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Aggressiveness & Depression
My father is 90, still very mobile but has frequent episodes of anger and depression. He also at times still thinks he is only 50. His memory is getting worse daily and I am concerned that he will even forget who my Mom is and perhaps become violent. Are there medications that can calm him?
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New diagnosis- she won’t accept it
Stepmom just got a diagnosis of moderate dementia, likely due to Alzheimer’s. Dad has Parkinson’s but is still able to do most things independently and is still pretty sharp mentally. We saw stepmom starting to shift mentally (memory, behavior, moods) 2 years ago but explained it away for some time, and she has been in…
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Father with early-onset now in late stages
Hello, I was made aware of these discussion boards through resources at my university and thought I'd give it a shot. I live in Orange Country, CA. I'm a 26 year old Female and my father got diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimer's when I was 13. He was in his early 50's. He has progressed extensively in the last six years.…
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Rapid Decline?
My DH dropped 3 points on MMSE in 6 months. I was told this is rapid decline. His score is 18 but they said he has/had high cognitive reserves. I put him at solid stage 5 with a foot in stage 6 on Tam Cummings. Has anyone experienced this with their LO? Does it continue dropping at a rapid rate or can it be a one off? I’ve…
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New to everything.
I really enjoy reading the posts and discussions. Changes seem to be coming fast. Moms fell about 6 weeks ago and I now believe this may have somehow triggered these new events. She is finding items around the house, clothing, pantry items, nail polish and doesn’t recognize them and thinks I’m playing tricks on her,…
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Feeling down
Mom went to AL 4 months ago. I’m DPOA and have taken most of the blame. When we moved her we did not bring much to decorate her room. Two decorations broke in the move and my brother said he would fix them and bring them to her( he didn’t). My brother insisted she would just ask for what she wants to decorate. Big surprise…
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In Home Hospice
I spoke to a hospice liaison and she told me steps about the process to get a home health nurse out to see my Dad whose dementia is worsening. He says he refuses ever going to a nursing home but my questions is, how do we ensure he is home when the nurse comes by? He has a golf cart and is still cognitive at times but he…
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Visits in MC
My mom’s new MC is extremely skilled and way more caring. They have asked me to shorten visits and come maybe 3 times a week until she settles in. Last few times i have taken her out have really unsettled her and made her want to leave. Intellectually i know this makes perfect sense. Emotionally it is completely…
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Help With Care for My Mom & Myself
My mother was recently diagnosed with Dementia. Currently, I have in-home help which I plan to continue as much as we can. I am wondering if anyone knows of support groups (the ones I've found in my area are already full). This is completely new to me and I want to ensure I am doing the best I can for my mother. Any help…
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1st night in MC tonight!
The move went well from her AL which was 20 minutes away to MC only 6 minutes from me. She seemed okay. Until I had to leave and she realized I was leaving. Rookie mistake - she has her cell phone. Right after I got home the director called me to inform me that everything is ok and it’s normal but she is upset that my…
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Father Refusing Help
Our 80 YO father was in an auto accident requiring around the clock care, and refusing home healthcare or rehab centers. He also has been victim to a financial scam recently and is making poor decisions and is paranoid and verbally abusive. What can we do if he refuses outside professional help and a mental fitness,…
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Deception but not the usual topic
my mom has dementia and I've well read on the topic of the tendency to lie to fill in memory holes, or confabulation. I cannot find any material on this behavior: We will giver her a plate of food and ask her to be sure to eat it all. Total of 4+ ozs between all the items so not a large helping by any reasonable gauge.…
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Cups and silverware
Looking for recommendations on cups and silverware for my mother. Mom opens every cup I have purchased. She flips, twists, pops….whatever it takes to get the lid off. Not entirely sure why she’s focused on that but I was hoping there are some recommendations on mugs or cups etc. Silverware- I have seen adaptable silverware…
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Painful Delusions
