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Screening companion caregivers for excursions out of facility
I want to get my mom a long term companion caregiver who will take her out of memory care a few times a week and help keep her activity, nature walks, pickle ball, maybe even bike riding and out to lunch. At this point my mom doesn’t need a lot of care or assistance but more companionship but I would need someone…
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Coping with changing behaviors
My mom has alzheimers and has suddenly become agitated when viewing images of herself or others in a mirror. She is afraid that she's being watched by strangers (images in mirror) or people on tv. She also hides money, thinking others are coming to steal it. She also has no idea whether it's daytime or night. I'm at a loss…
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Sandwich generation - having a baby while caregiving for dementia
Hi everyone, I have posted a few times here before and this forum has been so helpful. My dad (77, mid stage 5) moved to memory care in September. He has adjusted really well. He doesn't remember home or ask to leave, he is always engaged in activities when I visit, the staff love him, and I think he has made some friends…
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Mom needs eye surgery
Hi, I’m new here. My sister and I are caring for my mom, who lives in assisted living. Her cognitive decline seems to have sped up in the past 2 months. Now, she has a hole in her macula and needs surgery to repair it. I think she’ll be ok with the surgery itself but not with the requirement to stay face down for five days…
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Feels Like a Lose-Lose
We moved my 82-year-old stage 3-4 Alzheimer’s mom from an independent living place near me to an urban assisted living place while she was on a trip last week. She is very angry and refuses to let us stay when we visit. She says she is being surveilled and kept prisoner (she can walk out anytime she wants, she just has to…
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Struggling to Cope
Hi everyone. I'm 27 years old and two years ago my father was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. Things have been going really smooth. Up until the last few months. He's progressed somewhat quickly and I had a really jarring experience with him yesterday. He's been having conversations with himself which I just let him do, but…
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New Here - Caregiver Fatigue
Hi all. I’m a caregiver for my Mom who was diagnosed with slow progression Alzheimer’s but has since sped up. She can still maintain her daily hygiene, knows to eat, etc. Prior to being formally diagnosed, I was living out of state with my husband and then college bound son. I decided that it was best I moved, temporarily,…
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Support
My mother is in a nursing home, funds are low, and my income isn't enough to help. I hate the idea of selling the house and I feel like I've betrayed her, as she's always upset when I go to visit. But at the same time, feel my care to live with her would not be enough. I really wish I could just bring her home and be…
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My Mom
My Mom is 65 and showing all the signs of dementia. Her biggest one is she thinks her loving husband of 35 years is cheating on her. She’s making his life miserable. She’s always accusing him and being nasty. She refuses to even talk about the fact that she might have something wrong with her and won’t go to the doctors.…
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Diagnosis for dementia?
My mother was recently discharged from the hospital after having an episode of some sort and falling. She stayed in the hospital for 2 weeks and she was experiencing dementia symptoms pretty bad. Her memory has been fading gradually over the past 6 years or so. The doctors were worried about it and tried to get an MRI but…
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Comparing Clinical Care in Boston
Hello, I'm from the Boston area and new to the discussion. I am wondering if anyone has gotten recent care for a loved one at either Boston Center for Memory (BCM) or Mass General Hospital's Memory Disorders Division? My 82-year old mother has mild ALZ but will probably NOT choose to pursue anti-amyloid treatments…
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Caregiver-only groups in DFW?
Anyone in North Texas know about groups for caregivers?
