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increased weakness
88 year old mom, at home with me, stage 6… She is at the point where I'll need a transport chair soon. Struggling to stand and walk. Rallies a bit for PT, but presents weaker for me when no one is here. PT is going to come a couple times a week and wants her to do exercises again. My question is this…when does PT become…
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Calling all doctors
DH’s behavior, both at home and at day care, has become more challenging lately, so I contacted his neurologist to request a medication adjustment. He has been on citalopram for a year, currently at 15 mg/day. He also takes 10 mg of donepezil (Aricept) daily. The doctor’s NP said that because of the possible effect of…
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Obsessed with driving and threatens self harm
Could use advice how to maneuver through telling the dementia person they can’t drive after Dr has already told them they couldn’t, license has been suspended months ago.. should we live in his world and play along with him buying a car or should we continue telling him he doesn’t have a license and can’t drive? When you…
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Will Robotics and AI Be the Future of Elder Care?
https://www.elderlawanswers.com/will-robotics-and-ai-be-the-future-of-elder-care-19713
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Lithium and Trazodone
DH is currently on trazodone 50mg at night for sleep. He has been dealing w a significant infection in his ear and now jaw for the past several months which has created more (understandable) anger and irritation than is his normal daily snarls and growls. Infectious disease doctor yesterday recommended antidepressants…
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How to truly block spam phone calls
My father has dementia and is eager to talk to every telemarketer. This has the phone ringing dozens of times a day, with him wasting lots of time talking to people selling services he doesn't need. Worse, the caller is sometimes a scammer, and Dad is gullible enough that he's given away his credit card and other sensitive…
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hospice
My dad is in memory care. I'm not sure the stage. He is totally incontinent but eats well, will answer a basic question if its a few words but does have "word salad" when he tries to say more than a few words. He usually only remembers his mom and dad and thinks they are still alive. My questions….since he is in memory…
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The "shake", part 2
For those who were entertained by my "moment of humor" post on April 9, here is the sequel. I visited mom today and handed her another Glucerna shake, strawberry this time. She sipped away on it till it was about 3/4 gone. Then she turned the bottle so that the label faced me. She pointed at the word "Shake", smiled slyly,…
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Fiblets or Truth Telling & Distraction Techniques?
Hi, I was a frequent reader of these discussions a few years ago but found a smaller group that felt a little closer. They have ended the Kinto app/group and so I return here. When I first started reading, I heard a lot about “fiblets” or the little lies that people tell to their person to avoid confrontation or agitation.…
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Dark humor
I’m tired so maybe that’s why the thought came to me that I’m finally a mother. DH and I were never blessed with kids. Now, I’ve become a parent! I realized this when MIL called for me at 3 AM. She couldn’t tell me why she’d called. I asked if she needed to go to the bathroom and she agreed. We went and after she was…
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Another good day
Consider this a continuation of something I posted in April. I wanted to update on how the not driving is going. It's now been about 2 months since DB last drove. YB has been having issues with a car repair and DB has leant him his car. The fix has been slow for a number of reasons, and DB is getting anxious. I got a call…
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ALSP support group
My mom was DX with ALSP it’s a rare/genetic for of Alzheimer.. I was wondering if there was any type of support groups even virtual support groups that anybody has or has gone through that could help me. I love to join a support group, but I don’t know where to start, Can guide me?
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Update on husband and hospice
My husband has been on hospice care for about a month and a half. I definitely didn't think he was ready and was truly surprised when he was approved. I've been blown away by the level of care. His nurse comes weekly and is so good with him. The CNA showers him twice weekly. The social worker, chaplain, and music therapist…
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The move to AL
We moved mom from my brothers house to AL Sunday. He let her do all the packing, which wasn’t much. Using the suggested packing list from the facility (very basic, toilet paper, hand soap..) he had mom pick out everything she thought she would need at the store. Based on that you can probably imagine how it went. I got to…
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Anxiety Medications for Alzheimer's Patient
My wife (76) is at an advanced stage of Alzheimer's. She suffers from extreme anxiety and yet no medication seems to help. So, my question is: Is there a stage in the progression of Alzheimer's at which no anxiety medication is effective?
