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Moving mom to memory care
Hi all. My 86 year old mom has level 6 Alzheimer's. We (my brother and I) can no longer care for her and we are moving her to a memory care facility. She is still lucid enough to say no, and I am asking for help of how to get her there without telling her where she is going. The facility suggested we say we are going away…
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Sex is not my friend
DH has been quiet about this for several months now. All of the sudden now he wants it again (he also has ED and things were not going well before). He grabbed a beer when we got home from church and then wanted to get all frisky. Unfortunately, I made the remark that he looked like he was more worried about getting a beer…
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UPDATE 4/19/24
The infection is 99% healed with antibiotics! Thank you for your prayers. My husband is declining faster now but some days he's more aware & communicative than others. They have increased his medications for agitation to the point he's almost a zombie. When I visited him last week he was in bed and hadn't even gotten…
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ME OR NOT ME, that is the question.
ME OR NOT ME, that is the question. Whether it is better to….thats all i can remember, i think it was Shakespeare. Anyways. I have been doing fairly well adjusting to the various nuances of this here disease. I am doing better with recognition situation. I have worked hard on my responses, although it is a bear trying to…
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Documenting the diagnosis and stage of dementia
My DH has been exhibiting executive function deficits for more than 5 yrs as well as physical decline. We chased a diagnosis through the drs and medical system for almost a year. The only thing they found was MCI 4 yrs ago. It has progressed. Slow walking, slow reaction time, slow processing, some difficulty finding the…
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Venting/Help
Hello all, I just joined this group and have been reading posts to try to figure out what is happening with my dad and how to handle it. His situation does not fit neatly into any diagnostic criteria from what I can tell. Sorry, this will be long. He is 85, my mom died about 10 years ago. I live a few miles away, my…
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Do I visit my mom in memory care even though she's angry?
My parents are both in memory care and my mom is in the mid stages of Alzheimers. She has had a sudden shift in personality and is now convinced that I've taken her money and won't see her. I visit her weekly but she thinks I've moved to Russia, divorced my husband and am being beaten. She is angry with me every time I…
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Orthostatic hypotension
My DH has been suffering from orthostatic hypotension as well as a haywire GI system. I have read autonomic dysfunction can happen with alzheimers patients. He is up and down all night long 15-20x. Noone is sleeping and the meds they have tried: risperidone, flimax and trazadone have all made the low BP much worse. He is…
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Is this typical advancement?
Unlike previously, for the last couple of months my DW no longer has been asking to go home. She is no longer clingy or shadowing. She has also stopped trying to leave the house. Have others seen this same progression with the disease?
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Spitting(3)
My DH has begun spitting... anytime, anywhere, no discretion. It's almost like a constant tic. Gross,gross,gross! The first thing I do each morning is walk through the house searching for globs of spit/phlegm to clean up. I've wondered if any of the medications he's taking could possibly cause this? (Singulair, Seroquel,…
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spring cleaning....but still find time to feel guilty. Rambling thoughts....
After months and months of illness and lethargy, I got my act somewhat to together this week. What started it was finally getting around to putting refrigerant in the air conditioner of my old beater truck (thank you, YouTube). Now I feel like the dam has broken: I've called a landscaper to take over the overwhelming…
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Hello all, new to this
Hi everyone. My DH was diagnosed with VD within last few months. Short term memory impacted and difficulty with organization. Has gotten "off track" when walking the dogs but recognizes that and can make his way back. Consistency in his routine really helps. Overall he's pleasant. Just wanted to say hello. I've found…
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Two Story Reality Check
As I see it, DB is in Stage 4 per Tam Cummings. Though, "begins to have stumbles or falls", is one of the behaviors, DB has not shown that yet. Although YMMV, the guidance is the phase is 1 - 4 years, and let's say he's in his 2nd year. Also he is EO, and I have read this often progresses faster. DB and his wife live in a…
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communication
Just found this on the alz.org site https://training.alz.org/products/4036/effective-communication-strategies
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New Here - Lots of Questions
First time posting, I just joined. My situation may be a bit different but I am still reaching out as I need someplace to share. My partner and I are not married, we have been a committed couple for 25 years. He is 69 and I am 71. He has admitted to me just this year that he is experiencing some short term memory issues. I…
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Say you'll do this, and then you do that
I'm not sure what to make of the following two behaviors. The first, it seems I can chalk up to short term memory issues. We went out to breakfast yesterday. After we're seated, with menus in front of us, I asked if DB had any favorites at this restauraunt he suggested. He said it had been a couple of years since being…
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What products have you found that are helpful?
