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Incontinent tips?
Hi family---any methods to help with avoiding toilet accidents? We have been taking Mom at least every hour to the bathroom. she asks "where is the bathroom" as she doesn't remember where it is. We have a lighted toilet bowl that draws attention. I say have a seat, nice n clean. We "standby" for assistance. We have some…
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How to Start Part Time Help
Hello, My mother has (undiagnosed) Alzheimers and lives at home with my father. I live about 4 hours away and visit once a month, but my father has been dealing with the day today and it's beginning to be too much for one person. We think it's time to hire a part time companion/health aid. The problem is how to present…
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I Need Help - Early Dementia/Paranoia
Hello to all! I am currently the grandson of my nana who I am led to believe that she is getting the early or moderate stages of dementia. She lives alone at a senior living apartment complex. However, for the past year or so - she keeps claiming multiple things. From someone drilling into her apartment, People are after…
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Can't find previous discussion.
I'd posted about when to know to move somebody from one home to another....my LO is constantly being sent out to the hospital, and they don't want me to visit her or take her out for a while....says it agitates her when I leave. Is this reasonable? She was so sad the last time I saw her (in the hospital), how can I not…
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Struggling with my stress
Hi. I’m new to this group. My father passed away a few years ago. He had Alzheimer’s. We had full time live in care for him. Last year my mother was diagnosed with vascular dementia. She is getting worse rapidly. She has a flat that is part of an independent living community. However she is now struggling to live…
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Caregiver Burden and Lack of Support with Loved One with Dementia (Behavioral)
Hi All, My grandma was diagnosed with bipolar in her 40s, and since her 70s has further been diagnosed with dementia. She is an Italian immigrant with little education, but has lived in the US since the 1960s. Her spouse passed years ago, so her support system includes my mom, and only a few of her siblings (my mom is my…
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Mom hiding diagnosis
Hello everyone. I'm new and I have a tricky situation. My grandma had Alzheimer's, so I know the signs. My Mom is 74 and has been having symptoms for 2 yrs. Repeating questions, forgetting things, not remembering places we've been, pets, etc. She gets super angry out of nowhere and she sleeps all day long. She has always…
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Refusing care
My mom lives with me, I’m 62 and she’s 84, I think she has dementia but I can’t get her to leave the house. She refuses to see a doctor stating there’s nothing wrong, says she’s dying and there’s nothing to be done. She’s been refusing solid food for many months only drinking ensure for sustenance and smoking. She really…
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Dementia + Diabetes = ??
Seeking advice, experiences caring for someone w/insulin dependent diabetes + Alzheimer's. DH, diagnosed last year, refuses help on insulin dosage & administration. Despite warnings, instructions of Endo & Neuro MDs. I've given up, resigned he'll end up in ICU. (Insulin pump is not an option, too dangerous, per Endo.)…
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Delusions
I am struggling with my mom. She has had mental health issues since her 20’s- diagnosed with schizophrenia in the 60’s. Who knows if that’s accurate, she refused to get any updated diagnosing since. Now she has AD mild stage diagnosed in 2019. She is taking Seroquel for the paranoid delusions and I thought they were…
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NEW PERSON: need help/advice/don't know what to do
My mom and I do not know what to do about my dad. He has been acting irrational and loses his temper a lot. I have heard him tell my mom he wants a divorce and that she is no longer his wife and I am no longer his daughter. He has repeatedly say to my mom that he wants a divorce then a few hours later he claims he never…
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need advice/help
My mom and I do not know what to do about my dad. He has been acting irrational and loses his temper a lot. I have heard him tell my mom he wants a divorce and that she is no longer his wife and I am no longer his daughter. He has repeatedly say to my mom that he wants a divorce then a few hours later he claims he never…
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NEW PERSON HERE: I need help/advice
My mom and I do not know what to do about my dad. He has been acting irrational and loses his temper a lot. I have heard him tell my mom he wants a divorce and that she is no longer his wife and I am no longer his daughter. He has disconnected from us and watches tv all day long. On Father's Day this year, he wanted to…
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My first time to reach out for support
Sometimes I feel like I’m a wits end. My mother just dies from Alzheimer’s after 3 years of not recognizing us & my husband has memory loss that is progressively getting worse by the day. I just needed to reach out to someone who may know what’s happening to me
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Parent always wants to go home…
Hello, I’m new here and my family needs assistance. My Mom constantly talks about going home and feels like her home of almost 50 years is not her home. We constantly reassure her that she’s safe but she’s getting really agitated to the point where she’s stating that she wants to be hospitalized or put in a home. Her…
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tamper-proofing machinery
