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Exelon patch
went to the neurologist today finally! Mom scored 19 out of 30 on the memory test. 6 months ago she was 21 out of 30. Is that fast decline? Dr mentioned possibly doing an exelon patch. Anyone have any experience with this?
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Mother very angry - need help
My mother was diagnosed about 2 years ago, and she's steadily declining. She has haunting memories come every week or so of when my father had an affair over 20 years ago. They got back together and had a whole life after the affair, but she is reliving the experience of when she first found out about it all those years…
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Brand new and Mom doesn't want to admit dementia.
I moved in with my Mom a year ago and have been taking care of the finances and keeping things going. Mom is 82 and her Dr. diagnosed her with Alzheimer's. She won't talk about it and is now refusing to see the Dr. because he won't listen to her. I think she is fine 90% of the time but is now forgetting the names of family…
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both parents have dementia
Hi My mom has a diagnosis of Alzheimer's (early stage but noticeably progressing), my dad, while he doesn't have a formal diagnosis, has some form of dementia. They live together in their home. My mom has anosognosia, thus denying anything is wrong with her. It took us 2 years to get her a diagnosis and she refuses to take…
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Struggle with clothing
Are any of you dealing with the struggles of clothing with your LO? When my mom moved to AL near me 3 years ago, she got rid of most of what was in her closet. Not sure why, maybe fit? She constantly tells me she needs to go shopping to buy clothes and she is correct, so my daughters and I have taken her several times. She…
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Mom is Scared dad is going to hurt her
currently mom and dad still live together. Mom has not been officially diagnosed but we are sure she has dentists or Alzheimer’s. Neurologist appt is this week. Mom is so paranoid and untrusting of dad. Through out the day she will get scared he is going to hurt her or push her down . We try to tell her he isn’t and that…
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Long Distance Dilema
I posted the following earlier in the week in a different discussion; the person who replied suggested this would be a more appropriate discussion topic as he/she was the only reply to the original post. I hope someone maybe has suggestions or has had a similar experience and let me know how they navigated the challenge. A…
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Use of "Buy Nothing" Facebook groups
Regarding my mom's constant requests (and demands) for things, I have found my local community Buy Nothing group has been great! Mom mom has set up a miniature "office" in her bedroom in her AL apartment. She had a large home office throughout her life and she always had it stocked (over stocked) with office stuff. So she…
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Recent Diagnosis
I am really glad a community like this exists. I recently moved back to live with my family since my mom's dementia diagnosis earlier this year. I was working and living a few states away and am a few years out of college. It has been a lot of big changes for my family recently and I am never sure I am making the right…
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camera monitoring
Funny (or not) story: When my mom lived alone, 4 hours from me, and no one checking on her, she gave me permission to install a camera that could show her kitchen and livingroom area. It gave me peace of mind that I could check she was okay or at least moving into areas of her home. I was able to see she was eating dinner…
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Use Assisted Living physicians?
My MIL is moving into an assisted living community that contracts with a service that provides primary care through their own physicians and nurse practitioners. I'm wondering if it's best to switch her records over to them, with the obvious benefit that most of her health care visits won't require her to leave the…
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Delivering Bad News
Looking for some advice on how to have difficult conversations with someone with dementia. My mom was diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia in January. We recently moved her into an assisted living facility as she is not able to live alone safely anymore. She is relatively young, 63, and while she definitely has some…
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FTD
I’m very new to all of this. So my dad and I just found out this week that my mom has Middle stage of Alzheimer’s. We knew something was going on with her mind but we found out how bad her memory really is. I have read a few things on trying to deal with the anger issues and it is so hard to. How does the caregivers keep…
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Unhappy Birthday
It was my birthday today. And as my dad sang me happy birthday from his bed in a nursing home, my mom was just glazed over. It didn't register at all. It was a profound moment for me. Only 2 years ago she had it in a loop in her mind to tell people that her kids were born on the same day. The people she told were family…
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Successful Strategy: Circumventing Buying Expensive Shampoo
My mom moved near me with a small very expensive bottle of shampoo that her old salon had been selling her. $60 for 8 ounces! And she kept demanding more once she moved here. I tried and tried to explain how it wasn't necessary to pay that much. I even researched shampoos that would give "similar" results at a reasonable…
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Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer Diagnosis
My dad who is an incredibly healthy 75 year old (exercises, good weight, good diet, social, optimist) was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's Disease two months ago. Right now he is in the mild cognitive phase. Does anyone have someone in their life who has both? I'm trying to grasp any idea of the timeline…
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Daughter of a dementia parent
I am new to this group. I am the oldest sibling and I do most of the caring for my mother and I need some tools that I can use so I don’t lose my ever loving mind every time I’m over there
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Admitting to something you didnt do??
