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Feeling Guilty/Stressed
Hi Everyone - first time here. My father had a stroke last March and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's/Dementia....he is around Stage 4-5. I am an only child and we had to move him in with my family....Husband and 2 kids (13 and 11). It's been a little over a year and it's really taking a toll on me. My job is being really…
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The ups and downs of this disease
Just venting here! I wish I could understand/predict what will affect my MIL's behavior! Two recent events and she reacted the opposite way in both situations than I was prepared for. We recently took her across the country, on the plane, to visit family. We discussed it for months before. I very much expected a panic…
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If YOU had to pick a med for your loved one...
This probably sounds like a weird question and yet it is exactly what the pharmacist asked of us! He called us and told us that the geriatrician gave us three categories of meds and let us kind of pick what we wanted to try!! So the category was anti-anxiety meds, anti-convulsant meds, and anti-psychotic meds. We were kind…
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Smoking and AL help
Looking for advice… My LO, a parent, is a lifelong smoker, which is problematic now that he needs a more supportive living arrangement since none of them allow indoor smoking and winters here get brutal. Ultimately, it looks like we’ll need to explore cessation (which has been tried so many times already) since this is…
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Does she really have Vascular Dementia?
My mother received a diagnosis of advanced vascular dementia during a recent hospital stay. She was in the hospital after seeing robbers in her apartment and fleeing to her neighbor’s apartment. She is currently at an ALF after a month in memory care. Everyone around her or people I talk to say she has dementia, but I am…
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stress
You guys, I feel like I can sense the stress related chemicals having an impact in my body. Like I feel like I am running "hot" or revved up. I guess this is what this season feels like. Or at least I keep telling myself that it is due to this current season. I've mostly talked about dad here. Mom also struggles, but is…
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Out of ideas
My Mom has been in memory care almost a year now. It will be a year the first week of September. She was in AL at the same facility for about six weeks before they insisted she be moved to MC. She was wandering at night and anxious most of the time. Once in MC, there was a transition phase, but it didn't have anything to…
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Neurologist visits
After my mother was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's (lumbar puncture test), we met with the neurologist very briefly, but he didn't make a clear determination of her progression in the stage of the disease. We are scheduled to see him again in October. I'm not sure if he intends to run a battery of cognitive tests or…
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High Anxiety / Anger Issues
I am trying to help my 81 year old father who is my mothers primary caregiver. They still live in the house they raised 3 boys in for the last 56 years. I work two jobs one of which is caregiving for seniors in the evenings and weekends. I am the only one able to help my father as my younger brother has passed and my older…
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Any advice on potty issues?
I am caregiver to both my parents right now, my mom with AD and Dad with D. Dealing with Dad yelling at mom because he can't remember that she can't remember. She is to the point where she tries to pretend she understands what you say, but literally understands next to nothing of what you say. And Dad forgets things and on…
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Helping Dad understand the diagnosis...with anosognosia
Hi, our Dad was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's and we're looking to help him understand what this means/how it will change some of what he needs. Is there someone—a clinician, a social worker, or a group that we can go to in order to have an open conversation, where he (and we) can ask questions about his diagnosis…
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HELP me please
So I’m a 38 yr old caring for my 88 yr old grandma with dementia/alzhiemers at my home. Well she is starting to get physically MAD and throw things at me and hit me with my 2 yr old son around. Someone please tell me what do I do?? I have to learn how to control myself and my mouth and my anger bc i honestly feel like…
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stress
Hi I am the eldest of four children with a mom who has dementia. We live outside of the United states. She's 80 and back in March had a 2nd hip replacement on the same hip. My siblings and I sort of rotate a schedule of staying nights with mom. we have someone during the day. It s stressful for me being the eldest it…
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Tell me a story, of a move to memory care that went well.
Please… Mom moves next Friday. Can you tell me your positive stories? Maybe give me some hints of what will help. Maybe give me a sense of reassurance that this will be good.
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LO expects me to know the details of her "general" comments".
My mother will frequently ask for something she needs, and when when I ask for details of her request, she gets angry and says something like "I just told you" or "you should already know".
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Does anyone here take care of parents in their home?
Hi, I have never written a post here but have stopped by a few times to read posts. My parents moved in with me about 1 1/2 years ago (March). Mom (87) had Level 6e AD and dad (91) has dementia. Mom is in level 6e, where she is talking jibberish at times, knows very few words, and apparently I change completely to her,…
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Oh no! Nail polish on her face!!
My mom won't touch something for years (hence the nail polish) and then all of a sudden…. Previously, after not doing laundry for a year, she decided to do the laundry herself and poured so much bleach in the washer everything turned quite white and I had to open all the windows and get everyone out for a while due to the…
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Dealing with LO'S Anger
I'm stressed out from my mom who has dementia being constantly angry. I'm feeling really frustrated because I'm struggling with my own life, and caring for her while trying to keep my own head above water is got me on edge and I don't know what to do
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Loss of executive function? Is this how it starts?
I know I'm being paranoid, but my avoidance levels are so high and my motivation so low, i begin to wonder if this is the beginning of losses that I won't ever recoup. I don't think I'm depressed, but maybe I'm fooling myself. or maybe this is just aging, maybe it's just stress. Maybe it's okay and my eyes are just bigger…
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Update: assessment went well, advice on move
The assessment went really well. Mom is at a higher level of care than I realized (no shock there), but they are confident they can work with her and meet her needs. We discussed incontinence and they asked some tough questions (e.g. am I opposed to the briefs with tape, more like diapers, which are harder to take off. I…
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Can people with Dementia go through cataract surgery?
My mom needs cataract surgery and I can't tell if it's worth it to schedulew it because she really doesn't want to and is soooo tired all of the time. I can't tell if she would be able to do it or not. Have any of your loved ones gone through with it successfully? It's described as being a fairly quick and easy procedure…
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When is the right time for a facility
Hello all, As some of you know I recently moved my father in with me from living on his own in his own home in Colorado to California. It has just been over a month and I don’t know how long I can do this. He still toilets, showers on his own and can get around without help. He needs some hygiene guidance, medication and…
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Feeling lost and overwhelmed
Hello, first time posting! My mom with dementia was hospitalized about a month ago due to severe dehydration. Since then she has moved in with my sister using the "therapeutic fib" of "your house is getting some work done." She has accepted that and perhaps we will be able to keep this fib going or maybe she will…
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Recommendations for senior communities
Hi, my parents are thinking about moving to a senior community in the Boston, MA surrounding area. They want a community with indep/assisted living/memory care options. They are also interested in not for profit facilities, since costs are so high in the Boston area. Does anyone have any first hand experience with any area…
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Slipping away
Joy is slipping, just slipping away.... https://simplebender.com/2024/08/23/joy-in-alzheimers-episode-50-slipping/
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Dad has Parkinson and dementia
Hi everyone. Dad has been diagnosed with Parkinson. He's currently in the hospital awaiting placement in a nursing facility. He's blaming me for not taking him home. I know it's his disease but I'm have a hard time dealing with everything. Any others with this problem?
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AL or MC
My 89 year old mother has been living in IL for about 5 years since my father died. She plays bridge a few times a week, but otherwise her activities are eating meals in the dining room with her friends and watching tv. Over the last few months she’s stopped taking out her garbage, washing her dishes, or doing laundry. Her…
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The Fall
Probably the worst situation possible…91 year old with Alzheimer's now with a broken femur… http://simplebender.com/2024/08/17/joy-in-alzheimers-episode-47-the-fall/