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• Memory Care or Keep trying at home

  Is there some magic way to know when the time is right to have your loved one in a Memory Care Facility? A tipping point? I don't want to, for some reason. But I'm exhausted . I feel it would be more …

  Changes in Relationships

  Memory Care

  Planning for the Future

  Started by Rosanne77

  Most recent by Arrowhead

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  825

  Aug 14, 2024

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• New to this forum. Diagnosed over 4 years ago

  Not sure if this is the place to introduce myself; but I had Encephalitis twice - from West Nile Virus and Powassan Virus AND Lyme Disease 7 times. Dr. told me the viruses started this ball rolling. I…

  Asking for Help

  Stress

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by Grammellow

  Most recent by nanetteshapiro

  I Am Living With Alzheimer's or Other Dementia

  61

  Aug 7, 2024

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  2
• Mother-in-law with Alzheimer's diagnosis refusing treatment/diagnosis

  Hi all, I am new to this forum. My mother-in-law was diagnosed with early stages of Alzheimer's about nine months ago. Since then, it has been an uphill (upmountain?) battle. She has refused to accept…

  Behaviors

  Caregiving

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by justtrying2help

  Most recent by jfkoc

  I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)

  261

  Jun 18, 2024

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• From The NYT: The Ethicist- Spouse with Dementia

  I have so many thoughts on this starting with "has this columnist ever lived with a PWD?" https://www.nytimes.com/2024/06/14/magazine/husband-dementia-divorce-ethics.html?unlocked_article_code=1.z00.2…

  Caregiver Health

  Changes in Relationships

  Planning for the Future

  Started by harshedbuzz

  Most recent by harshedbuzz

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  394

  Jun 17, 2024

  0

  12
• Navigating Family Dynamics: Post removed

  Post removed

  Asking for Help

  Dementia

  Memory Loss

  Started by lostinvoid

  Most recent by jfkoc

  I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)

  310

  Jun 12, 2024

  1

  12
• How do you process your thoughts, feelings, and slow burning grief?

  Hi everyone. I’m new here. So glad I found this online community. The last three years have been super intense. From my mother getting diagnosed to losing her job to hiring at-home care, and the movin…

  Caregiving

  Burnout

  Caregiver Health

  Started by Alexis D

  Most recent by yearofthedragon

  Caring for a Parent

  477

  Jun 12, 2024

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• Not Diagnosed yet

  I have been left with the responsibility of caring solely for my grandmother who is showing very progressed signs of dementia. My issue is, how do I get her a diagnosis and help, if she refuses to go …

  Behaviors

  Asking for Help

  Caregiving

  Started by carlockj1981

  Most recent by psg712

  Caring for a Parent

  133

  Jun 11, 2024

  1

  7
• Separating Parents in AL - How to handle the physical move itself?

  Suggestions for Thursday's move? We have to: Tell our mother (stage 6a/6b with anosognosia) we have decided that she and Daddy need separate rooms in order to receive the care they each need Respond t…

  Asking for Help

  Communication

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by SabrinaJustison

  Most recent by harshedbuzz

  I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)

  402

  Jun 11, 2024

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• ALSP support group

  My mom was DX with ALSP it’s a rare/genetic for of Alzheimer.. I was wondering if there was any type of support groups even virtual support groups that anybody has or has gone through that could help …

  Care Options

  Changes in Relationships

  Late Stage (Severe)

  Started by karaking1089

  Most recent by M1

  Caring for a Parent

  56

  May 21, 2024

  0

  2
• My DW & Hospice Education

  Today, my DW of 25 years was released from the ravages of of this evil disease (+ cancer) and is, truly, in a better place. I was lucky enough to be by her side, holding her hand, when she passed. And…

  Grief

  Dementia

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by subversivevegan

  Most recent by Buggytoo

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  360

  May 16, 2024

  6

  23
• Grandmothers recent diagnosis - guidance

  Hi everyone! My grandmother, and very best friend, was formally diagnosed with Alzheimer’s yesterday. We knew this was coming, as her mother had it and she began showing signs about a year ago. Howeve…

  Long Distance Caregiving

  Grief

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by harleelondon

  Most recent by towhee

  Caring Long Distance

  74

  May 9, 2024

  1

  1
• Competely overwhelmed and in tears or on the verge of tears ALWAYS

  Hi all! I'm new here. My 59 yo DH was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer's and primary progressive aphasia in Sept 2020. He was able to continue working until Dec of 22. He's been home and frustrate…

  Stress

  Grief

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by juliemjh

  Most recent by Edu-K8-

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  360

  Apr 27, 2024

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• It's so lonely

  hi I am Amy (61) and my husband (64) was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's in June 2023. Since I am also disabled I knew we had to get out of our house and into a care environment before disaster…

  Grief

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by planetamy

  Most recent by mrahope

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  279

  Mar 31, 2024

  8

  8
• Children of parent's who have died from Alzheimer's

  I have been the caregiver for my mother for the last 16 years. This August she died from the disease. I have not been able to find a single book or group about this and find it very frustrating. I tho…

  Asking for Help

  Changes in Relationships

  Support

  Started by Marianj4438

  Most recent by Delmar2024

  Supporting Those Who Have Lost Someone

  347

  Mar 27, 2024

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• Wife refuses medical help

  After 3-4 years of increasing memory loss, Finlay was able to get DW to her PCP (prescribed sertraline for anxiety) and neurophysiological testing. Diagnosed with presumptive AD but she is in denial a…

