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Lack of Showering
Our father has been going for extended periods without showering or changing his clothes (40 days at a time), which has led to skin lesions. He has incontinence-related issues too. These challenges can be difficult to address, especially when faced with the limitations set by authorities who claim our father has…
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Lack of showering
Our father has been going for extended periods (40 days at a time) without showering or changing his clothes, which has led to skin lesions. He also has incontinence issues on top of it. We are limited in our ability to intervene due to legal restrictions making these challenges difficult to address, especially when faced…
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UTI Test for Incontinent?
Hello. Is there any way a nursing home can test a patient who has Alzheimer's and is incontinent? My mom is 87, and recently, her agitation and combativeness have continued to escalate. She is hitting, biting, scratching, screaming, and, as they said, "speaking in tongues." She sleeps mainly all day and does not eat as…
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Mom combative when having brief changed
Hello. My 87-year-old mother is the best person in the world. This horrible disease has caused her to become combative in her nursing home. She is mostly pleasant, but when the staff has to change her Depends. Lately, she has been screaming, biting, hitting, and yelling. She is on Mematine: ( Namenda) 10mg for Alzheimer's…
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Urinary Incontinence/retention
My brother lives with me and is struggling with urinary retention. He has Alzheimer's and Down Syndrome. One option that has been mentioned as a solution is a Suprapubic Catheter. Does anyone have experience with this?
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Am I being written out of DH history?
DH is in ES stage ALZ, but most likely moving into MS. Married 65 years. This week DH has told two stories from our joint history where he has written me out of the story for the most part. What he did was to take credit for things that I had done. I don't care so much about that as I am wondering if this is a "thing" that…
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The incontinence blues - I'm not handling it well
We've had a couple of rough days. Over the last few weeks my husband has moved into full time incontinence. He's been incontinent for a while, but until a few weeks ago it was almost always urinary and not all the time. Then The last 48 hours... Fecal incontinence and he's fighting me hard on clean-up. He won't let me…
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New definition of a bad day
Found DH on his hands and knees in the bathroom with poop everywhere. He was trying to clean it up by putting chunks down the shower drain. I managed to get that stopped and got him in the shower while I cleaned up the floor and the toilet. Then I scrubbed him thoroughly and got him dried and dressed. Then I started the…
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When he can't stand up anymore
My dad is 81 with dementia and heart failure. He is in hospice at home. My mom (81) and myself ( I'm 50 and have severe treatment resistant depression and physical disabilities) care for him. Twice a week a nurse comes to check on him for 15 min. He is no longer able to walk; he can stand briefly with a walker so we can…
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Incontinence before Dementia - forgetting pads
My Mom was diagnosed with dementia 5 years ago. She was having kidney/bladder/incontinence issues before that. She recently started forgetting to put in a pad. Yesterday she stood and peed while we were having dinner with some friends. She knew she was doing it. She had forgot to put a pad in, but didn't realize it. She's…
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Incontinence help!
My DH has been urinary incontinent since December 2023. I have tried everything, every overnight product on the market (yes parentgiving as well), doubles, extra pads, 5 washable bed protectors for leaking. I have pretty much stopped the leaking to the bottom sheet with the 5 washables BUT the top sheet is wet every day,…
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Grieving and Planning
Hello All- My first post ever. I am 40 years old and moved in to help my father 78 who was diagnosed with alz in 2020-- but had been declining for over a decade. He has really progressed and is incontinent, very weak, and disoriented. He recently had a fall in the shower and we had to call 911 for a lift assist-- it was…
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Caring for father in mid-stage Alzheimer's
Hello, I am new to this discussion board. I am one of a few people caring for my father in mid-stage Alzheimer's. One of the biggest challenges we have is changing his depends and getting him to shower. He becomes angry and won't change or take a shower. Sometimes it's 2-3 weeks between showers. I am so afraid for his…
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Tips for dealing with some issues I am having with my FIL (85)
Hello, I am primary caregiver during the day for my father-in-law who has been dealing with memory issues 10 years, diagnosed with Alzheimers 2 years ago. And Jennifer previous post about this being hard is on point. I am getting frustrated bc he can't control his bladder at night and I am washing sheets every day. He is…
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Hello
Good afternoon. After reading my Alzheimer’s devotional this morning, I was led to connect with other caregivers. My mother has Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia. My sister and I care for her in her home along with two paid caregivers. It’s hard. Mom was officially diagnosed in 2020, and she is steadily regressing. I feel…
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Incontenence
My 96 year old father refuses to wear pull-ups but he can't make it to the bathroom fast enough with his walker. He wets himself all day. And he makes a mess when using the bathroom for #2. Also, he refuses to bathe or let anyone wash him. He's very defiant. We were thinking of giving him an anxiety medication to help him…
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Nighttime bedwetting
Hi. I am new to this site. My.mom has moderate alzheimers at this point. She has always been very Independent and was always her wish to be as Independent as possible. We have help during thr day but she is alone at night, which was fine til now as she follows her regular routines and we have a camera in her room to…
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72 yo husband with dementia and urinary incontinence.
