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Calling to shut off utilities
Our father has developed a belief that the utility bills are "stealing" his money, leading him to make phone calls to PG&E and Earthlink, demanding his money and requesting them to close his accounts. Fortunately, we have successfully established contact with the companies to prevent any potential disruptions in service so…
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This is fine....
Whenever our fathers leaves the room for a bathroom visit or a walk we check his room and photo everything.
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Apparently dementia can cause Grinchiness
DH took down the Christmas tree I put up last week while I was in the shower. He had been complaining about it being up. He took it off the table and put it by the back door. It was a small fake tree. I am so thankful that none of our beautiful ornaments were broken. I put the tree away but left some ornaments out and hung…
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Breaking Appliances
My father has developed a tendency to break appliances in our home, adding a new layer of complexity to our responsibilities. Over time, he has managed to break the washing machine, dryer, oven, and now the refrigerator, which is barely functioning due to the damage. We have been left to find alternative solutions for…
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Lack of Showering
Our father has been going for extended periods without showering or changing his clothes (40 days at a time), which has led to skin lesions. He has incontinence-related issues too. These challenges can be difficult to address, especially when faced with the limitations set by authorities who claim our father has…
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Vermin Rat and Mouse Problem
About four years ago California's Governor Newsom banned rat and mouse poison replacing it with birth control in an effort to save the mountain lions and wildlife. Unfortunately this has created an increasing epidemic of vermin. The entire neighborhood as well as others I speak with locally are suffering. This is…
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Holes in the walls
Our father has been cutting out holes in the walls, creating a significant challenge for my sister and I. We have so many repairs to do after he dies. We have found that taking away tools does not deter him from causing damage, as he resorts to using alternative objects, such as metal rods or other items he can find in the…
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Lack of showering
Our father has been going for extended periods (40 days at a time) without showering or changing his clothes, which has led to skin lesions. He also has incontinence issues on top of it. We are limited in our ability to intervene due to legal restrictions making these challenges difficult to address, especially when faced…
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Untreated Nurosyphilis Dementia
We've quickly realized the importance of connecting with others who understand what we're going through. We're currently caring for our father, who has been suffering from untreated Neurosyphilis, GPI, Tabes Dorsalis, and dementia for several years now. Despite our best efforts to convince him to seek treatment, he has…
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Our Father is Obsessed with Turning Off the Utilities
One of the most challenging aspects of caregiving for a loved one with late-stage untreated Neurosyphilis dementia, GPI, and tabes dorsalis is managing their behavior and preventing them from causing harm to themselves or others. Recently, my father has developed a concerning preoccupation with utility services, such as…
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Pooping in the Shower
Recently, we've observed a concerning shift in my father's behavior, which has added a new layer of complexity to our caregiving responsibilities. While my father's actions may seem intentional and without shame, it's essential to understand that this behavior is likely a result of his cognitive impairments and the…
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Is Sundowning Real?
My grandmother has early stage Alzheimer's. I live a few hours away from her, but whenever I'm on the phone at night she seems much worse. I read an article about sundowning, which apparently is some sort of disorientation thing where after the sun sets, the patient becomes much more confused. Is it real? Can't tell if…
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Help needed… grandfather thinks he fell in love with a nurse and had a big outburst, dementia?
I'll try to keep this as short as possible. My grandfather recently had a toe amputated about two weeks ago as it became infected (diabetic). He had to then come home on IV antibiotics, that I was to administer (i'm his grandson and POA). One day when I went to visit, a few days after the surgery, he had a nurse in his…
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New to this and seeking guidance
I’m new to this whole world and the challenges it presents! Mom is showing many signs of Dementia/Alz and in the process of additional health tests. No official diagnosis, no cognitive testing. Limited healthcare in the area and PCP is generalist. We are trying to get her to Geriatric Dr in a few months tho haven’t brought…
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eating habits regressing
DH has ES Alz…but lately, he seems to be regressing in HOW he eats…licking the knife after putting on peanut butter on toast, licking his fingers at the table instead of using his napkin…basic good manners. Is this just him or is this a thing?
