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MC for my mom soon. Anticipating the guilt, worry, fears, & overwhelm will increase.
Haven't posted or read for a while. No excuses, but a lot of reasons. Honestly, life has just gotten really hard. My mom ( early - mod dementia) will likely be moving to MC soon and i need to share my fears. (She is in rehab community now.) Ive been told that it's the right move, AND that the responsibilities, feelings of…
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Newbie
I'm new here because part of me is in denial. I got a call Friday from the nurse at her Speech therapist that my Mom wasn't safe. I've been told that she is not independently safe. She won't believe me because they haven't told her directly. She stayed with us & sometimes it was completely awful. She yelled. Said we were…
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Looking for Oregon (Bend/Redmond) Resources
Hi there! First time poster, although I have lurked and found this community very helpful. I live in Arizona but am trying to help my FIL with resource help (more personal experiences then a list) and thought I'd see if there happened to be anyone local to him on here. My MIL is still at home but we have started the…
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Next steps for outdoorsy/active and healthy stage 4/5 Alzheimers
Hello there, I've been lurking on this forum for a little while as I determine if and how I engage in this community. What incredible outpouring of support and advice I've witnessed as I seek the silver bullet I don't think I'll find. I live slightly remotely from my parents. My dad is 79, an introvert and slightly…
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New Caregiver, Overwhelmed
My 80 year old dad got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a few weeks ago. He’s had problems with names and words and math for several months but until recently, it had not progressed much past that. Now he has problems with understanding his finances and figuring out time spans. He is a retired civil engineer, so this is a pretty…
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Bathroom Issues
When my mother goes to the restroom. She does not sit back on the toilet seat and when she goes it runs out the front onto her clothes and the floor. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can handle this? We have a sitter during the day also. When anyone tries to go with her to help her and make sure she sits back she…
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Looking for advice on my situation with my mother who has dementia
Hi everyone. I am very new here, but I am desperate for any advice that can be given regarding my mother with middle stage dementia and my father who is in denial.this is a very long story. My mom has suffered a number of illnesses dating back to her teenage years. She has had myasthenia gravis, then lymphoma, and now…
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Locking down medication
Hi all. I’m interested in learning about any kind of locked medication boxes you use to keep your loved ones safe. My mom is on a number of medications including insulin, so I need something that’s versatile and can hold more than just pill bottles. Thanks for any suggestions or recommendations.
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New Here.
My story is very complicated. we are not sure of the stage my mother is in. She is 69. The doctor says this is too young but she was diagnosed in 2021 with the dementia. Summary is I hired an attorney to get guardianship and conservatorship of my mother, who has dementia, due to my brother's neglect. I got final in April.…
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new here and it's already bad
Hey yall! So, my dad's had signs of alzheimers/dementia for ages. But I moved in with him almost a yr ago, and when he got violent I immediately scheduled him an appt with his Dr...my dad's never put his hands on me. Ffw to 2 months ago, and i finally got himdiagnosed and medicated. Well, a week ago, he got violent again,…
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Online Counseling sessions on dealing with caregiving situations
I am looking for online counseling sessions that might help me deal with the changes that caregiving brings to my life. I have a 72-year-old husband with early Alzheimer's and a 35-year-old son that is on the autism spectrum. I get overwhelmed and angry that this has happened. I lost my son's father to leukemia. I have…
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Mom wandered for the first time. Ready to give up on doing it myself (NYC)
I've been doing this for about 3 years now, It's exhausting, frustrating, but it was all I knew. She's EO (66 now) I love my mother but at the risk of sounding selfish I want to start the process ASAP of getting her proper care that doesn't involve me staying by her side 24/7. Because now I don't know when she'll just up…
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Besoin d'aide
Salut CV je suis nouvelle ici ET je ne sais pas comment fonctionné j'ai besoin de votre aide merci
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Help! Handling hyper chatter..?!
