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Dad Going Into Hospice
Condensed Verion Weve gone through so much concerning my Dad since last summer, but I'm going to try and keep this brief. My Dad is 70 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's last summer. He's in memory care now. He refuses his medication (even for high blood pressure and cholesterol) and won't eat. It's not due to lack of…
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He hates adult day care - now what?
Just reaching out to this amazing community and hoping for some insight. My DH is 76 and diagnosed with Dementia about 13 yrs ago. Progression has been slow but recently has escalated with severe confusion, agitation and paranoia (is sure people, lawn care workers, people walking their dogs, etc) are stealing from us.…
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Grandmothers recent diagnosis - guidance
Hi everyone! My grandmother, and very best friend, was formally diagnosed with Alzheimer’s yesterday. We knew this was coming, as her mother had it and she began showing signs about a year ago. However, I feel so completely lost and heartbroken. I was hoping for a bit of guidance on how to handle the utter darkness I feel.…
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Lost filter
Out neighbor asked DH how tall he is and he responded “how short are you?” She said 5’7” and then asked him if his shoe size is a 15. So they played the guessing game until he acknowledged he is 6’6” and shoe size 13. She lifted up her foot and said that she wears a 15 because her arches have fallen and she use to wear a…
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DH is still very capable, but I am focusing on the diagnosis which frustrates him
My DH and I have been to a few doctor appointments and have been told he has some form of dementia. We're waiting on a couple more tests (hearing & sleep) before a follow-up appointment with the geriatric dementia specialist. DH says he just wants to live life and enjoy it as best he can. He admits he has memory issues -…
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Mother is having nightly delusions and I'm no longer sure we can care for her at home
My mother is 86 and has moderate to severe dementia. Her short term memory is all but gone, and now her long term memory is going as well--at night, mostly, she is waking up my father and asking him question after question about who he is, who her husband is, whether she has children, who the person in the other room is…
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Son making me feel guilty!!!
DH had AD 6 years now and have handled everything all by myself. He is on Trazadone for nighttime and Diazepam for agitation for day. My son feels he is getting worse because of the medication. I feel his dementia is just getting worse. He no longer has interest in TV. For 2 months now he wants to go home and questions all…
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Mom fell again. . .
And fractured her c2, has a brain bleed and is now on hospice back at her MC. She's conscious but eating and drinking very little. She's on liquid diet for swallowing. I take her little dog to see her every day as well as bring her a Coca-Cola. She likes that and I help her drink it from a straw. I don't think she'll make…
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Tips for AL transition for LO
My sister and I just went through moving our mother (almost 80) into AL a little over 2 weeks ago. We are feeling the guilt and angst that so many have shared but are realizing just how much she needed to be placed. She has been overwhelmed and confused and gets lost in the facility quite easily. We have her on meal…
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Helping my Dad care for my Mom
My Mom was diagnosed years ago. We were told many things to expect, and prepare for. Recently, my mom's condition started progressing more rapidly. She barely eats anything, she says everything tastes unpleasant, and it is very hard to get her to consume food. She has lost a lot of weight, and she is now very frail and…
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It’s happening quickly
My dad’s symptoms are the following: •Can’t hold a conversation. Always asks who we’re talking about. •Doesn’t remember friends & family members •Stumbles sometimes but no falls yet. •Forgot that yogurt goes in fridge. •Did not remember my son in a photo. I’m concerned that he has advanced significantly to another stage,…
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Wondering the stage
Over past 2 weeks lo has been picking poop out of her depends. She also places it in the depends bag with clean depends and in clean baby wipes container and other random places. In IWhat Stage does this occur and is this something people with dementia do??
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Struggling with guilt/unhealthy relationship with parents
My mom is 70 and has dementia…my dad is her primary caregiver but he is also somewhat in denial about how rapidly her condition is progressing (initially she was diagnosed with MCI - Mild Cognitive Impairment - about three years ago, and they are reluctant to get a more current diagnosis). I'm in my early 40s, work…
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Multiple layers
Most nights my husband gets up around 2 or 3 a.m. and gets dressed. I just let him do this, as I’ve tried everything I can think of to get him not to and to come back to bed. Anyway he always puts on multiple T-shirts and sometimes 2 pair of pants. Last night he really out did himself. This morning I could tell he had on 5…
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Communication help with angry paranoid delusions
Hi, I'm new here. I'm in a somewhat unusual situation in that I live on the25-acre property of a friend with dementia. We've been friends for 40 years. When I moved into the rental cottage up the hill from his house, I could see the signs of short-term memory loss. Since then he's declined a lot especially rapidly in the…
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Bitter Sweet
Today is my LO's last day in her house. She doesn't really understand time any longer so she won't be upset until that moment of clarity and understanding occurs. I've lived with her here in SC for 1 month now. I'm 1000 miles away from my home. I just want to go home to my life and I feel relieved that day is almost here.…
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where do you live?
