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A Little Introspection
My therapist has suggested that I might find it helpful to be more open about my DH’s dementia and my own struggles as his caregiver. She tells me that I need to let go of the feeling that I should carry this weight on my own. I know I’ll find support here if I can just say what I feel, but I have a long history of…
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Lay flat recliner
I am looking for a recliner that lays flat. Any suggestions? T
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Rec for the BEST & highest quality Memory Care in/around Livingston NJ
Im so in over my head, and am feeling very lost. My goal is to identify the top 3 memory care residences in/around the area of Livingstion, NJ. Has anyone heard of The Winchester in Maplewood? All feedback is warmly welcomed. Im also looking for the top 3 agencies for 24/7 home care, as well as agencies or people who…
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Dementia and eating
Hi all, I’m new here and don’t know where else to turn. My father still lives on his own and took a large decline after my mom passed 5 years ago. He seems safe in his home, has very staunchly ingrained habits and has his little dog. About a month ago we hired companion care in hopes it would bring some regularity to his…
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Are some PWD calm?
As DH moves down the Alz pathway, he has been calm throughout. We are now in Stage 5 I imagine, although he is still continent and mobile although wobbly of course. His MMSE yesterday was 17. He has always been an introvert and not a social person. I wonder if some get through the whole process without the overwhelming…
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Marriage
I am at my witts end. My husband is 53, we have been married 13 years, we went through addiction and many battles that go with that, together and came out the other side together when no one else in his family was supporting him. He was just diagnosed with dementia officially 2 months ago, but have been dealing with it for…
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Shaving...
I'm 38 and my BF has EO who is 44, recently he has become scared of his reflection in everything!!! Mirror, car windows, store fronts, glass doors anything that reflects. He has left his facial hair grow for 2 weeks now and is currently in the bathroom shaving.... I was gonna attempt to do it for him but he let's me get a…
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Incompetence
I have a DPOA for my mom. It is not spring form so I am able to do what needs to be done now. The question is should I ask the doctor for something that states she is incompetent? What would be the benefit of having this? Would AL need this? Could it be used in a hospital situation if she refuses treatment? Is it something…
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Sister said she put mom in Hospice
Well I was not ready for this, now I will see what happens next. I did see my Mom yesterday just briefly, she was sleeping. Hugged and kissed her. I am thankful, God bless.
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Never Dealt With Alzheimer's Before and Need Some Guidance
Hello. I have never been close to someone who had Alzheimer's before (I'm 54) and I need some guidance, please. My father (Jamie) passed away in 1988 at age 50 from brain cancer. His best friend, Charlie, has been close to me ever since. He gave me away at our wedding. He's now 87 and has been in good health his entire…
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Laugh or cry
Edited: I was just vent typing yesterday while in the hospital with MIL. This blank message posted accidentally but now I can’t seem to delete it.
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New Scientific American report on Alzheimer's
A dear old friend of mine is the publisher of this Scientific American special report. He has given me permission to share it on the forum. You can access it on the site or download the PDF if you prefer.
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So on edge. Old behaviors resurfacing
DH was hospitalized in January. He was extremely agitated about my not letting him drive and he wanted his house back. We had sold it 2 years before but he doesn’t recall this. He was becoming increasingly more threatening and accused me of selling the house from under him. He would at times also threaten to hurt me or…
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Do you have an explanation?
I’m stumped. And thought you all would get a kick out of the recent conversation: Just 5 minutes ago, DH paused in his repetitive folding of a corner of blanket and asked me…”What do you know about this?” Holding it up for me to see. Hmm. My turn to pause. You all know the feeling. It’s one of those moments where you…
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DH's Nightmare is Over
My DH completed his journey very early Wednesday morning. I'm so grateful he no longer has to live in Alzheimer's world, not remembering anything for more than a few seconds and wondering what he has done wrong to be sent away. Hospice house was a blessing and helped take the sting out of hospital events. Upon reflection…
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Unusual symptoms
Anyone have unusual symptoms? At times I have repetitive thoughts - like I have to get out of this place - whatever this place may be - store, restaurant, hotel room. Happens particularly at night.
