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Transistioning to Memory Care/Assisted Living
Hello - my mom was diagnosed with vascular dementia/alzheimer's last spring - but she had been having memory issues for a couple years now. We finally got my dad on board with moving them into an assisted living center in December of last year - he was older and falling quite a bit himself and we felt he needed more care…
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agression, no diagnosis
im struggling with parents verbally arguing and blaming one another of having dementia/alzhiemers w/o diagnossis,.. i have worked as a caregiver/carepartner for 13yrs, in a facility. I am struggling and dont know how to go about getting a diagnosis, because i see both of there judgement and reasoning completely gone, but…
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Mom doesn't comprehend her disease
My poor Step Father reached a point, with his own health issues, that he could no longer safely care for my Mom. They live in a beautiful home, my Mom used to be able to stitch, sew, crochet, play the piano and was a wonderful cook. She was diagnosed a little less than a year ago with Alzheimers and the last 6 months has…
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Help! A man wants to date my mom
My mom lives in an independent living facility (for now). She is borderline between early and moderate Alzheimers. I spend weekends helping her. It appears there’s a man at the facility who is interested in dating her. He came up to her with me there and put her hand on her shoulder and definitely was interested. My mom…
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Mother insists she can be alone
I searched for posts on this topic and I am sure there are some but I didn’t come across them. As I look back I think my mom has been showing signs of dementia for years. It wasn’t until Nov 2024 though until my dad and I really realize there was a problem - when she got lost in her own neighborhood. She doesn’t remember…
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Help
My father and mother have recently moved in with me because my dad was recently diagnosed with stage IV bladder cancer. We are helping care for him and take him to all of his medical appointments and treatments. My mom has Alzheimer's and he was her sole caregiver. Since moving in she has packed her things daily and wants…
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parent telling me mean things about sibling
Hi all, first time poster, I've had this come up recently and wondered if I'm the only one. My sibling and I each equally care for our parent, several times, my parent with dementia will say to me they prefer me to my sibling, this really breaks my heart because my sibling does so much for my parent and always, our whole…
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Thickening Liquids
Hello All - Just got a call from Hospice that they are now adding a thickener to my Dad's liquids. From what I understand a thicker liquid is easier to swallow. I guess they add some type of powder to his drinks. Anyone have a loved one on this? TBH I've never heard of this, but I'm sure its just another sign of…
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Private Pay One on One in addition at Memory Care Facility
Hello, My 86 year old mom had a stroke and massive heart attack almost 7 years ago. She survived, but now has vascular dementia and Alzheimer's (Alzheimer's started prior to stroke). She was at a memory care facility that was horrible. We moved her to this new place in February and love it. The staff is very caring and…
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New Caregiver Advice Needed
Hello - I'm new to this caregiving role and am navigating these responsibilities on top of raising 2 young kids, looking for a new job, and all the other things. Where are the best places to start in seeking help and locating resources? My mother currently has a pseudodementia diagnosis and I'm wondering if anyone else has…
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Morally Conflicted about Nursing Home
My 75-year-old grandmother was diagnosed a year ago with moderate dementia, which has now later turned into an Alzheimer's diagnosis. She is starting to slowly have "out-of-mind" episodes, confusing a very close family member with their parent (her son), etc. while these are infrequent as of now, they are suddenly onset…
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Caring For Parent
Both my Maternal Great Grandmother and Grandmother had Alzheimer's. And now, I am seeing more obvious changes in my own Mother who is now in her 70s. I live out of state. I am in CT and my Mother is in FL. The most challenging part is dealing with my Father, her spouse, who is in denial. He has been trying to shield my…
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Sudden issue with weakness & walking
I am caring for my mom who has memory loss due to dementia/alzheimers. Her memory loss became noticeable about 7-8 years ago. In the past several weeks she has suddenly become very weak when walking. She used to walk a lap or two at the track every other day and now struggles to walk a short distance around the house. I'm…
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Support Groups with Respite Care North Idaho/Eastern Washington
Does anyone in the North Idaho/ Eastern Washington know any dementia support groups that offer respite during the meetings? I know the Alzheimer’s support groups don’t offer this. But is there any other groups around my area that do?
