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How Do I Keep My Mom at Home (with me) vs Assisted Living with Alzheimer’s
Hi! I’m new here, and my Mom was diagnosed this past fall. Things were ok, but I moved her into my house to keep an eye on her. I left my job to be with her full time, and things were good! After getting a Bladder Infection, she has taken a HUGE turn, and her Anxiety is OVERWHELMING her, to the point that she’s still…
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What rights do other siblings have that aren’t in charge of guardianship
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Anyone have experience with BOTH parents at once?
My folks are 83 and 80, living together in their home. Dad was formally dx'd in 2022, after periodic hallucinations that there were 3 versions of my mother; he also had some aphasia but was sharp in other ways. Neurologist prescribed Aricept and it has helped a little. Mom has had mild cognitive decline for years, but it…
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Yesterday's Adult Day Care Center tour
Yesterday went with MIL to tour an Adult Day Care Center. My main motivation about her going to the adult day care center is just to get her out of the house to socialize and do some activity. I was nervous and feeling guilty about taking her. She kept asking where we were going. My fiblet was that a friend volunteers at…
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Early Dementia
My mom has early dementia. She still drives and she still lives alone, which I hate but she refuses to move and stop driving. She has no problem getting back home during the day. I have 3 sisters and she doesn't trust either of us because she thinks we talk about her / and conspiring against her. I'm the one that deals…
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Alzheimer's/Alcohol Dementia, Alcoholism, Hoarding and Medication Refusal - what to do?
Hello, My mom has been a lifelong alcoholic who has refused most medical care in her life. She lost her home, was asked to leave her independent living situation due to hoarding, and she is in assisted living now for the last week but seems to have declined. She is physically weak, uses a walker, and is essentially blind…
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Dad can’t manage finances anymore, but doesn’t realize it, and gets irritated when we try to help
Hi, I am new here and desperate for help. This is just one example of a financial problem we are having with dad. To start with he is responsible for a cemetery trust in which he is no longer capable of managing. I have tried to get this responsibility changed , but have not been able to get someone to step in and get this…
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Confused and Stressed
Mom has been in MC for a year since my dad passed. It was hearbreaking to leave her at AL but she needed the daily care. It was the best decision since my sibiling and I all have families. Even though she can still dress herself, go to the bathroom and eat with others she throws a fit getting a shower from the aides. We…
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new to group and sad/anxious about my dad’s decline
Hi all, I am the POA/ caregiver for my 90 year old dad who has dementia. He lives in a facility that is just a couple of miles from me and for the most part has been happy there. I was also POA for my mom who died 2 1/2 years ago after a 19 year journey with alzheimer’s. Although it was difficult to see my mom decline, she…
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Hospice for dad
Dad officially got approved for hospice at home. Yesterday the assessment nurse came and started paperwork. Today the RN came and waiting for SW and HHA to come. I told the care team to communicate with me on anything they need to know. I know my mom is relieved and hope my dad will continue to cooperate with staff. So far…
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Therapeutic Lie
Hi everybody! I was looking for some advice on how to explain to my mom (60 with ALZ) the idea of starting to go to an adult day care program. There’s this wonderful program that’s 5 minutes away from us, in a senior center that my mom is familiar with already because her mom used to go there. I’be recently heard the term…
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Anger vs Guilt
Hi. I am an only child of a single mother since I'm 6mos old. Mom doesn't have a formal diagnosis yet but definitely some form of dementia. She lives alone currently. She is solely dependent on me for everything. I am extremely diligent, and have everything organized and do to make things easy for her, reminders, signs and…
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Only child of an only child
Hi! I’m new to this and initially resisted a support group. I think because I’ve just been overwhelmed. My dad lived in Florida and I seen him a few times a year, a week at a time. He would say to me “I’m sure you can see the old man’s mind is starting to fail”. I wasn’t with him enough to realize this was more than normal…
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New member, need support/advice
Hello! I am new here and I am looking for any advice and support, as my 70yr dad just got diagnosed with Alzheimers. We lost my mother last August to Lewy Body Dementia and I am pretty much the primary care person left for dad. I have his POA, but still struggle with how to handle him and the things that need to happen…
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Memory Care
Well the AL facility gave my LO less than a month to get acclimated to her new surroundings. They are suggesting she be moved into MC. She's going to MC during the day and back to AL at night because they have no room for her. I think they're wrong! I think this will kill her!!! But my brother thinks it's the right thing…