I am interested in trying a condom catheter for his condition. Anyone out there with any experience with a brand of these? I like QuickChange.com but they do fill up with 500 cc of urine fairly quickly. Thank you, Anne
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Panic with incontinence
Hi this is Pat, I care for my 87-yr old, ex who is in stage 6 dementia. My biggest concern is his panic when he feels the urge to urinate. Although he can still walk (slowly) on his own, he is so determined to get to the bathroom, that he has almost fallen a couple of times. I have a bed alert in his room so I can assist…
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Recent Alzheimer's Diagnosis for Dad - Learning on the job
Hi guys, We have recently had a diagnosis of Alzheimer's given to Dad, compounding his battle with Prostate Cancer. In addition to the mental anguish of the situation, the practical issue we are having to cope with is daily (sometimes twice daily) faecal incontinence. I wondered if anybody had any practical tips, however…
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So many questions! Ups and downs, rapid decline, toileting issues, when to move....
Hi all, My 82 yo mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers just a few months ago. We moved her into assisted living a year and a half ago with "mild cognitive impairment." In the last month, we have seen a significant decline. She was prescribed Aricept about 6 weeks ago by her neurologist and the rapid decline started shortly…
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Incontinent tips?
Hi family---any methods to help with avoiding toilet accidents? We have been taking Mom at least every hour to the bathroom. she asks "where is the bathroom" as she doesn't remember where it is. We have a lighted toilet bowl that draws attention. I say have a seat, nice n clean. We "standby" for assistance. We have some…
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Moms Incontinence on another level
I've had two incidents w mom having bathroom accidents when we are away from home. I was so distraught / on the verge of tears when I caught her handling her waste/ putting hands in toilet. Has anyone ever experienced this? When I react she's so nonchalant about it / trying to give me a reason as to why its ok. It's not…
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when should caretaker prepare for incontinence in bed?
Hoping for some advice from the more experienced here... I've been reading posts about pads and adult diapers and getting up with a demented spouses at night, and while we're not really there yet (no accidents, he gets up by himself at night), I expect we will get to that point at some point in the future. I would like to…
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The ever popular incontinence care
Has anyone had luck using the North Coast incontinence products? Some of their products look great-on their webpage. I was hoping for a less biased opinion. My beloved is in residential memory care and the generic products they use there may as well be made from tissue paper. I do all her laundry and bedding and I don't…
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Pull-up with more coverage in back?
My husband does not have dementia but I have not been able to find help on this issues anywhere else. I’m hoping someone can help me. He has started having occasional bowel leakage and “accidents”. I purchased him some Real Fit Depends for the flair ups and he loves how they look (refuses to wear regular depends because of…
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Bowel Incontinence Cleaning
Hello, I have a routine with my LO involving changing her disposable underwear, and there often is a bowel issue that needs my cleaning attention. Barely able to communicate and largely bedridden (she is elderly), I may not be able to prompt her to go to the bathroom on a schedule (but I will try btw). We have no extra…
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Newbie - looking for support
Hi, my Mom (88) was diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment a few months ago. She is still considered independent in the facility she moved into almost 5 years ago. But she isn’t independent. I manage her meds, finances, and for the last couple months go over 2-3x/week for showers. Otherwise she doesn’t shower. She is…
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Bathroom Issues
When my mother goes to the restroom. She does not sit back on the toilet seat and when she goes it runs out the front onto her clothes and the floor. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can handle this? We have a sitter during the day also. When anyone tries to go with her to help her and make sure she sits back she…
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Sleep and signs of Incontinence
I have come to the point where I need a little guidance. My DH was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's three years ago, but I realize now there were signs at least two years before that time. I think the diagnosis is not accurate, but it probably does not make much difference at this stage. His MRI showed his brain was…