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Mom berates dad
my dad is trying to care for my mom. She hasn’t been diagnosed but we are all sure she has dimentia and with that paranoia. She accuses him of having a girlfriend and says very mean nasty things to him and gets very angry at him. What kind of advise do you have for my dad who is trying to do the best he can.
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Shower and BM
Hello there My mom is in the moderate stage of dementia. She's been in AL for almost two years now. Hospice has been visiting her since April. I saw her yesterday and she was just exhausted, she was laying almost flat in her Broda Chair and covered with a blanket. I spoke to an aid and she said when my mom has a big BM and…
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Mom and Vascular Dementia
New to the community. I moved in with my 81 year old mother when she started missing meds, forgetting to eat, constant repeating stories within minutes. She was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia. She does not drive anymore and does not wander. She does stay at home by herself while I work, I watch on cameras and my sisters…
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The Guilt? Sorry for this being SO LONG.
My Mother was diagnosed a few years ago and is now mid stage, I guess. I live with my parents and my older brother. (Long story.) My parents are in their 80s. My brother is mid 50's and I am 48. I'm divorced (and single) and have 3 children of my own ages 15, 21 and 22. I work full time and commute an hour each day. I…
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COVID Isolation at MC
I saw my mother on Sunday (Jan 26). She was in good spirits and more like herself than she has been for a long time. We had a nice visit. I hugged her goodbye, and everything was fine. I got a call from the MC unit at work this morning, Monday (Jan 27), and they said she tested positive for COVID. I was shocked. The more I…
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UTI/Constipation
Hello all, Does anyone have issues with the person they care for getting UTIs consistently? We’ve been using wipes and cranberry pills, but my mother keeps getting them. Any other remedies that worked for anyone would be helpful! Also she had been consistently constipated. She has Metamucil every day as well as a glass of…
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Thank you so much!
I am so grateful to this group for having given me advice and directed me to resources to help get my parent to a safe place where she is well cared for and seemingly content. This is a small miracle to me seeing as this journey started out with her living on her own states away from family, very isolated, in denial or…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 2/2/25
LOVE John 3:16 NIV For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 14:16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who…
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Drivers License / State ID
Hello - My Mom's drivers license is expiring next month. She currently is in Assisted Living with moderate symptoms. She is under Hospice care and Broda chair bound so there is no way I can get her to renew the license or really change it to a state ID. Does she need a State ID? I checked and the only thing I can find is…
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Vascular Dementia
Hello everyone, Im new in this group and i just find out about my father that he is diagnose with Vascular Dementia and this is new in our family. Since i decide to be his caregiving for him i would like to know more what support i need! He is 77 years old .
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Accusations - how to handle
Hi all, I’m new to this forum. I read many posts from others and felt this is a safe place to ask my question. My Mom is beginning stage dementia and has been accusing me of something. Everyone in our family knows it isn’t true and so do all of her friends. My question is - what do I do when she accuses me? I’m not a liar,…
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Reading comments
I can’t seem to see people’s full messages? It doesn’t open, how do I see a full message what people have written please?
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Need advice about my mom with Dementia
Hi, my mom is 74 years old and has moderately severe multi infarct dementia. She lives alone with her two little dogs. In the past few months, she has declined and I fear she is not safe to live by herself anymore, but, she is also verbally aggressive and mean. She has told me she will not go to an "old folks" home. I have…
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They give her the phone daily!
My MIL has alz and moved into a MC facility a few months ago. It was a rough start with her getting acclimated there. She had an issue w/ her meds and became rather violent w/ staff. She was also constantly packing her things and going into others' rooms taking things. It's gotten better. I think they figured out her meds…
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Best medication to help symptoms?
Learning from someone else's experience is invaluable. Just curious what is the best medication and what benefits did you see? Thanks Again!
