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Newly Diagnosed Parent with Dementia - Feel Stressed and Overwhelmed
My 80 year old mother was diagnosed with early Dementia earlier this year. She is also bipolar (diagnosed 30 years ago). It has become very difficult lately as she thinks she does not have dementia - she has forgotten the diagnosis from her neurologist. She told me yesterday her psychiatrist told her she doesn't have it.…
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Rehoming
How do I help my mother understand she is living with me now and can no longer go home?
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Using or borrowing person with incapacitated persons car
I am my parents with dementia poa and they are officially incapacitated and in memory care. I am cleaning out condo. We're donating most stuff, shipping other stuff. she has a nearly new nice car. She has said "take my car. It's new and very safe." can I legally take her car for my personal use in a different state than…
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Father keeps asking where my mother is...
I'm sure this has been addressed many times previously, but I just signed up today. So I'll ask. I moved my 85-year-old parents into a personal care facility 4 months ago. My mother needed the extra care, but my father was fine even though he was in the throes of dementia. My mother passed away after 3 weeks in the…
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Looking for ideas to a rather specific situation re: mom obsessing
Hi - We moved my mom into AL back in May. She has moderate mid-stage AD and, although she had been living in her own home until then, I had started living with her part time because she was afraid at night and starting to struggle with keeping up the house, etc. The facility we chose has a step up program called "Bridges"…
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Losing patience
My brother who has power of attorney just brought documents for my mother to sign to receive some payouts from life insurance and the military. Since yesterday afternoon she believes that she got a deposit and has been pestering me about paperwork. I suffer chronic illness. I provided care for my stepdad as he died of…
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Helping Mom Get Help
Hello! This is my first post here and I’m glad to have found this group. Mom is is assisted living and will soon be transitioning to memory care. There’s a lot to that which I will unpack later. My immediate focus is that I have added showering and dressing support to her care list. She can physically do both, but doesn’t…
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At home caregiver help
Hello All! I am looking into hiring a helper for the weekdays for my Mom. I feel like she needs more attention than we can give her. What kind of questions should I ask a potential helper? I am meeting with a facility that hires out helpers this Saturday. I have vetted the company itself as much as I can online. I am…
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Alzheimer's and Finances
My 84-YO dad has Alzheimer's and is living independently still. He lives close to me, so I see him every day. As most of our loved ones, my dad does not recognize he has a memory problem. I am his POA, Guardian, etc., but he honestly doesn't remember us putting all that in place years ago. How did everyone take over the…
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The Right Answer
My Mom is in early stages of Dementia, lives along and is very stubborn. My sister and I are her care givers. We have seen her decline while making bad decisions. Our current situation is that she would like to go visit her friends in another state for a few weeks. She has visited early this past summer and things went…
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Depression and Alzheimer’s
The last few months my mother has been really battling depression. She was on a mood stabilizer for awhile, but she wanted to stop that because it was causing her to feel tired all day long. Recently her neurologist prescribed an antidepressant called Auvelity. I’m hesitant to give it to her because of all the potential…
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Zoom Group Meeting?
Is there any way we could all get together and chat on zoom maybe once a week, or every two weeks? I feel so absolutely alone, and I'm sure many of you do too. It would be nice to make friends with others who are struggling with the same collection of difficulties. I have a zoom link that we could all use. Anyone…
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Loved one is pretending
Hello! Just frustrated today. I have caught my Mother-in-law pretending to shower a couple of times now! She turns on the water so I hear it running; she comes out with her "dirty" towels and throws them in the laundry, but when I check the towels are not or barely wet. Maybe she is doing a sponge bath but I doubt it. How…
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Say something/Don't say something?
Background: I went through dementia with my husband so I'm aware of the brain changes that happen. I notice when something is suddenly "off". I have lived with my mom since my husband passed 3 years ago. She loves Christmas so we have done big time decorating for the grandkids. A year and a half ago we did a HUGE project.…
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My parents are stubborn
Hi! This is my first post here. My dad has ALZ. I'm not sure what stage because his neurologist hasn't told us. He's progressing. My mom, my dad's caretaker is really struggling with accepting dad's behavior changes. My dad did a lot, all the driving, yard work, filled the car with gas etc. She's not a confident driver so…
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Geriatric Psychologist
Hi, My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She is still in stage 1 and can be independent. Has anyone gone to a geriatric psychologist and did it help?? I appreciate all the help I can get. Thank you!!
