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Dealing with Burnout
Hi, all. Haven't been here in a while. I'm dealing with severe burnout. The last few years were incredibly stressful, having my mom live with me as her dementia progressed. I placed her in an MCF last fall, which turned out to be a nightmare, and now she's in a lovely ACH where she's cared for very lovingly and with…
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New to this group .
Hi I am new to this group . I am really haven a hard time dealing with my dad have dementia and stage 5 kidney failure . He has been in hospice for almost 2 months now. I am feeling extremely guilty for placing him into a nursing facility . I truly tried to take care of him but it took a mental & physical toll on me . All…
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Dad with necrosis
My dad, 89, VD, has started getting necrosis in his feet. How serious is that? He is bed bound and his feet are wrapped up with foam to prevent them from rubbing against each other. Is this terminal? What should I expect? Anybody here have any experience with this?
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My Mom Keeps Misplacing Things & Thinking My Late Dad Is Still Alive
My mom has a UTI (urinary tract infection) that is causing dementia symptoms. For the past month and a half, she's been misplacing things and then blaming it on my late Dad and insisting he is alive and messing with her. He's been dead for more than a decade, but she never came to terms with it. She was taking meds for the…
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Personal Care Tips
Hi all - my mother is in the later stages of dementia and has all but stopped her personal hygiene. I obviously try to get her into the shower. She resists say she has already showered earlier, or that she will shower later that evening, or a lot of other excuses. When in the shower, I am not sure she is doing a very good…
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Covid vaccines/boosters
Has anyone had parents that took the Covid 19 vaccines that contained mRNA be diagnosed with Alzheimers or Dementia? Both my parents did and we have no previous history of Alzheimers on either sides of the family.
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How to talk to Parent about moving to Independent Living when they don't want to leave their home
Any advice on how to talk to parent with mild dementia who does not want to move out of their house into a care facility? For reference, my mom got diagnosed last Fall and is now having issues with remembering to take her medicine and eat, also can't keep track of days and is forgetting how to use her oven. My sister and I…
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Bible Verse for Caregivers 4/13/2025
DEAR CAREGIVER, DON’T WORRY Matthew 6:34 New Living Translation * JESUS’ WORDS “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” JESUS IS OUR LORD AND SAVOR. When He says, “Don’t worry,” He knows whatever trouble, whatever danger, He can take care of us and those…
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Behavior changes
looking for tips on how to redirect aggressive behavior, agitation and combativeness in my mother with moderate/severe Alzheimer’s. This behavior tends to flare in late afternoon/early evening.
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A Reluctant Caregiver for Both My Parents for Nine Years
Hello friends here, Yes, I had help when I took care of both my elderly invalid parents, but it still was difficult. For those of you who don't know me, my mother progressed into severe dementia and could no longer do anything for herself. My stepdad, George, was legally blind, and eventually progressed into heart failure…
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Hallucinations and Delusional Thoughts
Our father has been suffering from hallucinations and delusional thoughts for several years. Now, it has reached its peak, with him talking to someone he claims is "Alice." He has been having full conversations with her, waking up with remarks like, "Wow! That's weird," "Hello?!?, who's there?," and "Wow, wow, wow." He…
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I’m new
hey guys as you can see I’m new here. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s a couple of years ago but has had it a while before that. My step mom just placed him on a memory care facility and it was honestly the hardest thing I’ve had to go through and am still trying to accept. I go up there everyday to help him but…
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When to enact POA?
Hi everyone, I am new here. Both of my parents have dementia diagnoses but it's my mother who my siblings and I have the most concerns about. In a nutshell- both parents are 86, living in the same home for 50+ years 2 miles away from me, in-home caregiver for 30 hrs a week, Dad has moderate physical care needs (uses a…
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"Going home"
Hi - I'm new. I'm caring for my mom long distance. We had her at home with in-home care, but she just doesn't understand that she has any problems at all and wasn't cooperating with the help and just couldn't be left alone safely. So we moved her against her will into assisted living. She is essentially on the…
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Trying to do the right thing.
