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Links to helpful videos
Hello all! I was looking through posts recently and found one that was from a woman who has a PhD in Dementia care. It was very informative and helpful for the stages of Alzheimers. But I cant remember where I saw it. If you know what I am talking about, please post the link here. Also, I would love any and all videos that…
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Continual Grief: I Miss My Mom
I visited my mom again today at her skilled nursing facility. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2018 (she had probably been experiencing it since the early 2010s, in reality), and I made the gut-wrenching decision to place her into an SNF in 2021. She's currently experiencing late-stage Alzheimer's. She has…
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From the NYT: What to Do When a Loved One was Diagnosed with Dementia
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/25/well/family/dementia-diagnosis-advice.html?unlocked_article_code=1.Rk8.WazS.hyIqt9FeloJq&smid=url-share This talks about next steps and how to prepare for them. It's pretty basic, but might be good for someone new to the disease. HB
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Spouse of Father In Denial about His Condition
My father has dementia that is progressing, currently mid-stage symptoms, and his wife is in denial about his condition. She does not believes he has dementia and insists he is improving. I live several states away. There are some family members nearby my parents and they have tried to reason with her regarding his…
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Not sure the MC facility has my mother's ADLs addressed
About three months ago I noticed a few things lacking in my mother's room regarding her personal care. One was that she did not have any toothpaste, shower soap or washcloths. I wondered how they were properly bathing or brushing her teeth. I also noticed the toilet paper roll was down to the last few squares and there was…
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Seeking Advice: Managing Toilets with Dementia Behaviors
My father has late-stage dementia and is exhibiting challenging behaviors that are making it difficult to maintain our home. He’s been pouring food down the toilets, which has caused clogs and damage. He also removed the bolts from one toilet, breaking the wax seal, and it’s now unusable. He’s fixated on guarding the…
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Who is responsible for following up on directives after release from hospital?
It seems I have a new concern each time I visit my mother in MC. Today's question of the day is "Who is responsible to ensure the medical staff and my mom's MC facility follows the orders given for care after someone is released from a hospital?" My sister is POA for everything with mom. (I used to have POA jointly with…
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My Mom has Dementia and now hates my Father
Hello! I'm new here. My Mom has dementia and directs all her anger at my father. He is a wonderful, patient man that takes care of her everyday (we are currently trying to get her into assisted living). She calls me everyday bashing him about how he takes all her clothes, pushes her around and throws out all her important…
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Recently Admitted Father to MC, and wondering if it gets easier
Hi, I'm pretty new to the discussions here. Last week, my father was taken by ambulance to the hospital due to a heart issue he had at a McDonalds at 6AM. When he was admitted to the hospital, it was obvious to the staff that he should no longer be living alone. I believed he could go on living by himself, thinking that…
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Help and insight
Hi. I apologize if this seems off or redundant, I’m new to a lot of this. My grandfather has Alzheimer’s. It’s pretty bad. My mom lives with him to help and I’m over as much as I can. But lately he’s aggressive and wants to go home. Stating this is not his home. It’s definitely in the sundowners range because it’s usually…
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New Caregiver Advice Needed
Hello - I'm new to this caregiving role and am navigating these responsibilities on top of raising 2 young kids, looking for a new job, and all the other things. Where are the best places to start in seeking help and locating resources? My mother currently has a pseudodementia diagnosis and I'm wondering if anyone else has…
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Morally Conflicted about Nursing Home
My 75-year-old grandmother was diagnosed a year ago with moderate dementia, which has now later turned into an Alzheimer's diagnosis. She is starting to slowly have "out-of-mind" episodes, confusing a very close family member with their parent (her son), etc. while these are infrequent as of now, they are suddenly onset…
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Visited mom in MC and found another resident sleeping on top of her bed
I visited my mom yesterday in her Memory Care apartment. The door was ajar. I walked inside and saw my mom in her bed under a couple blankets. To my surprise, there was a woman lying across the foot of her bed on top of it face up. Just sleeping there. I took a photo for evidence. Then went to get the attention of a staff…
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Hospice diagnosis
In reference to the lady I care for. I have a concern with conflicting information. Medical records from hospice Dr states type 2 diabetes. Nurse from hospice stated she was not diabetic. I mentioned this to her son and he had zero knowledge of his mother being diabetic. Should I press her son to get answers or am I being…
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Breathing a little easier
I am breathing a sigh of relief for a change. A month ago I placed my husband in a very small ALF only housing up to 7 residents. Right now they have 4. I placed him after a stay in Geri Psych. Today I was told he will be getting physical therapy and will be attending an adult day care a couple times a week. This will keep…
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Dealing with Medication Management
Hey Y'all! I'm a 27-year-old caregiver for my grandfather with VD, while also working full-time. He is probably mid-stage by now. Medication management has been difficult to deal with, to say the least. He is very resistant to change and likes to feel in control of things. He's been this way all his life. He's been an…
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My Mom Finally Got An Official Diagnosis
So after almost three months, my mom has officially been diagnoised with major cognitive disorder, aka dementia by a geriactic care provider. According to her, silent strokes from a while back (which affected her brain) and my mom's unresolved grief with my Dad were major contributing factors. It has been recommended that…
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Clarity VS deep sleep or unresponsiveness
My 91 year old mother has vascular dementia and shows a pattern of two days of clarity and sleeps for 3 days nonstop and back at clarity again. This has been a pattern since Jan 2025. She was diagnosed in 2020 and lives in a Care Center Facility. Is any of your love ones with vascular dementia going through this cycle?