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Mom's Alzheimers and wanting to go home
My mom is 77 and was diagnosed almost 3 years ago with Alzheimers. She has been steadily declining the past three years. She was born in Romania; and has been in the country for 50+ years. She keeps saying she wants to go home; I tell her she is home and she says this is not her home. I tell her we cannot travel because…
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Referral for CELA s
it is so difficult to choose a good elder care attorney. It is like taking shots in the dark. . Does anyone have a recommendation for Wisconsin or Indiana? So appreciate it.
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Articept
My mother just started to take it. What should I expect to see with these med?
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Off Topic: Oprah's Recent Weight Loss Shiw
Oprah recently had a show on TV on which she presented several obese people with medical conditions affected by being obese. She touted the effects of medication (semaglutide) to help with weight loss for the morbidly obese. I have no issue with this. But Oprah is not morbidly obese, nor does she have medical problems that…
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Sleeping late
Hubby used to get up 9-930 and used to go to the gym. He hasn’t been to gym for one year. Now he sleeps until 11:30-12. I do not bother him. A few times I’d ask him if he wants to go to gym but he doesn’t want to get out of bed. Some days he asks if he still goes to gym and I explain I’ve tried getting him up. He tells me…
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Re-posting in it’s own thread
Hi So comments in this thread (about anosognosia) are hitting home right now. But I need clarification. At what stage or point do you feel your SO is when you start noticing cognitive issues such as it is hard for them to talk to others, avoiding large groups, saying his brain isn’t working, not able to form sentences,…
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Seroquel Dose
My DH has been taking Seroquel for about 2 1/2 months now. I give him 25mg at 5:00pm every day. He falls asleep about 6:30pm or 7:00pm in his chair, and I wake him at 10pm to go to bed. He sleeps all night. It’s been wonderful for diminishing hallucinations and delusions and the anxiety that goes with those. BUT, most…
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Rapid Progression of Dementia or Alzheimer's
Has anyone experienced a parent with Alzheimer's having a sudden rapid progression of their disease? My mother was able to walk just a month ago. She began becoming unstable so we got her a walker. The walker wasn't cutting it so we got her a wheelchair. She seemed weak. One morning we weren't able to get her up and about.…
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Just wanted to say "Hello friends"
I've been gone for a while, but that doesn't mean I've forgotten about you. As the song said "You are always on my mind". So just a little update. It seems like every time I want to do something to help others, something gets in the way. I've been in contact with Jim Mangi (you might know him as "Toad"), the man who…
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Besoin de réponses
Bonjour Je suis nouvelle sur ce forum, mon mari a 62 ans et la maladie d'Alzheimer depuis janvier 2021, à ce jour je me pose beaucoup de questions sur cette maladie. Il vie cette maladie comme si il n'avait rien, refuse toute conversation même le mot Alzheimer. sur ce sujet. Comment lui faire comprendre qu'il faut que je…
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Thought it would be a good day🤦🏻♀️
Thought I gave DH an enjoyable day ? After stepping in his pee on the br floor this morning 🤦🏻♀️ then cleaning the BR making him breakfast going grocery shopping making lunch and taking him to our nieces HS lacrosse playoff game. Having trouble turning TV on when we got home Changed batteries. He proceeded to get in my…
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Living with dementia
:'( Im 4th generation Alzheimer’s on both sides of my family. My Father had ALS. I took care of him until his last breath. So now it’s my turn. I’m 65 and have been having memory problems about three years. I was pretty certain it was an early stage of dementia. It finally got bad enough to be diagnosed last year. But…
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Memory Care update
After a bunch of problems at my mom’s MC (staff turnover, two ER trips in 3 months, her constant complaints about the place), I looked at two other places. One owned by the same company, overlapping staff, bigger, more beautiful, and a friend’s moms had moved there, but not as good of a location. I met with current MC…
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How important is definitive diagnosis?
My DH had the usual tests when we first started noticing the memory issues - EEG, blood tests, MRI - nothing unusual showed up. He refused to go to the neuropsych testing when he realized what it would entail. Fast forward about a year and some doctor issues (had to get a new PCP, etc). I was able to get him scheduled for…
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triggers
PWD tend to "loop", to run through the same set of questions and comments repetitively. One advice is to eliminate "triggers", whatever it is that causes the PWD to enter the loop. I've been doing that already to some extent by discarding letters, etc., for which DW wants an explanation. But there's one trigger that's hard…