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My Mother has Passed and I Want to Say Thank You
Hello, I have never posted on here before, but I have been reading posts since October when my mother with ALZ fell and broke her hip (at probably stage 5/6, at the time…though my brother and I did not know that), which moved her out of my brother's home and into MC. Our mother was a phenomenal woman and our best friend…
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A long road ahead…
I just joined this discussion group. I had a difficult night with my mom. It started five years ago when I begged my mom to see a neurologist. After reading the report from the neurologist, and hearing what I had told him from my experiences with her, my mom hand wrote a three page letter firing the neurologist because “he…
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Primary Care partner having trouble getting sibling help
New to all of this, and just looking for some support. Mom (75f) been on cognitive decline for several years and recently diagnosed with dementia. I (43F) have recently moved back home to help care for both her and Dad (80M). It can be A LOT. I'm having a hard time controlling my frustration with a siblings who just can't…
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Leqembi?
Hi I'm new to this group and looking for some advice. My mom is diagnosed AD last month. Her MMSE score is 14. Would Leqembi be effective for her? Does anyone have recommendation for resources we can talk to (researchers, medical experts, etc.)? Thanks in advance.
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Significant other
Hi, I need advice on how to approach this situation with my dad who has dementia. His girlfriend of 12 years that has been living with him, will now be moving out of state because she has health issues and will be cared for by her son that lives in another state. She’s been hospitalized the last 6 weeks and I have been my…
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Mom refuses to take medication and has become very aggressive....
Hello! My mother is 69 yrs old. She was diagosed with Alzheimer's about 3 years ago. She was considered to be mild/moderate at the beginning of 2024 but I feel like there has been some progression. I am her primary and only caregiver. For about a month or so she has been refusing to take her medication. I've tried…
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Moving Dad to a New Facility
I have never posted here, but just need to get this out. I have done 99.9% of the caregiving for my dad who is now mid to late stage. He is in Assisted Living, but the facility he is in provides very little assistance. I think they may be understaffed but it's just not working out. This past weekend, I spent 5 hours with…
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Concerned,not sure where to go from here
My mother has dementia and I think it is in her last stage. I was wondering if I could find some information to see where we are at. I know that everyone is different in regards to what symptoms/behaviors they go through to determine what stage they are at, but just starting this week, actually, about 2 days now, she will…
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Bumbly words in communication
Dad is really at a point now where his words are intelligible choppy and i often cannot even tell what he is saying. I have to guess at everything and I can tell by how he looks at me, that I have gotten it wrong. How frustrating it must be for him. Does anyone have tips on how you coped with this in your lo...maybe you…
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Do the specific loops stop?
My mother (88), just a couple months into AL (who really should be in MC, and likely will be transitioned soon), has incessant looping (like many of our LOs do). There are several topics, but one is that she wants her 2 credit cards back, along with her driver’s license and $25 cash, all of which she supposedly gave me for…
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End stage - mom
Hi. My mom has been non verbal for the last year or so. She is end stage. Puréed food, bed/chair bound, help with everything. The past few visits she’s been trying to say something. It’s just weird. Anyone have this happen? I am not sure what to do, if anything. TIA
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Need Advice - Elder Abuse
Hi all, I need some help. My parent was diagnosed with alz last year, it is moderate to severe based on my perception. I don't know that the doctor ever told us what stage they were. They have a partner who is significantly younger (almost 30 years difference) than them who they've been with for maybe 2 years or more (both…
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Fatal fall
My Dad, 89, with VD, has so many fractures due to several falls in the past 2 years. He fractured his spine, humerus, elbow, hip and pelvis. He's completely bed bound, double incontinent, needs to be fed, and he's kept comfortable with pain pills (narco, morphine). He is under hospice care in assisted living. He still has…
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Reaching my stress level point
Hi- I am a caregiver for my two parents living in one household. One has mild cognitive impairment and the other has low to moderate dementia. I have been caring for them for the past year. My issue is that my mother has become increasingly worse in the past couple of weeks. She can't seem to remember how to do any tasks…
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How to Know if Skilled Nursing Center/Nursing Home is Better than MC
Mom ended up in a skilled nursing center for rehab about 4 months ago.We didn't bring her back home because we felt it safer for her at the center. Each wing has a nurse, doctors and PA's, dentist, xrays, etc. are available there if necessary. Since she's been there she has become too weak to walk and is in a wheelchair…