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GPS watch
Hello…..My father is very strong and active and still wants to walk around the block. I am looking to purchase a watch with GPS for him to wear. He gets disoriented and I dont want him to get lost and he refuses to walk with the home health worker. I have researched and found some options but cant find one that has all I…
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Venting/advice if possible
My mom is having her first big episode since getting sent home from the long-term care facility she was placed in on 7/25. They only kept her for 4 days, stating that she was able to make her own decisions (despite her being deemed incapable to do so 15 days earlier). So far, last night she was trying to leave/wander,…
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Not sure I did the right thing
My mom was having an awful delusional episode today. No sense of time or place. She didn't know the month or year, let alone the day or season. At one point, she said, "I'm not me anymore, and you're not you" to me. She was waiting for her mom to come home (dead for more than 60 years), my dad to come home (dead for 16),…
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Won't bathe
My dad has been receiving home hospice for 2 months now. So far he has been cooperative with the CNA bathing him 3x/WK. But today he outright refused being bathed and said he can do it himself. He is wheelchair bound and a fall risk. My mom can't do it herself. The nurse will come back tomorrow and see if he calmed down.…
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How would I know? Or would I know
Hi everyone, So recently I have moved my LO in with me. He still showers and uses the bathroom by himself. So how would I know if the proper things are being done while showering and using the bathroom? I think it would be obvious but not sure. Any suggestions? Thank you,
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Having a bad delusional episode
So, is it true that I can take my mom to the ER if she's super bad and tell them I want them to check her vitals and make sure she's not having a stroke and then say I can't take her back with me because she won't be safe? I've been told I can do this and that they'll help make arrangements for a facility, even if it's…
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How to honor parent wishes
Hello. My mother is living with Alzheimer’s and her primary caretaker is my father. He is a high functioning alcoholic, and struggles to care for her properly. my mother‘s behaviors have escalated to the point where I question if she can remain home even with in-home support a few hours a week. my mother and father have…
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The Move to ALF - missing anything?
So we have decided on an ALF for my mom. She can’t afford it all on her own even with Medicaid so my siblings and I must make up the difference. I have laid out the finances and sent in an email to all of them. All but one has responded in agreement. The last one hasn’t taken my calls or texted back. I am proceeding…
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An Introvert in Memory Care
Hi! I know that personalities change with MD (I'm witness to it every day). But my mom is still basically very introverted. She's never been one to be very gregarious or outgoing and make a ton of friends (at least not that I've ever witnessed in my lifetime, anyway). I'm wondering if any of you have any experience placing…
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The neediness just gets me
I saw my Mom at the AL on Monday. She was fine. Our visit ended when the activity director announced a game of Left, Right, Center. Wednesday night Mom called and asked when I’m coming out. I said in a day or so, I was just there on Monday. Her reply- I don’t remember that. Well, of course not. This is basically a command…
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Medication
My LO memory has declined according to her recent memory test she had a few months ago. Her neurologist prescribed a medication called Memantine. The first week she was doing fine, but the second week there has been some changes. She tells me she is drowsy, dizzy and feels funny. I noticed her mood has changed since taking…
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I'm on the autism spectrum and Mom has dementia
So, hello, I'm new here. I've been feeling very isolated, alone, confused, frustrated. My mom is a drinker. She got a dwi in January. She's almost 75. She's almost died. She was almost 3 times the legal limit after being found in a field face down next to a church near her home in 2023. She laid there all night in the…
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Mom is nearing the end
I’m sitting with my mom at her MCU. She has deteriorated very rapidly, stopped eating, is mostly asleep and very minimally aware. I live 5 hours away and for a variety of reasons have not visited her in many months. Fortunately until recently we had wonderful phone calls and she always knew it was me. I wish I had come…
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How do I convince my mom to sign a medical and financial POA
Hello! First and foremost, I am so very thankful for this site. It is a wonderful feeling, knowing that you are not alone in this craziness that has up ended our lives. My mom is afflicted with Alzheimer’s and dementia. She’s 74 and was diagnosed last October. I would say she is pretty much status quo for how she is…
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Neurologist Recommendation?
