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How do I apply for FMLA in NY?
I’m working full time and a full time caregiver to my Mom who has the beginnings of dementia with full on sundowners. I’m an only child but I do have a family friend who comes to be with her for 3 hours during the day. Some days/nights are though and it’s taking a tool on me. Mentally, physically and emotionally, I feel…
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I feel guilty/bad daughter
My mom is 90 with symptoms just beginning (she being in denial). I try verrry hard to remember it is the illness but have difficulty sometimes. How has anybody else dealt with feelings of guilt and/or being a bad child. I want the rest of her years to be peaceful, but she is like a child and makes it difficult to reason…
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New… Dealing with Mom’s Hallucinations
My mom is in her 60s and her pcp says she is having brain slips and in stages of dementia. I am trying to get her seen by a neurologist and someone recently recommended a geriatric psychiatrist as an alternative for an assessment. It has been 3 months since the diagnosis and she was given an antidepressant. She is now…
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My story, please read
hello. My father passed away in July 2023. We discussed before my father passed that my mom would have to come live with me. She was not to live alone. Mom had mild dementia at the time. The night my father passed. Mom came with me and stayed with me for 2.5 years. My first year with was cook or do the things she used to…
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Caring for my mom/ posterior cortical atrophy
Hello,new here and was just wondering if anyone has or have a lo with posterior cortical atrophy??
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MOM IS WAKING FAMILY MEMBERS TO FIND CAT THROUGHOUT THE NIGHT … HELP !!
My mom lives in the same house as me and my family and has for the last 10 years. We have a family cat that over these years has decided, especially in the last six months to a year only have … meaning she is completely fixated and obsessed with all things cat related. All day she asks where the cat is if he’s not with…
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Help With Checking for Dementia
Needing help with the beginning process of figuring out how to check for dementia. My mil just had a CT scan and is going to have an apt to check the results tomorrow. She has a lot of signs already, but more recently it's been forgetfulness more so plus incontinence (she doesn't try to go to the toilet anymore) and won't…
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Rehab to Memory Care
Hello, my mom is 77 and has advanced dementia. She has been living in memory care since this past March. She had lived alone for 20 years but was getting progressively worse, then couldn't stand up, ended up in the hospital last Jan. Then rehab for 2 months where she got better physically. The Dr's there thought she needed…
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My mother
My mom has dementia and extreme aphasia (trouble with speaking/words). I have a tough time dealing with active grief around certain things like forgetting it’s my birthday and other life events. Wha suggestions do you have?
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New To The Group
Hello All - I am taking care of my 80 year old mother who was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's last year. She has lived with my wife and I since 2024. She has had noticeable behaviors since 2022 when our dad passed away. Mom has progressed to the point where it is not safe to leave her home alone for extended periods…
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How to assume the "parent role" with your parent
Both my parent with dementia and I are having a hard time with me assuming a more caretaker role. My parent is on the younger side for midstage dementia—early 70s and was an independent successful woman who lived states away from family for the past two decades. She rarely asked anyone for anything and also didn't get very…
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Sending someone in memory care to inpatient behavioral health
So my parent increasingly has been having delusions and consequently was aggressively exit seeking this morning. The memory care is on the ground floor and the hallway doors to the outside actually do open if one presses on them for 30 seconds. She refused to come back inside. As I understand it she went outside to both…
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How to file complaints with memory care
I'm super angry about a decision made by the head administrator of the memory care my mom is at. I think it was a terrible decision but probably doubtful that it was legally negligent. In any case when the whole crisis of the situation resolves I want you to file complaints with the board of health as well as corporate.…
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MCF/Hospice Care - Standard Comfort Pack Medications
Hello, Mom has been in a MCF for almost 3 yrs now. I consider her cognitive decline has her in late stages of dementia. She is up and around with a walker, speaks with lots of word salad and eats generally well. She has been on hospice, a partnered hospice connected with the facility, since 10/2024 at a time when mom's…
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Please read my story and thank you
Hello. My father passed away in July 2023. Before my father passed, we had discussed that my mom would have to come live with me. She was not to live alone. Mom had mild dementia at the time.The night my father passed, Mom came with me and stayed with me for 2.5 years. During the first year, she was no longer able to cook…
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Worry about roommate
Mom is in a nursing home. She is probably stage 4 vascular dementia. Her memory isn’t too bad and she remembers family, but her logic and reasoning are not good and anosognosia is so bad. Her current roommate is very nice. She has health issues, but not dementia. They get along well and it has been good for mom. Her…
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Bringing Dad home?
