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Trazadone for sleep
Hi all, Has anyone had experience with Trazadone for sleep with the PWD. My LO stays up till 4 or 5am and then sleeps till almost 2pm if we don’t get him up and going. The Dr prescribed 50mg of Trazadone for sleep. I’m reluctant because of all the side effects. I have previously trying to wake him earlier and get him on a…
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Forgetting how to get in bed
Anyone dealt with a fairly functiontioning PWD but whom can’t seem to remember how to get herself in bed? My mom is still in AL despite some decline recently. She’s still able to use toilet and bathe herself, feed herself so not quite ready for MC (she doesn’t wander either). Previously she’d get herself in bed like a…
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Aggression and violence-early onset
Hi I have a dear friend that is dealing with her husbands combative, violent aggression. He is an early onset patient and 70 years young. He was placed in MC and they had to transport him to ER because he was harming the staff. The ER sent him to a geriatric psych facility 2 hours away. After 10 days there the psych…
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Memory Care “Incidents”
My mom has been in memory care for two months and has been in three “incidents” so far where other residents grab her (physically) when she’s entering or leaving her room because, in their state, they think my mom’s room is their room or they think she has something of hers, which she doesn’t. After each incident, she…
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New Here - Very Overwhelmed
Taking a deep breath here because I am not exactly sure where to even begin. My father is 75 and we do not yet have a full diagnosis but there is definite memory loss. My father has a lot going on, in addition to trying to figure this out, he also has cancer and is diabetic. He's experienced a lot of loss, as many people…
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In person support group for mom
Hello! Mom has been struggling with "age-related dementia" (malarkey) for a few years. Been working on diagnosis for almost a year. Finally have PET scan diagnosis- Moderate AD. My mil passed w AD so I know what's coming. But I didn't expect it to happen so abruptly. Mom lives with me most of the time. Goes to stay with…
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Help with not eating
My mother has virtually stopped eating. She has lost nearly 50 pounds in the last 4-5 months. Her eating has dropped to maybe a half cup of food maybe twice a day. She a is still active and very independent including cooking for herself and my father. I need help. I have tried everything I can think of. Where can I turn?
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Should I replace my Mom’s Computer?
My mom is now in her third month in AL after a fall presented the opportunity for a change she had been resisting. She’s not as happy as before, but she’s managing and at least she really likes the food. Recently her ancient Chromebook died. She does post on FB occasionally and checks her email maybe once a week. She also…
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Unplugging Cord for Fear of Fire
My mother is in memory care and has been diagnosed with moderate dementia. Lately, and especially when she is staying with one of us children, we find her unplugging everything in her room at the assisted living before she leaves and in her bedroom at our houses when she goes to bed because she’s afraid she’s going to…
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Parent in denial
Hello, I am new to this forum and am seeking some assistance in how to best navigate getting someone to be seen for concerns of dementia/alzheimers? My mother has been exhibiting symptoms for a few years and her memory and ability to convey her thoughts clearly are greatly diminishing. She refuses to acknowledge this…
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Cameras indoor
Hi, does anyone have a suggestion on indoor cameras? My mother is living alone for now and I put a camera in kitchen & one by her favorite chair & on patio. These cameras follow movement and also have a red light and she notices them and unplugs them. I’m not sure if they make a camera without the red light coming on or…
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New to the group: Mom won’t stop shopping online
Hi there, My mother has been suffering from memory decline for a few years and was just officially diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, in the early enough stages we’re talking about Lecanemab and I’m sure I’ll be back asking questions about that! One thing we’re dealing with that I feel like others have also struggled with is that…
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New to the group: Dad diagnosed with MCI, what now?