Can anyone recommend a good geriatric neurologist who diagnoses dementia/ Alzheimer’s in the Capital District area of NY? Not sure if I’m allowed to even ask this. New today to this website and discussion forum. Mom is in AL but they are recommending MC, and I don’t know if it’s because MC is more $ and they have more room…
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Please send good vibes
So after my mom was put on notice for incontinence, I was in a panic. I visited a LOT of memory care facilities. So many were not places I could see her in at all, for one reason or another. I was extremely depressed. Most said they were confident they could deal with her incontinence issues, but other things just didn’t…
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Not that she'll remember, but....
I'm wondering if my mom's PCP can have a conversation with me and my mom about moving her into MC. Not that my mom will remember having the conversation, but she seems to respect what her doctor always has to say….and it will be in writing in her after-visit summary.
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Taking a car away
My mother, 89 yo was dx 1 1/2 years ago and progressing to moderate has not had a valid DL for 10 months -suspended not revoked. CA leaves people in limbo- but her insurance was still covering her until this month. We have been working on trying to get her to understand and be open… well we took the car away and left her…
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Advice needed
My mom has Alzheimer’s & lives with her partner. She was always an independent, strong woman who loved her independence, quiet time and kept herself busy. Now that is all gone & although I understand that’s not her choosing & that it’s scary for her, it doesn’t make it any easier. Lately she completely forgets when she has…
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Parent who is money paranoid
My father is almost 80 and was diagnosed with Alzheimers last year. My mother is 82, has heart issues and most likely has some form of dementia. They are on a VERY fixed income and cannot afford to go to an AL facility, so we are trying to keep them in their senior apartment as long as possible. My father walks to the…
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87 yo Parents living alone - Navy Veteran
Hi Everyone, I am new here. My parents are 87yo and currently live alone in an apartment community for 55 and older. My mother has a hard time walking due to double knee surgery years ago and is starting to show signs of dementia (she will never admit it but she is). She is so frail (97lbs) and is the sole caregiver for my…
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Introducing a medication to a resistant parent?
Just a bit of background. My mom was recently diagnosed with dementia. She is a difficult medical patient and refuses (so far) the MRI and the neuropsych eval that would allow a full diagnosis of Alzheimers but I think we all suspect highly that that is her eventual diagnosis. She has a challenging and stubborn personality…
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AL to MC - need help!
I’ll try to make this brief. I need help deciding on a MC. Mom is 72 with AZ Lives in a corporate AL for the past 3 months Now needs MC MC unit at AL is full Have to make a choice between having her at the more expensive MC unit in mine and my sister’s town OR having her 25 minutes away for 30k less a year. My sister and I…
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New clothes
Any tips on how to get mom to change her clothes??? She takes them off and hangs them up immediately. And the next day forgetts she already wore them and puts them on again. Any tips??
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New Caregiver - Venting
Hi. I've just recently become caregiver for my mom (62yo). She does not formally have a diagnosis but the doctors she has seen suspect some form of dementia, likely frontotemporal, though they cannot tell which for sure. She has some issues with memory but her most prominent symptoms are word salad (forgetting the…
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What To Except During Medicaid Health Needs Assessment
Hi. I signed my mom up for Medicaid with our local Office of Aging and finally got the financial assessment done yesterday. The in-home health needs assessment is in a few weeks. Can anyone enlighten me on what to expect? Are they pretty perceptive at knowing when someone with MD is "masking" and making it seem a lot…
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How To Get Mom To Take Baths
Hi Everyone, I’m having the hardest time getting my mother to take baths. She’s alway been a very clean person and used to love taking a relaxing bath. However since her Alzheimer’s and Vascular Dementia has progressed it’s getting harder to get her to cooperate. And of course, she reminds me that I’m the child and she’s…
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New Group for Middle Aged Caregivers
Please join! Support Group for Middle Aged Spouse Caregivers Go to the GROUPS tab on the home page or copy & paste this link (sorry that I can’t get the hyperlink to stick!) https://alzconnected.org/group/43-middle-aged-caregivers-support-group