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When you take care of family members with AD,what can cheer you up or bring back old happy memories?
Sometimes I feel frustrated when taking care of my grandpa with AD.I don't feel like he's the same him anymore, and we seem to be the most familiar strangers.I wonder what will bring you guys the old happy memory that cheer you up to continuously look after your family members. Hoping to receive some kind answers to help…
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Overwhelmed
Hi everyone, I'm new to the group. I'm the caregiver to my husband who was diagnosed 4 years ago with MCI. Since then we have seen a neurologist and he is now at early onset Alzheimers. I'm feeling overwhelmed with things at this point. I just need to know that things will be OK.
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Anything new is very rough!
I got a sweet cat for my daughter yesterday which I’m bringing to her tomorrow, as I’m visiting her for two days. DH has had a really hard time the last two days and I realize that anything new is totally disorienting for him. Monday we went to the senior center where we’ve gone a few times in the last few months and he…
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Incontinence Catheter (Corrected)
UPDATE: I read these helpful responses and realized I identified the wrong thing. The ad I saw is an external catheter - or a condom catheter, like this one: Has anyone had to resort to using a catheter? The heavy-duty briefs with booster pads work very well, but HWD has been unsuccessfully using the toilet and either pees…
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Dad is obsessing over finding out cost of nursing care. What do I tell him?
My dad is in a nursing home and is lucid and conversational sometimes. He has lived a very frugal life and has always been obsessed with how much things cost. Lately he has been obsessed with how much it costs to stay that the nursing home and is determined to get to the bank to see what checks have been written and how…
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Moving to a Memory Care Community
Does anyone have suggestions on how to talk to your parent about moving to a memory care community? I’m trying to find the words that my Dad would understand. He’s not able to rationalize anymore and has never liked change.
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CELA questions
I have been working with a lawyer on my estate documents, but I recently learned he is NOT a CELA. So my question for this group is: What questions do I need to ask a CELA? Thanks in advance to all who offer their advice. Tyrone
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Are we just destined to endure a long slow decline?
This sounds harsh, but is there such a thing as someone getting ill for 1-2 years and managing sufficiently, then just taking a sharp downward turn for a few weeks or months and shuffling off this mortal life? By contrast, the last seven years my parents have just declined slowly and steadily while losing cognitive…
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He wants to show EVERYONE the new driveway
We recently had a new concrete driveway put in about a month ago (which posed its own issues while it was happening but that's in the past!). So now when DH sees anyone walk by, whether we know them or not, he tells them to come over and he shows them the new driveway and the new grass we had to plant, etc. He has trouble…
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My first visit to a care home
This feels like such a huge milestone I'm compelled to see if others felt the same? It's the first true tangible step I've taken towards the inevitable placement. I keep telling myself that this is just for (my first) respite (in 2.5 years) but I'm not really kidding myself since in all likelihood she would not return…
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Helicopter Caregiver
Hi. Heard about Helicopter Parents? I have been a Helicopter Caregiver, and I am working to stop being one. It doesn't mean I don't care. It means that there are things I can't change, and if I try, it is bad for both of us. No amount of cajoling will get him to do the exercises that will help him. No amount of cajoling…
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Services available to Veterans
Hello, Just wanted to mention that my husband is a vet with ALZ. He is receiving healthcare through the VA, and does not have a service connected disability. We live in a remote area, so he is under a program called Community Health Care, where the VA doc and staff come here once a month for office visits, and more often…
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I cannot get DH out of bed lately.
it is noon and he refuses to get up. So frustrating as we have a case worker coming snd he has a doctor appt. I have tried to lure him with food etc He seems well otherwise - no fever etc . I appreciate any advice. Hebid stage 6
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A moment of humor ...
Yesterday while visiting mom in MC, I offered her a Glucerna shake (nutrition supplement for diabetics). She looked at it as if it was the first one she'd seen, though she has them frequently. She drank some and set it aside. After a while, I pointed to it and asked if she wanted to finish it. She picked it up and started…
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Fabrication of stories
Does anyone else have a LO that fabricates stories? My mom will say people say things to her that just doesn't make sense and seem unrealistic. If so, how do you respond to a story that you know is fabricated and untrue but they believe it to be true.