First time posting here, glad to have found this group! My dad is a widower and lives alone. In the past few months, his memory and cognitive skills have noticeably declined. Primary care doctor referred us to a neurologist and my dad scored 20 on the MOCA. My dad was very agitated by the appointment, said he didn’t trust…
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How to convince a loved one to move into an assisted living facility
hello. I am a caregiver for my father. He currently lives alone. I live very close to him. His Alzheimer’s has progressed and I’m concerned about him living alone. I’ve had some things in place the last few years that have allowed him to remain home but his behaviors, especially late in the day, are concerning me. The…
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Thanksgiving MC
I don’t know what to do about thanksgiving. My mom is in MC. Has been since August. She keeps bringing up Thanksgiving and my sister who usually hosts. My sister and I were hoping that bringing our families together at the MC’s Thanksgiving holiday buffet celebration would help but it hasn’t. She’s fixated on Thanksgiving…
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Dad with early stage, worsening
Hi, My sweet dad, 84, is declining and he knows it. It’s utterly heartbreaking. He has begun saying he lives in another house that is exactly like his. Most days, he falls asleep in his chair in the afternoon. I also have to make sure he eats because he won’t think to or he gets overwhelmed thinking about it. Until one day…
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Awareness and denial in those with A/D
My situation is that my mother-in-law has some level of dementia, whether it's early or later stage I have no idea. My wife and I live 3 hours away from my MIL and we visit regularly to try to help support her and the family members that live very nearby, and deal with her every day. Because we are so far away, we don't…
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I'm new to all of this!
I'm the daughter Of A newly diagnosed Vascular dementia patient , my 86 yr old dad. Our situation is pretty unique. He's living alone For the 1st time in his entire life. The love of his life And my mom died in 2012 After 5 year battle With cancer in which my dad took care of her at home. He moved in with my brother After…
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Probiotiques
Bonjour, quels sont les Probiotiques qui sont adaptés à une personne atteinte d'alzheimer ? Merci d'avance pour vos aides Cordialement
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New to group. Married father moved in with us. Undiagnosed
In August we brought my very confused father to live with us, released in family care. Wife is from the Philippines and works 24/7. In the 3 months he has been here he's had 21.4 hours of facetime with her. My father is getting hyper focused on things that last 1-2 weeks. I have tried to involve her in his care but she…
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Starting a new business at 80
Hello all, I’m new as well to the group. With all that cognitive changes I have noticed with my dad, the biggest concern is talks of starting a business with no prior business experience as well as assuming his sister will co-sign on a loan. There are a lot of financial risks that I believe his brain is not logically…
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Wife memory disappearing and won't see a doctor
My wife of 53 years has been in memory decline for over a year and it is getting worse. She will ask the same question dozens of time a day. She doesn't want to see a doctor because her mother told her most doctors do nothing useful. For a while I was confronting her with the memory loss information but she always denies…
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Dad won’t stop correcting my mother
Hi I am new to the group. My mom is in early stages. My dad is has not accepted the dementia and still thinks he can “fix” it. He constantly corrects her when she says something that isnt right. How can I get across to him that it isnt good for her?
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This confuses me
Hello everyone, Has anyone else experienced this with their LO. Today my father with moderate to severe dementia wakes up and calls his sister and has a conversation like normal almost without dementia. He was able to give details of things he’s done and elaborate on certain things. This confuses me because I don’t…
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Stuck between a rock and a hard place
I have recently come into caring for my estranged veteran father, 74, who I rescued from homelessness has undiagnosed dementia. He can't remember things he said 5 minutes ago but remembers things from long ago. His ex partner left him broke. He refuses to see a doctor so I am not able to find proper resources for him. I do…
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Questioning what I’m doing
Hello all, I’m exhausted. I feel guilty because I feel like at this time I don’t have it as bad as some of the posts I’ve read about things the LO is doing. My father has been here 5 months now and it’s the same thing everyone day. Thankfully he is still toileting and showering on his own. But has no interest to do things.…
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How to support my stepdad as primary caregiver
Hello. I am new to this platform. My mom is in Stage 6 of Alzheimer's. My stepdad is her primary caregiver. I can see that he is in over his head and is stressing out. But he is shutting out ideas for support, saying that he can't handle any more information. He is trying to do everything himself, and I can see the…
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Untold truth
How do you deal with a parent who has dementia and who unloads and dumps all of their genuine thoughts, concerns, feelings, and everything else on only you but when asked by doctor's and other family members they either intentionally lie and omits information telling others they're fine and didn't experience those things,…
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Just a rambling vent...
Mom started a fire in a microwave this morning. That was after Dad missed her walking out the door last night and she showed up in the garage where my husband and I were talking….scared the crap out of me as she can barely walk! Back to this a.m., I thought I smelled something funny this morning when she came out of their…
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New to the group
Hi there my name is Nicole I am new to this group. I have been living/taking care of my 71 year old father for four years now. I am in the process of trying to sell his home to afford a memory care. I need to get my life back I have kids i still work 36 hours a week. This has been incredibly challenging. I do it all in my…