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I’m going to scream
When my mother was initially referred to a neurologist over the summer, they referred her to someone who didn’t have an appointment for several months(October). She made the appointment. In the meantime, they referred her to another doctor. We canceled the first doctor. Tests were done, meds were ordered. She has a follow…
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Considering moving in with parents
Hello, we are considering moving in with our parents because mom has dementia with anger and violent outbursts. Will she trust us more if we visit at regular times, or if we move in? She is quite paranoid of her husband already, hiding things from him. And he is the kindest most submissive man.
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Help! Thoughts?
Hi everyone, First time posting for me. My dad has been having memory issues since about the beginning of 2023, he denied he had any issues and only went to a neurologist once his PCP sent him in the June of 2023. Of course it took time to get the appointment. We did testing in December and he started to get worse after…
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Tips on Water Intake
Hi everyone! Happy (almost) fall :) I'm writing to ask if anyone has had any experience with their loved one not remembering to drink water. My mom has recently started on Lexapro to deal with her anxiety and depression, and I know from my own experience with Lexapro how dehydrating it is and therefore causes awful…
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My Mom and Lifelong best friend Dx with Alzheimer’s
My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She has been my best friend and person my whole life. This disease has changed her personality, morals and values. I am only 50 and I miss my Mom and my person every day. I am so angry at her for having this disease, which I recognize is ridiculous. But I’m already grieving…
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Bathing why it’s a struggle
I’m new to all this and the group. Yesterday was a bad day for me I have never reached out before but mum for the first time ever got so angry and nasty to me it was a shock never has she done this before in my whole life and I’m 52. All because I’m trying to get her to bathe. I hope and pray she doesn’t start to associate…
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Caregiving compensation
I have recently resigned from my teaching job to move in and care for my father full time. Is there compensation available. He does have Medicare.
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Any alternatives to Hospice?
Hello, My mom is getting over her 3rd hospitalization for aspiration pneumonia. With the Lord's help, she's getting over it, but both hospitals I took her to have pushed hospice and "home health agencies". Been with two different home health agencies and not all impressed. Seems they can't do much for liability reasons.…
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Red Flags?
I have made the decision to place my Mom in a MC facility. She is no longer safe at home and needs 24/7 care. We all work so living with one of us is not an option. I am visiting facilities this weekend. They show your their best, of course. What are things I should be on the lookout for that might give me pause. Are there…
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Big fall
Well, it happened. Out of the blue while walking to the elevator to go to lunch my mom face-planted, breaking her left wrist and fracturing her cheekbone, eye orbit and sinus. It was brutal and she doesn’t remember anything. She’s very oriented in the hospital but weak and unbalanced with a huge heavy cast. No surgery for…
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Memory Care (in SNF) recommendations for Florida
Hello, all. My mother is currently in a secured memory care unit (of a skilled nursing facility). Wanting desperately to move her, as the place that she's in currently is terrible. (The management is criminal.) If anyone has a loved one in memory care in Central or North Florida, would appreciate recommendations via…
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PWD and parallel universes
Today, when speaking with my mother (in SNF-MC) by phone, I wasn't sure where she (or I) was in her timeline. Normally, I do not offer that I am her daughter; I merely state my name and she will reply "my darling daughter". But, today, I asked who I [by name] was to her. She said "my sister". I corrected that I am actually…
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Bewilderment
Hello everyone. Looking for some insight here. The background is (for those who don't know), admitted mom to hospital at the beginning of Aug for delusions, hallucinations, and dementia (not safe at home). Got her Medicaid approved and found a MCF. Moved her in on Aug 19. About 8 days later, she was rushed to ER with what…
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Struggling Only Child
Hi ya'll, I've recently become a caregiver at the age of 29 as an only child for my father with dementia who is 74. He was diagnosed back in December 2023 with very little notice and had to be moved into a memory care close to my home - I work a full time job and am unable to stop working. It's just him and myself in our…
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keeping on
Hi community, I really wanted to title this something like "struggle bus" or "it gets better on some days, right?" I want to keep myself going in a positive direction. At least the most positive that I can muster up, but I'm honestly not having much luck with it today. So I re-read some words I saved from here by…
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Memory care visits
I am still adjusting to not taking my mom out for visits. She hates it, wants to go out and not come back. I have a hard time getting there early, which is when they have activities. Which she never wants to do anyway. I am at a loss for what to do during visits. We sometimes go downstairs and visit with others. She has no…
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Rough visit wit mom
It started with her wanting me to take her to the store. She just likes to buy crazy things she does not need. If we let her she would fill her apartment. She gets mad if we don’t take her to the store and mad when we do and don’t let her buy whatever she wants. I told her I was busy and didn’t have time. She says they…
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And so it ends...
Joy passed on Sept 22 after fighting a broken hip and a broken mind. Several years ago our mom left and we had the wonderful opportunity to care for a delightful elderly woman. As Joy's journey was ending, our mom came back and we embraced in her return.…
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The Estate Sale
Before mom was diagnosed her living situation was not good. Her granddaughter and her three kids lived with her a took advantage of her. Mom was overwhelmed by the mess an unable to cope. To clean the house she would get a box and dump everything from the coffee tables and really every surface into the box. Then stuff the…
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The slow goodbye to my hero
Not sure where to begin or if this forum will be helpful, but I've got to try. New here, my dad was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimers about a year and a half ago. He was forced into early retirement as the job became too much. Watching my dad, who's way to young, slowly get worse is the hardest thing ever. I've been…
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Dementia and Muscle Weakness
My mom has been diagnosed with Dementia / Alzheimer's for about 2 years now. This past year i have been staying at my parents house as the adls for my mom are getting more difficult for my dad to care for her alone. We would like to keep her in her home as long as we are able to still care for her.💓 My mom's left side of…
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New to the group-Understanding LOs hallucinations
Good afternoon-My name is Jennifer, I am new here. Within the past year, my moms behavior has changed significantly. Hallucinations are becoming more common. I have read a decent amount about this and have determined that supporting and going along with the the situation is best method? I have two sisters, so, this is all…
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Mother in law
Hi, new to this. My mother in law is 85 and is fit as a fiddle sharp in mind etc up until end of summer, she’s lost a lot of weight, her personality has changed so much, she’s very stressed and anxious about things that would definitely not have affected her previously. She’s loosing interest in going out to socialise l,…
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Need help
My treasure of an MIL has middle stage Alzheimer’s & lives at home with my FIL. They argue constantly, he is miserable, but he knows she needs more help than he can give. There was an incident & she ran to her neighbor’s home (through the woods) in her nightgown. We are not sure what exactly happened. She was taken to an…
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Mother causing herself ulcers yelling at my dad every day
My mom is at the stage where she is having delusions of my father cheating on her. The only new memories she seems to hold onto these days are the ones she's made up or if something happened that made her angry. He is her primary caregiver and all she does is screen at him all day that he's a horrible husband and doesn't…
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