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Morally Conflicted about Nursing Home
My 75-year-old grandmother was diagnosed a year ago with moderate dementia, which has now later turned into an Alzheimer's diagnosis. She is starting to slowly have "out-of-mind" episodes, confusing a very close family member with their parent (her son), etc. while these are infrequent as of now, they are suddenly onset…
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Caring For Parent
Both my Maternal Great Grandmother and Grandmother had Alzheimer's. And now, I am seeing more obvious changes in my own Mother who is now in her 70s. I live out of state. I am in CT and my Mother is in FL. The most challenging part is dealing with my Father, her spouse, who is in denial. He has been trying to shield my…
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Sudden issue with weakness & walking
I am caring for my mom who has memory loss due to dementia/alzheimers. Her memory loss became noticeable about 7-8 years ago. In the past several weeks she has suddenly become very weak when walking. She used to walk a lap or two at the track every other day and now struggles to walk a short distance around the house. I'm…
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Support Groups with Respite Care North Idaho/Eastern Washington
Does anyone in the North Idaho/ Eastern Washington know any dementia support groups that offer respite during the meetings? I know the Alzheimer’s support groups don’t offer this. But is there any other groups around my area that do?
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SOS/Aggression
I’m sending up the white flag and in need of some direction please My father currently had MS dementia. He’s been exceedingly agitated and angry lately and lately and he acted out against my mother tonight and I’m panicked I don’t know what our next steps are ; I obviously do not want this to occur again - nursing home or…
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Permanent catheter with dementia
I’m a caregiver for my mother. She has early onset dementia that she’s had for about 10 years. She does fairly but has a lot of other health issues. One of those being she has issues with her bladder. Her urologist is wanting to put in a catheter that would stay in all the time. I’ve never had any experience with a…
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Stages of Alzheimer's
My mother is 82 years old and was officially diagnosed in December of 2023. My sister and I had noticed cognitive impairment for at least 4 years before we managed to get her tested, due to her being in denial. As she progressed, we were "Google Doctor's" trying to get all the information we could. Her neurologist has said…
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My MIL is getting worse
My MIL has dementia and is now starting to forget to eat, and isn't really taking care of herself. My SIL lives with them, but it's more like lives "off" them and she is NO help! I've noticed my MIL losing weight and not looking as put together as normal. When do I know when the time has come to get her more care. She…
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Moving mom from AL to MC
this day is going to be so hard. We need to move mom up to MC. She has been wandering and walked out of the building. It is now a safety issue and we need to do this but it is breaking my heart. I don’t know how to navigate it all and how often I should visit after. I currently go twice a week and sibling goes twice a…
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How to help with dementia and sundowners
I am new to all this. I worked in a dementia care unit as a companion but it is nothing compared to feeling so helpless when it comes to my grandma. My dad wants to put her in a home and I gave her my word I would not let that happen. It breaks my heart seeing her decline and not know who I am. I had never even heard of…
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New to Group
Good morning community, I just connected to this support group. My 86 yo dad is struggling more each day with memory loss. He has always had some sort of learning disability and suffers from profound hearing loss. The increasing level of dementia is complicating daily interactions. I have a sister who lives 5 minutes from…
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How do I tell my mom we are where we are because of her illness?
First, my mom refuses to come to terms with the fact that she is mentally declining and that we need to address the fact that she is not just forgetful, but that she has severe memory loss, had a small stroke, and is starting to experience delusions. Of course, she denies and becomes enraged when these things are brought…
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My Mom Finally Got An Official Diagnosis
So after almost three months, my mom has officially been diagnoised with major cognitive disorder, aka dementia by a geriactic care provider. According to her, silent strokes from a while back (which affected her brain) and my mom's unresolved grief with my Dad were major contributing factors. It has been recommended that…
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So I guess this how it goes? One day your are fine and the next you are not
I realized I cant take care of 2 dementia patients on my own. So now I need to get agreement from my Dad to go into the nursing home. I spent 8 hours today dealing with them, doc appoints, falls, ambulances, hospitals - all in one day. I can't take all this stress. Its destroying me.
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Mom girgals after eating
Hello, has anyone noticed this with their LO? It looks like she is choking and is in pain.?