  Behaviors

  Caregiving

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by Jez975

  Most recent by SSHarkey

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  227

  Mar 16, 2024

  0

  8
• Suggestions please

  Hey everybody, 1st time posting. I noticed hubby having memory loss and confusion over a year ago, he is 52. Last July, he ended up in the hospital for a week, and scans confirmed something was going …

  Behaviors

  Dementia

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by hendersontracy12

  Most recent by hendersontracy12

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  280

  Mar 14, 2024

  0

  6
• Mom thinks I’m wearing a mask

  Hi all! For the past few months my mom has made comments about how I am not her daughter although I look like her. She has made comments about me wearing such a good mask because I look so much like h…

  Behaviors

  Dementia

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by PurpleFinch

  Most recent by SusanB-dil

  Caring for a Parent

  211

  Mar 4, 2024

  1

  5
• Finding balance while managing guilt.

  My mom is heavily dependent on me. Even though my mother is living in a AL, she expects and asks to see me everyday. I try to see her as much as I can as I know seeing me comforts her but I am having …

  Behaviors

  Changes in Relationships

  Memory Care

  Started by Marie C.

  Most recent by Marie C.

  Caring for a Parent

  181

  Mar 1, 2024

  1

  6
• 

  Unconditional vs Obligation

  The apple certainly doesn't fall far from the tree. I simply can't cope with caring for her personal challenges and then all of the other incidentals- bills, wills and care for example. I've been mana…

  Burnout

  Changes in Relationships

  Anger

  Started by NUMber2

  Most recent by Emily 123

  Caring for a Parent

  222

  Mar 1, 2024

  4

  4
• I'm new here and I want out...: (

  DH diagnosed one month ago and our lives are out of control. I am the caregiver, now only driver, home caretaker, as well as the target of his anger, rage, distrust, you name it. Not sure what to do, …

  Caregiving

  Burnout

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by miaR

  Most recent by Dogsaremylife

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  1396

  Feb 20, 2024

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• How did you get through the diagnosis?

  My partner has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease, he is 72 and I’m 64. Three years ago last August I lost my 91 year old mother to Alzheimer’s after a 6 year battle and I have no illusions about…

  Grief

  Changes in Relationships

  Newly Diagnosed

  Started by Trish M

  Most recent by Nowhere

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  214

  Feb 10, 2024

  3

  6
• Newly diagnosed DH

  I'm not sure what resources are available to me. I know that there is so much that I need to do, but don't know where to begin.

  Caregiving

  Communication

  Dementia

  Started by sarah

  Most recent by bonkey

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  403

  Feb 3, 2024

  1

  6
• Sadness and acceptance of my grandmothers late stage dementia.

  I’ve joined this support group in efforts to make peace with acceptance. I would like to share an experience I had today with a beloved family member of mine with Alzheimer’s disease. In hopes that sh…

  Asking for Help

  Changes in Relationships

  Support

  Started by brooklynfirestone

  Most recent by M1

  Caring for a Parent

  94

  Feb 2, 2024

  3

  1
• New

  Hi All- Just found this site and wanting to learn. Wife was practicing Endocrinologist diagnosed in april 2023. Lost all income and moved to another state to be closer to family. She is only 57. We we…

  Early Stage (Mild)

  Caregiving

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by Alan1961

  Most recent by Jeanne C.

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  254

  Jan 15, 2024

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• Angry forever?

  My moms delusions and anger have become so taxing that our family feels like it may be time for full time care but she’s voiced she doesn’t want to go to a nursing home and “nothings wrong” with her. …

  Asking for Help

  Burnout

  Caregiver Health

  Started by knktaylor

  Most recent by M1

  Caring for a Parent

  324

  Jan 11, 2024

  4

  4
• Safety when cooking

  My 76 yr. old DH is becoming more and more forgetful. He has several of the symptoms of cognitive impairment. He hasn't been tested or diagnosed yet but agreed to have me attend his next medical appt.…

  Changes in Relationships

  Home Safety

  Accepting Help

  Started by s_broome

  Most recent by harshedbuzz

  Caring For a Spouse or Partner

  144

  Jan 7, 2024

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  7
• I am realizing that my friends,

  while trying to support me, do not truly understand my situation of having a sibling with dementia/Alzheimer's living in a far-off state, commenting "things will get worse before they get better," or …

  Communication

  Stress

  Changes in Relationships

  Started by jnd911

  Most recent by 2parents/brain change

  Caring Long Distance

  169

  Jan 4, 2024

  0

  3
• 

  Venting

  It's been 4 months since my mom moved here to my neck of the woods. She moved away from her home of 40 years, her things, her friends, the sunshine, warmth and the ocean. She was worried that when the…

  Caregiving

  Long Distance Caregiving

  Dementia

  Started by NUMber2

  Most recent by NUMber2

  Caring for a Parent

  136

  Jan 4, 2024

  0

  4
• How to hold a conversation with a relative who has dementia?

  I have a relative who was first diagnosed with dementia a few years ago and over the last few years I have noticed it is becoming increasingly difficult to maintain a two way conversations with her. I…

  Asking for Help

  Communication

  Long Distance Caregiving

  Started by norwsn

  Most recent by harshedbuzz

  I Am a Caregiver (General Topics)

  231

  Dec 20, 2023

  0

  7