Hello, brave caregiver! This issue is hardly the worst thing that Dementia has to offer, but I can’t seem to find communication tips that cover it! I don’t know how how to talk to, or even around, my dad! He and my mom (87 & 86) are together in memory care. Her dementia appears pretty minor, but my dad has no short term…
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my father with dementia is still CEO of his company; looking for advice
Hi, I have a tricky situation and feeling lost about what to do. My father founded a company and he has been running it for over 20 yeas. He has developed dementia over the past few years. As of now, his symptoms are: Consistently doesn’t know where he is (such as which town or state or even if he is in his own home) He…
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How do we tell Dad that Mom is selling their home?
My father has some form of dementia resulting in short term memory loss. We first noticed the undeniable signs in early 2020. He has refused any and all attempts to diagnose or assess his cognitive condition. He’s an intimidating man and has always bullied his way through life and this situation is no different. He hasn’t…
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Restraining Order
Hello my name is Angela I'm new to new here. My mother was diagnosed with Dementia 2021, I have lived with her for a year, along with that she is gamble Halick. she don't trust me anymore she accuses me of abusing her, stealing her money, keys, purse/bag. I'm not doing any of the she is accusing me of. When I shared with…
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Helping Dad
So I’m just getting home from driving 45 minutes each way to diffuse an argument between my parents. Mom has dementia and dad is doing his best, but loses patience and gets upset with her when she gets confused. This leads to fighting, but then she can’t convey why they’re arguing she just knows she’s upset. I’m unable to…
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Finding a Memory Care Facility
Greetings, I'm new here, I just signed up. I'm my husband's caregiver. He was 1st diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment in 2/2019 and transitioned to Alzheimer's Dementia in 11/2021. Unassisted, I've been looking at MCFs and they refer me to sources Independent placement persons (generic parties I'm not familiar with.)…
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Fear in stage 7
My husband is the last stages of AD. In the last week he seems to have developed fear of I guess falling, but can’t be sure. If I push his wheelchair through a doorway he grabs both door jambs and won’t let go. Same if I move him from one place to another- he will grab on and not let go. It took two care personnel to get…
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My 61 year old dad has been diagnosed with early onset dementia and I'm only 19
Growing up, I was such a daddy's girl; I absolutely adored my dad and looked up to him so much. He introduced me to my love of sports and I got most of my humor and definitely my competitiveness from him. I had such an amazing relationship and I always think of him as my hero. About 5 years ago, I started to notice a…
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Mum with Alzheimer, dad fine cognitively moved in for help in Jan
Mum is declining pretty fast yet the problem is my dad who won’t accept it and is pushing her to be her old self, he thinks he can stop this. They are 90 and 89 respectfully. She is at the stage of not being able to dress herself or shower herself yet he insists they go out and live a normal life. Dad says she is just…
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Mom early/quickly progressing dementia
Hello everyone. I hope I can concisely explain what’s going on and get some practical advice. My mom does not have a diagnosis. My mom and dad are 89 and 86, respectively, and I have spent the last 3.5 years trying to get them moved to a small house already on my property 3 hours from where they have been living. The move…
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So stressed
Hi everyone, I’m brand new here. I joined today because I feel like I’m approaching a crossroads and I need guidance. My father is 85 and last year, after a neuropsych evaluation, we were told he has Alzheimer’s. He was told at that time that he needed to get his affairs in order and seek AL. He has allowed me to take over…
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Caring for my mother on at home hospice
Hello. I’m new to the group but need an outlet to hopefully connect to someone whom better understands than those I know that are trying around me. My mother has been battling Lewy Body Dementia for about 7 years. She has rapidly declined in the past months, has been in the hospital and rehab. She last was admitted for…
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AL/Memory Care or In Home Care
As I posted previously, my sister's adult day care is closing. She can go to another one of their locations and we are going to try that. If that doesn't work, we'll need to try something else and I'm torn: In Home Care or just move into a facility? My sister is only 57 years old and has enough money to pay for about two…
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My Dad
My dad of 90 has dementia and is getting worse very quickly, he’s aggressive and short temperedTwo days ago he went into hospital for edema and now his care home won’t take him back so he has to stay in hospital until we find him a place. how do you all cope with the verbal abuse and threatening to punch your face when all…