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Move Mom in With or Without Her Furniture
Hello, my Mom recently moved in with me. She seems to be adjusting but she mentions some of her things such as her leather couch, a desk etc. I could make room for the couch, but it might be crowded. I’ve been back and forth on whether to have it brought here, a 16 hour drive away. Sometimes I think it would really help…
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Hurt my back
Yikes! Today I was stooping over my desk and when I straightened up, my lower back snapped and a jolt of pain shot down my back. I took Tylenol but I don't have anything stronger. I'm scared because when my dad hurt his back, he couldn't get out of bed the next day. He had to call 911 to bring him to the ER and found out…
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Marketing Senior Living-Big Article today
Lead article in the Washington Post this morning is about A Place For Mom--37.5% of their "Best of Senior Living" facilities have been cited for serious substandard care, and the reviews are manipulated. Cautionary tale about doing your own research. I'd post a link but am sure it's behind a paywall.
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In the blink of an eye... (reposting)
Dear Forum Mates, Join me on my little walk down memory lane. This thread is almost 3 years old and reminds me of where we were in my beloved's progression at that time. We all got a little (or big!) chuckle out of some of the antics our LOs were able to get into "in the blink of an eye". This is a stress reliever as we…
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New Member
Hello, I am a new member and I am happy that such a discussion group exists. My dad was actually diagnosed in 2019 with Alzheimer/Dimentia, but his symptoms go way back. He is getting worse and his agression spurs are now happening more often. He is 76 years old. My mom is the main caregiver. My sister and I try to help.…
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Nostalgic Music Affects Brain and Memory
An interesting piece-
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I need someone to talk to
Hello all! I'm new here. Lucky me, right? 😟 My Mother-in-law had Alzheimers and passed many years ago. I now fear my husband is in the early stages along with adult onset ADHD. Me?? I'm losing my mind!!! He can't remember anything and constantly makes excuses for his behavior by saying things like 'Why should I remember…
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Mom is constantly angry with my sister
My Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimers in the fall of 2022. She is understandably having a very hard time with the loss of her financial independence and is constantly accusing my sister of controlling her. We have POA and I tell her we're making the decisions together, but her anger is focused on my sister, who is the…
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Refusing to eat/doesn't like food
I'm a part time caregiver for my grandma; she has alzheimers. We are at the stage where she doesn't like most foods. And even if we try to encourage her she will spit it out. Any advice? Things that have worked for yall? Even food supplements?
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Tone Deaf Invitation
A couple with whom DH and I have been close friends for 40 plus years just invited ME to a small dinner party celebrating the wife's 80th birthday. The invitation spelled out that I should get one of my children to watch my DH and just come by myself. I am miffed and maybe even insulted by this request. Has this happened…
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Grief and guilt after moving parents to ALF, how to deal?
Last month I moved both parents to an ALF. I did research in advance and found a nice place close to both their kids. Initially, I felt relieved. One month on however, I feel mostly grief and guilt and am surprised. Is this common? Mom has mobility issues and AD for nearly seven years. Parents now are 86 and 89. What…
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Mom's in Hospice
Hello, so I please need some advice and support. Since we put mom in Hospice, my anxiety level has gone to the roof. I went back to therapy and am feeling better. I am struggling financially with my job, sometimes I make enough money to live comfortably and like now I am broke again and living on a credit card. I want to…
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Stove top covers
what would be best to purchase to put over knobs on stove. I cannot pull knobs off my stove. I need covers. Something easy. Thanks.
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Brief Update on a good day
I've read many discussions on how our PWD can get combative over their driving privildges. I realize it's still early days, but here's how it's going. Per last update, brother was prescribed generic for Aricept a couple of weeks back. He can complete more of his sentences than before. He says he's feeling much better. He…
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How To Balance Life
Hi everyone! Hope you and your LO’s are well. I have been having a lot of problems having a proper “work-life balance” for lack of a better term. My mom’s (60) diagnosis and required care takes up all of my energy, thankfully she’s still able to move around and shower herself and use the bathroom on her own, and those were…
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Philly Area Caregivers: Free Tam Cummings Conference
This looks very interesting if you are in the area.