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When siblings do not help
Hi, I have a mother who was just recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I have 2 other siblings, but they do not move unless I remind them. I am annoyed and frustrated. What can I say or do for them to help out?
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Rexulti , insurance wont cover it
hi there, have a prescription for Rexulti for my mom w dementia & Alzheimer’s, however the pharmacy says Humana will not pay for it, & it’s $1,400.00 if I pay out of pocket. Does anybody know a Canadian pharmacy they trust? Thank you M
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My Mother's Siblings
I have a question, what should I do about my mother's siblings who are coming from out of state and want to spend all day at our house? I think that it's too long and offered a 3-4 hour visit yet they complain. Any thoughts?
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Dad, strained relationship
My dad has just been diagnosed with dementia. He and I have a strained relationship, but my sister and I are helping him as much as we can or as much as we can handle. our mom died November 20 22 and within the last year we’ve both noticed a decline in our Dad so we’ve had him tested. His memory is OK but his impulse…
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LO Needs External Help But Won’t Accept It
Our 88 year Mom, who lives alone and, was recently diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer’s. Mom’s drivers license was revoked following her diagnosis, and her children moved her car out of her home so she would not attempt to drive. The social worker assigned to help us, following Mom’s diagnosis, advised us that Mom should…
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Not there then right there
I’ve noticed that when I arrive for a visit, my mom is usually a little confused until I acclimate her. She recognizes me, but is not exactly sure who I am. Occasionally, especially if we talk a bit (meaning I talk about normal stuff in my life and she listens attentively), she says REALLY lucid things! Like today, I asked…
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Favored daughter of three
I’m the middle daughter of three sisters, and I’m struggling with the challenges of caring for our aging mother. I’m a licensed mental health therapist, and I can see signs that my mom may already be in the mid-to-late stages of dementia, but my sisters won’t acknowledge it or pursue a diagnosis. The youngest, who is the…
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Brand new here; question about ptau217 test
My mom (68) was evaluated by a neurologist last month for suspected cognitive impairment. She performed poorly on the cognitive tests that were administered. The doctor ordered bloodwork, and today we learned that (a) she is an ApoE3/4 carrier and (b) her Quest PTAU217 level was 0.19. The note on her e-chart stated that…
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Maintaining my marriage
My MIL has not been diagnosed that we know of but she is extremely forgetful, paranoid, and just plain cruel. She swears the doctors have told her she does not have dementia but refuses to let any family or her husband go into the doctor's office with her so we seriously doubt that is true. My husband (her son) and I are…
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Moving Mom
My sister and I are getting things ready in my mom's new room in Memory care. She will be moving in on the 2nd. Any advice from those that have already moved their parent? What things did you find helpful? What didn't go so great? Necessary items for the room? Any advice would be helpful!
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How to answer questions about going home.
My lo is in assisted living for past 3 weeks, she constantly cries that she wants to go home. She has moderate dementia and is 95 years old
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How to Respond to Family/ Friends who mean well but their comments are a bit much at Times
A family friend says tell your mother Hello, even though she may not remember me. Or I heard she is really bad off.
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Should you tell mom that her brother has passed away?
New to the group here. Mom has late stage dementia, is 93 and her brother who lives in another state passed away. My dad who is 94 insists on telling her. I don’t think we should. I’ve gotten advice from medical professionals explaining the risks (and lean towards not telling her). I have to respect my dad‘s decision, but…
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Bathing why it’s a struggle
I’m new to all this and the group. Yesterday was a bad day for me I have never reached out before but mum for the first time ever got so angry and nasty to me it was a shock never has she done this before in my whole life and I’m 52. All because I’m trying to get her to bathe. I hope and pray she doesn’t start to associate…