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Rapid Progression
My mom is 91 and has had early onset of dementia for the last couple of years. She recently got a UTI and has since then gone into a place that I do not even know how to cope deal with or even have a conversation with her. I have her at a skilled nursing while I figure out how I can either a bring her back home with me or…
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Mom has auditory hallucinations need help
My 96 year old mom has alzheimers and recently has been having auditory hallucinations - she hears the same part of a song over and over ( i can't id the song). this started about 6 weeks ago for 1 day, then again a month later the 14 days later and then 4 days later. it really upsets her. she thinks its coming from a…
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Mom is afraid to stay alone with Dad
Hi, my Dad has dementia. I think he's in the middle stages (gets angry, hallucinates, thinks the bank is stealing from him). Couple of days he had an episode and woke up at 3:30 a.m. Left the house and told my mom if she doesn't move, he will hit her. Thank God my aunt was there and went after him. He returned but was…
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Decompressing after a tough visit
I guess all we can do is take a deep breath and exhale, right? I visited my mom yesterday. She is in Memory Care. I put my game face on. I went through the locked doors she now lives behind. I walk through the community to my mom's apartment, and as I do I smile and wave at other residents I have come to know and say their…
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Rehab versus hospice
My 91 year old Mom is somewhere between late stage 5 and early stage 6. She was fairly stable for the past year, but I (and her caregivers in memory care) saw a precipitous decline over the past couple of months. She has completely lost her appetite and is eating very little. Even her former favorite sweets have no appeal.…
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CBD to help manage symptoms
Any one have experience with CBD to help manage anxiety and agitation in your loved ones?
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New obsessive behavior
My 94 yr old mom with dementia has always enjoyed listening to music, especially the music of her youth. She sings along often, remembering the lyrics. I have searched for and found about 25 CDs of very old music that she enjoys. In the last couple of months, she has started clapping with the music instead of singing. It…
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traveling with spouse with dementia- beginning stages
Husband has posterior cortical atrophy so forgets things easily, has no peripheral vision. But we love to travel. Considering the Caribbean to escape MN winter. We love to walk together. Plan to stay in one place from approx march 3-10. any ideas? thanks. Lois
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"Incident" in MC, what to do?
I was told there was an incident involving my mother in memory care. Nobody at her facility contacted me about it. I heard it from one of her friends who called me to inquire about it, and she said she was told from my sister who has POA. I called the Director of Nursing. In her words she said "Yes, there was an incident…
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Dementia Family Dog Workshop Webinar
I started following this group that’s based in Scotland because my wife who is in the early stage of Alzheimer’s expressed interest in getting a service dog. This free webinar is an “educational workshop to guide families affected by dementia who have, or would like to get, their own pet dog”
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My Mom Keeps Misplacing Things & Thinking My Late Dad Is Still Alive
My mom has a UTI (urinary tract infection) that is causing dementia symptoms. For the past month and a half, she's been misplacing things and then blaming it on my late Dad and insisting he is alive and messing with her. He's been dead for more than a decade, but she never came to terms with it. She was taking meds for the…
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Young Adult Daughter of Dad with Dementia
Hi everyone! I'm 22, just came home from graduating college and sadly my Dad was recently diagnosed with Dementia after 2 years of agitation, aggression, and eventually psychosis symptoms. With the help of medication, we are so grateful to now get glimpses of the phenomenal superhero of a man/dad he was for me all my life.…