For about 7-8 years my step dad and I were the main caregivers (we luckily eventually had in home care almost 24/7, but we still managed a lot) for my grandma with dementia, my mom completely checked out and couldn’t face it. It’s been about 8 years since my grandma passed and now my mom is showing signs. We are still…
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Feeling utterly awful and needing some space to express myself
I haven't been here in a few weeks. My mom finally left the hospital and went into MC on August 19. Everything was going better than expected. She was adapting and rarely asked about me, which, while bittersweet, was good. However, she was rushed to the ER Friday night. She developed COVID. She's 90. It has turned into…
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Caregiving has isolated me. Age 35 and burnt out
I am burnt out caregiving my mom with dementia. It wouldnt be so bad if I had community where I live— We recently moved to las vegas area to be near my sister so she could help out with mom too (I used to live in California). However me and my mom know no one here and its been very strange having no community or friends…
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Asking when to go home continuously today
Hello all, So everyday/week it’s something new to loop over. Apparently today my Lap is aware we are in the beginning of the month based off of something he read in the paper. This has set him on looping of needing to know his bills are paid and there is enough money in his accounts. He still has a whole house that will…
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Anger from loosing driver’s license
This is my first post. I care for my mom and dad who have dementia. They are not advanced but in the mild/medium stages. They have different dementias. My dad has three different areas affected including the front part of his brain. This controls his reasoning, understanding, etc. The doctors have had his driver’s license…
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When urgent care, when to accept what cannot be controlled?
Thank you in advance. 94 YO mom has moderate mixed AD/VD and severe small vessel disease. Low BP, no history of stroke, never-smoker. Doesn’t drink enough water. Zero meds except eyedrops. Lives in an independent community with AL services for eyedrop administration. She functions mostly on her own still. We suspect she…
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Can't get official early onset diagnosis of dementia for my mom from PCP
For the past 2-3 years we've had a hard time getting an official diagnosis of Dementia for my 84 yr old mom. She appears to have all the early symptoms. She forgets the day of the week. Except for making toast she can't remember how to cook, she repeats herself all the time, she forgets my oldest sister is married, etc.…
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Expenses
Mom has early onset dementia. I am on her checking/savings accounts and have set most things up on auto-pay. There have been some monthly expenses that I have been paying directly and having her write me a check each month to pay me back. Is this a big no-no or red flag for Medicaid down the line? Or is it okay as long as…
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New and Need Advice
My Daddy was diagnosed with early onset dementia about 9 years ago. Things have rapidly declined in the last 6 months. He had an episode a month ago where he was missing for 15 hours. Ended up finding him in a field where his side by side had gotten stuck. He has that and a golf cart because he locked his keys in his truck…
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Driving
New here - struggling with making decisions. Mom is 89. I've been noticing cognitive decline since 2022. Just got official diagnosis on Friday through an MMSE test. She scored 26/30 last year and 21/30 this year which seems like a fast decline. She is still driving and I am struggling on whether it's time to pull the keys…
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My sister doesn't get it.
My mom is mid-diagnosis, determining which type of dementia she has. My mother-in-law passed with Alzheimers about 10 years ago, so I know what I'm seeing. Mom lives 3/4 time with my sister and 1/4 time with me. My sister gets very frustrated (understandably) with my mom. She vents to me (fine) and I try to explain to her…
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Activating springing DPOA
My mom's MCI is getting worse. How do I get my mom to the doctor to declare her incompacitated? What kind of fiblets can I use to coax my mom to see the doctor? I'm going to schedule a visit to her PCP and see if she can get a referral to see her neurologist to conduct a neuropsychological test to determine how impaired…
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Update on the move and my LO
Hi Everyone, It has been just over a month and a half(about 6 weeks) since bringing my father for his visit. Which is his now home/long term stay. He is now telling me we need to look into flights for him to go back home. He truly thinks nothing is wrong with him. I feel like he is at the cusps of Memory Care and home. He…