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Driving - got Mom’s doctor to have “the talk” - I feel so guilty
This is my first post. I apologize it’s so long. My 94 y.o. mother was diagnosed with dementia in July (mixed ALZ/vascular). I’d say she’s gone from stage 3 to stage 4 in just a few months. My brothers and I have been trying to get her stop driving. We encouraged her to take advantage of the on-call driver in her CCRC…
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Replacing hearing aids
My mother is in skilled nursing facility with mid-stage dementia. She has hearing aids and has lost one of them. It is normal for her to have them come out during the day and need to be put back in. We had them on a cord attached to her shirt but she still managed to lose one. My quandary is- to I replace the missing aid?…
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Caring for LO when they're sick
Hi everyone, I've been absent for a bit -- we hit a semi-stable routine while we wait for our appointments with the new physician's group that was recommended to us. This post is one-part me venting/unloading about the Great Excitement of the past few days and one-part seeking wisdom. For those who don't want to read the…
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My 83 years old Mother thinks the Male Neighbor is stalking her & she now thinks he is in my room
My Mother was diagnosed with Dementia in June 2023, she is a retired teacher (55 years) & hold 3 master's Degrees, she was extremely attractive, but she was always unkind, selfish, and focused on men. My father was not good to her, they divorced when I was a baby (he was also a very Dark Black man, and for light-skinned…
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I Need Help - Early Dementia/Paranoia
Hello to all! I am currently the grandson of my nana who I am led to believe that she is getting the early or moderate stages of dementia. She lives alone at a senior living apartment complex. However, for the past year or so - she keeps claiming multiple things. From someone drilling into her apartment, People are after…
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Struggling with my stress
Hi. I’m new to this group. My father passed away a few years ago. He had Alzheimer’s. We had full time live in care for him. Last year my mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia. She is getting worse rapidly. She has a flat that is part of an independent living community. However she is now struggling to live…
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Newly Diagnosed Mom
Hello, My mother was recently diagnosed with moderate dementia. It seems to have accelerated once she moved into AL, which was her decision. She is well cared for however is requesting that my brother and I call her multiple times a day. Any tips for setting reasonable boundaries while at the same time helping her as much…
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PWD & physical/occupational therapy
Hi everyone :-) How do you know when to stop PT/OT? Brief context: Dad fell, broke his hip, had hip surgery, was diagnosed with dementia while in ER, was transferred to subacute rehab for PT/OT. We made the decision to bring him home because his mental health and cognition were heavily declining in SAR and he was not…
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Can I receive phone support for assistance to the aid or caregiver about parent
Can I receive phone support for assistance to the aid or caregiver about parent
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Trying to support an aggressive grandfather
I’ve been taking care of my great grandfather for almost two years, the rest of the household is too harsh to him and it causes problems. I cannot convince them to get him help. I am 20, cannot drive and have put everything aside to take care of a three person household. How can I help my grandfather who has gotten worse,…
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I need help
I dearly want to travel and visit my new grandbaby in California. I had given up traveling with my husband, who is probably stage six with Alzheimer’s, because it was so very disruptive to him. But he’s in a different stage now. He no longer shadows me everywhere I go, and he no longer has the intense anxiety/delusions…
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Mother in denial and agitated, paranoid, mean
My mother has had multiple strokes. The past stroke, 2 years ago truly did her in. She is unable to stand on her own without assistance and she has full paralysis on her left side. The strokes also exasperated her personality disorder (narcissism) and she says hatful things to myself and my father. Her doctor mentioned she…
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Mom with early onset dementia, I'm feeling lost
Hey all, this is my first post here so I hope this is okay. I'm the oldest of two siblings and our mom was diagnosed with lewy body dementia around two years ago at the age of 60. She's been in assisted living for roughly that same amount of time. She's on a laundry list of medication and often seems to be in a daze, is…
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When is the right time for AL?
