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Emotional Abuse
Hi there, This is my first post and, I'm really desperate for help or advice. I am moving cross country to care for and support my mother who was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's (though, I think this has been progressing over the last several years). I am doing everything I can to help her and it never seems like enough or…
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Medication Help
A few years ago before my mom had a confirmed diagnosis of ALZ, she was started on Lexapro 20mg, then namenda and aricept. She’s been in AL for 3 months. Geriatric Psych at the facility added on Wellbutrin 8 weeks ago bc of depression/apathy. 2 weeks ago she started Xanax .25mg 3/day bc of her aggression/anxiety. She…
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New here and just feeling defeated and depressed and alone
Hi I'm new here...I just feel so hopeless and depressed...My Mom was diagnosed 2 yrs ago with Alz...I've been taking turns with my sister going up home to take care of her..when I leave I feel so depressed and like I am abandoning her and can't wait to go back in another 3 months....no one understands...of course my sister…
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New here and looking for tips
Hi, My mom, now 63, was diagnosed with Early onset. The symptoms became evident rapidly after May of last year. Honestly, I came to this forum shortly after that time in an effort to learn as much as possible and was instantly depressed by what I had been reading and felt like "I can't do this right now." Now, about a year…
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Level of Care
So in considering what kind of facility my mom needs, and as part of the Medicaid approval process, do they assess how much care she needs to know where to place her? This may be a stupid question, but as I search the few MC facilities in our area that accept Medicaid, they all seem like the patients are VERY high need. My…
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Mom With EOAD Lacks Motivation
Hi, I’m grateful to have come across this resource. Last year, my mother (60 years old at the time) was diagnosed with EOAD. While the diagnosis came as a shock for someone of her age, we were noticing a decline in her cognitive functions, particular with regards to time (not knowing what day it is, showing up to to…
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Insomnia due to caregiver burnout
If you have experienced insomnia due to caregiver stress and burnout, how did you fix it? I havent been able to sleep in two weeks and I am very concerned. I know not sleeping is bad so please do not tell me the dangers, just tell me solutions if you have any! I have already tried: melatonin sleep aids, non-melatonin sleep…
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Loneliness
Hi! I've been caring for my Mom for over eight years. She's now in late/severe stage which has it's challenges but things are more calm now. It is hard to find caregivers & I do not "get out" enough; we are somewhat forgotten. I am tired. The days/weeks/years fly by. So… I thought I'd say "hello, we are alive." Take care,…
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Put Mom in MC - Feeling Guilty
Yesterday I pur my 89 year old Mother in MC. I am feeling so guilty, like I failed her. I got her there under the guise of meeting a friend, then I just left her. I had ask the staff while preparing her room about leaving phones and tablets for her, they said leave it. Last evening my mom start posting things on Facebook…
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Move done , blocked phone
Well the move went well as planned into AL. She seemed happy , all be it tired after all the activity she’s not been used to. We did have an issue with the room mate. Per the director the roommate understood the common areas would be shared but she wasn’t going to have it. Thank goodness her family paid for a single suite…
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Eating
I am beginning to suspect that my mom is not getting enough food. She will often put the majority of her food either in the fridge or back in the pan it was cooked in. She refuses food sometimes as well, claiming that she's not hungry, but not having any food all day. We don't have a kitchen table that we can sit down at…
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Request assistance n guidance
My mom is a dementia patient and she is 79 years old. Your checklist on stages of dementia has been extremely helpful to me. 2 months back I got her back home from Australia ( she was staying with my brother for 1 year) and in 2 months there has been a rapid decline in her health. I believe she has declined fro. Stage 5 to…
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Left Eye Blindness
Hello, Someone (maybe BW) posted a link to detailed stages. For Stage 6, it lists occipital blindness - left eye doesn't function. Has anyone experienced this with their LO? If so, what did you first notice.
