-
Moving Mom to Memory Care - Questions
Moving day is set for Wednesday. Mom's memory care room is pretty similar to her bedroom in her AL apartment, and the furniture could be arranged in a similar configuration. The "story" we are using to get her into MC is that she is going to stay in "PT rehab" for a few weeks. She adores her AL apartment with "all her…
-
Overwhelmed caring for wife with FTD
My 75 year old wife was recently diagnosed with FTD. I am 77 myself and in compromised physical health due to my Vietnam war injuries. We sold our home and moved into a retirement facility which made life less complicated. But the issues I face caring for my wife are almost more than I can manage. I do not dare leave her…
-
Recommendations for GPS device?
Hello, I am new here. My father is in the late stages of dementia but still living at home with my mother until we can find an adequate assisted living facility for him. He has started to leave the house and wander so I am growing very concerned for his safety. We have alarms on the doors and cameras on the house but my…
-
Confusion and Meds
My mom is in early stages of dementia. She wakes up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night and then wants to take her morning pills. Bathroom is a trigger to wake up and start her day no matter the time. Any suggestions?
-
DPOA & Health Care Proxy
I have durable power of attorney for my mother, (who did this all 15 years ago). I also am her health care proxy. How does this all work? If the time comes that she should be in a memory care unit, but she does not want to. Does a doctor have to "activate" either of those in order to have her go into a memory care unit? I…
-
Passed away
Just letting you all know that my mother, with Alzheimer's, passed away 5/7/25 And dad with vascular dementia, just passed away 8/4/25 Now dealing with family members fighting over the will. Lots of financial and legal responsibilities for the executors and beneficiaries.
-
Time to move Mom
I am new here. My sister and I have been dealing with my mom's Alzheimer's for about 2 years now. We have tried to get both parents to move to assisted living with zero success. They are both incredibly stubborn. To make an all too familiar long story short, it is time for mom to go into Memory Care. Any advice to making…
-
Cared For Grandparents and Now Mother
Hello! I helped my mom care for her parents as they suffered with dementia and Alzheimer's for several years before they passed. It was physically, mentally and emotionally difficult on both of us and traumatizing for my mom especially. Now, 4ish years since her dad passed, my 60 y/o mom is showing her own signs. She's…
-
Where do I go from here?
My mother was diagnosed 1.5 years ago with ALZ. She lives at home with her boyfriend of 15+ years and has lived there for about 8 years. She has gone off for a walk twice now within the last 4 months. The first time she walked 4 miles to her sisters house. The second time she was angry, left the house, seems to have been…
-
Overwhelmed caregiver.
My mom just got diagnosed with frontotemporal dementia 6month ago. Sometimes she will be her normal self then she someone I don’t recognize. Someday I can get her to take her medication with no problem then another day she resist. I’m having hard time keeping the house clean because she leaves things everywhere and brings…
-
Deaf Only Child, Struggles with guidance..
hello amazing caregivers, This may be a long post, which I am typing as I think and go. Please bear with me as I do so. mum was DX with vascular dementia on Presidents’ Day this year. Hubs and I suspected it longer than that, as she is stubborn to seek medical help. This is a tough situation and subject to share. Mum…
-
Eliquis questions
My mom,who recently fell, is in physical therapy and occupational rehab hospital right now. She is scheduled to probably be released in a few weeks, and she may or may not be walking on her own by then. I had reported the fall to her heart doctor because she also is on again off again in A-fib and has been for a very long…
-
Surrendering leased car and alternatives to driving
We will be turning my mom's leased car in this Friday. My mom, who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2021, seems to be an OK driver (no accidents yet) but we recently moved her from NH to MA to an independent living facility in my neighborhood. She already let her NH license lapse and would never be able to handle the…
-
How to find a doctor to do capacity assessment for DPOA
We've been dealing with Mom's dementia for a while now, and we really need to activate her DPOA. It requires us to get an assessment from two "licensed physicians." Problem: I called Mom's doctor, and they had no clue. The office people don't think the doctor has ever done that. I don't know what kind of a process I need…
-
LO Has Been Diagnosed 15 years
Has anyone dealt with slow progression AD? My MIL was initially diagnosed in 2010. She was in early stage AD. 15 years later, she is at Stage 4. Her husband has been a faithful caregiver. No one is complaining. We have had the opportunity to share many more holidays and special events than we ever thought we would. Has…
-
So new to this
My mom was newly diagnosed . I have 1 million questions - but can I start with this ? Has anyone had any luck with getting home care ( housework ) covered ? My mom has Medicare and supplemental . I know it is a long shot - Thanks !
