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Moving Mom to assisted living details overwhelming
Mercy. I am going back and forth with moving Mom with dementia to assisted living or memory care. Now she is home alone. I come every three days to clean her diabetic wounds. My two adult children have mental/emotional challenges; so help is sporadic. I was offered Social Worker options for assisted living using her…
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New here
Good morning everyone. I finally took the step for myself. Talking to someone else about what is happening in my life right now and them knowing how I feel. It’s hard to tell someone who don’t know this disease to every understand. Hopefully I can remember this tool and utilize it. Well, my name is Mia. I been caring for…
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Roller Coaster/Long Distance
Edited - attempt to clarify questions New here. I am a 6 hour drive from my parent's, currently able to visit about monthly. Can't count the trips in the last two years. Only child ( with a thankfully helpful spouse). Mother with MD > VD + light AD from the primary diagnosis. She is in hospice care and likely LS by…
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What did the initial drop off to memory care look like?
how did you get your loved one to memory care? Apparently pretty much no one wants to go. How did you get them in the door and what did you tell them when you dropped them off? How many people knew about the plan? I'm concerned my parent will call me everyone including people we haven't told about the placement. How long…
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Programs for late stages
My mom is 74 in we are told she’s in the late stages of Alzheimer’s. She has started having issues swallowing. She can no longer follow conversation. She just tells you the same stories. She is still verbal but just can’t find the right words. She can barely answer questions without being confused. We have to help with…
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Supporting both parents
Both my parents (79 and 78) live with us in their own attached apartment. My mom (79) is in the very early stages and is still very active. My dad is struggling with her memory changes and becomes angry and frustrated with her. I am looking for how best to support my dad wand how best to support myself as we navigate this…
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How To Talk To Mom Resisting Help?
My mom has dementia and my dad is primary caregiver with my siblings and I supporting. She can’t be alone for long ( leaves stove on, wanders into neighbors apartment etc) so we plan to alternate working from their apartment once a week for 3 or 4 hours so dad can leave and get a break. Any ideas on how we present it ? She…
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Dementia acceptance
New here. My mother has moderate stage of dementia but does not believe or accept that she has it. She was diagnosed about 3 years ago and now believes she just has bad short term memory due to being 82 years old. She has transitioned from being angry and mean to making up false memories and rearranging the house every…
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Don’t know what to do
My parent has had dementia for years and was holding fairly steady. They turned 100 a couple weeks ago and it’s like a button was pushed. Forgot how to use the bathroom, kicks & screams when I try to help etc. I got them to wear an incontinence brief but they refuse to take it off. Help….
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mom coming home,the dilemma
Hi i am new here, my mom Alzheimer/dementia has been getting progressively worst over last few weeks, she is in nursing home facility. i am working on bringing her home. in these few weeks, she has been having a deep sense of sleepiness. not due to meds. we found out Friday her kidney r functioning at 49 percent, part…
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Suggestions and thank you
My mom lives in DC and I live in Virginia. For the past few months, my husband and I, have been traveling back and forth. I am a special education teacher. I was missing so many days. I was made to take off from work without pay (all my PTO was used up) to get things straight to bring her with us. It's been a…
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Obsessed with thinking the internet company is "Stealing"
Does anyone else have to do this or just our family?
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Need advice and direction
my mom was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s two years ago. In June the doctor gave a prognosis of 6 to 9 months. At this point mom walks with greater difficulty, is partially urine incontinent and in pull ups full time and I am assisting with shower temp, dressing, food prep, cutting food, etc. her sentences are…
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At what stage of dementia did your parent move from Assisted Living to Memory Care?
