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Request assistance n guidance
My mom is a dementia patient and she is 79 years old. Your checklist on stages of dementia has been extremely helpful to me. 2 months back I got her back home from Australia ( she was staying with my brother for 1 year) and in 2 months there has been a rapid decline in her health. I believe she has declined fro. Stage 5 to…
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Left Eye Blindness
Hello, Someone (maybe BW) posted a link to detailed stages. For Stage 6, it lists occipital blindness - left eye doesn't function. Has anyone experienced this with their LO? If so, what did you first notice.
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Help Needed: POA Grey Area Pre-Hospice
Looking for any help out there I can get. My dad has ALZ/VD stage 5, 80yo, is in AL/Enhanced Care. I am the activated POA and my dad has requested no ER, no hospital, no ambulance. He is still being seen by PCP and cardiologist. Dad has many medical issues in addition to moderately severe dementia; heart failure, diabetes,…
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Visiting Frequency
My mom is still in the hospital, waiting to transfer to MC. I had been visiting her twice a day (the hospital is literally 3 blocks away) and then dropped back to once a day. The charge nurse and the doctor say that it's helping keep her calm, the familiar face. Yet, when I'm there, my mom takes it as a signal that I am…
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Medicaid Advice
Hi, all, My father in law has dementia and lives alone. The evaluation from senior services said that he's not bad enough to qualify for a memory care or assisted living facility. We disagree. My husband is his power of attorney and in complete charge of the finances. My father in law views scammers as friends calling so…
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I hate seeing my Mom like this..
When I first came to the nursing home I saw a lot of residents completely out of it, just breathing with their mouths open and on oxygen. That was 7 years ago. Today I saw my Mom and she is one of those residents on oxygen with her mouth open and completely out of it. She didn't even want to wake up, just sleep. If anyone…
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Moving mother from AL facility in Texas to Western NY area facility
Hello, This is my first discussion post ever. Hope this works okay. I currently live in Ontario, Canada on near the Niagara Falls area. I grew up in TX which is where my mother is currently in an AL facility. She has indicated that she wants to be closer to her family here in Canada so after some research, I figure this…
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Refusing help
Anyone have any suggestions on how to get your parent to the doctor for testing and/or medication? They are in denial or not able to admit there are memory issues. Also they are paranoid and thinks someone comes in and steals things when in reality it is her moving and hiding things constantly because she is afraid they…
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Effects of Zyprexa and Seroquel
My mom has been in the hospital since Tuesday because she seemed to rapidly decline. In the meantime, I've FINALLY gotten her Medicaid approved and found an MCF. While in the hospital, my mom has become completely 100% delusional and has hallucinations. Apparently, she was trying to leave at night to look for me (which…
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We need help!
My husband and his siblings are struggling to get their mother into assisted living. Doctors have been ZERO help with diagnoses and claim she has memory loss due to old age. She has presented well at her last 2 appointments. However we get 5-10 calls daily because of numerous things. (Lost her keys, lost her purse, cant…
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Hospice for Alzheimer's Patient
My mom is a resident at an assisted living memory care community. She is 84 years old and has had memory issues for 4.5 years. She has been living in assisted living for 2 years and is declining rapidly. She is in a wheelchair all the time and is a 2-person assist for everything. The problem is that the 2-person assist is…
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Kids Who Care for Parent(s) At Home
Are you an adult child that takes care of your parent AT HOME? This discussion is for you! Hello! 😊 I take care of my Mother ❤️ One of the hardest things is the grief felt as she progresses and how family treats you as if you're both already gone (ie, passed away) — they don't visit or help much and never say thank you.…
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some sort of shadowing
DH diagnosed with ES recently, but after reading more and paying attention to what is actually happening to him, he is probably at stage 4 or so. For some time now, he has been staring at me. I find it quite annoying but haven't said anything. More recently, he has been coming up behind me and kissing me on the top of my…
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AD and Cataracts - Ophthalmologists Good With Alzheimers?