Hi all - just wondering what products or tools you have used that have made life easier for you/your LO? As an example, someone on this forum recommended the HERO machine for dispensing medications, and it was a game changer for us. It sends a text to my phone if my mom hasn't dispensed her dose within 15 minutes of it…
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Mom
Hello everyone, I'm knew here. Where do I begin? Mom lives alone in her house, I'm an only child and I have a special needs adult child, who has mental health issues. Now that I got that out of the way. Mom was starting to lose a little bit of her memory before her fall last may. My mom is 78 yrs old with osteoporosis.…
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Return of the "fugitive"....an update
After DH's PCP told him he was fine and that his "family were trying to put you in MC" and that the PCP refused to sign the form because he was "perfectly fine", the following day (yesterday) my DH called and Uber and left the house. After about 3 hours I got a text from him saying that he was at the airport in the next…
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Highly Paranoid MIL Refuses Help
New here, big venting coming up. Sorry and thanks: My 92yr old MIL has been getting consistently more symptomatic over the past few months. Her PCP called it "age-related dementia" and left it at that. She has since come to state that she's never visited that doctor (she was actually a patient for nearly two years) and is…
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continuation of MY DIAGANOSIS
I am going to see a specialist tomorrow and I will let everyone know the results. Please keep me in your prayers.
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POA or GUARDIAN
My bf who has EOAD is 44 years old. He has been fighting with "the man in the mirror" for the last solid week if not longer. My question is I am currently his rep payee for his disability check, but what is best so that I am not responsible for his debt when he passes (not that we are close to that) but if he has to go…
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DW fell
She is in MC for almost two months now. She has been unstable for a long time but could walk on her own howbeit very slow. When she lived at home I always had a hold of her wherever she went. The MC doesn't have the staff to hold her by the hand day and night as I did. The other day the MC called to say she fell and the…
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Not sure what’s happening - post hospitalization
I’m hoping for some insight from experienced members. MIL was hospitalized for two nights and was doing great. Good appetite, baseline clarity and baseline ambulatory. She had a long phone conversation with her daughter four days after discharge. That’s usual as they talk for hours once or twice a week. My SIL texted me…
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So glad to have found something to laugh about!!!
While on a road trip, an elderly couple stopped at a roadside restaurant for lunch. After finishing their meal, they left the restaurant and resumed their trip. When leaving, the elderly woman unknowingly left her glasses on the table, and she didn’t miss them until they had been driving for about forty minutes. By then,…
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MC one year anniversary
It was the worst day of my life. But we survived it and now a year later I can say it was the right move for us. I read so many posts of others struggling with this decision and I fully understand your agony. Here is a recap of our story starting two years ago. DW was well into stage 6, often incontinent, unable to dress…
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Aggression in dementia
Hello everyone I just found this group and was wondering if you guys can give me some pointers. My mother and grandmother just passed within the last year so my sister and I have became my grandfathers full time caregiver. I am 21 and my sister is 24 so we are pretty new at all of this. My grandfather has been getting very…
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POA
Hello, My Mom is refusing to sign POA documents. At this time, she has not paid her taxes for a few years and almost lost her house in another state. How do I proceed to petition a court for conservatorship? Do I need a lawyer? Thanks. I am an only child and my Mom has always been a Rock for all family members and friends-…
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The end of the "fiblets"...
Something happened yesterday that literally has me shaking, and very upset. As I've mentioned before, my DH as diagnosed with "mild dementia" about 1.5 years ago via neuropsychological testing. In the past few months we have been looking at placement for him. We have identified a preferred MC and put down a deposit. In the…
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PANICKING WHEN GOING OUT
Today I went to bingo my wife as we do on Wed and about 1 and half hour into bingo for no reason I started to feel like the walls were closing on me ( I do not why) and I became extremely frightened I started to panic and sweating like crazy my wife held my hand I eventually started to calm down. Has anyone else ever had…