Hello. This is my first post. My 87 year old MIL was diagnosed with dementia (Alzheimer’s +) in March of this year. This brought clarity to the cognitive and personality changes we had been noticing over the past couple of years. Memory changes are really the least of her symptoms. She does have trouble with memory recall…
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Dementia with psychiatric issues
Hello, My dad was diagnosed with atypical (non motor) Parkinson’s with Dementia 3 years ago. His major quality of life symptoms are tenesmus (feeling the urge to go to the bathroom) to the point where he spends most of his days on the toilet. We’ve taken him to the GI and they have run many abdomen CT scans and it’s just…
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My mom hates her RCF and wants her cat back.
:'( about five months ago. We had to move my mom from an AFH to and RCF. She hates it. There are six other residents with varying degrees of disabilities and some with dementia. My mom has vascular dementia, and Alzheimer’s. She was diagnosed at 69 years old and will be 71 this year. since moving to the RCF, I have noticed…
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Dementia, Broken Hip, and next steps
Hello, First time posting. My mother is 95 and was lving independently with caregiver assistance until she broke her hip a few weeks ago. She has been through a lot since 2018 - kidney timor ablation; treatment for APL (acute promyelocytic leukemia), a small stroke, and now this. She is in rehab connected to the retirement…
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First time
This morning at 5:30 , I was shaving, and I heard someone talking and I went upstairs, and a neighbor was in the house. My wife thinking, I wasn't home apparently left our house and went to a neighbor. This is the first time she left the house. She said that she couldn't find me and where had I been? For the last two days…
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Young Adults Dementia Relatives
This is something that often goes unheard when it comes to young adults in the world who loving as they are, when it comes to many of the concerns on how to care for a relative(s) that have Dementia, they don't have the full training in being a caregiver. People around them know they're the best family member, so they're…
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Memory Care Discussion - Financial Exploitation
Looking for suggestions on how to encourage a family member to go into a memory care facility. Although she is very good with her activities of daily living, she has been exploited financially by someone posing as her best friend. I think we now have that situation under control, however, we feel she can no longer live…
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DH
Hello my dh has EO. 20 plus years ago we partied a lot, but has been sober for a very long time. The last few days he has been asking me if I got money out of the bank to buy drugs. I know I'm not suppose to correct or confront but it takes me aback. I need suggestions on how to change the subject and maybe get him to be…
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Questions for Assisted Living
Our father was recently diagnosed with LBD. Right now, he is living independently with home healthcare and family support. The family would like to start looking for possible assisted living facilities. What are some important questions we should be asking when touring these places? We've found checklists online, but I…
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dementia engagement services
As a caregiver of a parent with vascular dementia, I'm looking to offer engaging outings for families of people with dementia. This could be morning coffee or lunch with some kind of light physical activity or stimulating interaction. My hope is to provide individuals with dementia a routine that inspires, promotes…
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Husband has Dementia
My first husband of 45 years died of cancer in the end I was his caregiver. We had a business so I ended up running it because he was so sick. Then sold it to take care of him full time. My husband died and I felt my.life was over then I met a divorced man . We enjoyed each other so much had fun traveling the usa in a RV…
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Should confabulation be addressed or ignored?
Background: My 58 y.o. alcoholic wife had a psychotic episode in 2016 after quitting drinking. She was hospitalized with a diagnosis of Delirium tremens but I believe she suffered/suffers from Wernicke Korsakoff Syndrome. Over the past seven years she has exhibited symptoms of dementia which I have managed through…
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If I Had One Wish…
…it would be that all medical professionals dealing with caregiver’s listen to them and treat them with as much care and respect as was perhaps taught to them in medical school. I am my husband’s caregiver. His primary care doc referred us to a home health agency. After a brief period of service provision - I requested a…
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July 22, 2023
I never knew when the day would come that I would lose my grandmother, but sadly it has been barely a week since she had passed. I joined this community around 5 days before her passing, but had hoped we’d have at minimum, 2 weeks left with her, but timing was different than we had imagined. in my other post, I had…
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Conflicted In Feelings
I love my mom dearly. I find it an honor to take care of her as she moves into the mid-stages of Vascular Dementia. But lately, when her mood shifts, and she is very much out of character I find myself screaming inside "Who are you!" In those moments I try to shift the mood and put on light music - she was a classical…