My LO has cataracts. She is expressing that she wants to have them removed but is having difficulty tolerating the testing required to measure lens depth. The machines attempted (e.g., IOL Master) were unable to obtain the needed readings. Without throwing any information our way, the assistants then took my LO into a room…
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Feeling Such Incredible Heartache and Pain
Well, my mom has been in the hospital for three days now. Each day, she gets more delusional and starts hallucinating. I feel so so so guilty. I feel like I made it all worse, and could I have just tried harder to be patient and less selfish about my time? But no, I couldn't, and I know that. I think I've found a facility…
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Security Cameras
Can anyone recommend good indoor security/spy cameras to keep an eye on my mom with my phone? Something cheap on Amazon that does the job and will arrive quickly? Thank you!
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Overwhelmed with guilt & grief
It was a long road but my father in law has been living in a memory care facility close to us for about 6 weeks. Even though I know that my husband and I would be unable to care for him safely in our home because he would mostly be alone, I still feel so guilty for this major decision. When family and friends ask about my…
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GPS watch
Hello…..My father is very strong and active and still wants to walk around the block. I am looking to purchase a watch with GPS for him to wear. He gets disoriented and I dont want him to get lost and he refuses to walk with the home health worker. I have researched and found some options but cant find one that has all I…
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Venting/advice if possible
My mom is having her first big episode since getting sent home from the long-term care facility she was placed in on 7/25. They only kept her for 4 days, stating that she was able to make her own decisions (despite her being deemed incapable to do so 15 days earlier). So far, last night she was trying to leave/wander,…
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Not sure I did the right thing
My mom was having an awful delusional episode today. No sense of time or place. She didn't know the month or year, let alone the day or season. At one point, she said, "I'm not me anymore, and you're not you" to me. She was waiting for her mom to come home (dead for more than 60 years), my dad to come home (dead for 16),…
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Won't bathe
My dad has been receiving home hospice for 2 months now. So far he has been cooperative with the CNA bathing him 3x/WK. But today he outright refused being bathed and said he can do it himself. He is wheelchair bound and a fall risk. My mom can't do it herself. The nurse will come back tomorrow and see if he calmed down.…
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How would I know? Or would I know
Hi everyone, So recently I have moved my LO in with me. He still showers and uses the bathroom by himself. So how would I know if the proper things are being done while showering and using the bathroom? I think it would be obvious but not sure. Any suggestions? Thank you,
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Having a bad delusional episode
So, is it true that I can take my mom to the ER if she's super bad and tell them I want them to check her vitals and make sure she's not having a stroke and then say I can't take her back with me because she won't be safe? I've been told I can do this and that they'll help make arrangements for a facility, even if it's…
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How to honor parent wishes
Hello. My mother is living with Alzheimer’s and her primary caretaker is my father. He is a high functioning alcoholic, and struggles to care for her properly. my mother‘s behaviors have escalated to the point where I question if she can remain home even with in-home support a few hours a week. my mother and father have…
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The Move to ALF - missing anything?
So we have decided on an ALF for my mom. She can’t afford it all on her own even with Medicaid so my siblings and I must make up the difference. I have laid out the finances and sent in an email to all of them. All but one has responded in agreement. The last one hasn’t taken my calls or texted back. I am proceeding…
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An Introvert in Memory Care
Hi! I know that personalities change with MD (I'm witness to it every day). But my mom is still basically very introverted. She's never been one to be very gregarious or outgoing and make a ton of friends (at least not that I've ever witnessed in my lifetime, anyway). I'm wondering if any of you have any experience placing…
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The neediness just gets me
I saw my Mom at the AL on Monday. She was fine. Our visit ended when the activity director announced a game of Left, Right, Center. Wednesday night Mom called and asked when I’m coming out. I said in a day or so, I was just there on Monday. Her reply- I don’t remember that. Well, of course not. This is basically a command…
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Medication
My LO memory has declined according to her recent memory test she had a few months ago. Her neurologist prescribed a medication called Memantine. The first week she was doing fine, but the second week there has been some changes. She tells me she is drowsy, dizzy and feels funny. I noticed her mood has changed since taking…
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I'm on the autism spectrum and Mom has dementia
So, hello, I'm new here. I've been feeling very isolated, alone, confused, frustrated. My mom is a drinker. She got a dwi in January. She's almost 75. She's almost died. She was almost 3 times the legal limit after being found in a field face down next to a church near her home in 2023. She laid there all night in the…