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all the emotions
I am a nurse with my mom having dementia.I have never in my life had a bad patient as this .We used to get along well.Now we clash.She cusses at me.She is not the same loving person .At times I see this look of hatred for me.Im having a hard time dealing with all of this .
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Mom doesn’t want to see me in MC
anyone ever dealt with this? My mom doesn’t want to see me. Like pushes me away and says “exit exit exit.” She won’t talk to me. It’s relatively new but definitely tied to her decline. What can I do? I don’t want to just leave, but don’t want to upset her either. Any advice?
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Laundry Obsession
I had previously posted and asked for advice for my Dad who is obssed with doing laundry. It is now getting so bad that the whole facility is trying to come up with something to make him stop. I know he feeels useful and needed but, it's getting out of control. His private caregivers, he has 3 different ones thru the week…
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Finally Got POA! Now What?
Hi everyone! So today is the day that I finally focused on getting POA over my mom, and thank god I did. Poor thing could barely do her signature she kept getting so anxious :( But regardless, yay we got it done! Now who do I need to send it to?? Do I just give it to all of her doctors, her bank, her landlord?? Should I be…
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Email account mistake
I thought I would share this in the hopes of preventing others from making the same mistake. Then again maybe maybe it’s obvious to others and I just wasn’t thinking clearly. Mom is old enough that she has never had an email. When I started helping her with bills and finances maybe 5 years ago, over the years I created…
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Mom Diagnosed with Early Onset at 60
Hello, I am new here and looking for advice. My mom had been experiencing some forgetfulness the past couple years. She lost her job about a year ago because she couldn't handle the tasks required of her. My brother and I tried to get her to go to the doctor multiple times for diagnosis but she refused until… she was a…
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Irrational thinking
Not making sound dental care decisions. History repeating itself with her health. “I’m in charge”. How do you let someone suffer because of poor choices hoping they will eventually see the light? Not diagnosed with Alz or dementia at this time.
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Please help me keep my sanity
I wrote some of this in a reply to a comment, but thought I need some more support. I’ve been with my mom for the past week and she has done nothing but yell at me for the last 3 days. For context, I came to her house last week to take her to a doctor appointment, where she finally was given a memory test and did better on…
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Ready to give up
Anyone who has been following my saga knows I’ve been staying with my recently widowed mom for over a week because I became alarmed about her confusion during my last visit. At the beginning of this week, I was determined to get her into AL right away. Now after seeing 2 doctors who both basically told her she is fine and…
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Don’t want to be a caregiver
My mother is 72 and she moved away from us after we encouraged her to see a neurologist and psychiatrist for mental health problems, persecutory delusions, and hallucinations she was experiencing. My husband and I both work full time very demanding jobs, we have young kids and pets. It’s a 6-7 hour drive now to my mom, but…
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MMES test
Finally got my mom to her doctor, discussed with the doctor first our concerns about her confusion and memory loss, they gave her the MMES test — and she scored a 24 out of 30, which is just below "normal." Our experience with her is that she is much worse than this. She has been struggling for a long time with dates,…
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Having trouble with Mom
Hi, I'm new to the Alzheimer's world, as my mom was just diagnosed. The doctor wants her to have a brain MRI and she is giving me a hard time about scheduling the appointment. My dad and I took my mom to the doctor last week to be diagnosed and at that time, both of my parents were fine with the idea of the MRI. Now my mom…
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Testing, testing, and more testing
I am so impressed with mom's neurology team. It is a large practice. She saw the neurologist in December. She ordered the neuro-psych exam. Unfortunately, they are so backlogged, their testing couldn't be done before end of March. I requested to be put on their "1st cancelation list" to get an earlier appointment if…
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Home care aggression
Hi! I’m looking for some advice - mom my was “approved” for 24/7 at home care but we’ve been struggling with her being aggressive to outside caregivers. She’s so sweet - until she’s not- which seems to take about a week then she wants them “out of her house”. She’s on all the typical Alzheimer’s medications & mood behavior…
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Sundowners so bad/ wild women please help.