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MCF after stay in psych hospital
It has been a long while since I last posted an update here (I did last week yet found my answer) and am truly thankful for this site. My MIL finally got moved to a MCF this afternoon after a week plus stay in a psych hospital after she had a catastrophic event at my BIL and SIL’s house. My DH and I live in another State…
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When you just have to say NO
My mom is stage 5/6 she has hallucinations (even medicated) her big one is a dog. She is constantly looking for this Shepard (she has never had a Shepard) we do have a beagle and she enjoys him but is obsessed with this shepherd. I’ve played along for a long time, distracting her changing the subject but she has become…
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Time for Depends?
I am caring for my 94 year old mom who has dementia bordering on stage 4/5. Lately she has had accidents at home and out and of course does not remember them. I have tried to get her to wear Depends when we go out but she refuses. My dad, 95 years old, wears them when we go out as his cancer medicine can sometimes cause…
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Clarity VS deep sleep or unresponsiveness
My 91 year old mother has vascular dementia and shows a pattern of two days of clarity and sleeps for 3 days nonstop and back at clarity again. This has been a pattern since Jan 2025. She was diagnosed in 2020 and lives in a Care Center Facility. Is any of your love ones with vascular dementia going through this cycle?
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Walking difficulties
My mom has been telling us that when she walks she feels like she is running. I experienced it firsthand this weekend. We went out for a walk and started out slow, she then started going faster where it was almost hard to keep up. When walking she is leaning forward. If I was not holding on to her, she would have fallen.…
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Seeking Advice on Initial Steps
My mother is 80 years old and lives with my father who is also 80 years old. Since the beginning of the year, she is starting to show the initial signs of memory loss. She often repeats herself and is unable to retain very much information in her short term memory. I am reaching out for advice on any initial steps I should…
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Incontinence
My mom currently lives in an assisted living community with my dad and struggles with incontinence. She is asked on a regular basis if she has to use the bathroom, always saying no, then will have an accident 5 minutes later. I truly believe she doesn't know she has to go, but I don't know how help her and my dad. We got a…
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Stuck & Need Advice
First Post - seeking advice after a LONG road to present day. Mom first presented concerns 10 years ago but masked symptoms until my sister & I stepped in 4.5 years ago. After going back and forth with her neurologist, we decided to find a new one in a different hospital system local to us. To our relief, in the very first…
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Need new strategy to get Dad into Nursing home
For the past couple of months we have been pressuring (and sometimes its gotten heated and yelling) and it clearly isnt working because he gets defensive and starts crying. And I can't bear watching a grown man cry - it breaks my heart in two and I would do anything for him. But his disabilities are also causing me mental…
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Disarming Mom
My mom is I’d say stage 5/6 she has declined so much in the year she has lived with me. She is verbally aggressive, secretive and lurks trying to listen to conversations. Today I found her in the kitchen garbage with the tv remote in one hand and a pocket knife in the other stabbing in the garbage. I asked her what are you…
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Long time home
Hello, So I finally got my father house situated and it will go up for sale this coming week. It took a village to go thru things and get it cleaned out but Thankfully I had help. Now it seems this week he is on a loop of needing to go home and how he does nothing here. (He is unaware of things that are happening in the…
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Memory Unit or Home Care
Hello guys, I wanted to ask for advice. I'm taking care of my Mom (Russian speaker), she has Alzheimer's dementia. She gets 8 hours a day covered for home care. My brother and I are covering the rest of the time, including nights. It's taking a toll on our families (Mercy Care doesn't want to cover any more hours). We…
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Going Home.
Mom is 87. I am her 60 year old son. She has been in our home since Thanksgiving. She is memory impaired. Family doctor refuses to be helpful. He tells her she has age related memory loss. Then tells her it happens to the best of us. Mom’s house is 180 miles away. She has ZERO support system. All the neighbors have home…
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Not adapting well to memory care
My mom who has stage 4 Alzheimer's moved to memory care a couple of months ago. She went to memory care after living with family for a few months after she could no longer live alone any more. She doesn't seem to be doing well after 2 months. I'm confident that this is the best memory care place within 1 hour of my…
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Looking for some guidance
Hi, I just joined this group a few minutes ago and why not plunge right in? I'm caring for my father (and have been for close to twenty years) after some health crises and to provide companionship after his wife died as he's never lived alone. The past few years he has begun declining cognitively, but this past year or so…