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Loved One Not Wanting to Go to A Home
Hi everyone. I'm new here and happy to join this community. I have an 88 year old grandmother who is approaching late stage Alzheimer's but needs to go to a care facility and doesn't want to. I have mentioned it once every 1-2 weeks for the last month but she gets emotional and upset and says she's not going. I also have a…
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Resisting Move to Assisted Living
Dad has Alzheimers and Mom is wheelchair bound. They currently have 8x5 home care. It's becoming harder Dad to care for Mom when home care is not there. However, Dad doesn't realize this and thinks he's doing a "good job" taking care of her. Gets very defensive. Took them on tours of AL yesterday. Mom is willing to move,…
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Just sad & mad (long - sorry)
I stopped in to see my mom at her MC on my way to Easter services this morning. She was dressed nicely (thanks to thoughtful facility staff), and I casually asked if she might be interested in going with my family to church. She perked up and said, "yes, I was hoping to do that." This was the most lively reaction I have…
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Competency
Is there some kind of form or letter I can ask my lo’s doctor to fill out regarding competency? I am the DPOA and my brother wants mom to continue to make decisions she is not capable of making. I can’t do things unless I cream it with mom first. I think maybe something like this might help my brother see reason and avoid…
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Eating.. or not
Hi, My dad is 95. His appetite is becoming less and less. My problem is that his aide is determined for him to eat even when he says he doesn't want to. I was not a good eater when I was little, so as an adult I have a difficult time making him eat when he doesn't want to. I have told her repeatedly not to make him eat if…
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Eating- moderate stage AD
Hello- I’m looking for some feedback on an issue. My mother is 94 and has moderate AD. She’s in Memory Care in Assisted Living. She’s lost almost 30 pounds since being moved there in October. My concern is that the staff only ask her if she wants something to eat but don’t present her with food. She will always says no.…
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SO MUCH FIGHTING!
We toured a lovely MC facility today. My mom cried about the room but quickly befriended all of the lovely ladies there and was very happy. We're going to see if taking donepezil again helps her manage in her current living situation and if not she is moving to MC. All my husband and I do is fight because he's sick of it…
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Shower / bath help
My father has late stage Alzheimers and moved into MC fairly early into the progression. As a result, personal care was handled by staff. So I'm in completely new territory now and in over my head. My parents-in-law have moved in with us as they were no longer able to live alone. They are mobile, able to walk, dress, eat…
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Question for the younger caregivers
I’m 51 caring for 80 year old spouse. This is a question for people like me who have given up work to be full time care givers. How do you plan for your future? What steps have you taken to stay active and engaged mentally, physically, creatively, socially, and career-wise? What are your plans for returning to paid work…
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Wore-Out & Stressed
Hi, i am Reda, i reside in Mphs, Tn with my gorgeous mother(75) who suffered strokes 3 yrs ago & now has Dementia😩😢 & i am New Here & her sole caregiver & i am just physically/ mentally & emotionally wore out + stressed bad. My mom was still able too walk,go to the bathroom & she went into rehab & they neglected her & she…
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Need advice--meds, good days, bad days, anticipatory grief
Hi, this is long but I don't know that it can be abbreviated. My mom is 86 and has been having symptoms of dementia for the past couple years. I don't know which kind she has because she has not been formally diagnosed by a neurologist. I suspect it is lewy body. Anyway, it has gotten really bad last November after having…
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Increased confusion after Covid?
A few weeks ago my mom got Covid and had to be hospitalized, which coincided with me being away for 8 days. She is now physically fine, but the MC called the Occupational therapist for increased confusion. It is true she is having more difficulty with words, and some behaviors (e.g. took her shirt off in my car). Can Covid…
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POSITIVE BALANCE
When I was a caregiver, I was on a seesaw. One side was attending to the needs of those I cared for, and the other side was attending to my own needs. Both sides were important. Both sides needed attention. The aim was to keep the seesaw balanced so one side did not go crashing to the ground. Perhaps looking back, I…
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Are We Out of Options?
My father in law is still inpatient at the Geri psych unit pending placement and the facility keeps telling us he will be released him every day stating they can’t continue to hold him since from their standpoint he is cleared. I have filed an appeal to the discharge but my husband and I have been scrambling trying to find…
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My mother just diagnosed. We saw it coming...