-
Dementia worse in nursing home
Has anyone had their parent get worse immediately if placed in nursing home? My dad was placed in nursing home a couple of months ago and his dementia is definitely worse. He can't remember the place he just lived in for the past 25 years. Its so sad.
-
Fear of being alone
my mother has maybe stage 6 dementia and she is terrified of being alone, to the point where I can’t go into the bathroom without her. I don’t mind bringing her with me, or keeping her in eyesight at all times (which she needs for safety reasons anyway) but the terror and anxiety she is feeling is gut wrenching. I hold her…
-
New Here!
Hello, I am the 40-something daughter in law of a PWD. I cook for her and my FIL at least once a week (he is is her primary caregiver). Meals at our house, meals at their other child's home and meals out. All their lives, the boys (her only children) and husband were and still are MAJOR "ball-busters" - for lack of a…
-
How long is it safe to leave someone with Stage 6 Moderately Severe Dementia alone?
Hi all, new to the forum, been supporting my mother diagnosed 5 years ago with Alzheimer's. Most of my support has been to help my father, the sole caregiver, take some breaks and figure out next steps, and to increase the contentedness my mother has and decrease her anxiety. I spent half of the last two years off and on…
-
Moving Mom to Memory Care
Hello, just needing some help on how in the world we're going to get my mom to go to a memory care facility. My brother has talked to her about it, but she refuses to go. Since my dad passed she has become very attached to her dogs and I have found some MC facilities that accept dogs. I know she would be much happier…
-
New to all of this
Hi I'm looking for some support and guidance on dealing with my mother having dementia she was diagnosed with it at the beginning of the year and we're halfway through the year I have watched the person I love the most go from super woman to having to depend on her children now for things that used to be so easy for her. I…
-
Won’t stay asleep
My dad won’t stay asleep the whole night, we have tried different kinds of melatonin. Any suggestions?
-
Got a gut punch yesterday
Yesterday, I visited my mom at her AL facility. I took her to lunch and to the grocery store. We had a great time. As I wrote in another post, she is scheduled to move to memory care next week. As we walked up and down (all of) the aisles, I was thinking this was probably the last time we'd do this. She is still mobile but…
-
Obsession with winter clothes
While my mom has finally adjusted to her new home in AL, and is actually doing a million times better than I could have ever hoped, she is obsessed with going back to her house to get her winter clothes. She knows is summer and she understands it's nearly 100 degrees outside, but she keeps telling me she has to have her…
-
Mum accusing me of stealing
My mum is accusing me of stealing various things which is obviously very upsetting. She doesn't want me to go to her house any more, is nasty to me when I speak to her and convinced I'm a theft, which is hard because I go to visit, take her and my dad out and now can't support my dad .Any suggestions ? X
-
Guardianship
I am the middle child, and the only girl. My mom has appointed me POA for both health and financial. Of course there has to one sibling that will not play by the rules, my oldest brother. He has recently purchased a vehicle in my mothers name. She didn't know what the heck was going on when I asked her about it and neither…
-
The money is gone!
Mom has been in Al for a year and a half. When we moved her in they said they accepted Medicaid waiver. I was never told family would need to pay the remaining. Partly my fault, I should have asked better questions. The facility is not what I had hoped it would be and I’m not sure how much longer she could safely stay…
-
Problems with some staff at the facility
I am new to the forum. I will try not to rattle on. My mom is in the early stages of Alzheimers. She is living in an assisted living facility in our close knit community. Being close knit, I knew most of the workers there and they were friendly, all except for one. We will call her Sara. When I heard Sara worked there I…
-
Mom Recently Diagnosed
Hello! My mom was diagnosed in June with early onset ALZ. We had suspicions and they were confirmed, but it still hard to accept. She and my father live down the street from me. My dad has Parkinson's and she is his main caregiver. I help take them to doctor's appointments, often cook meals, do yardwork, help with finances…