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That wavering line...
I feel as though I'm wavering each day as we wait for a possible MC placement. We visited a geriatric doctor this past Friday after a 6 months wait to get the appointment. My DS and I spoke very frankly with a social worker. We described incidents we've seen of unsafe behavior, but most of all I was able to tell her how…
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Resisting Move to Assisted Living
Dad has Alzheimers and Mom is wheelchair bound. They currently have 8x5 home care. It's becoming harder Dad to care for Mom when home care is not there. However, Dad doesn't realize this and thinks he's doing a "good job" taking care of her. Gets very defensive. Took them on tours of AL yesterday. Mom is willing to move,…
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Palliative Care - UPDATE
My mother is 90 y/o and I (her daughter) have been living with her since June 2022. She has been showing signs of dementia since her husband (my father) passed away from dementia in Jan. 2019. I think the trauma of living with him (long story - mistakes were made by her & my sister) accelerated her condition to where we…
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Calming meds for anxiety?
Hi, when music, diversion, soft textures, fresh air•••golf kart ride etc won't comfort Mom's agitation, sundowners type intense anxiety. Are there any prescribed medications that work well in anyone out there's situations Thank you
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Unsure where to even start
It’s a long one…. My husband and I are 34 years old and have recently had my 68 year old FIL move in with us. Previously, my FIL lived with his wife, who had been recovering from a mild stroke she had in March 2023. They live about 2 hours away from us and we thought they were managing okay as my SIL lives in their area…
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Wrong care facility??
My LO has always been overly sensitive and that seems to be getting worse as the disease progresses. She can't hear so the caregivers speak loudly. (She tells me that they yell at her all of the time) She's not always cognitively aware so the caregivers speak loudly to try to guide her. (She tells me that they yell at her…
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When did you know it was time to move LO from AL to MC?
I've lived far away from LO for many years. My brother and I decided it was time for her to move to AL in December and that it was best if it is near me. I tricked her into visiting and temporarily staying in a community since no one is home during the day and she would have more to do. She still thinks that it is…
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New to this site and Alz/Dementia info
My husband was just diagnosed with Mild Late Onset Alzheimer's w/Dementia with Mood Disturbance (depression/anxiety). I've been a mess, exhausted, frustrated, angry, then sad, isolate, alone... I'm in Los Angeles, CA and just hoping to reach out to anyone who could talk with me about all of this. Thank you!
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Chemical sedation?
My dad (77) has Alzheimer's and is now in a VA-supported nursing home after a number of scary hospitalizations left us with no real alternatives. Recently I was visiting and found him sound asleep. I waited for over 30 minutes, making some noise here and there but he didn't wake. Eventually I went out to talk to one of the…
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Early onset of Alzheimer’s and the cost of long term care
Hello All, My mother was diagnosed with early onset of Alzheimer’s in 2015 at the age of 51. She just turned 59, and the disease has progressed significantly. My father had to move her into a memory care unit housed in a nursing facility. She has been unable to take care of herself for years and needs additional one on one…
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Transitioning from Home to a Care Facility
My mother still lives with her partner and always been adamant that she won't live anywhere else. But due to her partner's health problems and her own cognitive decline, that may not be feasible for much longer. I'm looking for some guidance on how to have a kind but effective conversation about the need for her to have…
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Getting overnight caregiver
We've been trying to take shifts watching mom overnight to make sure she doesn't slide out of bed or get stuck in the railings on the hospital bed. Thankfully she hasn't had any issue since being in the new bed and with us watching. We're still not getting enough sleep ourselves and it's starting to impact our job…
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New to everything
Hello, My mom been slowly losing her memory, for the last few year, This last year it has been getting worse and I am not sure where to turn. My mom is 75, some of her memory problems started 13 years ago when my older sister lost her battle to breast cancer, in the beginning I thought was her way of coping with the grief.…
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Don't Know what to do
My mom has had Dementia for a few years now and it is overwhelming at times especially when she says things like I (her daughter) or my aunt (her sister) are trying to harm her when that is not true. She doesn't even remember my name or that I am her daughter but I know it is just the disease but it still affects me at…
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Agression & Frustration
Hello, I would like to receive information on what to do in cases when my uncle who has Alzheimer's becomes aggressive or frustrated with her. My Aunt does not have the financial resources to place my Uncle in senior care. Some places here in Houston have wanted to charge her around $7,000 a month for his placement and…
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Need help: Does DH need placement for his own safety?