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Keeping an eye on mom
My mom takes care of my dad with dementia. So far, she's doing a good job. But she has MCI after seeing her neurologist and is being observed for possible Alzheimer's dementia. Her memory and confusion is getting worse. She has appointed me and my nephew as DPOA and is effective when she becomes incompetent. Right now,…
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Dad is 61 with EO - just looking for support <3
Hi all - this is my first post here. My dad has what was early onset, but has progressed. I am having trouble navigating this and the pressure it is placing on my mom as well. We are all doing our best. Sometimes it's hard for me to hear about how amazing and lighthearted my friends lives are (I'm 28) which I sometimes…
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Trying to get help from somebody but moms jealous what do I do !!
So my mom goes to daycare but a patient that goes there has offered to help me with my mom at home . She has helped me before and has been no problem but this weekend my mom told the caretaker that’s helping me that she comes first and pretty much told her that she didn’t like her and that no one gonna replace her , I told…
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About to take over paying daily bills - any advice?
My FIL has Alzheimer's and in the past six months has become increasing unreliable in paying bills. Thankfully, my wife has financial power of attorney - its not the help it claims to be but its something. Anyway, we need to step in but want to find a way to maintain trust. My wife spoke to him about putting bills on…
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Hearings Aids
I am going tomorrow to the VA to get my first set of hearing aids. I have been told that I will be able to hear the noise that a piece paper can make I cant wit to hear that sound . Are there any other sound I can expect to hear?
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Virtual Reality Experience
has anyone had any positive experiences using VR headsets with their loved ones?
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Tax extension
On the last day to file taxes, my dad calls me and asked if I could take him to the tax office and get the tax forms. It's my fault that I didn't remind my dad to file it on time. But I don't think he can do it himself without help. I got him an extension and I will make sure he gets it right.
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Please: help with advice getting into geri-psych
Hi there, My mom and I are at a total loss about what to do right now and I'm soliciting advice from your personal experience. Here's the situation: My dad, 80, at a memory care facility (Alzheimer's), has had some impulsive behavior resulting in the facility questioning if its the right place for him, and demanding 1:1…
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Trying to do the right things
I find taking care of my parents is a great challenge for me. I've been reading the postings from everyone and I'm more informed about dementia. My dad has vascular dementia and my mother has symptoms of Alzheimer's dementia. My mom can still take care of dad but I have to step in to help both of them when needed. I am…
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Bathroom
hello! Recently my dad who has EO has been waking up in the middle of the nights to use the bathroom and he has been unable to find the toilet. Causing him to pee on the carpet and honestly anywhere except the toilet! Any advice? I’ve thought about the alarms to wake me up when he gets out of bed but I’m looking for…
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MCF Rate Increases
Do memory care facilities increase rates at will? I know that they will give you 60-day notice, but other than that, can they just increase whatever rate they want, whenever they want?
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Putting Option to Rest
So after 7 months of living in WI and being miserable almost every single day- no sunshine, no warmth, nothing familiar etc…my LO has finally returned to her beloved state of SC. She seems much happier now that she's in the sunshine. (I know that temporarily living in her home has a great deal to do with that happiness,…
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Sharing positive news!
A memory care/assisted living evaluated and accepted my husband! He moved two days ago. It is a ten minutes drive and he tolerated the move very well, even rolling his own suitcase! He has a private room and shower and there are one half as many residents as his former nursing home. I thank God that this facility opened up…
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Venting and overwhelmed with how to help my DH with his GERD and allergies
My DH has struggled with allergies all his life and chronic GERD the last couple of years. This brings on coughing, snorting, spitting, clearing throat all day long. He’s take nexum, acid reflux, nose sprays, mucinex, etc. We went back to his allergist yesterday, and he order him Symbicort inhaler and we were hopeful it…