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New to Forum: Introduction 👋🏻
Hi all, My partner was about 26-27 when she started to realize her mother was having difficulties recalling basic things. We are 31 now. Her mother lives independently (alone) and does not know what is happening. My partner is more or less her mother's only family. My partner's sister, her mother's other daughter, lives on…
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Nursing Support for Hospital Visits
Hi All! I'm new to this group. My sister has dementia we believe due to vascular system issues. She lives in a Memory Care facility. Recently, she's had some health issues with declined responsiveness. The facility sends her to the ER via ambulance. The issue is I'm in FL and she is in MO. It frightens me that she is going…
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Moving my folks into my house
My dear mom (DM) has Alzheimer's. My dear dad (DD) is her primary caregiver. They are both in their mid-eighties. We live in the same town, as does my sister and my brother. I assist my DD care for DM, plus a caregiver comes in 3 days a week. Additionally, DM attends a day program 2 days a week. Three years ago, I had my…
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What to do after the diagnosis
My dad was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. However, his neurologist said he’s been on the cognitive decline for about 3 years already. Unfortunately, I only started noticing changes in his personality and memory at the beginning of this year. The things that were most noticeable were problems with his short term…
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How to Start Part Time Help
Hello, My mother has (undiagnosed) Alzheimers and lives at home with my father. I live about 4 hours away and visit once a month, but my father has been dealing with the day today and it's beginning to be too much for one person. We think it's time to hire a part time companion/health aid. The problem is how to present…
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Caregiver Burden and Lack of Support with Loved One with Dementia (Behavioral)
Hi All, My grandma was diagnosed with bipolar in her 40s, and since her 70s has further been diagnosed with dementia. She is an Italian immigrant with little education, but has lived in the US since the 1960s. Her spouse passed years ago, so her support system includes my mom, and only a few of her siblings (my mom is my…
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time for a hospital bed?
My dear husband is incontinent, and it is no longer reasonable to share a king size bed. He is I would say later stage 6, fully ambulatory, but has aphasia and really can do no activities of daily living by himself. Since I'm getting him a twin bed anyway, is it time to go ahead and get a hospital bed for him? I do not…
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When is the right time for AL?
Hello. This is my first post. My 87 year old MIL was diagnosed with dementia (Alzheimer’s +) in March of this year. This brought clarity to the cognitive and personality changes we had been noticing over the past couple of years. Memory changes are really the least of her symptoms. She does have trouble with memory recall…
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Pull-up with more coverage in back?
My husband does not have dementia but I have not been able to find help on this issues anywhere else. I’m hoping someone can help me. He has started having occasional bowel leakage and “accidents”. I purchased him some Real Fit Depends for the flair ups and he loves how they look (refuses to wear regular depends because of…
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Memory Care Discussion - Financial Exploitation
Looking for suggestions on how to encourage a family member to go into a memory care facility. Although she is very good with her activities of daily living, she has been exploited financially by someone posing as her best friend. I think we now have that situation under control, however, we feel she can no longer live…
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Questions for Assisted Living
Our father was recently diagnosed with LBD. Right now, he is living independently with home healthcare and family support. The family would like to start looking for possible assisted living facilities. What are some important questions we should be asking when touring these places? We've found checklists online, but I…
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dementia engagement services
As a caregiver of a parent with vascular dementia, I'm looking to offer engaging outings for families of people with dementia. This could be morning coffee or lunch with some kind of light physical activity or stimulating interaction. My hope is to provide individuals with dementia a routine that inspires, promotes…
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Resources for scheduling respite
Hello! I am new to this group but look forward to getting to know you all! I personally feel that one of the hardest parts of caregiving is making/finding time for respite. Does anyone have any suggestions for resources they like to use to schedule respite?
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Help finding a doctor for my mother
Hello. This is my first time on this forum. I am a daughter starting to support my mother who is showing signs of cognitive loss. I live out of state from her and need advice on how to find a good medical provider for her to see to get a diagnosis and start treatments.
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how to proceed with parent's care, disagreements within the family
Hello all, I'm new here and am in need of advice/support from others who understand what it’s like to care for a parent. My mother (60y/o) has been dealing with memory loss since 2019, she was diagnosed with mild cognitive decline at the time and has advanced significantly since. We are working with doctors to get an…
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When is it time for assisted living ?