Was it too early or too late? Words of advice? Currently my 96 year old mom is getting assisted living level care, supplemented by a private caregiver during the day for supervision and companionship. She has alz stage 4. Does not shadow, wander, or sundown. Has some awareness of her memory deficits, so is holding back…
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looking for some hearts and souls that understand
Hello Dear Community, Dad and I went to a neurologist appointment today to get him established with someone here after his move closer to me. You all have supported me through so much already. I thank you. It was our first time out together since his move here in late June. It was good to be out with him. I was so nervous…
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My Dad has gotten aggressive and totally opposite of how he used to be
I know so many are dealing with this horrible disease and know it is a struggle!! I stay with my parents to help my mom with my Dad and she doesnt have the best health herself and I am also a single mom to a 10 yr old boy. I feel as if I am trying to carry the world on my shoulders as between work and taking care of…
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Caregivers appropriate decisions
Hi, New here. My mom has moderate to severe dementia. She is in an assisted living . I manage all her financial and medical decision as she is not capable per the doctors. She knows me and her friends. However, she does have hallucinations (seeing deceased husband, animals in her room). She regularly accuses people with…
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Have to drive our mom 7 hours
My brother and I are all new to this. My father kept if from everyone. My mom is entering what we think is late stage and we have to get her to a care facility 7 hours away. My father just passed away and she was not well cared for at home with him. We found an amazing memory care facility, but it's a 7 hour drive. Any…
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My mom coming home
Hi my mom was diagnosed with both alzheimer/ dementia. Several yrs ago. Its getting worst. I placed her in a facility over a year ago. I hate it. I decided to bring her home. Im so overwhelmed with this journey it is very emotional. Im hoping talking to other caregivers will help me cope.
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Anxiety and Depression
Please share medications that have worked for anxiety and depression for dementia parents. My sweet mother is in late stages of dementia and cries at the drop of a hat and we have no idea why and she can’t tell us. I’ve read about different options but many meds state they’re not good for those with dementia and can cause…
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My kids and my mom
My mom moved into our home ( mine and my husband) in August due to mild dementia. Our children have been less than supportive of this because it changes the dynamics when they visit. They think she is a stressor for me. She probably is but at this point I want her with us. I look at her being here as a gift. I can not get…
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Self Motivated Activities
My mother has dementia. She’s progressed quickly the past few months but is still aware (mostly) of her decline. She seems to get “bored” and restless when not fully engaged. My family and I do our best to keep her active and engaged but the reality is we need to rest and reset regularly to be our best for her. She used to…
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MC/Long Term Care
Hi everyone, My mother (59) has Alzheimer’s and is started to decline. She has a home health care nurse come in once a day to help her with the basics. Unfortunately, I do not live with my mom (I’m about an hour away and work full time) so I cannot be there to help her as much as I’d like. I’m starting to stress about the…
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Getting my mom to her doctor appointment
I made my mom a Neurology appointment on 1/13. My dad is worried that if she finds out she'll have a total breakdown. So far she doesn't seem to have gotten any notifications about it, but she likely will get a text and/or email reminder for it. If we can even make it to the appointment day without her finding out and…
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How to deal with dangerous “lies”
Hi all, new here and first post. My husband is the primary caregiver for his elderly mom. Her dementia is progressing and as such, so is her misperception and “lying”. We attempt to redirect her when she claims her jewelry and money is missing or has been stolen. However, recently she told another family member that my…
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Staying up ALL NIGHT?
My Mom was diagnosed about 6 months ago. We have struggled to find the right medicine combo for her—initially trying to treat her with just Zoloft and Gabapentin, but after so many days of truly despondent mornings, we decided to Zyprexa. At her initial dose, she had a very quick improvement in mood (though an increase in…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 1/1/25
When Enthusiasm Is Gone Isaiah 40:30-31New International Version 30 "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; 31 but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." me: When my enthusiasm…
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Anyone have any luck with washable adult diapers?
Hello, Few hours till 2025 here in the east coast, but Alzheimer's doesn't care. It goes on. We're spending a fortune on adult diapers as my LO pees constantly throughout the day given the special nutrition therapy she's on. It keeps her hydrated and well-nourished, and calm, but… it makes her pee constantly. Changing 5 or…
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Refuses help
My mother-in-law has Alzheimers and still lives alone but in a senior apt community. She refuses to let us take over and help her with finances although we do have power of attorney for medical and our son was given and accepted the financial power of attorney. In the past when we've mentioned she needs the help, she has…
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Dealing with early stages of this awful disease
Hi I am new here and appreciate this type of forum as we are all having to adapt to this disease. Before we moved out of state we found out that our MIL had a brain tumor. We never had a conversation with her doctor but we could tell there were signs of slight memory loss. My husband made the move out of state before the…