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My Mother's Siblings
I have a question, what should I do about my mother's siblings who are coming from out of state and want to spend all day at our house? I think that it's too long and offered a 3-4 hour visit yet they complain. Any thoughts?
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I am so scared
I'm so scared of what this diagnosis means for me and my mom. I've worked with a number of Alz patients while working in emergency psychiatric departments or adult psychiatric departments. It was brutal. Devastating to their kids and devastating to see their moments of clarity, briefly realizing they are losing their…
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Mom caring for adult child with memory loss
My first post. I'm 84 and my adult child was diagnosed with moderate cognitive decline 4 months ago. Has been on doctor prescribed vitamin /depression /antipsychotic protocol since then. Has anyone else got this issue?
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New Here & Just Trying To Keep Up
I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed and alone, and I’m so thankful to have found this group. I’m 29 and live in Georgia. My mom is 65, lives alone in Florida, and was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. My parents are divorced, and my sister isn’t able to help due to her own challenges. My mom’s brother offered support…
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Personality Disorders + Alzheimer’s Disease
Hi, I’m new to this message board and this is my first post. It’s going to be a long one. I’m feeling a bit desperate and I need some advice. My Mom is 78 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a year ago. Although, I think she’s probably been sick for longer and her condition was masked by her existing mental health issues.…
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New here, aging parent with vascular dementia and mom not capable of caregiving, where do I start?
Hi! I have never been on here before. My dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia years ago after insisting my mom bring him in. I have a fractured relationship with my mom and she is his primary caregiver. Lately my dad seems to be declining. He is disoriented at night, getting up and spilling things, having toileting…
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Activity/Busy Work Ideas
Hello everyone! My mom (61) is in mid-stage dementia right now. She lives at home with my dad (61) and me (27). My dad and I work full-time, and we have cobbled together paid and unpaid caregivers/friends who come hang out with her at the house while we are at work. Recently she has been trying more often to leave the…
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Mom and Dad with Alzheimer’s
About a year ago, my mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Last week, so was my dad. They live independently together about 15 minutes from me, my husband and our 15 year old son. We knew something was wrong long before Dad’s diagnosis…but by the time we got his cooperation and finally got him to a doctor as a new patient,…
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Alzheimer's & Alcoholism
My grandmother is a functioning alcoholic & just got diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She refused to have the all day testing done because she would rather sit at home and drink & she hasn't been deemed incompetent to make her own medical decisions so we can't make her do anything she doesn't want to do but they were able to…
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Trusting the "Experts"
This is my first time posting on this website. I am almost 60 years old and my 90 year old mother was recently diagnosed with dementia. She and my father live in an RCAC 2 hours away from where my sister and I live. In the past few months my mom's memory has declined and has required more care. She and my dad have been…
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Guilt, Grief, and Memory Care
My mother and I always had a difficult relationship, but I know she loved me very much. She is in the moderate stages of Alzheimer’s and this disease has actually changed her into the sweetest person, partially due to her taking sertraline. So, in a turn of events I actually really like being around her now. She has enough…
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Re: Grandson Wants to Watch his grandmother
Hello, I have a question: My nephew (a police detective) his wife and children want to have lunch with their grandmother, and he seems to want me to leave. They say it's so I can take a break. They've never watched her alone before and have two young children, 3 and 8 years old. I've been my mother's caregiver for nearly…
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From The Philadelphia Inquirer: Being Mom's Caregiver is Hard...
Surviving caregiving in a sibling group. HB
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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Caregiver who is a nurse
Hi, This is my first post. My mom has dementia that has progressed to moderate. She is very stubborn and becomes belligerent if she does not get her way. She does not realize that she has memory issues and doesn’t understand why we are not allowing her to be alone. She is refusing to shower because she thinks she showers…
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I don’t know what to do!!
My mother will be 70 years old and my sister and I started seeing changes happening with my mom. We thought it was because my our brother passed away at age 38 and threw my mom in a depression. But it’s been four years and my mother‘s behavior is scaring us. She started hearing things seeing things tasting things smelling…
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Overwhelmed caregiver.