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Friend recently diagnosed with Dementia
My best friend who is 65 was recently diagnosed with dementia and it has been a sad journey. It happened so fast. He is not able to have linear conversations and he is waiting for a nursing facility. Feeling a lot of despair. Looking for a support community.
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Just reaching out to check in
Hello all, I haven't been on this forum in several months. I feel like I have been on autopilot and just trying to get through the days. I don't have a specific question here really, just wanted to reach out to connect with others who are going through the same thing in the hopes that I will feel less alone. About me: mom…
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The miserable middle stage
My husband has had Alzheimers for who knows how long. He began complaining about his memory in 2015, but the neurologist he was seeing annually as part of the nationwide Alzheimers Disease study (enrolled people who were healthy and those who were not) kept telling him his scores on the 3 hours of testing were still at the…
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Driving/anger
First time posting . Our mom is in AL with dementia that they feel is Alz since last fall as a result of living alone for past 2 years since dad passed. She has very frequent utis and delusions. The car and home were sold legally ( POA) . My mom has always been a bit sassy but the anger since we told her the car was sold…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/9/24
GOOD FRUIT Galatians 5:22-23 New International Version “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” THINK ABOUT THIS: What fruit do you need the most help with? Why do you think this one is more difficult?…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/9/24
GOOD FRUIT Galatians 5:22-23 New International Version “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” THINK ABOUT THIS: What fruit do you need the most help with? Why do you think this one is more difficult?…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 4/9/24
GOOD FRUIT Galatians 5:22-23 New International Version “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” THINK ABOUT THIS: What fruit do you need the most help with? Why do you think this one is more difficult?…
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Music - Putting on the Hits to Arrest Anxiety
Been battling anxiety with DW for roughly the whole way since she began showing symptoms 7 years ago. Though we've had good results with medication combos over the years, she spikes and most recently for a prolonged 2-3 week period. Ruling out health issues and stabilizing meds, I recently began reintroducing music again,…
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Beginning stages of incontinence
Hello, new to this forum. Looking for some advice. I am currently a caregiver to a sweet 93 year old woman with dementia. She has had “accidents” here and there, but seems to be getting worse lately. I find messes in the bathroom where it looks like she’s tried to clean up. Also while doing laundry I find underwear with…
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TV show that did a good job portraying challenges of Alzheimer's Disease
Several years ago, I read on this forum that the television show, This is Us, did a good job portraying the challenges of Alzheimer's Disease. I recently got around to watching the series and I agree, the show did a very good job. Spoiler alert: In Season 5 and 6 one of the characters has Alzheimer's Disease. The show…
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Talking with PWD
Hello! My Dad has Alzheimer's and is pretty far along. His MMSE scores have been getting noticeably lower every time and are now in the more severe range. However, there are some parts of his mind that still work pretty well. Dad hears perfectly, which helps most of the time (unless someone doesn't want him to hear!). I…
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Family and friends offering unsolicited advice
Recently my brother and I placed my dad in LTC, and felt that this was the best decision for his stage and getting the proper care that he needed. However, we’ve had friends and family question our decision and offer their unsolicited advice on how best to care for him. How have you handled situations like this?
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Anyone with experience with Prevagen helping with confusion?
Hello - my wife is in mid stage dementia and her confusion level has gotten worse lately. It does not appear related to a UTI. A home health care aid has mentioned that Prevagen has helped some of the dementia patients she has worked with. I am very skeptical of this drug given their creepy commercials and the fact that…
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Father caring for mother
Is anyone like me in a situation in which their father is caring for their mother with Alzheimer's? I am the only daughter (one sibling is deceased, the other is not physically well and not emotionally suited to helping the way that I do). My father, in his 80s, is amazing in many ways as a caregiver (especially in his…