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Can others understand?
I think I know the answer… but friends and family are interested and care for me and my DH, but when they say things like “I understand, my mom had memory issues and I had to help her twice a week“ I realize they have no idea of what it’s like to be the sole caregiver at home for your life partner. We’ve not (yet) been for…
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An Important Week in Alzheimer's Disease Research
This week there were three important findings regarding Alzheimer's disease: The first found that Alzheimer's disease is primarily caused by oxidative stress and that it potentially can be treated with a series of antioxidants. The editor for this group concluded that: "I anticipate that the OS (oxidative stress)…
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My DH is getting increasingly aggressive and hard to handle
My DH is very restless and agitated, and always wants something to do. The problem is, when I can't go out with him - ex. at 6:00 a.m. today he wanted to go for a bike ride - then he gets loud and aggressive and says he will go anyway. Today he started for the door and said he was going. He gets lost in our apartment…
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Bank account considerations
Just some general info that may help some. Sometimes being added to checking + savings account as signatory is more advisable than using a DPOA. If your LO can sign, they can be taken to the bank(or whatever the bank requires) + ask to have you added to the account. This is sometimes easier than dealing with a POA. Also,…
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Bathroom bar & chair??
I’m having bathroom renovated. Taking out tub and just shower. I think this will be better for my hubby. Should I have them install the bar to hold onto and chair or just the bar? I had a chair to put in tub but hubby didn’t care for it. That was months ago. It may be something he needs as time goes on. And I have choice…
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Respite recommended
At my last Dr visit she recommended that I utilize respite care for my DH because she thought after all these years (14) I deserved a break. I called the facility DH attends day care at two days a week. The director answered my many questions and when I asked the cost I discovered how valuable my caregiving time is. The…
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what dementia has taken from us
This is really a follow-on to the Angry discussion. On top of losing the PWD, we lose the joy of some of the activities we shared. In our case it's gardening. I'm not angry, but I am very sad. DW and I have been gardening since we met and had a place to do it. She usually took care of the flowers, and I usually took care…
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Mom with Dementia constantly leaving home
Hi! I’m new here. I travel for work and bring my mom with me because I am an only child. We’ve been doing this for the last few years. She was doing well for the longest time, but she was just formally diagnosed with Dementia after she left where we’re currently staying and got lost. A neighbor called the police and they…
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Time to Say Goodbye
DW turned the corner this morning. She has been in memory care since last August and has been in hospice care since January. She qualified for hospice since she has both advanced (stage 6) EOAD and cervical cancer (stage unknown). When checked by the hospice nurse this morning DW was virtually unresponsive but her vitals…
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Feeling Sick and Confused
My brother and I took our mom to memory care today, and it did not go well. She is very lucid and talkative compared to all of the other people we have met at the memory care place, and even the nurse there said that she was wanting to evaluate her to make sure she wouldn't be better off in AL, and that she would bring her…
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Self care
I really understand how important it is to take care of #1. Yesterday I had a meltdown. I have been dealing with chronic insomnia lately and it was making me stressed out emotionally and physically. I couldn't think clearly and I felt overwhelmed thinking about the next step on how to take care of both mom and dad with…
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Sun upper versus Sun downer
My mom wakes up yelling at me about her bank account and that I need to stop stealing from her. She does this nearly every morning, sometimes before her feet hit the ground. It takes her a hot minute to calm down but doesn’t really let go of it until later in the day. She no longer seems to grasp the fact that her online…
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Angry
Just. So. Angry.
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Freaking out somewhat
My DH is currently in a locked behavioral ward next to the ER at a local hospital. He’s had a series of escalating aggressive behaviors, so I finally decided he needed to get his meds adjusted at a Geri-psych ward. An ambulance took him from his memory care to the hospital this morning. He will be admitted later tonight to…