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Hygiene Issues
Recently my MIL has developed hygiene issues to the point she has a bad odor. She had given up using her walk-in tub and was doing a good job washing up in the sink. But within the last 2 weeks or so she hasn't been washing up and it's noticeable. Her use of antiperspirant doesn't help. She also isn't brushing her teeth or…
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All Alone...Only in her mind
The feeling of being alone with only her confused thoughts can be terrifying….. #JoyInAlzheimer's simplebender.com
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VOICES
Hello , I'm not really sure how to deal with the voices my mom hears all the time , I have been entertaining it by telling her they cant hurt her and that I wont let anyone near her ? Am I doing the right thing ? I just don't want to create confusion by telling her they all-in her head should I dismissed it ? She gets mad…
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AL question
how do I tell my mom she has to move to AL?
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stress
My father was diagnosed with Dementia this year. My mom is his primary caregiver. We have nursing help on occasion so my mom can get a break and my family and I spend alot of time with them . Besides the fact of struggling to see my dad go through this disease I find myself getting upset with my mom. Many times it seems…
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New to forum and dementia
Hello everyone Three months ago my beloved father who has Parkinsons, had a grand mall seizure. The seizure triggered a massive and frighteningly fast decline including rapid dementia. I had been caring for him at home (my husband and I live upstairs from him) for several years as he was unable to do certain ADLs and he…
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Moving In
My brother wants to move my mom from her home into AL, gradually. He wants me to take her there one day for a meal, the next day for an activity etc... My mom doesn't want to move from her home and he thought maybe by moving her slowly into the facility, it might help with her anxiety and sadness. She did visit this lovely…
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Dementia and eating
Hi all, I’m new here and don’t know where else to turn. My father still lives on his own and took a large decline after my mom passed 5 years ago. He seems safe in his home, has very staunchly ingrained habits and has his little dog. About a month ago we hired companion care in hopes it would bring some regularity to his…
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Incompetence
I have a DPOA for my mom. It is not spring form so I am able to do what needs to be done now. The question is should I ask the doctor for something that states she is incompetent? What would be the benefit of having this? Would AL need this? Could it be used in a hospital situation if she refuses treatment? Is it something…
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Laugh or cry
Edited: I was just vent typing yesterday while in the hospital with MIL. This blank message posted accidentally but now I can’t seem to delete it.
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Keeping an eye on mom
My mom takes care of my dad with dementia. So far, she's doing a good job. But she has MCI after seeing her neurologist and is being observed for possible Alzheimer's dementia. Her memory and confusion is getting worse. She has appointed me and my nephew as DPOA and is effective when she becomes incompetent. Right now,…
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Dad is 61 with EO - just looking for support <3
Hi all - this is my first post here. My dad has what was early onset, but has progressed. I am having trouble navigating this and the pressure it is placing on my mom as well. We are all doing our best. Sometimes it's hard for me to hear about how amazing and lighthearted my friends lives are (I'm 28) which I sometimes…
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Trying to get help from somebody but moms jealous what do I do !!
So my mom goes to daycare but a patient that goes there has offered to help me with my mom at home . She has helped me before and has been no problem but this weekend my mom told the caretaker that’s helping me that she comes first and pretty much told her that she didn’t like her and that no one gonna replace her , I told…
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About to take over paying daily bills - any advice?
My FIL has Alzheimer's and in the past six months has become increasing unreliable in paying bills. Thankfully, my wife has financial power of attorney - its not the help it claims to be but its something. Anyway, we need to step in but want to find a way to maintain trust. My wife spoke to him about putting bills on…
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Tax extension
On the last day to file taxes, my dad calls me and asked if I could take him to the tax office and get the tax forms. It's my fault that I didn't remind my dad to file it on time. But I don't think he can do it himself without help. I got him an extension and I will make sure he gets it right.