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Cardio surgery and Quality of life
For context, my dad had two valve replacements many years ago that seem to have been a factor in his dementia. The valve in his first surgery was crushed by scar tissue so his case was written in medical journal and the cardiology department at Vanderbilt (which is local to us) is really invested in his care. About a month…
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Mom recently diagnosed, Dad in hospice, preparing for dad's passing
Hello, I just joined this forum, and am looking for suggestions. My elderly parents (93 and 91) are having difficulties. I am their primary caregiver. Dad will pass soon (home hospice), my folks are living in Senior Independent Living apartment together. We have not communicated the DEMENTIA diagnosis to my mother yet, and…
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Introducing myself
Hello, I'm a caregiver for my mother. She has been slightly cognitively impaired for a few years but recently had seizures and it has progressed her cognitive impairment. She has been diagnosed with mild cognitive impairment. Unfortunately, she is easily agitated and confrontational. It is very hard dealing with her…
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Repeating instructions and forgetting appointments
Hello, new to the forum, excited to get started. My mom not diagnosed with alz yet, but lots of symptoms. Constant repeating instructions, daily occurrence. Confused and forgets doctor appointments. Not sure how much more I can help, daily I remind and go over instructions,
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Memory loss and difficulty speaking
This is my mother's MRI report. Could this be the cause of memory loss and difficulty speaking?Multiplanar multisequence MRI of the brain with I/V contrast was performed. 06-Nov-2024 07:45 Extra axial spaces: A well-defined avidly enhancing extra axial mass showing isointense signals to gray matter on T1/T2 measuring 3.5 x…
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Our parents both have dementia & anxiety
Dad is 85 and has Alzheimer’s and dementia. Mom is 80 and has dementia and aphasia. They are living in their apartment with aides providing care 11am-8pm 7 days a week. Their conditions are advancing and soon we will have to rethink their care. Dad is getting agitated and verbally abusive to mom, which of course gets her…
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Unbiased input needed - dementia parent with a questionable boyfriend
Mom was diagnosed a little over a year and a half ago with dementia and stage 4 kidney disease. There's a boyfriend in the picture who does not live with her - she's still living alone. There's strong feelings that he's not sticking around for the right reasons. Today, he inquired again about being reimbursed for doing…
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need help
my mom has dementia since 2016 for the past 2 months she has been declining fast. Now she can't stay still and walks out of the house. WHat medications is everyone using to keep her calm.
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Increasing comfort meds for mom, caring for her in my home
Hello to the rest of the incredible caregivers here - My mom is 73 with dementia (possibly Fahr’s Disease), and moved in with my husband and I in October after a series of facility failures. We began hospice in late January after home health could no longer help and I ran into safety issues trying to shower her due to her…
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Preventing her from driving is worth it, right??
Oh man. We had several good weeks with my mom but for the past two weeks or so, she's been very upset! She (at one point) knew that she could not drive. And we have let her know that she failed the cognitive test which means she'll never legally drive again. But she is ADAMANT that she wants her keys to her car. And that…
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Defusing unkind behavior
My mom has Alzheimer’s my father is her caregiver. They live in DE, I am in NJ. For several months she’s been annoyed at my husband and i think it’s because she misses me. He is always kind to her and even physically helps her in person. Whatever the reason, she’s just not kind when I mention him. I try not to react to…
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Medicaid planning
Is it still recommended that one should seek out Medicaid planning with elder law? Is funding for Medicaid in jeopardy? Is it risky to plan for Medicaid now?
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Where do we start?
We just received news today that my father who is 74 officially has Alzheimer’s (diagnosed through a blood test) we have been told that he had vascular dementia for a few years now, but mom and I are not completely surprised with this news, seeing as we have noticed the huge change and decline. Where do we even begin? He…
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Bed bound & aggressive -looking for advice
I'm new here and looking for advice. A little background -I help care for my 84 year old father. He has late stage Alzheimer's, bed bound and completely dependent for care. Communication is difficult as his eyesight and hearing are poor and his ability to speak coherently is mostly gone. We are having a terrible time with…
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Repetition
Hello All, I am a 68yr old women caring for my 94 yr old mom diagnosed with middle stage dementia . My dad was a saint caring for her for at least 5 years until he passed 3 years ago. We are a family of six and are all present to help care for mom we are very fortunate in that way. She lives at home but is never alone we…
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Showering
My mom has Alzheimer’s and is not wanting to eat very much and does not want to shower or clean herself anymore. She gets very angry when we even mention getting in the shower. I posted here before and have tried everything I can , no luck. IT has been almost 4 weeks since her last shower. I put a chair in the shower and…
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Overwhelmed was a while ago…
I’m new here. Thank you for being here! My sister and I take care of my mom at home. Who can tell what stage? She was diagnosed about 4 years ago. Dementia, Hydrocephalus, diabetic. My mom is not mobile, she cannot feed herself, she has someone with her 24/7. It’s the hardest thing ever but I don’t want to be anywhere…
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Mom needs help
My Dad, with VD, has been in AL under hospice for 4.5 months already. My mom has AD and has admitted that she has difficulty paying bills and gets frustrated when she doesn't understand things. As POA, I can take over the finances and any legal matters. I thought Mom was still competent handling finances but now she wants…