I a new here-My mom over the past few years has had short term memory issues (ie. forgetting keys, etc..) but more recently has declined and has trouble keeping track of what day it is, keeping up with current events and her calendar, forgot how to start her car (so we took away the keys). She currently lives…
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Need simple companion for someone in nursing home
I need some advice on finding the right companion situation. I can usually find answers to my questions by searching the other posts, but I couldn't find exactly what I needed this time. My mom has late-stage Alzheimer's & went into a nursing home about a year ago. It's a lovely facility with wonderful staff, especially in…
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Getting mom with dementia to a doctor; what other options might we have?
My 69-year old mom has been increasingly showing signs of dementia for the last decade. She never saw a doctor for this (did not even discuss it with her PCP), until the situation exploded: about 18 months ago, she was basically having psychotic episodes in the middle of the night. It got so bad, she ended up in the…
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Looking for Oregon (Bend/Redmond) Resources
Hi there! First time poster, although I have lurked and found this community very helpful. I live in Arizona but am trying to help my FIL with resource help (more personal experiences then a list) and thought I'd see if there happened to be anyone local to him on here. My MIL is still at home but we have started the…
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Is Dad ready to transition to an Assisted Living Facility?
Hello everyone. I'm new here. My father was diagnosed with dementia 3+ years ago and has been living with me since then. I consider myself to be fairly patient and laid-back, but my dad has certainly tested these qualities more often recently. Financially, he doesn't qualify for MediCal but we also can't afford a facility…
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Am I Crazy?
My sister's day care is closing in a few weeks. The owner of her day care has another location we can send her to. It's only a few miles further than the current location, but traffic is worse, making transporting her more difficult. I've arranged transportation through an organization that provides rides to the disabled…
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Looking for advice on my situation with my mother who has dementia
Hi everyone. I am very new here, but I am desperate for any advice that can be given regarding my mother with middle stage dementia and my father who is in denial.this is a very long story. My mom has suffered a number of illnesses dating back to her teenage years. She has had myasthenia gravis, then lymphoma, and now…
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Need volunteers and Adult Day Care in Seymour area
I am caring for a spouse and have no relief at all. I cannot seem to find any volunteers to come and stay with him for a few hours or an adult day care in the area to give me some time that is not costly. Does anyone know of any services in my area that might help, we don't qualify for Medicaid or Veteran aid unless we…
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Caring for Two
My 92-year-old father has Alzheimer’s. My 89-year-old, visually-impaired mother has been his primary caregiver until this month. My sister and I live together a mile from their home and have seen them daily for the last couple of years. Last month while my sister was out of state, I came to their home after school and…
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Mom wandered for the first time. Ready to give up on doing it myself (NYC)
I've been doing this for about 3 years now, It's exhausting, frustrating, but it was all I knew. She's EO (66 now) I love my mother but at the risk of sounding selfish I want to start the process ASAP of getting her proper care that doesn't involve me staying by her side 24/7. Because now I don't know when she'll just up…
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Role of natural supplements in support of cure for Alzheimer's
I have closely seen many patients with Alzheimer's . And this really breaks my heart. Just last week I came across an article which talks about natural supplements and their potential benefit to support the cure for many decisions. How you guys feel about natural supplements do share your views. Also if anyone using them…
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American House
Just wondering if anyone has experience, good or bad, with American House assisted living. I'm looking at one of their facilities as an option for my mom. They contract out to a third party for personal care services, so I'd also be interested in anyone's experience with that set up, even if not with American House. Thanks.
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Need advice: How do I vet Memory Care facilities when I am home all day with DH
I think I am close to having to place DH in MC. He has become aggressive to the point where it is more than 50% if the time. He screams at me, grabs me by the arms and pushes me up against the wall. A few times he has thrown me to the floor. His anger flares up without warning over nothing. Like when he said he was hot and…
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AL/Memory Care or In Home Care
As I posted previously, my sister's adult day care is closing. She can go to another one of their locations and we are going to try that. If that doesn't work, we'll need to try something else and I'm torn: In Home Care or just move into a facility? My sister is only 57 years old and has enough money to pay for about two…
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Feeling guilt and questioning my decision
I’m feeling immense guilt about how to take care of my 77 yo mom. She lives alone in an apartment and I live about 30 min away. I am a 39 yo stay at home mom to 3 young children (ages 3, 9, 11). My mom just got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s after 3 years of my sister and I noticing serious memory changes. She is intelligent…