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Memory care concerns
My mom has been in memory since 2022. She’s had a moderate decline since going in. Few issues but seems content. Went to visit her Tuesday. I got told the other night they saw blood in moms pull up. Maybe a uti. Head nurse calls me just now and says Dr sees red pimples on mom’s private and red lines and thinks squamous…
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Thanksgiving
Just wanted to say, all of you are on my list of what I am thankful for this year! I learn so much from your experiences and I love how supportive everyone is with others on similar journeys, even when we make different choices in our care for our loved ones. I wish peace for all on this holiday.
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I feel like I’m losing myself..
Hello everyone, I’m just seeking help. My father was diagnosed with unspecified dementia 5 years ago while I was in bootcamp. As of 2 ish years ago until current, he’s been severely violent towards my mother and my brother. He’s threatened to kill them, my mom was so scared she’d sleep in her car in the driveway. She…
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Feeling Very Alone
Hi everybody! I hope everyone is having a good day/night. I am 24 and the main care taker for my mom who is 59, she was diagnosed with Alzheimer's back in 2022. The first year since her diagnoses had been pretty uneventful, no huge changes besides getting her disability approved. She had already stopped driving and working…
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Intentional bladder retention
Hello. Foster mom has some form(s) of dementia that is currently remains undiagnosed even though doctors are certain of it. .. Foster mom has been quite frequently in and out of emergency diagnosed mostly each time with an Uti. They give her antibiotics and send on her way. I live with her and everyday a large amount of…
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Blame Game
Is everything your fault? Always.
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Needing to find a home
First off, why is there no comprehensive place to help caregivers / family when it comes time to find a home for someone with ALZ? Every resource I've found tells me different and conflicting information. It's insane. Anyway, my mother is now MS, nearing LS faster than we thought. As much as I would prefer to not put her…
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Coping with disease progression
My mom is in a good MC receiving high quality care. Before that she was also in a good AL/MC, albeit one not equipped to deal with more advanced dementia. Now, I find myself watching my mom progress and filled with sadness. She is comfortable, clean (a miracle, given that she has a lot of incontinence issues), and still…
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Mom prefers to lay in bed all day.
My mother has moderate stage Alzheimer's and Vascular dementia. I have been caring with her since March. Before she came to live with us, she tended to spend a lot of time in her bedroom. Now that she is living here, she prefers to spend all of her time lying in bed and just says this is what I like to do and this is where…
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Caring for an abusive parent
I am my mom's only child, adopted. Although she has several stepchildren. My mom has had many loving friends and family in her life willing to provide support, but as she aged, her abuse spread from the inner family to external family, friends, and neighbors. She is narcissistic, gaslighting, oppositionally defiant, among…
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Attorneys for Legal Guardianship/Custodianship - Normal Costs, Best Way to Locate?
My LO is in their 80s and has been diagnosed with moderate to severe Alzheimer's disease. I need to pursue emergency legal guardianship and custodianship for several reasons - mainly, because they have been hospitalized for over six weeks and we have mounting issues that I need to address. Our state (Massachusetts)…
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Dad now stating he needs a flight home
Hi all, So my LO has just realized we are in November and staying he needs me to get him a flight back home. He has been living with me for the last 4 months and he thinks he is visiting. I have been able to redirect/work around him asking when he will go home for the last 4 months. Now we are at he realizing it November…
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Caught Between a Rock and a Hard Place
It has been extremely hard with my mom. When she is having a day where she is weak and feeling dizzy, she will ask to come to my house. Then, the next day, she is saying that she didn't need to be here, and she wants to go home. However, she is still weak and can't get around very well. I try to convince her to at least…
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New here
Today broke me down. Nothing about today so out of the ordinary but it’s been a slow build. My mom hasn’t officially been diagnosed yet but her short term memory is going. She lives with a friend and I take her to all of her appointments, manage her finances, set up her meds, communicate with all the doctors, wash and…
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Having NO LUCK getting mom an appt with a Neurologist
I am in South Carolina, just south of Charlotte, so not in a rural area or anything like that. I have been attempting to get my mom AN APPOINTMENT with a neurologist for OVER A YEAR, I've had her primary care doctor send in referrals to every neurologist in a 20 mile radius and I've called them myself, only to leave voice…
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Living with two slowly declining parents
I am new to the discussion here. I am currently living with my parents. They are both slowly showing signs of dementia and I am having to take more control of their healthcare and finances. My dad has zero short term memory and constantly repeats questions that I answered for him five seconds ago. My mother has lost alot…
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Aggressive Parent Need Advice
Hi, I've never commented on here before but I need advice and have no one to turn to. My father has dementia possibly from Alzheimers, which has been going on for about 6 years now. He started showing signs of aggression the past month, but he just tried to break my mom's wrist and is threatening us. I stepped in and he…
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Managing Exit-Seeking and Aggression Issues in Memory Care Facility?