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My young dad is gone but still here
My father is 65 and in the late stages of Alzheimer’s. I just got guardianship and conservatorship of him after discovering his wife could not care for him properly. I just got him into an assisted living facility with memory care, but after only two weeks they can’t handle his behaviors and we are seeking for a new…
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What to do? Mum has been diagnosed with Dimentia
Hi, I am based in Australia and my mum and dad are based in India. Mum has been diagnosed with Dimentia and she could not recognise me. Dad and her are now in care home in India, but for me it is very upsetting to accept that she cannot recognise me. My work is getting affected and I am now becoming very sad ☹️. I don’t…
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Mom combative when having brief changed
Hello. My 87-year-old mother is the best person in the world. This horrible disease has caused her to become combative in her nursing home. She is mostly pleasant, but when the staff has to change her Depends. Lately, she has been screaming, biting, hitting, and yelling. She is on Mematine: ( Namenda) 10mg for Alzheimer's…
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I’m new to this forum, and to Alzheimer’s.
My question is, have any of you seen Alzheimer’s symptoms (in particular, alertness) improve? My relative is apparently in mid-late stages and I haven’t seen this person for almost a year. She has recently been assigned a new caregiver and I just learned she is doing so well she was taken off hospice after being on it for…
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Everything is perfectly normal...maybe not
Just feel the need to "talk". DH in ES to MS Alz. He has seemed perfectly normal now for about two weeks. You'd have to live with him and pay attention to know anything was off. Well, there is the thing about needing to explain to him who is who and what that all means when we are watching TV and the thing about misnaming…
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Jekyll and Hyde
Has anyone else experienced their loved one being "in their face" for hours in the middle of the night screaming obscenties and accusations, forcable holding them down on the bed when they try to leave and then days later wanting nothing but sex from them?
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BIGGEST FEAR, DW MC and what about the whole SEX in MC with others?
Help me navigate the negative thoughts I am feeling. Let me start by stating. I am feeling a tremendous amount of grief. The person in my wife’s very fragile frail body is not the woman I married. I must now consider placement In a memory care home, but I cannot shake this. I have been taking care of her 24/7 now for over…
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Dad is convinced my mom is leaving him
Hello, I am new to the forum. My stepdad has had early-stage Alzheimer’s for several years but now he has suddenly taken a dramatic decline. One of his fixations is that my mom is leaving him, divorcing him, taking the car and kicking him out of the house for another man. We have tried to reassure him many times, but of…
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Following our Request
Mom moved in Sept 8th, she has moderate dementia, almost no short term memory, long term is pretty good, last 11 years or so are fuzzy. She was mild to moderate until she got a UTI and low sodium and was hospitalized for 3 weeks, now she's fully moderate. It's difficult because she can remember how to use the chair to get…
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Am I being written out of DH history?
DH is in ES stage ALZ, but most likely moving into MS. Married 65 years. This week DH has told two stories from our joint history where he has written me out of the story for the most part. What he did was to take credit for things that I had done. I don't care so much about that as I am wondering if this is a "thing" that…
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He wants to see my list
I've been concerned about my DH moving into dementia for 5 years. It's been slow but seems to have speeded up. I keep a journal of behavior changes I've noticed. So, yesterday we had The Talk. I handled it very badly although I'm not sure what a good way would be. (We've talked about the possibility before but he doesn't…
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ALZ, a time to laugh or chuckle, a time to cry
Just sharing a weird thing… DH in ES ALZ…We went to church and sitting in our usual aisle seat. ( I am immuno defecient so always try not to be between people). Some people wanted to be seated down the pew, so I bent my knees to the side to let them pass and DH flopped his legs up on the pew to let them pass. Yes, it's a…
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Feeling defeated
I am new to this forum and after reading through other's posts, I finally feel validated and not alone. I am the caregiver for my Mom who was diagnosed with dementia 2 years ago. She has been living with me for approximately a year after needing more care than could be provided at the ALF she was living in. She has become…
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A few days ago things were manageable, but then the wheels fell off
My DH has had Lewy Body dementia for 4 years now. He is 85, I'm 75. Up until just recently, we've been doing pretty well. I was even able to leave him at home alone while I work (just 3-4 hours a day in the morning). A few days ago, it was like someone pulled a switch. He has always been very verbal, but now won't stop…