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Medication
My LO memory has declined according to her recent memory test she had a few months ago. Her neurologist prescribed a medication called Memantine. The first week she was doing fine, but the second week there has been some changes. She tells me she is drowsy, dizzy and feels funny. I noticed her mood has changed since taking…
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I'm on the autism spectrum and Mom has dementia
So, hello, I'm new here. I've been feeling very isolated, alone, confused, frustrated. My mom is a drinker. She got a dwi in January. She's almost 75. She's almost died. She was almost 3 times the legal limit after being found in a field face down next to a church near her home in 2023. She laid there all night in the…
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Mom is nearing the end
I’m sitting with my mom at her MCU. She has deteriorated very rapidly, stopped eating, is mostly asleep and very minimally aware. I live 5 hours away and for a variety of reasons have not visited her in many months. Fortunately until recently we had wonderful phone calls and she always knew it was me. I wish I had come…
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How do I convince my mom to sign a medical and financial POA
Hello! First and foremost, I am so very thankful for this site. It is a wonderful feeling, knowing that you are not alone in this craziness that has up ended our lives. My mom is afflicted with Alzheimer’s and dementia. She’s 74 and was diagnosed last October. I would say she is pretty much status quo for how she is…
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Neurologist Recommendation?
Can anyone recommend a good geriatric neurologist who diagnoses dementia/ Alzheimer’s in the Capital District area of NY? Not sure if I’m allowed to even ask this. New today to this website and discussion forum. Mom is in AL but they are recommending MC, and I don’t know if it’s because MC is more $ and they have more room…
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Please send good vibes
So after my mom was put on notice for incontinence, I was in a panic. I visited a LOT of memory care facilities. So many were not places I could see her in at all, for one reason or another. I was extremely depressed. Most said they were confident they could deal with her incontinence issues, but other things just didn’t…
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Not that she'll remember, but....
I'm wondering if my mom's PCP can have a conversation with me and my mom about moving her into MC. Not that my mom will remember having the conversation, but she seems to respect what her doctor always has to say….and it will be in writing in her after-visit summary.
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Taking a car away
My mother, 89 yo was dx 1 1/2 years ago and progressing to moderate has not had a valid DL for 10 months -suspended not revoked. CA leaves people in limbo- but her insurance was still covering her until this month. We have been working on trying to get her to understand and be open… well we took the car away and left her…
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Advice needed
My mom has Alzheimer’s & lives with her partner. She was always an independent, strong woman who loved her independence, quiet time and kept herself busy. Now that is all gone & although I understand that’s not her choosing & that it’s scary for her, it doesn’t make it any easier. Lately she completely forgets when she has…
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Parent who is money paranoid
My father is almost 80 and was diagnosed with Alzheimers last year. My mother is 82, has heart issues and most likely has some form of dementia. They are on a VERY fixed income and cannot afford to go to an AL facility, so we are trying to keep them in their senior apartment as long as possible. My father walks to the…
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87 yo Parents living alone - Navy Veteran
Hi Everyone, I am new here. My parents are 87yo and currently live alone in an apartment community for 55 and older. My mother has a hard time walking due to double knee surgery years ago and is starting to show signs of dementia (she will never admit it but she is). She is so frail (97lbs) and is the sole caregiver for my…
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Introducing a medication to a resistant parent?
Just a bit of background. My mom was recently diagnosed with dementia. She is a difficult medical patient and refuses (so far) the MRI and the neuropsych eval that would allow a full diagnosis of Alzheimers but I think we all suspect highly that that is her eventual diagnosis. She has a challenging and stubborn personality…
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AL to MC - need help!
I’ll try to make this brief. I need help deciding on a MC. Mom is 72 with AZ Lives in a corporate AL for the past 3 months Now needs MC MC unit at AL is full Have to make a choice between having her at the more expensive MC unit in mine and my sister’s town OR having her 25 minutes away for 30k less a year. My sister and I…
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New clothes
Any tips on how to get mom to change her clothes??? She takes them off and hangs them up immediately. And the next day forgetts she already wore them and puts them on again. Any tips??
