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How to make the move to memory care
Hi - I'm new here. My father, 84, has Alzheimer's but is still living at home with my mother, who is now nearly blind and has health issues of her own. She has been looking after him, and trying to cope with his decline for quite some time. They've been together for over 60 years, and she has always relied on him and feels…
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Haladol?
My mom was diagnosed with mild to moderate AD/VD two years ago. In July of 2022 she fell in the parking lot and fractured her pelvis prompting a move to assisted living. Her dementia progressed pretty quickly after her fall and move. She started thinking her stuffed dog was real and that it died. She cried for days over…
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Hospice
Hello can someone please explain to me, if the decision to put a LO on hospice is a major decision and should it be discussed with all family members before treatment?
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sad
Mom: "I'm Mary. Who are you" How the heck do you know when to put your Mom who has dementia in assisted living or memory care. I'm struggling here.
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My Mom Flipped Out in a Drive Thru - Venting
I'm caring for my mother who is in her 80s and has been diagnosed with AD. She was discharged three weeks ago from a physical medicine rehab after a fall with a fractured arm. Prior to this, she was living at home alone with some assistance. Beginning a week ago, my mom doesn't remember who I am more often than not, which…
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Palliative Care - UPDATE
My mother is 90 y/o and I (her daughter) have been living with her since June 2022. She has been showing signs of dementia since her husband (my father) passed away from dementia in Jan. 2019. I think the trauma of living with him (long story - mistakes were made by her & my sister) accelerated her condition to where we…
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Need to ensure Mom takes her meds
My Mom is on an antibiotic and needs to take it twice a day. She was forgetting so I got her the med-elert pill dispenser. She took the pills out, but dropped one dose on the floor and left it there. She took the evening dose out, but left it on the counter. she told me that she’s positive she took her pills. I’m not sure…
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Guilt
I feel so guilty that I don't get along with my mom.
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Hi! Newbie Here
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s in 2019 but we didn’t move him until just this last summer; it took four years for my mom to get on board. Today when we went and saw them my dad didn’t know me and that was so hard. How do you deal with it? What’s worse is he looked so sad and I know things change day to day for them…
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Memory Care vs Nursing Home
My mom is in Memory Care. It is becoming more difficult because her anxiety is increasing and not managed well. Trying to decide if we need to move her for more daily support. Can you help me understand the difference between Memory Care vs Nursing Home. I’d like to get her a sitter but it seems too expensive.
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Calming meds for anxiety?
Hi, when music, diversion, soft textures, fresh air•••golf kart ride etc won't comfort Mom's agitation, sundowners type intense anxiety. Are there any prescribed medications that work well in anyone out there's situations Thank you
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Dealing with inlaws
Dear friends, I want to write this because it burdens me immensely. My Sib in laws have a very different way of dealing with Dad's dementia. I hate to keep saying 'they are in denial" because first of all, I am not a diagnostician or psychologist. Who am I to say why they make the choices they make? Dad has a 'companion'…
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Caring for my father in law
Hello all I am caring for my father in law, who has dementia possible Alz. It's not easy and l feel like l'm alone in this. I'm the one who does his laundry, cleans the house, and washes him up. When l try to say something all I get are guilt trips. I gave up a full time job that l love to go part time, so l could stop…
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Hallucinations
Good afternoon, thank you for allowing me to join your group. My mother has been seeing "people" in her house. She is convinced I have let the people in. She becomes very angry and accusatory, I can defuse most situations, this one I cannot. I made the mistake of saying "nobody was here" Then she says I am calling her…
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Candor vs Burdening
My mom is in the moderate stage but seems to be declining a little more rapidly now. I live in a different state so my dad is the primary caretaker and I visit when I can which is monthly. I'm already grieving the loss of who she was and our relationship. I'm worried one day I'll visit and she won't recognize me. I've made…
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Incontinence
My LO has urinary incontinence. Does anyone's LO have success with just pads? Especially at night.
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Should I move my dad out of assisted memory care and into nursing home
We moved my dad into an assisted memory care facility over two years ago in a city 25 miles away from home. He seems content there and gets along well with the staff. Lately, we (his family) have been disappointed in some of the care he has received and feel he is not as safe as he once seemed to be. We are also concerned…
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Diagnosis needed ASAP
My dad is showing signs of dementia. He forgets things so quickly. He’s very short-tempered. This has been going on for years. He’s in denial. His mom passed away in 2011. She suffered from Alzheimer’s. How do I go about getting him some help? Do I reach out to his doctor?
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memory care to nursing home
Advice please: I have my dad in a memory care facility that is about 1 hr and 20 min. round trip. Not terrible but I'm only able to visit usually once a week. When I placed him there it was for the activities and people to talk to. That was 2 years ago. At this time he doesn't participate in any activities nor does he…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 3/4/24
COURAGE Genesis 1:1 NIV “In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.” Joshua 1:9 NKJV “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.” Jeremiah 31:3 NIV “The Lord appeared to us in the past, saying: ‘I have loved you…
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how to deal with mom not knowing me
My mom sometimes knows me, sometimes no. She knows my siblings & my children. But not me. I don't know why. How do others deal with a parent not knowing you? I'm trying to wrap my head around it, be happy to be whoever she thinks I am. How do you that? Just with time?
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Mom having symptoms
My mom is 68 and has been having a difficult time. She's not diagnosed nor has she seen a doctor. But she misplaces things constantly, forgets things more, has trouble with sleep, anger and has had shifting behavior. My father has seen it as well. I'm worried and don't want to step on toes. I'm not sure what it is, and I'm…
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Home Health
Are there at home help programs for early stages of Alzheimers
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How do we have the initial conversation
My FIL has been diagnosed with dementia and we have seen a decline in his appearance and his appetite. How do we approach the subject with him? We are new to this, looking for any advice with the understanding that everyone is different. Thanks in advance.
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Adult Foster Care
I’m in Massachusetts caring for LO with Alzheimer’s full time. He’s got Medicaid and is almost approved for Adult Foster Care (AFC) which means I’d be paid a non-taxable stipend to care for him. He was evaluated as needing level II care which means he needs help with two or more ADLs and behavioral supervision. Please…
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Cycling behaviors
My 91 year old father takes care of my 93 year old mother with dementia. For the past few weeks every afternoon at about 3:00 she starts a cycle of behaviors. First, she talks for 30 minutes, not making any real sense. Then she gathers some clothes and other items and tries to leave. At this point she doesn't recognize my…
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Thank You for Caring.
CAREGIVERS WHO REALLY CARE tend to be the best people among us, and they never regret their sacrifice of love and care. Thank you!
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Hard time swallowing pills
My mom is in the last stages of Alzhiemer. Taking care of her 24/7 for the last 7 years! Recently within last 2 months she has shown difficulty swallowing pills. When I crush the ones I could and mix them with puddings or applesauce or yogurt, she still recognizes the bitter taste of the medicines and spits them out!…
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Mom thinks I’m wearing a mask
Hi all! For the past few months my mom has made comments about how I am not her daughter although I look like her. She has made comments about me wearing such a good mask because I look so much like her daughter. She also says that her daughter hates her and does not want to be around her so I cannot be her daughter when I…
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Mom turning against me
Hello all, I'm taking care of my 86 year old mother, who has Alzheimer's. I've been caring for her for a little over 1.5 years now, and she lives with me in my home. Luckily I work from home, so I can be with her 24x7 I've had to take over all facets of her life, such as medicines, financial, etc.. but she can still get…