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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/19/25
TODAY’S INSPIRATION THE LORD IS WITH YOU AND ME Psalm 3:5 New Living Translation I lay down and slept, yet I woke up in safety, for the Lord was watching over me. me: Our lives might be a struggle, but you and I are never alone without help. In Psalm 3, David writes the Lord is our shield and our glory; He hears us and…
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Neuro Pyscological Testing
Well, mom's new pcp is on top of her game and I am so pleased. After mom failed her SLUMS test, the doctor finally was able to get my mom a neuro consult. She has an HMO, so annoying referrals are required.😢 Anyhow, referral obtained, appt made. Mom saw the neurologist today for them to review her MRI from July and consult…
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Care conference
Mom moved to snf about 6 months ago. She is doing well for the most part. Her memory isn’t too bad, but she struggles with executive functioning, logic, and has bad anosognosia. She presents herself very well. I have a letter signed by two doctors stating she is not capable of making medical of financial decisions for…
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Driving with MCI diagnosis
I am 77 years old and recently diagnosed with MCI. I have few symptoms. My husband went to a support group recently and was told I should not be driving. Because any symptoms I do have are not really difficult from those typical of “old age.” I hate giving up driving. Any thoughts?
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It’s finally real
I’ve known my mom has dementia for at least a few years but we finally got the official Alzheimer’s diagnosis a couple months ago. I moved her into an assisted living community a little over a year ago because it wasn’t safe at home but we were dancing around the dementia issue and focusing on getting her heathy otherwise.…
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Dementia Paranoia Psychosis
My dad is in the hospital for a real physical ailment. But he is getting extremely angry and combative with staff. He is convinced they are all out to harm him. I don't know what I can do because I can't help him when he is delusional. I feel hopeless and out of control of the situation. He literally is refusing medication…
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Accusations
My mum is still officially undiagnosed but has been assessed by social workers and has confirmed memory loss. She always loses things (so do I) but it is literally everything with my mum. Unfortunately she accuses other people of taking things. She has accused my brother of stealing money and his daughter of stealing…
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Lost My Father Tragically - Learning How to Move Forward
Hi everyone, My father died as a result of dementia. During the night, he became confused and unsafe, something dementia had been causing more and more often. He left the house, and by the time my mother found him in the morning, it was too late. Writing that still feels unreal. What I am struggling with most now is guilt.…
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Supplements?
Hi All, This is my 2nd question here I’m posting. Knowing now that my dad has dementia, I’m now interested in taking any conceivable preventative actions to benefit myself. To my knowledge there are (at least) 2 well-known OTC Memory Supplements on the market. One of them is Prevagen and I’m not sure offhand the name of…
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Capgras Syndrome
I believe my mother has Alzheimers. She is 78 years old. My father is her primary caregiver. The challenge is she often seems to have Capgras Syndrome. She will go through periods where she does not recognise him and thinks he is an imposter. My brother lives with them and tells her this is Dad. My Dad tells her it's him,…
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found out
I just found out today that my mom has Alzheimers. she's in her 60s and yes im in my 30s but its still a shock. I had to tell my 17yr old son today. The doctors caught it early on, however its still hitting me hard. how does someone cope with this news?
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Refusing to shower
I have tried everything under the sun to try and help my mother (70) to shower. I have read articles, books, these discussions, you name it. I've tried things like a shower chair, washing her hair in the sink, washing her face in the sink, baby wipes. NOTHING helps when it comes to showering. Every time we approach the…
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Dad won't let Mom sleep (or clean or be on the phone)
Hello all, Apologies if this is somewhere on the forum already, I wasn't sure how to search for it. My dad was diagnosed with dementia about 2 years ago. He wants my mom's complete attention and so she has trouble going to care for her sister or being on the phone or internet or cooking or cleaning or sleeping! We help as…
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In pain, exhausted, and resentful
There is no one thing that I need to get off my chest. I'm just super annoyed and emotional. No matter how many of mom's doctors I give MY number to, they invariably or intentionally call hers. She cannot relay a straight message, and I am finding communicating with her to be a grand waste of time. This is a woman who was…
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Finally at Peace
First of all, I want to thank everyone who makes this site possible and to all of you who have been my lifeline for the last 3+ years as I have navigated this ugly disease with my dad. I could have never gotten through it without all of you. Dad passed last evening around 5:30. It was so peaceful. No one knew it was coming…
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I am just learning my mom may have Alzheimers
I am a daughter of a 78yr old woman. Around 7yrs ago my mom took a fall and knocked out unconscious. As time went on she had little confusion. In the last several months my siblings and I noticed big differences with her confusion, forgetting things either we tell her or she tells us. She is also a caregiver for my 84yr…
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Where do I start?