In the mild-moderate-severe way of describing stages of Alzheimer's, my dad has one foot in "severe". He is in MC and the care there is pretty good. But he is so sad not to be with family. My mom is living with my husband and me. We tried to care for both of them, but my dad is very independent and would not let me or my…
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Mom Passed Away & Dad’s Struggling - Advice Needed Badly
Hello! I’m in bad need of some advice. My Mom passed away on January 4th and my Dad, who is in the middle stage of Alzheimer’s, is really struggling. They were married for 66 years and had been living in assisted living for the past couple of years. Neither of them could drive or leave the facility with our help. They were…
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Burn out
Hi, Lately, I feel so tired and burnt out physically, mentally, and emotionally. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimers in August. He started his first treat with Leqembi on Tuesday. He was sicker than a dog. I am watching my mom struggle to take care of him. I feel like I don't know what to do. I give my mom good advice. I…
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Morphine
I got a call from my mom’s hospice nurse on Friday night that they wanted to start her on a very low dose of morphine. Apparently she had a bad week, and said she wasn’t feeling well/was in pain. She couldn’t say where, they thought maybe her hip, x rays showed nothing. Shes been eating less (we already knew that) and now…
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How are you? I'm...here.
Sometime I'll have time To properly mourn When people stop asking What year you were born But my time is your time For however long You need me to turn on You favorite song I wake you up gently We'll do it together I write down the day And the time and the weather I carry your books While you search for your name On the…
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New Here
Hi, my mom has been having cognitive decline for a few years but hasn't been diagnosed. She turned 70 last year and Ive been trying to help but have little help or resources. She can still mostly take care of herself, has my father.. so power of attorney is not in the cards yet. My father has his own problems and won't be…
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How do I go about transferring my parent to another memory care
I'm wondering how to approach the subject of transferring my parent to a different memory care in a different state with her current memory care. I'm happy with the current memory care but I would like my parent to be local to me as I am her power of attorney and there is no longer the same compelling reasons for her to be…
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Sleep Disturbances After I Visit
Hello everyone - I'm new here…as many of you, I am dealing with countless challenges…one of them is that I feel like my Mother gets more anxious after I visit her. The days I dont visit, she sleeps relatively well. But the days when I visit she wakes up several times a night and calls me asking where I am…and tells me how…
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Severe fixed delusion
My father has struggled with undiagnosed and therefore, untreated mental health issue throughout his life. The last few years have been very difficult because he now has some dementia and has developed a delusion related to his health where he thinks that doctors have intentionally infected him with something (like a…
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Vacation Guilt
My mom has dementia that is progressively getting worse. My dad has no cognitive issues and is her caretaker but also is somewhat in denial, at least to me, about her condition. Every summer, my husband and I go on vacation with our two children at a beach a few hours away. Before my mom's condition really declined, my…
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Affordable Care Options around Minneapolis
My mom needs a nursing home situation a.s.a.p. My stepdad is caring for her but it is too much any longer. They cannot afford the minimum $10K homes that we have looked into. I don't think she'll qualify for Elder Care Waiver and most homes won't even take those until you private pay for a couple of years. HELP!
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Picture book for dementia patients to help them understand their condition?
Hi! First time posting. I took my father-in-law to his appointment where he got a diagnosis and, although he couldn't engage much in the conversation with the doctor and I, as soon as the doctor left the room he asked me, "What did the doctor say? My brain?" I did my best to explain in simple enough terms he would…
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Coping with Increasing Sleepiness?
My father is at stage 6 according to the DBAT charts and has been in MC more than a year. He started napping in the afternoons several months ago, and he has been sleeping more and more. He is often resistant to getting up. When he is up he reports being “exhausted.” I know this is a common part of disease progression. I…
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Worried
My dad was recently diagnosed with middle stage dementia. My mom is currently taking care of him at home, however we both have noticed he becomes agitated more often and I am worried for my mom. The doctor told us that they would not prescribe him anything unless he becomes combative. I don't want to wait until then. Does…