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Trying to do the right things
I find taking care of my parents is a great challenge for me. I've been reading the postings from everyone and I'm more informed about dementia. My dad has vascular dementia and my mother has symptoms of Alzheimer's dementia. My mom can still take care of dad but I have to step in to help both of them when needed. I am…
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Bathroom
hello! Recently my dad who has EO has been waking up in the middle of the nights to use the bathroom and he has been unable to find the toilet. Causing him to pee on the carpet and honestly anywhere except the toilet! Any advice? I’ve thought about the alarms to wake me up when he gets out of bed but I’m looking for…
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Disappointed
Why is there always a catch? My LO is back in the sunshine and warmth (check). She found an AL community that she "likes" (check). My brother and I like it too and it's "affordable" (check). They have a cute 1 bedroom apartment that offers her a sense of autonomy (check). Saddly, all of the 1 bedrooms are currently…
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Helping my mom move more...
Hi. I am brand new to this group. I would love to chat and get ideas with my mom. I just moved in with her yesterday. She just got out of the hospital and was told someone needs to be with her most of the day. She sits in her recliner with her warm blanket and wont get up for HOURS. She says no, she is cozy, I don't want…
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Wanting to Move Mom from MC to another MC
Hello, It's been sometime since I've posted. Now finding I need advice on moving mom from her current MC to another. I am an only child and mom is widowed for many years. She has been living in a MC residence for 14 months. As a brand new "stand alone" residence I was awed by the beauty of the new place and promises of…
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Hey Everyone
My name is Chris. My dad was just diagnosed with Alzheimer’s this week at the Mayo Clinic. I will be, along with my brothers, assisting my stepmother in caring for him. This is all new and overwhelming at this point. I hope to learn more and find some support here. Thanks!
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Very helpful information on dementia
I'm fairly new to the forum and a wonderful member suggested I check out Teepa Snow's videos. I've found them very useful. She explains how dementia changes the way the person's brain works which is why behaviors change. She also gives some examples of the right and wrong way to handle the behaviors. I've learned a lot so…
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Life update on mama (60) and me (25)
Hi everyone! I realized it’s been 4 months since I last posted in here, after receiving so much love and support for my last post where I was just venting all my thoughts and feelings. My mom is doing really well, she’s about to be 60! And in a few months my spouse and I will celebrate our 1st wedding anniversary, so…
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Alzheimer’s and Munchausens Correlation?
My father has always been a bit of an attention seeker and likes to create situations where he becomes the center of focus with health stuff. He’s been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and going through medical treatments. He is 81 years old and seemingly health as an ox otherwise. A few times now he’s been complaining of…
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Treatment after starting hospice
Hello, Unfortunately my mother has injured her knee somehow (not reported to me by facility) and having pain to the point of being unable to bear weight. She was ambulatory (preferably with walker) before this happened. This happened the day before Hospice came to enroll. Now what can be done as far as anything to help? So…
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how to get them to do things
so mom just got back from a place called unity and she did great there....she did their routine got up ate did group things....yesterday she came back home and this morning took us 2 hours to get her up a d then all she wanted to dosas to go lay back down after we got her up....so over the fight
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How to encourage Dr to do full neuropsychological eval?
Hi all, I am new to the forum, and already appreciate the knowledge and support! My mom is very clearly suffering from MCI and so far, this is all they will diagnose her with, despite the fact that as a family, we see tremendous memory loss. She is a very intelligent, well-educated woman, and still performs extremely well…
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So Sad!
My LO will soon be moving into her new space in AL. She's finally back in her own neck of the woods in SC and she's so much more content. It hurts me that she's so much happier with the sunshine and warmth than she ever was doing things with me in WI. I bent over backwards to try to make her happy while she was in WI,…
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Had to place dad in an ALF.
First time posting here. Today has been one of the hardest days of my life. Had to place my dad (88 yoa) in an ALF. He was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s type 3 last year and has been getting progressively worse. He was living with my mom (87) in their own apartment however my mom did not feel safe anymore. Everyone including…
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Advice on Getting LO to go to Day Care?
I’m trying to get my mom to go to a day care, primarily for her benefit but I can’t deny it would be a welcome break. She stays in her room, won’t go out to walk or anything. Occasionally will go out to play bingo. She just complains about being bored and how she used to do this or that. I think it would be a help to her…