My 72yo Mom was just diagnosed with dementia. She lives alone. I have no clue what I’m doing. I have an appointment with senior services to do an assessment (not even sure what they do?) and an appointment with neurologist (not until end of next month). Is there a checklist somewhere? ugh, I don’t know where to start. I…
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Mom (MS-LS, more LS) just broke her hip in Memory Care
Hello, Long time lurker, first time poster. Mom (88) was ambulatory with walker in MC with what is probably early Late Stage dementia (word salad, often incontinent, but still sometimes in on the conversation.) She fell and broke her hip early AM yesterday. We were told she is not a candidate for surgical repair - between…
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ER visit, then more decline??
Yesterday I had to call 911 as my mom passed out and gasped for breath as she was trying to enter the bathroom. She said she couldn’t straighten her back, so I got a chair behind her so she could sit and then she loss consciousness. In the ER she was treated for hypotension and dehydration. A cat scan (? stroke) was…
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In home care for parent- does not want help.. Los Banos, california
hi everyone, my mom is sliding quickly with memory and mobility issues. Still wants to cook and take care of inside of house. Memory problems are getting worse by week.. does not see this.. refuses care outside house. Need someone to come in periodically… where do I start? Thank you everyone
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Learning to grieve
My mom was officially diagnosed with early onset Alzheimers in January, although she has been showing symptoms for quite some time now. My mom and I have always had a close, yet complicated relationship as she was a single parent and she had a hard time "letting go" of her baby. Back in August, she had ended up with strep…
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Moved exes in together
My 87y FIL, Alan, has mild dementia and has just gotten a pacemaker . 86y MIL, Sue, has Alzheimers...diagnosed 3 yrs ago. They are divorced (50+ yrs) but friends. Sue lived independently until 6 months ago, then moved in with her brother, 6 hours away. She's miserable and misses her family...and we miss her. Alan lived…
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rough day w dad in MC "Get me out of here!"
Hi community, Dad was pretty agitated today during our visit. Redirecting was not working, so I had to cut my visit short. I'm wondering what I am missing or if you all have more ideas for me to consider. Here's some context plus what I'm seeing lately. He tells me that he just has to get out of there. Over and over. I…
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Caring for parents - Long distance
New here, live out of state of my parents. Dad is over 90, now in a long term care facility for almost a year. Recently formally diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Mentally he continues to deteriorate but for the moment he seems medically stable otherwise. My concern now is my mom, approx 90. She is having fairly severe short…
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Trouble lifting
I am brand new to this online discussion board. It’s been a hard longer years caring for my parents. My 92 yr old dad insists on keeping mom at home and we have paid caretakers for my mom who is 88 with late stage dementia. Just recently in the last two weeks she is no longer able to walk with her walker stand alone and…
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Mom is still Transitioning
This means dieing and it's been two days and she hasn't passed away yet. What should I be doing, while waiting. I am sick, tired, exhausted, and emotionally drained. But can't sleep. I was thinking about calling my family but they are feeling the same. I went to church and prayed. I have my cross next to me just waiting…
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Terminal Lucidity
My dad fell two months ago. Seemed to have accelerated Alzheimer’s. He pretty much stopped eating since and recently was only drinking very little. This past week he was admitted to hospital with severe dehydration. The dehydration caused his heart rate to accelerate to 130-140 and blood pressure to be lower at 95/60. I…
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Is sending a letter to mom with the truth a bad idea?
my second post here. I was light on details the first time. Mom has been in MC for about a year after being diagnosed with dementia. I was concerned about cognitive decline but ignoring it. She has had a lifelong distrust of the medical system so had not had regular medical checkups to monitor anything. There is also some…
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Hello! ☺️
I'm new here, I am an adult taking care of my elderly mom who was recently diagnosed with Dementia. I often find it difficult to understand her strange choices and behavior, and become highly stressed over them. I am wondering whether anyone else is familiar with this, and have any information on how best to help her.
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My mom just said she is the most comfortable she has been in her life
I know this won’t last. She came home for a visit. We’re hanging out on the couch watching Yule log after a meal I cooked (poorly). She is on hospice, needs an aide 6 hours a day, and hardly says full words. But for just one moment…I asked if she was comfortable and she looked at me and said “believe it or not, I’m…