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New Caregiver - Venting
Hi. I've just recently become caregiver for my mom (62yo). She does not formally have a diagnosis but the doctors she has seen suspect some form of dementia, likely frontotemporal, though they cannot tell which for sure. She has some issues with memory but her most prominent symptoms are word salad (forgetting the…
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What To Except During Medicaid Health Needs Assessment
Hi. I signed my mom up for Medicaid with our local Office of Aging and finally got the financial assessment done yesterday. The in-home health needs assessment is in a few weeks. Can anyone enlighten me on what to expect? Are they pretty perceptive at knowing when someone with MD is "masking" and making it seem a lot…
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How To Get Mom To Take Baths
Hi Everyone, I’m having the hardest time getting my mother to take baths. She’s alway been a very clean person and used to love taking a relaxing bath. However since her Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia has progressed it’s getting harder to get her to cooperate. And of course, she reminds me that I’m the child and she’s…
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New Group for Middle Aged Caregivers
Please join! Support Group for Middle Aged Spouse Caregivers Go to the GROUPS tab on the home page or copy & paste this link (sorry that I can’t get the hyperlink to stick!) https://alzconnected.org/group/43-middle-aged-caregivers-support-group
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Just venting
I am just dumbfounded by what the CG is telling me about my MIL. We left her for two week as we have been trying to move out of State to be closer to our Grands and family since earlier this year. She was mad at us for disabling her stove. DH got hold of her next door neighbor and got the stove back on. The same day,…
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Just checking ...
Has anyone heard that quizzing a PWD helps their brain stay active? The friends who are visiting my mom this week have been plying her with multiple choice questions, trying to get her to remember things. They provide cues, and she answers correctly much of the time. I have overheard them saying things like "this bird is a…
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LO wanting snacks late at night
Hello everyone, recently moved my dad in with us who has high blood pressure and borderline diabetic and have finally started his blood pressure and cholesterol meds as he was forgetting to take them. He lived alone and would eat out. When he would Remeber to eat. I have started to alter his diet now that he is here. But…
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Early Alzheimer’s dementia
Hi everyone. My father informed me today that my mom (who is 72) was just diagnosed with early Alzheimer’s dementia. I noticed she would forget things a little more recently, ask the same question a few times, and misplace her phone, keys, etc. my father pulled me aside and told me about the diagnosis after the pet-scan.…
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How to introduce bringing in help
,About a year ago now, we moved my mother and father into an apartment I had built for them on one side of my home when I built a new home a few years ago. It's attached, just a separate wing/area with a door to the inside (not the outside). My 84 year old father is fully able to take care of himself, but he has his own…
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Stage 6c and sleeping most of the time (is it ok???)
My father is in stage 6c Alzheimer's :( he sleeps most of the day and night. Advice on what to do plzzz he seems comfortable and says he is getting a good rest. I don't think he is aware of how much he is sleeping. HELP :(
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Early onset VD/Alzhiemer’s
Hi all, glad I found this community. I haven’t met anyone I can relate to about my situation and it would be nice to have someone to talk to that understands. I brought my mother to the hospital the day before her 59th birthday because she was barely able to walk, could only move one eye, stroke-like symptoms. When she…
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When he can't stand up anymore
My dad is 81 with dementia and heart failure. He is in hospice at home. My mom (81) and myself ( I'm 50 and have severe treatment resistant depression and physical disabilities) care for him. Twice a week a nurse comes to check on him for 15 min. He is no longer able to walk; he can stand briefly with a walker so we can…
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Emotional Intelligence and One Other "Weird" Quirk
I'll be completely calm and basically lethargic (since I'm always exhausted), and my mom with MD will suddenly snap at me about how "wound up" and nervous I am and that I'm making her crazy. She won't let it go. By then, I usually AM wound up and nervous! I know that it's important for her sake that I don't get overly…
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Too good to be true
So finally got mom moved into ALF. The move day was brutal, very emotional. But she adapted so easily. Made friends, was never in her Apt. Out at dominos, bingo, happy hour the movies... talked to anyone who would listen how she loves it. Too busy to call me ( thank you) she is thriving. She got sick (bad cold) a few days…