Hello, My mother came to live with me just a week and a half before Christmas. She was on a memory pill, but while she was in rehab they took her off of it. They said it wasn't know longer helping her. So when she was supposed to have her follow up with her Dr once she got out, she had to see a NP instead. So I wrote him a…
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Fmla or mental health disability leave from work
has anyone taken a leave from work to help their loved one get situated into a care environment? I'm contemplating taking a leave from work to do this and it would either be fmla (partially paid by the state if I qualify) or mental health disability (paid through company disability insurance). I'm really overwhelmed trying…
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Changes with food behaviours
Hello community, I wanted to see if anyone had observed a similar situation: since a couple of months, my dad (FTD-Parkinson, not Alzheimer, advanced stage) is spitting most food we propose to him that are salty, including those that he used to love. We thought it might be for his teeth (as he has some issues) but if we…
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88yo mother
88yo mother in memory care after a broken hip. 88yo dad living home alone visits every dad about 7-8 hours. Mom with her dementia blames him for her circumstances and he gets angry and frustrated, blows up and storms out of the facility despite the fact we tell him constantly she cant help what she saying and talking to…
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Struggle with my identity 🥴
I received a call from my dad gf he was transitioning a year ago, I tell her to call ambulance, something felt off. Dad is hospitalized, no longer walked, multiple infections, and weird things begin happening with his girlfriend. She blocked me, she told hospital they were married, she would talk to him like a brainwashing…
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Living as dependent
My mother and I live together as her early onset Alzheimers gets worse. I am still considered her dependent, and as an added bonus have severe disabilities as well. She will not let me talk about finances with her. I dont know how to approach this the right way, because I have nowhere else to live if she went to memory…
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I need to go to MY house
My mom is in the middle stage. She is constantly wanting a ride home when she is already home. What are some ideas that to make her realize that she is at her own house. She is getting increasingly agitated when we try and explain that she is home.
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My father
This might seem different, but my living situation has been that I live in a large mostly one floor house with my parents. My mom had retired at 69.5 (now 72) to take care of my dad and his Early Onset (diagnosed at 67, now almost 77). My mom recently just helped make sure my grandmother was taken care of too in her last…
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Asking "I want to go home"
Hello, I recently started to care for my mother-in-law she is recovering from a stroke and has mid stage dementia. We relocated her from another state as she can no longer live alone. She asks about going home every hour it seems like. I try to change the topic and divert the conversation and it works for a couple minutes.…
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Taking car from dad
We have been trying to take the keys from my dad, not happening. He lost his keys, but remembered that my mom had a set so he took hers. He carries them with him even at home and will not let us have them back. When we tried to hide them he became furious and very agitated, the anger in his eyes is real and he looks like…
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Sleep too much?
My mother’s sleep patterns have changed over the month. She previously would sleep 9-10 and nap once during the day. Now, she goes to bed as early as 5pm and sleeps until 11am AND naps from about 1-4pm. It can change day by day, but she is just constantly sleeping. She’ll eat breakfast but that’s the only meal. No…
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Feeling too responsible for my 101-year old dad with dementia
Hi! I am new here and this is my first post. My 101.5 year old father lives in his own home and has 4-5 different caregivers who provide 24-hour care. I would say he has moderately high dementia in that he is sometimes very confused, sleeps a lot, can't remember what day it is, etc. He walks with a walker, can converse…
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How to move forward?
Hi there. My mom was formally diagnosed 2 years ago, though we as a family have noticed she has been progressing more quickly than before for the past few months. Unfortunately, her dad, who also has Alzheimer's and lives in a memory home, needed to be set up with hospice care last week. This has caused an even further…
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How do we get any sleep?
Mom has not yet been diagnosed with dementia but has an appt to see a vascular neurologist in May. She has small vessel disease in her brain and infarcts have been seen in frontal and corona radiata areas. Nights are horrible at our house. She isn't able to sleep and wants me to stay awake to make sure she is safe even if…
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When is it time to stop Rivastigamine?
Friends, Dad is stage FAST 6/d, or prox. Had a big memory decline in the last month. Can't do any part of showering unassisted, can't remember where his room is in small care home. Tam Cummings (?) said something to the effect that the acetylcholine meds have benefit but also just make the worse stages longer. My words,…
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When to know
I currently live with my mom and she was diagnosed with vascular dementia and Alzheimers six months ago or so. She is definitely starting to change but its hard for me to tell because I am around her all the time. She still drives, etc., and I am not sure when I will know i should take her keys away, etc.