Hello. My mom (83) has dementia. We moved her into a memory care facility last year. Aside from her memory issues, she is very independent (no need for assistance with basic stuff like showering, walking, eating, etc). However, she has strong exit-seeking behaviors, in that she is very upset being locked in the MC ward and…
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Anger When Family Tries To Help
Hi everyone! I wanted to reach out and see if anyone else has had experience with this and what you did to mediate it. So I am a caregiver (F25) to my mama with Alzheimer's (F60), and she is on her first big trip since her diagnosis. Her sister took her out of state to visit other family members and my mom is having a…
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Looking for Live-In Care Resources
Hello. I am new to this group. I didn't know this even existed until just today, and I'm so thankful to have found this page. My mom was diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment back in 2016. Slowly she has been progressing, and things have taken a turn pretty quickly this past month. I am navigating live-in care vs full…
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Scared
My mom was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last year. I noticed her memory was slipping a lot before the diagnosis but my mom kept blaming it on old age, at the time she was around 66-67yrs old. She’s now 69 and she refuses to accept her diagnosis even though she been rapidly losing her memory and has been…
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Bedrail advice
My Dad keep saying his neck hurts because he falls out of bed at his facility. He has had a neck cramp since my mom died two months ago, so we really are not sure if he fell out of bed. He is in his own bed, which is a sleep number mattress on a sleep number box spring, on a typical bed frame. So any device can go under…
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long distance - Mom refuses to be evaluated & Dad isn't taking action
My parents live in a different city, and we are deeply concerned about my mom’s health. She is 78 and has been showing signs of memory loss for the last couple of years, which are progressively worsening. She refuses to acknowledge the issue, won’t allow herself to be formally diagnosed, and has made my dad promise not to…
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Dementia or Depression
One of the things I have noticed with my aging mother is that she has symptoms that are similar to depression. We got her on an antidepressant and some of the depression symptoms have gone away thankfully. My question is how do you tell the difference if something is dementia related or an acutal mental illness. Its a…
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Mum accusing me of stealing
My mum is accusing me of stealing various things which is obviously very upsetting. She doesn't want me to go to her house any more, is nasty to me when I speak to her and convinced I'm a theft, which is hard because I go to visit, take her and my dad out and now can't support my dad .Any suggestions ? X
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How to handle awareness of diagnosis in parent
Hi, very new here and have lots of questions! I have recently taken on caregiving my MIL who was diagnosed with FTD about 4/5 years ago. My question is related to something that came up today. She was definitely involved and part of appointments regarding her diagnosis in the beginning, multiple medications tried to help…
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Advice on changing living arrangements
Hi, I’m new to this forum and have recently taken on a role as caregiver for my MIL who was diagnosed with FTD about 4 years ago. My husband and I have temporarily moved into her home while we prepare our own home with some improvements with the goal of moving her in with us upon completion. Up to this point she had been…
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Struggling with Healthcare
Hello, I am new to posting. I live in Chicago with my mom who suffers from late onset Alzheimer’s. She was diagnosed in 2016 after showing signs of hallucination. She is now 88. My questions are; Is there advocacy to turn to when you feel lost with healthcare providers. If she is ill they treat symptoms only and send you…
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Microaspirations
Anyone know much about microaspirations in late stage Alzheimer’s? Dad developed a wet cough a few weeks ago. Doctors said it was microaspirations, which is the next phase in decline, but now the caregiver is saying his cough is gone. Do the coughs come and go? I kinda figured once they started, they just continued?
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Mother with AD has Anxiety
I am new here. My mother was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's in August; but I think she has been struggling for longer than that. She is on Aricept and says that it helps her feel less in a fog. She is still living alone; but I am doing her bills for her. However, she is worrying about EVERYTHING. She makes lists in her…