DW has been asking me this question most of the day "Where do you live?" I tell her, "Here." She says, "Since when?" I tell her, "Since 1981, when we bought the house together." "But I haven't seen you. I've been living alone most of the time." What am I supposed to do with that? She hasn't "seen" me because she doesn't…
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Why didn't you tell me?...
We get a daily newspaper. We listen to NPR's morning and evening news programs. The Israel-Gaza war has been one of the main topics for 7 months. At lunch, I mentioned the war, and DW said she didn't know anything about it. "Why didn't you tell me?" Oh, gee, there's lots I could say. "I assumed because the news media have…
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Sister with Severe memory issues
I am new here and live about 45min wa from an only sister who in this past year has shown signs of severe memory/reasoning issues but refuses to go to a doctor because she says nothing is wrong with her. She lives alone and I do not know what to do to help her. Her symptoms seem to be progressing pretty fast.
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Defiant Sister with Damentia Symptoms
I am a two year younger sister living 45min from my older sister who shows severe short term memory loss, reasoning abilities, comprehension difficulties and some inability to think of words. She defiantly refuses to go to a doctor because she thinks nothing is wrong with her. I am soooo stressed over not being able to…
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where did my husband go?
DW is now frequently living in a world where her husband, whom she loved a lot, suddenly left her without explanation, which she finds extremely upsetting. She says she had been living alone for a long time when I appeared, and she treats me like a guest in our own house. We will have conversations where she tells me all…
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How to have DH let family and friends know of his diagnosis
Hi, I"m new here (although did use this site often when helping with my Mom who passed from Alz). THis time my DH has been diagnosed with demientia - though we haven't narrowed it down to a specific type yet. SO still early on. MY DH is still in denial or hoping something will "fix" the mild(his perception) issues he's…
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Please chime in if you know
My DH, 79 , was diagnosed with moderate cognitive decline, possibly Parkinsons in October 2023. His abilities took a nose dive and all activities of daily living are left to me. I believe it was Jamie (?) who mentioned trying for VA benefits. I don't remember why (sorry, long night, little sleep). I just received a call…
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Just need to scream
Tonight DH went up to bed and came down again almost immediately to complain that "someone" kept messing with the shades in the bedroom and he wished they would stop. I reminded him that the only people who go into that room are him and me. It's true that sometimes, if he hasn't raised the shades in the morning I will do…
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His last night at home
This is the last night my DH will spend at home. I understand now that he can’t live here, I can’t take care of him, I can’t keep him from slipping away. I’ve tried to hold him so tightly that he can’t forget me or home, but it is not reality. He will drift away, take his own road from here. He will forget me, our history,…
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Help with how to handle parent who lives with us
5 years ago we moved and Grandma insisted she didn’t want to live alone. We purchased a home together with her. 7 months ago she received an Alzheimer’s dementia diagnosis with anognosia and she has declined rapidly. She walks with a walker or holding onto walls, in incontinent, had her license taken away, can no longer…
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Support and Help
Good Morning! First time poster here, who is looking for some support. DH was diagnosed with Mild Cogitive Impairment at the age of 39. He is now 43. He has a neurologist, regular therapist, and neuropsychologist who provide support for him. At this time, he is still able to work and the condition doesn't seem to have a…
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End of life planning and final wishes.
I am very embarrassed to say that DH and I were master procrastinators when it came to end of life planning. Of course I am now worried about this. I wonder if it would be a mistake to try to discuss his wishes during one of his lucid spells. I don’t want to frighten or distress him.
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Panicking in bed at night
I woke up in the middle of the night and I couldn't read the clock and my heart was racing and I just sat on the edge of the bed looking at the bedroom door and almost got up to go out side(if I had opened the door the alarm would've gone off) my wife said where are you going and I said I don't know and all this time I was…
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Driving
My husband is blaming me for taking away his drivers license even though I remind him it was his Neurologist that did it. He thinks I am being cruel and can't understand why I would do this to him.