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clashing with sibling this Christmas over COVID risks
My mom is in the moderate stages of AD, still living with my father but it is increasingly difficult with her behavior and level of confusion. They are 60+ years married, in their 80s, and my father is mom's primary caregiver (burdened by her care needs). I recently moved them to be closer to me (only daughter and youngest…
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Primary Care (PC) Doctor is Undermining the Neurologist
Because Alzheimers runs significantly in my mother's family (killed my grandmother and three of her sisters), I knew as soon as I started seeing tale tell signs in my mother I knew what was happening. After many, many months I finally convinced her to see a neurologist. So I asked her doctor for recommendations for a…
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Caregiving mixed with trauma from parents’ marriage
My parents have been unhappily married for four decades. Essentially, they hate each other, which I view as a foundational trauma of my life—that they remain married I mean. My mother has what seems to be stage 6 dementia and right now, by necessity, my father is the primary caretaker. He’s worked hard at being patient and…
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Anger and aggression
I'm a newbie to this forum. My 85 yo mom, diagnosed with Alz a couple years ago, lives with my sister in another state. She often has angry outbursts that are stressing my sister out. My mom has also had lifelong depression, probably bi-polar. My brother and I are both doing as much as we can from a distance, and my…
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Go Home Gone wrong
have not posted for a while, spouse with moderate dementia, diagnosed two yeas ago. 11/6 somewhat normal day, trip to the store for bananas, daughter and grand kids visited to jump in leaf pile, spent more than normal amount of time out doors. had a great time. around 4PM I was taking the dog for pre dinner walk, when she…
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New(ish) Diagnosis and EOAD
Hello, I am a 48 year old wife whose 58 year old husband has recently been diagnosed with dementia. We are awaiting PET scan and more testing (always more testing) for a "type" of dementia. We have 2 children (21 and 18) that are in college. I started noticing symptoms a year ago, and then in February of this year he had…
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How to communicate with a parent in denial
Hello! Rather abruptly it has become clear my mom will need to be in MC for at least the immediate short term, or even longer. She had an episode of delirium after attempting to travel solo to a family member, and while she has largely recovered, her baseline is way worse than before this episode. She was released from the…
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Won’t Go to the Dr./won’t get an assessment
I am curious what ideas people have for facilitating an assessment for someone who probably understands that something is going on, but refuses to go to the doctor, and likely doesn’t want to do that because she is aware an assessment would happen. (the phrase - “you are trying to commit me has come up quite a bit…
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How to Deal With Angry Ex Spouse
My daughter and I are Co-Conservators for her Father (my ex-spouse). He has always had an angry and resentful attitude. He now has mid-level Alzheimers but denies it. He blames us for "putting him in prison" (assisted living). She lives in another state, and I am his only local contact. How can we best deal with his…
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Managing Paranoia from LO
Hi all, I'm new here and just needing support. My step-dad started experiencing some memory loss a few years ago. Things like forgetting details of conversations or that the conversations even took place, forgetting the words for things, or needing to hear things repeated. He had pretty good self-awareness about it too. We…
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Moving loved one into MC
I am trying to move my mother into MC and after being very passive, she is now adamant about staying in her house (she says is her mothers who has been dead for over 55 years). How do you make this change as seamless as possible? :s :s
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how to proceed with parent's care, disagreements within the family
Hello all, I'm new here and am in need of advice/support from others who understand what it’s like to care for a parent. My mother (60y/o) has been dealing with memory loss since 2019, she was diagnosed with mild cognitive decline at the time and has advanced significantly since. We are working with doctors to get an…
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Need advice! Mom recently moved to MC and hates it!
Hello! I'm looking for some help. My 85 yr old mother with dementia moved into MC after after a 2 week stay in the Geripsych unit at our local hospital. She was taken there very much against her will by brother while I was out of the country. She has macular degeneration very bad and has very poor vision. This poor vision…
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Anger
My mother passed away at the end of April. She was in a MC facility and on hospice. For the last 4 years, it has been only my husband and I taking care of her (medical needs and finances). My sisters did not help. There were several attempts to get money from her and bullying her to get whatever they wanted from her…
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Aggressive and abusive behavior
My step-dad has been showing signs for years but has not been diagnosed since he won't go to a doctor. This past year, he has become very aggressive with me like punching and slamming me into doors. I try to show empathy but It seems to make it worse. The only recourse is to stay away from him but he will seek me out to…
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Online Counseling sessions on dealing with caregiving situations
I am looking for online counseling sessions that might help me deal with the changes that caregiving brings to my life. I have a 72-year-old husband with early Alzheimer's and a 35-year-old son that is on the autism spectrum. I get overwhelmed and angry that this has happened. I lost my son's father to leukemia. I have…
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Father Refusing In-home Care
Hello, I’m new here, but have already learned a lot from reading posts. This is my first, asking for advice. My father needs 24/7 care but refuses to accept a caregiver. He might for a day, but he’s fired that 8 we’ve found for him in the past 6 weeks, telling them to leave and not letting them come back. He’s independent…
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Anger and Dementia
This is my first time posting to this forum. I'm concerned about my 89 year old father's increased agitation, irritation, frustration, and absolute anger. How can I distinguish between what is "normal" for his age and what might be the beginning of some type of dementia. He's always been irritable and easily agitated. But…
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So stressed
Hi everyone, I’m brand new here. I joined today because I feel like I’m approaching a crossroads and I need guidance. My father is 85 and last year, after a neuropsych evaluation, we were told he has Alzheimer’s. He was told at that time that he needed to get his affairs in order and seek AL. He has allowed me to take over…
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My Dad
My dad of 90 has dementia and is getting worse very quickly, he’s aggressive and short temperedTwo days ago he went into hospital for edema and now his care home won’t take him back so he has to stay in hospital until we find him a place. how do you all cope with the verbal abuse and threatening to punch your face when all…
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Long tiring disease
My Dad has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s since January 2021. He is on memantine and seroquel. My mom is his primary caregiver. I come to my parents house every day to help because he can be exhausting. The pacing, the accusations of cheating or stealing money. He also doesn’t want my mom to go anywhere, he almost…