My mom is in memory care about 1.5 hours from me. Unfortunately because I have young kids, and do not live close, my visits are not as frequent as they should be. Next weekend I planned to bring the family to visit but now I’m not sure. My sister lives close to mom and visits often. She let me know today that the last few…
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Could a moca test be wrong? Or I am in denial?
hi everyone I am new to the forum. This is my first post. I am a caregiver right now to my 86-year-old dad who has moderate dementia and I am struggling with processing and handling everything going on over the last few weeks. He was in the hospital then a rehab (foot infection) now back at home and the wheels have come…
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Looking for advice
Hi Everyone, this is my first post. My mother, age 75, has dementia. She and my dad live in their own home. My mom hasn't been feeling well for the last few weeks which led to a hospital trip this week for tests. All were negative except for a UTI which is her second one in the last few weeks. During this time I found out…
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Dad with Early Dementia
My mum has alzheimers and late on now but with Dad im experiencing far more of the i dont live here or getting taxi home and not sleeping at all. He gets up in night with clothes on occasionally and i stop him going but now i am wondering if thats the right approach as there is no "other" place/home. Really exhausted with…
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Coconut oil?
Been doing some research on diet changes and the effects it has on Alzheimer’s. Has anyone ever heard about/or tried coconut oil to slow the Alzheimer’s process? I know omega 3s are important. Just trying to see if there is anything else I should be doing for my mom besides the standard drug treatment.
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New to caring for a parent with ALZ (and to this forum)
Hi all. I am new to this board/ website. I just found it today and figured I would dive in. I am not sure I know what I'm doing writing here other than sharing my story and letting it out in a safe place. It's ok if I don't get any responses, I just need to let it out. My dad turns 80 next month and has ALZ. He was…
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Planning first visit to memory care
I'm planning my first visit to see my parent in memory care. I'm out of state so it's a big endeavor. I'm traveling by myself without my family. Besides visiting with my mom, The purpose of the trip is to check out the memory care facility, meet the staff and then check out the surrounding area to plan excursions with a…
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Providing Support for my Family
Hi, I am looking for some advice. For some background, my mom (58) was recently diagnosed with EOA. She no longer works and is home during the day with my brother (28 with down syndrome). My dad lives with them, but works full time. I (25) live nearby with my fiancé and I also work full time. My mom is obviously going…
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Visiting new Dr with Mom
we are going to our first Neurologist appointment with Mom and I wanted to get thoughts on how this could go. I feel like there is a lot we need to communicate to Dr so she has the full picture but I am sure Mom will not communicate. Do they typically meet with patient and then caretaker after as well? We have medical poa.…
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Frustrated That My Mom Won't Acknowledge Health Problems
I've been my mom's caregiver from 2013 (age 22) to now (age 34) . Right now, she has multiple health conditions colliding with each other: early dementia symptoms (currently trying to get a formal diagnosis), depression, dehydration, kidney problems. The depression isn't new to me or my siblings, but the other health…
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But what if it's something that could be treated?
My mother has always been afraid of ALZ because as her own mother aged, as soon as she became moody and forgetful, her sisters insisted this was ALZ and sent her to live in a gross, smelly facility (my mother's words, but not untrue). Now as she is in her mid-80s, my mother is showing signs of memory loss and potentially…
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New To Forum. Mom has UTI that has progressed dementia symptoms
Hi all. I'm 34 & I've been my mom's primary caregiver since I was 22. For the past decade, she's had some memory problems (misplacing things, forgetting what day it is, forgetting how to navigate some driving routes, forgetting there's a boiling pan on the stove). Yet this was always managable with my help until recently.…
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The weight of the world on my shoulders
Hi - I'm new to this forum. Warning - this is going to be a lengthy post as I just need to let some of this out** Thank you for being kind. I finally sat down and joined because I am at a breaking point with being a caregiver to my mother, a mother of two teen girls, a wife and the primary (and only) income earner in my…
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Falling Apart Caring for my Mom
Hello. I am not doing well. My dad had Alzheimers in the last 7 years of his life, and I cared for him. I thought that was all over when he died in 2017. Then in 2020, it started all over again with my mom. It's been 5 years now, and I'm going absolutely bonkers. My life is falling apart caring for her. Almost everything…
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Never been so exhausted
I am new to this forum. My mom has alz and vascular. I have been taking care of her since she was diagnosed 4 years ago. My husband retired early so he could help me(last September) Over the past 1 1/2 years she has gotten progressively worse. I had no idea how much harder that it was going to be as time went on. I sleep…
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BIBLE VERSES TO INSPIRE CAREGIVERS 4/4/25
THANKFUL, INSPIRED & WILLING Ephesians 2:10 Good News Translation “For it is by God's grace that you have been saved through faith. It is not the result of your own efforts but God's gift, so that no one can boast about it. God has made us what we are, and in our union with Christ Jesus he has created us for a life of good…