I know that part of being the caregiver for a person with Dementia is being accused of stealing when they misplace stuff, (like shampoo, coats, glasses) etc. When you find the item you are accused of stealing they say "oh no thats the new one I just bought" or they say "you just brought that back after stealing it". Or…
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Wondering if this happens to other parents.
I don't post very often but do a lot of reading of other post. My father was diagnosed 6 years ago with Dementia but was wondering about things I have observed over the last few weeks with my Dad. Over the last few weeks my mother and I, they both live with me as I help care give for them both, have noticed my Dad tends to…
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Dementia progressing...
My mom's dementia has been progressing so fast. She lives in a skilled nursing home, but no longer knows where she is. Although I am not her caregiver, I am her primary everything else. It is so hard to talk to her and hear her be so lost and confused. There's times where her voice sounds so familiar, like we can just have…
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Successful Strategy: Amazon "Teen" Account
I want to share an amazing, life-altering, successful strategy I've been implementing for 3 years with my mom (mild-mod ALZ). My mom has always been an Amazon-aholic. Before I moved her near me into AL, she would buy all this stuff and try to return them and getting confused and I had to straighten it all out. Now I am the…
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Parent making insulting remarks towards visitors and other residents
My parents is on a geripsych unit and I get so uncomfortable when she makes insulting remarks about other residents and visitors regarding their appearance or being crazy. She makes these remarks to me but says them so loud so they can hear. I'm scared when she says mean judgemental things about other residents and…
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A Full Moon Effect?
Friday and Saturday, my PWD was agitated, anxious, and a lot more verbally confrontational than usual. Today everything seemed OK again—or at least back to our current baseline. This behavior coincided with the full moon, and I am wondering whether you see such an effect in your LO. A quick search of the web turns up…
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MC and the ER
Here we go again. I visited mom this morning and was there when her palliative care nurse came to make a monthly assessment. The nurse noted that mom was pretty drowsy. This was early in the day, which is normally her most alert and interactive time of day. I told the nurse that I have noticed this extra sleepiness ever…
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Guilt and Obligation
Hello all, I may just be venting with this post but I know there are many here who will hopefully understand. My dad is 87, vascular dementia, living in AL for 2 months now. While it was hell first getting him to give up driving 6 months ago, then hiring a caregiver, then getting him to move, this was the best choice for…
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how to care for angry person
How do you care for parent who is angry at you. My mom constantly tells me and others I am stealing her stuff (shampoo, and other stupid stuff) She has gotten to a point where she is banning from her home, but I am the closest of family member and the most available to help my dad. She apparently rants all day to him. How…
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resources until "official" diagnosis of Dementia
What are some resources we can access until we get the official diagnosis. My mom seems to be progressing SUPER FAST, in the matter of months she seems to have moved from stage 1 to stage 5 or 6. We have the MRI and doc appt scheduled in a cpl weeks but she is becoming a threat to herself and others in the mean time.
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Can anyone recommend a GPS device in the form of a bracelet or necklace so I can track my mother mov
Looking for a device that my mother can where so I can track her whereabouts? She doesn't always take her phone with her when she goes out. So I thought if she could have a device on that she doesn't remove so I can track here on my phone. She doesn't wander at the moment but I rather be prepared in case she does
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Meds for people with dementia
What medication has proven useful for people with dementia? My parent is at a geriatric psychiatric hospital unit due to agitation and very frequently auditory snd visual hallucinations that were escalating. It turns out the escalation of her symptoms was due to an increased dose of setraline, 100 mg. The drs took her off…