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Don't Know What to Do
I have been caring for my dad in his home in CA since December (Live in NC). I have left my family, home, job, friends-LIFE. I'm struggling with the idea of being here "forever." My dad cannot be alone, cook, eat properly, drive, conduct personal hygiene properly, etc. I have full POA (financially & healthcare). He spends…
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My Parent Has Become Aggressive
Immediate need for advice! My parent suffering from dementia has progressed to the point of needing care at a facility full time. My stepparent is doing all possible to provide my parent with the best possible care. My parent has been to three different facilities in the last six months. My parent left the first facility…
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Resentful/Jealous of Friendships
How do you get past feeling guilty about having friends and a social life when caregiving for someone with dementia? My mom is 90 and is in the moderate stage. She doesn't have many friends; her two best friends live out of state. She has never understood the work it takes to make/maintain friendships. She resents that I…
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Dad refuses to move from AL to EC
Hello, my dad has Alzheimer’s/Dementia and has been in assisted living a year. He needs more care for his diabetes and heart condition and we need to move him to Enhanced Care. He is not ready yet for Memory Care. I would put his current stage as “middle”. He absolutely refuses to make the move from one side of the…
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Seeing Mom again by myself
Hello, so this is the second week that I have seen my mom alone again. It was tough before I saw her today, so I took some CBD oil. I don't know if it helped. Nevertheless, I remembered what a couple of members said to me last week. I cannot control if my Mother passes away or not. So now I focus on the things I can…
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Help and Advice Needed
Hello all I am new to this forum and could use some advice. I have been taking care of my mother who is 85 with moderate stage dementia for a year and half now. I have noticed over the past month her behavior has changed quite a bit. Recently I've noticed she has become more aggressive with my Father and I. She has had…
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Stuck with what to do
This is my first post ever, on any forum whatsoever! The process of trying to care for and protect my parents (one with Alz and the other with vascular dementia- both in total denial) has opened me up to all kinds of new and unpleasant experiences. At least this one feels positive. I don’t know where to go from here- my…
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Literally the Last Thing I Needed
Hi everybody, hope you’re all doing well. Bit of backstory to this predicament; my mom (60 diagnosed with ALZ) was a single parent to me (25) and my younger sibling (20). My sibling and I have separate fathers, mine passed when I was 7 and theirs is alive but not active in our lives. He was an abusive man to us and my…
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The feeling of Guilt
Hi everyone, my mom was diagnosed several months ago with Alzheimer’s. She lives with my dad but my father has been having a really hard time copping with this and refuses to learn anything about the disease. My mom always took care of my dad , she did everything. Now things have changed and he just doesn’t know what to…
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Won’t take Meds
Hello, I take care of my mom who has Alzheimer’s. She was diagnosed in 2019 and is in the late stages I believe. We have many many issues these days. She is pretty much nonverbal or her language is a mixed up string of words. She needs help with all daily routines, hygiene, toileting, showering, completely. She needs 24/7…
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Dad was caught driving!
My mom told me a neighbor saw my dad driving at intersection of the apartment complex going the wrong way! He got confused and stopped in the middle of it. I warned my mom not to leave the key fob easily accessible to dad but she thought that dad has enough sense to not drive. Ha! Anyway, thank goodness they have watchful…
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New here, need advice
Hello everyone, Im new here. I was recommended this site after I posted for help on reddit. My mother is going to be diagnosed tomorrow with Alzheimer's. I've seen the signs in her for a while now, but have been putting off the inevitable. Alzheimer's runs in our family. Her mother passed from it, her brother is starting…
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Mood cycles
Hi everyone I am new here. I have been taking care of my mom by myself now for several years. She showed slight memory issues, as we all do, before the Covid outbreak, but when the world shutdown and me being in Healthcare, I wasn't visiting much, and she didn't have much outside the house activities. This is when the…
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Newly Diagnosed - Infusion Therapy?
Hi all, I am new to this group and am excited to learn from everyone! My Mom is 85 and recently diagnosed with "early stage" alz. The Neurologist is wanting an updated MRI, but feels that she is a good candidate for infusion therapy. Has anyone has experience with this?? She does very well (still drives and volunteers at…
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Expectations of hospice
Hi, My mom has been in hospice for 6weeks and they recently increased her anti-agitation/anxiety meds by quite a bit and are not letting me as poa have say in if it is too much or not. I want to be respectful of staff at her facility and make sure they are safe providing cares but also do not want her to be overly…