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Help Needed: POA Grey Area Pre-Hospice
Looking for any help out there I can get. My dad has ALZ/VD stage 5, 80yo, is in AL/Enhanced Care. I am the activated POA and my dad has requested no ER, no hospital, no ambulance. He is still being seen by PCP and cardiologist. Dad has many medical issues in addition to moderately severe dementia; heart failure, diabetes,…
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Visiting Frequency
My mom is still in the hospital, waiting to transfer to MC. I had been visiting her twice a day (the hospital is literally 3 blocks away) and then dropped back to once a day. The charge nurse and the doctor say that it's helping keep her calm, the familiar face. Yet, when I'm there, my mom takes it as a signal that I am…
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Medicaid Advice
Hi, all, My father in law has dementia and lives alone. The evaluation from senior services said that he's not bad enough to qualify for a memory care or assisted living facility. We disagree. My husband is his power of attorney and in complete charge of the finances. My father in law views scammers as friends calling so…
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I hate seeing my Mom like this..
When I first came to the nursing home I saw a lot of residents completely out of it, just breathing with their mouths open and on oxygen. That was 7 years ago. Today I saw my Mom and she is one of those residents on oxygen with her mouth open and completely out of it. She didn't even want to wake up, just sleep. If anyone…
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Moving mother from AL facility in Texas to Western NY area facility
Hello, This is my first discussion post ever. Hope this works okay. I currently live in Ontario, Canada on near the Niagara Falls area. I grew up in TX which is where my mother is currently in an AL facility. She has indicated that she wants to be closer to her family here in Canada so after some research, I figure this…
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Refusing help
Anyone have any suggestions on how to get your parent to the doctor for testing and/or medication? They are in denial or not able to admit there are memory issues. Also they are paranoid and thinks someone comes in and steals things when in reality it is her moving and hiding things constantly because she is afraid they…
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Effects of Zyprexa and Seroquel
My mom has been in the hospital since Tuesday because she seemed to rapidly decline. In the meantime, I've FINALLY gotten her Medicaid approved and found an MCF. While in the hospital, my mom has become completely 100% delusional and has hallucinations. Apparently, she was trying to leave at night to look for me (which…
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We need help!
My husband and his siblings are struggling to get their mother into assisted living. Doctors have been ZERO help with diagnoses and claim she has memory loss due to old age. She has presented well at her last 2 appointments. However we get 5-10 calls daily because of numerous things. (Lost her keys, lost her purse, cant…
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Hospice for Alzheimer's Patient
My mom is a resident at an assisted living memory care community. She is 84 years old and has had memory issues for 4.5 years. She has been living in assisted living for 2 years and is declining rapidly. She is in a wheelchair all the time and is a 2-person assist for everything. The problem is that the 2-person assist is…
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Kids Who Care for Parent(s) At Home
Are you an adult child that takes care of your parent AT HOME? This discussion is for you! Hello! 😊 I take care of my Mother ❤️ One of the hardest things is the grief felt as she progresses and how family treats you as if you're both already gone (ie, passed away) — they don't visit or help much and never say thank you.…
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some sort of shadowing
DH diagnosed with ES recently, but after reading more and paying attention to what is actually happening to him, he is probably at stage 4 or so. For some time now, he has been staring at me. I find it quite annoying but haven't said anything. More recently, he has been coming up behind me and kissing me on the top of my…
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AD and Cataracts - Ophthalmologists Good With Alzheimers?
My LO has cataracts. She is expressing that she wants to have them removed but is having difficulty tolerating the testing required to measure lens depth. The machines attempted (e.g., IOL Master) were unable to obtain the needed readings. Without throwing any information our way, the assistants then took my LO into a room…
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Feeling Such Incredible Heartache and Pain
Well, my mom has been in the hospital for three days now. Each day, she gets more delusional and starts hallucinating. I feel so so so guilty. I feel like I made it all worse, and could I have just tried harder to be patient and less selfish about my time? But no, I couldn't, and I know that. I think I've found a facility…
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Security Cameras
Can anyone recommend good indoor security/spy cameras to keep an eye on my mom with my phone? Something cheap on Amazon that does the job and will arrive quickly? Thank you!
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Overwhelmed with guilt & grief
It was a long road but my father in law has been living in a memory care facility close to us for about 6 weeks. Even though I know that my husband and I would be unable to care for him safely in our home because he would mostly be alone, I still feel so guilty for this major decision. When family and friends ask about my…