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Headaches
My Mom’s dementia is getting worse obviously. She is taking Trazadone and some other drugs to keep her on an even state. Poor thing complains of headaches everyday and not sure why? No mater what we give her to help make it go away does not work. Exedrine, Advil, Tylenol - is like popping Pez, does absolutely nothing.…
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Removing pictures
has anyone else experienced their LO slowly wanting to remove all family pictures from their room? I don’t know if they upset her, if she doesn’t recognize the faces or what it is but we remove as she asks.
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Dad in nursing home
My Dad is in a nursing home for physical reasons and some dementia. He has started to settle down and doesn't call me 20-30 times a day anymore maybe just 5-10 calls. He keeps asking why am I here and I am tired of explaining it. I have had to harden my heart a little just to create some emotional boundaries between me and…
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Continual Grief: I Miss My Mom
I visited my mom again today at her skilled nursing facility. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease in 2018 (she had probably been experiencing it since the early 2010s, in reality), and I made the gut-wrenching decision to place her into an SNF in 2021. She's currently experiencing late-stage Alzheimer's. She has…
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Looking for therapist or support for son caring for his mom with Alzheimer's in NYC
Greetings, I am the primary caregiver for my mother who has Alzheimer's we live in NYC. I am having a hard time finding a therapist who knows how to support me through this process and finding support in general. This is my first time on this post. Thanks
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Here's what helped us <3
Hi everyone. We recently lost my Dad after many years with Alzheimers. I wanted to share what helped us, in case it can help someone else! 1. Check to see if in home hospice care is available to your loved one - it might be available sooner than you think. The criteria for in home hospice care are kind of complicated. In…
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Asked to move from Memory Care Facility
My gal is 70, 5ft, 115lbs and mobile, she was diagnosed MCI 2018 and progressed to Alzheimer's her memory and cognitive issues became too much for me and she has been in a Memory Care Facility for 8 weeks. She did not adjust well and after 3 weeks they sent her to a Psych Hospital where they put her on some pretty serious…
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Looking for any advice
Hi everyone! My Dad has been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s for almost two years now. However we did notice things for a few years before his diagnosis. At first it was very slow and it seems like since March of this year he has rapidly gone down. He still lives at home and is currently with Palliative Care and Home Health. We…
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Denied Hospice
For quite a while now, my mother has been declining cognitively. It isn't a steep decline but steady enough that I often notice things she used to do for herself that she no longer does. Also, Mom had two "spells" in the last four months where she spaced out, went cold and clammy with a low BP and low heart rate. Both…
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Recent diagnosis and vision trouble
My dad was just recently diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's at age 63. While his memory is a little spotty, the toughest thing he's been dealing with is an increasing loss of vision that they believe is being caused by some small bleeds in the occipital lobe of his brain. He is still almost completely self-sufficient,…
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Father
So I’m kinda in the middle. I’m trying to stay positive and help my mom as she cares for my father yet the same time it’s like I’m mourning the loss of my dad, or the man who I knew as my dad. He’s in the stage now, where he’s talking about the past so much that he believes were in the past. He’s digging through stuff all…
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Physically Fit
When my mother went to the ER twice this spring for syncope (fainting spells), both doctors looked at her test results and marveled at how physically fit she is in spite of the dementia. She limps a little bit due to a troublesome hip, but she's strong. Her posture is good. She takes BP medication and Seroquel for anxiety,…
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Dad needs care too, though.