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SOS/Aggression
I’m sending up the white flag and in need of some direction please My father currently had MS dementia. He’s been exceedingly agitated and angry lately and lately and he acted out against my mother tonight and I’m panicked I don’t know what our next steps are ; I obviously do not want this to occur again - nursing home or…
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Permanent catheter with dementia
I’m a caregiver for my mother. She has early onset dementia that she’s had for about 10 years. She does fairly but has a lot of other health issues. One of those being she has issues with her bladder. Her urologist is wanting to put in a catheter that would stay in all the time. I’ve never had any experience with a…
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Stages of Alzheimer's
My mother is 82 years old and was officially diagnosed in December of 2023. My sister and I had noticed cognitive impairment for at least 4 years before we managed to get her tested, due to her being in denial. As she progressed, we were "Google Doctor's" trying to get all the information we could. Her neurologist has said…
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My MIL is getting worse
My MIL has dementia and is now starting to forget to eat, and isn't really taking care of herself. My SIL lives with them, but it's more like lives "off" them and she is NO help! I've noticed my MIL losing weight and not looking as put together as normal. When do I know when the time has come to get her more care. She…
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Moving mom from AL to MC
this day is going to be so hard. We need to move mom up to MC. She has been wandering and walked out of the building. It is now a safety issue and we need to do this but it is breaking my heart. I don’t know how to navigate it all and how often I should visit after. I currently go twice a week and sibling goes twice a…
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How to help with dementia and sundowners
I am new to all this. I worked in a dementia care unit as a companion but it is nothing compared to feeling so helpless when it comes to my grandma. My dad wants to put her in a home and I gave her my word I would not let that happen. It breaks my heart seeing her decline and not know who I am. I had never even heard of…
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New to Group
Good morning community, I just connected to this support group. My 86 yo dad is struggling more each day with memory loss. He has always had some sort of learning disability and suffers from profound hearing loss. The increasing level of dementia is complicating daily interactions. I have a sister who lives 5 minutes from…
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How do I tell my mom we are where we are because of her illness?
First, my mom refuses to come to terms with the fact that she is mentally declining and that we need to address the fact that she is not just forgetful, but that she has severe memory loss, had a small stroke, and is starting to experience delusions. Of course, she denies and becomes enraged when these things are brought…
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My Mom Finally Got An Official Diagnosis
So after almost three months, my mom has officially been diagnoised with major cognitive disorder, aka dementia by a geriactic care provider. According to her, silent strokes from a while back (which affected her brain) and my mom's unresolved grief with my Dad were major contributing factors. It has been recommended that…
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So I guess this how it goes? One day your are fine and the next you are not
I realized I cant take care of 2 dementia patients on my own. So now I need to get agreement from my Dad to go into the nursing home. I spent 8 hours today dealing with them, doc appoints, falls, ambulances, hospitals - all in one day. I can't take all this stress. Its destroying me.
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Mom girgals after eating
Hello, has anyone noticed this with their LO? It looks like she is choking and is in pain.?
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MCF after stay in psych hospital
It has been a long while since I last posted an update here (I did last week yet found my answer) and am truly thankful for this site. My MIL finally got moved to a MCF this afternoon after a week plus stay in a psych hospital after she had a catastrophic event at my BIL and SIL’s house. My DH and I live in another State…
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When you just have to say NO
My mom is stage 5/6 she has hallucinations (even medicated) her big one is a dog. She is constantly looking for this Shepard (she has never had a Shepard) we do have a beagle and she enjoys him but is obsessed with this shepherd. I’ve played along for a long time, distracting her changing the subject but she has become…
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Time for Depends?
I am caring for my 94 year old mom who has dementia bordering on stage 4/5. Lately she has had accidents at home and out and of course does not remember them. I have tried to get her to wear Depends when we go out but she refuses. My dad, 95 years old, wears them when we go out as his cancer medicine can sometimes cause…
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Clarity VS deep sleep or unresponsiveness
My 91 year old mother has vascular dementia and shows a pattern of two days of clarity and sleeps for 3 days nonstop and back at clarity again. This has been a pattern since Jan 2025. She was diagnosed in 2020 and lives in a Care Center Facility. Is any of your love ones with vascular dementia going through this cycle?
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Walking difficulties
My mom has been telling us that when she walks she feels like she is running. I experienced it firsthand this weekend. We went out for a walk and started out slow, she then started going faster where it was almost hard to keep up. When walking she is leaning forward. If I was not holding on to her, she would have fallen.…