It's been a rough 10 days. Last weekend, about an hour and 15 minutes after I left the house to perform with my singing group, I get a call from DS. DH had called him and they were on the way to the ER. Seems DH had suffered an episode of intense chest pain that then subsided. Because he's got a longstanding history of…
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Care.com
I searched the archives and didn't see a discussion about this. Has anyone hired a caregiver through Care.com? What was your experience? Did you pay for their service to handle the payroll taxes?
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Early onset Alzheimer's
Hello everyone. This is my first post and I am lost. My DW who is 53 y/o and has a masters degree lost 4 jobs in 3 years and now has issues remembering normal things. Her mother had early onset at 53 and past by 59. We had cognitive testing that showed a decline in memory and processing but don't see the neurologist till…
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So many questions! Ups and downs, rapid decline, toileting issues, when to move....
Hi all, My 82 yo mother was diagnosed with Alzheimers just a few months ago. We moved her into assisted living a year and a half ago with "mild cognitive impairment." In the last month, we have seen a significant decline. She was prescribed Aricept about 6 weeks ago by her neurologist and the rapid decline started shortly…
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Geriatric Physician Recommendations in Florissant or West County St. Louis
My mom and dad have had the same doctor for 20 years. My mom is having trouble caring for my dad who is showing signs of dementia. Their doctor yeais dismissive of my mom's concerns, and even suggested we just drop my dad off at the ER if he becomes too much for her to handle. Is there a doctor that anyone in this group…
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New to Forum: Introduction 👋🏻
Hi all, My partner was about 26-27 when she started to realize her mother was having difficulties recalling basic things. We are 31 now. Her mother lives independently (alone) and does not know what is happening. My partner is more or less her mother's only family. My partner's sister, her mother's other daughter, lives on…
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Nursing Support for Hospital Visits
Hi All! I'm new to this group. My sister has dementia we believe due to vascular system issues. She lives in a Memory Care facility. Recently, she's had some health issues with declined responsiveness. The facility sends her to the ER via ambulance. The issue is I'm in FL and she is in MO. It frightens me that she is going…
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Moving my folks into my house
My dear mom (DM) has Alzheimer's. My dear dad (DD) is her primary caregiver. They are both in their mid-eighties. We live in the same town, as does my sister and my brother. I assist my DD care for DM, plus a caregiver comes in 3 days a week. Additionally, DM attends a day program 2 days a week. Three years ago, I had my…
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What to do after the diagnosis
My dad was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. However, his neurologist said he’s been on the cognitive decline for about 3 years already. Unfortunately, I only started noticing changes in his personality and memory at the beginning of this year. The things that were most noticeable were problems with his short term…
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How to Start Part Time Help
Hello, My mother has (undiagnosed) Alzheimers and lives at home with my father. I live about 4 hours away and visit once a month, but my father has been dealing with the day today and it's beginning to be too much for one person. We think it's time to hire a part time companion/health aid. The problem is how to present…
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Caregiver Burden and Lack of Support with Loved One with Dementia (Behavioral)
Hi All, My grandma was diagnosed with bipolar in her 40s, and since her 70s has further been diagnosed with dementia. She is an Italian immigrant with little education, but has lived in the US since the 1960s. Her spouse passed years ago, so her support system includes my mom, and only a few of her siblings (my mom is my…
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time for a hospital bed?
My dear husband is incontinent, and it is no longer reasonable to share a king size bed. He is I would say later stage 6, fully ambulatory, but has aphasia and really can do no activities of daily living by himself. Since I'm getting him a twin bed anyway, is it time to go ahead and get a hospital bed for him? I do not…
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When is the right time for AL?
Hello. This is my first post. My 87 year old MIL was diagnosed with dementia (Alzheimer’s +) in March of this year. This brought clarity to the cognitive and personality changes we had been noticing over the past couple of years. Memory changes are really the least of her symptoms. She does have trouble with memory recall…
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Pull-up with more coverage in back?
My husband does not have dementia but I have not been able to find help on this issues anywhere else. I’m hoping someone can help me. He has started having occasional bowel leakage and “accidents”. I purchased him some Real Fit Depends for the flair ups and he loves how they look (refuses to wear regular depends because of…
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Memory Care Discussion - Financial Exploitation
Looking for suggestions on how to encourage a family member to go into a memory care facility. Although she is very good with her activities of daily living, she has been exploited financially by someone posing as her best friend. I think we now have that situation under control, however, we feel she can no longer live…