Hey y'all! So my Dad is 82 and in relatively good health. My Mom is 80 and is in late state Alz. ( I think.) Her symptoms are a little different than some, in that she is unable to really hear…she can't see well…thank goodness, her attitude is usually upbeat and positive. However, she doesn't talk much now and when she…
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Reappearance of distanced siblings
My Father was diagnosed with VD with onset AL 4 years ago. I took over as POA due to a broken unrepairable bridge between my Sister the former POA, and Dad. I've learned so much about their former relationship in the last 4 years and frankly, I wish I woud have found out sooner in order to rescue Dad. She kept him in the…
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How to truly block spam phone calls
My father has dementia and is eager to talk to every telemarketer. This has the phone ringing dozens of times a day, with him wasting lots of time talking to people selling services he doesn't need. Worse, the caller is sometimes a scammer, and Dad is gullible enough that he's given away his credit card and other sensitive…
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Managing Early Stages
Good Morning from Michigan, I am the sole coordinator for my mom who is in "early" stages of Alzheimer's and recently moved to assisted living. My mom was overly independent for most of my life and this shift has been difficult for her as well as for me. I am trying to manage the constant contact over her hyper fixations…
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Dad in nursing home - desperate to leave
Hi - I had to put my Dad in a nursing home last week because of physical reasons and some low level dementia. He calls me 20-30 times a day telling me he is in a prison and wants to leave immediately. I am at a loss because my sister told me this is the only solution we can have for him (we have no money and medicaid and…
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Spouse of Father In Denial about His Condition
My father has dementia that is progressing, currently mid-stage symptoms, and his wife is in denial about his condition. She does not believes he has dementia and insists he is improving. I live several states away. There are some family members nearby my parents and they have tried to reason with her regarding his…
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Education for Healthy Parent
Has anyone dealt with the healthy parent not understanding this disease ? My dad is primary caregiver for my mom. He can’t understand how to engage with her. My siblings and I have all tried to give tips, his friend who’s been through it gives him advice on deescalation but he doesn’t get it. He corrects her on facts that…
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Father should be in nursing home but I can't do it
Hi - I have a father who keeps falling and going to the hospital. I think he would be better off in a nursing home. He also has dementia and no short term memory. My dilemma is he is absolutely 100% against going to a nursing home. He literally cried in front of me saying it is not what he wants to do. I have requested…
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Assisted Living vs. Memory Care
My mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s about 8 years ago. She is now 69 and is around stage 4/5. She is still living in independent living as her boyfriend visits almost daily and takes her to her doctor appointments and gets her out of her room for walks or lunch. I handle all of her finances, groceries and personal stuff.…
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Taking away her car
Help! I am having trouble taking away car from my mother . She started swerving in lanes, and ignored the driving rules constantly . She recently crashed into a parked car and that was enough for us to say no more driving for her :( tried hiding keys, she went crazy. Tried taking away the car, but she keeps asking every…
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Ruby's Choice
I had to spread the word on this movie I came across on Amazon Prime. Jane Seymour is the lead actress in this movie. She stars as the Mother and Grandmother who suffers from Dementia. Her husband passed years ago and she's been told that he's on a business trip. Without giving away too much, her memory loss is confirmed…
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Can’t be pleased 😞
Coming here mostly to just vent. Mom has lived with us a little over a year now. Moved from one part of this BIG state to another after 40 years so BIG changes in every way. Left behind her bffs, the option to drive (her choice not to), the familiar, her own house, had to sell a lot of her things or put them into storage,…
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Question about Cognitive Reserve
I understand that a high level of cognitive reserve can make a person show fewer symptoms than others with the same level of brain deterioration. My question is this - does this mean they might be more advanced in the disease progression than their symptoms indicate? Is it possible that you think someone is stage 4 based…
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I’m Scared and Alone
My dad was diagnosed with MD about a year ago. When mom was alive (she passed from cancer about 3 years ago) she was already saying dad was headed down this path although he wasn’t diagnosed. I saw it too. I noticed dad was getting worse a little bit at a time. But still, at least I thought, was doing pretty well. A week…
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MI MADRE ESTÁ PERDIENDO LA MEMORIA
Hola, soy nueva, recién pude encontrar una página que puede ayudarme, mi mamá tiene 81 años, soy su única hija, empecé a notar que algo no andaba bien hace dos años, lamentablemente por mi trabajo me enviaron a una zona de dificil acceso, aunque bajo a verla los fines de semana solo disfruto 1 día con ella, he notado…
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Missing my mom
I think my mom has dementia, but she's in denial. I've had concerns for the past 3-4 years, but she won't get assessed. I resigned myself to the fact that there would likely be some sort of crisis and hoped that she would be open to help then. The crisis happened in February when she attempted suicide by overdosing on…
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Mom needs almost constant support
79-year-old mom lives in intermediate memory care unit within AL facility. She is very outgoing and has a good friend in AL. She is able to interact with people in AL and participate in their activities. She does not seem to enjoy most of the activities, however, or refuses to try them. But then she gets bored and doesn’t…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 6/21/21
CAREGIVERS, WE CAN TRUST THE LORD Psalm 91:14-15 Easy-to-Read Version 14 The Lord says, “If someone trusts me, I will save them. I will protect my followers who call to me for help. 15 When my followers call to me, I will answer them. I will be with them when they are in trouble. I will rescue them and honor them. YOUR…