the greatest burden, and often care for them at the expense of their own well-being. It is common for family members and loved ones to find themselves thrust into this nightmare completely unprepared and ill-equipped for it. Sadly, much will be damaged or completely…
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Is repeated aspiration pneumonia common?
My mothers MC facility called me a couple days ago saying they wanted to send her to ER because she had a persistent cough that was not getting better by her standard nebulizer. She has COPD. My dad passed away last year and most of mom's friends have died. She only has my sister (who has POA) and me. My sister spends two…
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Grief Counseling: Yay or Nay?
My beautiful Mom transitioned this past August. I miss her every single day. It's painful, actually, and I know only a couple of months have passed, but time is not healing. Every day without her is painful. As her only child and primary beneficiary, I have access to grief counseling that her health insurance policy offers…