My Dad has Alzheimer's and frequently checks the oil on his car, lawn mower, etc even when it doesn't need it. He often forgets to put the filler cap back and has ruined some equipment this way. Does anyone have suggestions on how to tamper-proof machinery so he can't damage it? We don't let him drive the car, but he likes…
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I need help
I dearly want to travel and visit my new grandbaby in California. I had given up traveling with my husband, who is probably stage six with Alzheimer’s, because it was so very disruptive to him. But he’s in a different stage now. He no longer shadows me everywhere I go, and he no longer has the intense anxiety/delusions…
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87 father is caretaker for 81 mom with severe Alzheimer's
Hi all, Have a situation where our mother is losing her ability to speak, extremely confused, has difficulty walking, is not showering or brushing her teeth and is incontinent at times. Our father is being difficult in that we had an aide for the summer who had to go back to her school job and now he is refusing another…
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Repetitive Sound
My 95-year-old father was diagnosed in 2018 with moderate-sever Alzheimer’s (at that time primarily in the medial/temporal lobes) and lives with my 96-year-old mother in an independent living facility. He is on Memantin (5mg) an Donepezil (10mg). Over the last year or my father began to rub his tongue along his cheek and…
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Guardianship Reports (NYC Based)
Good Afternoon, I hope everyone is doing well. I know we are located all over the world, but I was wondering if those near the NYC/NYS vicinity had any recommendations on who could help me prepare my annual guardianship report- due this past May, so very late. I've asked 100 people and no one can help. I think I just need…
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My mom hates her RCF and wants her cat back.
:'( about five months ago. We had to move my mom from an AFH to and RCF. She hates it. There are six other residents with varying degrees of disabilities and some with dementia. My mom has vascular dementia, and Alzheimer’s. She was diagnosed at 69 years old and will be 71 this year. since moving to the RCF, I have noticed…
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Pull-up with more coverage in back?
My husband does not have dementia but I have not been able to find help on this issues anywhere else. I’m hoping someone can help me. He has started having occasional bowel leakage and “accidents”. I purchased him some Real Fit Depends for the flair ups and he loves how they look (refuses to wear regular depends because of…
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Is my situation crazy? Need advice
Hi everyone, I am very new to this group. Just joined 5 mins ago lol. I am 23 years old and I live with my father, 56, who was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s. He was diagnosed through a PET scan after going through a year and a half of scans, tests, workups. This diagnosis was given to us April of this year, 2023.…
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Grandma refuses to see psychiatrist
I'm primary caretaker to my Grammie, who has multi-infarct vascular dementia. She's still in early stages and very present, but has recently developed compulsive behaviors, heightened anxiety, and obsessive thinking. I'm not sure if she has anosognosia or is uncomfortable with acknowledging these issues, but she refuses to…
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Young Adults Dementia Relatives
This is something that often goes unheard when it comes to young adults in the world who loving as they are, when it comes to many of the concerns on how to care for a relative(s) that have Dementia, they don't have the full training in being a caregiver. People around them know they're the best family member, so they're…
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Should I let estranged granddaughter visit?
My dad is 85 and has moderate dementia. He is currently in a SNF. My niece (his granddaughter) has asked to go see him and bring her 2 kids. She hasn't had any contact with him for several years and he has never met his great-grandchildren (they're both teenagers). Am I wrong to not let her visit him? When he is asked if…
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My Dad thinks he needs to go to work
My father gets up in the middle of the night and thinks he needs to go to work at the business he previously owned. This started at 3:30 this morning and my mom even took him a drive to show him the store was closed. I suggested she bring him on to our house so she could lay down and get some rest. What are some ideas to…
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Dealing with Family Members
Hello, I need help with dealing with my sister who puts a lot of stress on me regarding our mother's care. She decided to move to Florida 1 year ago to take care of herself, understandably, because she had cancer. Her doctor encouraged her to quit working and to avoid stress. I'm the primary caregiver for my mom, but I do…
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Elderly Mother having episodes
Hi everyone I am here with a sad and heavy heart. My 74 yr old mother who lives quite a distance from me is having episodes with what I believe is Dementia. My younger sister is with her and she has health issues of her own. in the past three months my mom has been getting worse. This morning I spoke with her and she told…
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Online Fraud and Scams
Our father just had his second attempted scam. I was lucky enough to be walking past his room when I heard the discussion he was having over the phone. He allowed someone access to his computer to "run a virus" check. We ended the call and have contacted his credit card company, banks, and financial planner. We don't want…