My mom just got diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia 6month ago. Sometimes she will be her normal self then she someone I don’t recognize. Someday I can get her to take her medication with no problem then another day she resist. I’m having hard time keeping the house clean because she leaves things everywhere and brings…
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LO Has Been Diagnosed 15 years
Has anyone dealt with slow progression AD? My MIL was initially diagnosed in 2010. She was in early stage AD. 15 years later, she is at Stage 4. Her husband has been a faithful caregiver. No one is complaining. We have had the opportunity to share many more holidays and special events than we ever thought we would. Has…
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Family Visit
Our beautiful son, daughter-in-law and two young grandchildren are visiting next week. Staying elsewhere but I'm a stressed wreck already. Our son and wife are the nicest, kindest couple but this situation with his dad (VD and aphasia) is hard for anyone to comprehend, understand and cope with. He knows that his dad is not…
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writing to you all here helps so much
Hello dear community, It's been a little over a year for me and my dad on this journey. Emotionally it's still a roller coaster for me (as I know you all understand), but I can tell that I am improving in my knowledge and awareness of this disease. Am I still having the rug pulled out from underneath me from time to time?…
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NHTD waiver for my Mom living with me Stage 6 Alzheimer’s
hi everyone, I’m pretty new on this forum especially posting a discussion so I’m not really sure if I’m doing this correctly. I live in upstate New York and I am my mom’s soul care provider. I moved my mother into my home eight months ago and I’m still trying to tap into NHTD waiver services in our area. Is there anyone…
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Worried about Mom’s Memory
My mom is 73 and she is forgetful. Meaning she forgets to charge her phone at night, get up and out the door for appointments first thing in the morning. Never sets alarms to get up. Forgets her purse and phone when she leaves the house. She sees a neurologist where we live and had been tested for Alzheimer’s by blood test…
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Continual Grief: I Miss My Mom
I visited my mom again today at her skilled nursing facility. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2018 (she had probably been experiencing it since the early 2010s, in reality), and I made the gut-wrenching decision to place her into an SNF in 2021. She's currently experiencing late-stage Alzheimer's. She has…
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New here. Overwhelmed
I’m caring for my dad, 84. He’s at home. Still able to walk, bathe, use the bathroom and dress by himself. He gets so depressed, though. Just hangs his head almost to his chest. He often thinks we are at a home that looks like his, but it isn’t. He is getting more and more assertive when talking to me. I just needed to…
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Anger
My mom, 73, is diabetic, in congestive heart failure, and dementia. She started having memory issues a few years back following diabetic keto acidosis followed by Covid. Her memory has continued to deteriorate and her regular practitioner has diagnosed dementia, she refuses to see a specialist. She has extreme mood swings…
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Morally Conflicted about Nursing Home
My 75-year-old grandmother was diagnosed a year ago with moderate dementia, which has now later turned into an Alzheimer's diagnosis. She is starting to slowly have "out-of-mind" episodes, confusing a very close family member with their parent (her son), etc. while these are infrequent as of now, they are suddenly onset…
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Mom has auditory hallucinations need help
My 96 year old mom has alzheimers and recently has been having auditory hallucinations - she hears the same part of a song over and over ( i can't id the song). this started about 6 weeks ago for 1 day, then again a month later the 14 days later and then 4 days later. it really upsets her. she thinks its coming from a…
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Rehab versus hospice
My 91 year old Mom is somewhere between late stage 5 and early stage 6. She was fairly stable for the past year, but I (and her caregivers in memory care) saw a precipitous decline over the past couple of months. She has completely lost her appetite and is eating very little. Even her former favorite sweets have no appeal.…
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I don’t know what I’m doing
Hello, I am 25 years old. My mom (58) was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer’s recently. She was originally diagnosed with FTD last year, but due to genetic testing that discovered she has 2 copies of the APOE4 gene, her neurologist changed her diagnosis to EOA. Both her parents passed in the last few years from…
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Young Adult Daughter of Dad with Dementia
Hi everyone! I'm 22, just came home from graduating college and sadly my Dad was recently diagnosed with Dementia after 2 years of agitation, aggression, and eventually psychosis symptoms. With the help of medication, we are so grateful to now get glimpses of the phenomenal superhero of a man/dad he was for me all my life.…