I just wanted to say hello and that I'm grateful to have a resource such as this! My mother is in independent living, never forgets to go to lunch or play a game, but often repeats herself, short term memory is a challenge, loses keys, hides things, moves around her pictures and decor. She does not enjoy watching TV (never…
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Care facility
My mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 4-5 years ago. This disease killed my father who could not understand what was happening to her and did not have the skills to manage his own emotions. After dad died, we had the home health agency give us a. 24/7 caregiver as a “temporary” solution until we could figure…
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Alz in Atx
Hi all – – I just joined the community today because, as many of you can understand, it’s really hard to see your loved one slip away. My mother has had Alzheimer’s for a year or two, and recently she has been very up-and-down with what she is understanding and knowing where she is, etc. She frequently thinks her parents…
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POLST Form - Physician Orders for Life-Sustaining Treatment Form - overwhelming
My LO is very, very elderly. She was recently hospitalized and had surgery. We had to make a lot of decisions fast and under pressure in the ER. But luckily it all went as well as could be hoped. She is definitely more fragile than she was before the whole thing but she is doing well. Her physician's practice is all…
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Opinion on moms care
My mom has only been with me 9 months. The first 3 were fine but then it started to really go down hill. See post about my mean mom. Her doctor has recommended she be placed in a home as her behavior is getting a bit aggressive. I have applied for different types of aid and she’s been recently released from the wait list…
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lost
Hi I am new to ALZCONNECTED im not sure where to start. my mom has been diagnose with AlZ. she currently lives with my dad, but my dad is having a really difficult time accepting her diagnosis. he is not willing to educate himself about the disease and has no patience for my mom. he keeps saying he can't go through with…
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Hospice
Today the family got together and we added Hospice for our mother. Poor woman has been through so much, now she will get more attention and better care. Still hurts to see mom in this condition, I put it in Gods hands as always.
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Help- day centers? tips and tricks?
Hi! I’m new here and my mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. This is all overwhelming for us and I need help. Does anyone know of adult day care centers or how I can find them? Does anyone have any advice on what financial help is available? Also, any tips on living with a parent with Alzheimer’s? She has paranoia…
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Sadness for my MIL
It’s been an emotionally tough day. Nothing out of the ordinary but it’s been close to two years MIL has lived with us. And I was particularly tired of not having any time alone; cooking, cleaning, entertaining and listening to her talk, talk, talk. But as I was sitting here mentally listing the 101 things I have to do…
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Slowly loosing my mother
It has been really hard to admit to myself that I am slowly loosing my mother gradually to this disease. I saw the signs in the beginning stages but didn't want to admit to myself that it was anything but as time has gone on it is becoming quite clear that I am slowly loosing her. Over the past two years I have had to take…
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More supervision
Well, the regression continues and now my mom needs more supervision. One more step toward memory care. I think the only thing holding the care team back is she is physically in much better shape than the other residence in memory care. JoyInAlzheimer's NeverFearTheDream
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Going Home
So, my LO must move from her current IL/AL apartment. It's really not a terrible thing. She never really fit in- she's a quirky individual who does a great deal of complaining, has dementia and elderly needs to support. This apartment was always too independent for her... but we ALL gave it a try. It was a beautiful…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/23/24
FRIENDS, just want you to know I read all your comments and appreciate them. The Holy Spirit is with you and me here and everywhere. Peace, Ronnie (Veronica Kelly Badowski) * CONFUSION Isaiah 5:20 New International Version "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness,…
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93 YO's dog died; keeps asking to get a new one
93 YO mom with "severe" SVD and suspected dementia had an elderly dog (with her 16 years) that passed at the vet's 9 days ago. Mom had her three kids with her and after talking with us and the vet, agreed it was time. We've always had dogs in our family so this was really hard. After leaving the vet, Mom said she'd never…
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advice please
It may be time for mom to be placed in a facility. There are 2 facilities we're considering. There are good points about both. How do we decide? Both are assisted living. One has locked memory care, the other is just general population. So when mom needs memory care in the one facility, she'd be in a locked unit. Does…