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Venting and overwhelmed with how to help my DH with his GERD and allergies
My DH has struggled with allergies all his life and chronic GERD the last couple of years. This brings on coughing, snorting, spitting, clearing throat all day long. He’s take nexum, acid reflux, nose sprays, mucinex, etc. We went back to his allergist yesterday, and he order him Symbicort inhaler and we were hopeful it…
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Worried
Just need to talk this out. No need to respond. My DH passed the Driving knowledge test, but flunked the skill test on Sat. I thought it was going to be the opposite, but he couldn’t parallel park to save his ass. So he’s been on the warpath since. Since his license has been revoked he has me jumping through hoops for him.…
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VERY new here
Long story short my DH's mother had early onset Alzheimers, I 'suspected' for a long time that my husband may be starting on that path too… Only he's OCD we just moved to be closer to 'some' family 7 years ago - from Vt. We are now 77&76 years old. My husband insists on working - just 'retired' (as his new jobs consisted…
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Disappointed
Why is there always a catch? My LO is back in the sunshine and warmth (check). She found an AL community that she "likes" (check). My brother and I like it too and it's "affordable" (check). They have a cute 1 bedroom apartment that offers her a sense of autonomy (check). Saddly, all of the 1 bedrooms are currently…
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Any ideas for me to stop worrying...
I am, and have always been, a worry wart. But I've always been a great sleeper. Since my DH has had dementia, I've been waking up early and then having trouble getting back to sleep as my mind thinks about all the possible stresses coming up. The latest one is the hiring of a painting contractor for the house. I've got the…
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When do you know it’s time for a Nurologist that’s more knowledgeable on condition
I ask this as I read others see different kinds of Nurologists so I guess I asking when is that time? We see a Nurologist regularly so far just short term and confused no driving. Everything else on her own
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Helping my mom move more...
Hi. I am brand new to this group. I would love to chat and get ideas with my mom. I just moved in with her yesterday. She just got out of the hospital and was told someone needs to be with her most of the day. She sits in her recliner with her warm blanket and wont get up for HOURS. She says no, she is cozy, I don't want…
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Social Security Denied-because of Teacher Retirement-no Property Tax Exemption
Young onset husband worked for 18 years as a teacher. He left 10 years ago for what we called "stress" then, but same symptoms he's experiencing now. Confirmed Alzheimers. Because he never wanted to return to school, he transferred out his measly retirement account to an IRA. We were just denied SSDI, I'm assuming because…
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Young Onset Alzheimer's
My wife just turned 55 and was officially diagnosed with alzheimer's at 53. I am 59 and had to retire at 56 to take care of her. I have done a lot of reading on the disease and caregiver stories on caring for people with alzheimer's. I often tell people if they really want to know about dementia they should read the…
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He wants to go home . . .
Every day my DH begs me to take back to his home town (6 hours away) to see his mom and dad (who passed long ago). I try telling him they are in heaven. That his siblings are coming here to see us ( I’m not sure they are). Nothing works. I know his longings are real and I feel so bad for him but it’s also so hard for me to…
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Just reading if you have Alzheimer’s you have Dementia, but if you have Dementia don’t have Alz
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Let's take a minute to celebrate the life we had
My wife is in the last stage of dementia. It's unbearably hard to watch. I put together a video of pictures that plays in her room filled with pictures of our life together and our many trips. We had a great life and I now look back upon that with gratitude. She seems to watch it. I love watching it and try to identify all…
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Wanting to Move Mom from MC to another MC
Hello, It's been sometime since I've posted. Now finding I need advice on moving mom from her current MC to another. I am an only child and mom is widowed for many years. She has been living in a MC residence for 14 months. As a brand new "stand alone" residence I was awed by the beauty of the new place and promises of…
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Hey Everyone
My name is Chris. My dad was just diagnosed with Alzheimer’s this week at the Mayo Clinic. I will be, along with my brothers, assisting my stepmother in caring for him. This is all new and overwhelming at this point. I hope to learn more and find some support here. Thanks!
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Very helpful information on dementia
I'm fairly new to the forum and a wonderful member suggested I check out Teepa Snow's videos. I've found them very useful. She explains how dementia changes the way the person's brain works which is why behaviors change. She also gives some examples of the right and wrong way to handle the behaviors. I've learned a lot so…
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Life update on mama (60) and me (25)
Hi everyone! I realized it’s been 4 months since I last posted in here, after receiving so much love and support for my last post where I was just venting all my thoughts and feelings. My mom is doing really well, she’s about to be 60! And in a few months my spouse and I will celebrate our 1st wedding anniversary, so…
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Alzheimer’s and Munchausens Correlation?
My father has always been a bit of an attention seeker and likes to create situations where he becomes the center of focus with health stuff. He’s been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and going through medical treatments. He is 81 years old and seemingly health as an ox otherwise. A few times now he’s been complaining of…
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Treatment after starting hospice
Hello, Unfortunately my mother has injured her knee somehow (not reported to me by facility) and having pain to the point of being unable to bear weight. She was ambulatory (preferably with walker) before this happened. This happened the day before Hospice came to enroll. Now what can be done as far as anything to help? So…
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The man in the mirror
Hi I'm new to the group and my BF has EO alzheimers with FTD. He also has speech aphasia. He is 44 and was diagnosed last fall. All has been well, as far as him staying home alone. I close one day per week till 9pm. Well a few weeks ago we came home and he had to go potty he said in the mirror "I gotta go okay bye" I just…
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What are options for working spouse?
First time posting. We are 3 1/2 years into my DH Alzheimer's diagnosis. DH is 66, I'm 53, working full time, and and have a child in college. DH just came home after a month long hospitalization for med adjustments due to aggression. We have seen agitation and some aggression at home, however, he had an extreme act of…
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I find oddest things set them off ! How about you??
yesterday out had great day vine home get in house I ask her if she got mail and wife says “why would I get mail!” I said because first thing you do everyday we go out. Hasn’t spoke to me all nite waiting for this morning.
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DH has Alzheimer's disease
I am a 58 yr. old trying to care for my 61 yr. old husband with Alzheimer's. He was diagnosed with this disease when he was 57. I hate to see him decline in the easiest tasks he used to do. He can't read or write anymore, but he still claims that he isn't sick. I hate this for him or anyone that is going through it. I am…
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Memory Care Facility Stigmatization
It isn’t just the larger aggregate society fearing and pigeonholing individuals with degenerative brain diseases, it is also the administers supposedly serving our cognitively dying loved ones. My husband and our family has suffered another blow due to misconceptions of the disease. If there is an ideal dementia resident…
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gobbling food
HI Friends, We have beautiful weather today in New England. I hope you do, too, wherever you are! My DH has been gobbling his food. I'm assuming this is an executive functioning issue. (He's also not wearing his partial dentures because after paying off (over a year) $4,000 to replace the ones the puppy destroyed; the dog…
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how to get them to do things
so mom just got back from a place called unity and she did great there....she did their routine got up ate did group things....yesterday she came back home and this morning took us 2 hours to get her up a d then all she wanted to dosas to go lay back down after we got her up....so over the fight
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How to encourage Dr to do full neuropsychological eval?
Hi all, I am new to the forum, and already appreciate the knowledge and support! My mom is very clearly suffering from MCI and so far, this is all they will diagnose her with, despite the fact that as a family, we see tremendous memory loss. She is a very intelligent, well-educated woman, and still performs extremely well…
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So Sad!
My LO will soon be moving into her new space in AL. She's finally back in her own neck of the woods in SC and she's so much more content. It hurts me that she's so much happier with the sunshine and warmth than she ever was doing things with me in WI. I bent over backwards to try to make her happy while she was in WI,…
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Ethnic Differences in Amyloid Levels
It turns out that not only are fewer African Americans and Hispanics being recruited into Alzheimer's disease clinical trials, they are being excluded more often because they generally have lower levels of amyloid than Caucasians. And herein lies the whole problem in Alzheimer's research for decades. If amyloid is the…
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Peggy's funeral was this last Friday
I'd been dreading it for all of the obvious reasons, but I was happy with the way it turned out. Peggy's friend M and I did the bulk of the planning, and we were on the same page from start to finish. Honestly, I don't think I could have done it without his help. I was determined to keep the eulogy as light and cheerful as…
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Had to place dad in an ALF.
First time posting here. Today has been one of the hardest days of my life. Had to place my dad (88 yoa) in an ALF. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s type 3 last year and has been getting progressively worse. He was living with my mom (87) in their own apartment however my mom did not feel safe anymore. Everyone including…