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dental care for bedridden mother w/Alzheimer's
I've been caring for my 89 yr old mother with Alzheimer's for several years. She fell & broke her hip this past February, & has been bedridden since. She has decay in her bottom teeth, & one tooth is nearly completely rotted away. As she can't walk, I can't get her to a dentist; & even if I could, she would likely not…
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Losing the better half
I lost my wife to this dreaded disease on Oct 12, and I cannot to the tears. I loved her so much and I took care of her by buying whatever was needed to make her comfortable. I made sure she was clean all of the time and when she was calling out for a drink, I was there. I bought her a hospital bed, a Pure Wick, A floating…
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Please help 😭
Hello everyone. My name is Susan. Just to give you an idea of who I am and what is going on 💔. I have two sisters and one brother. And both of my parents. My Mom is losing her memory and she is starting to get really mean. This is not my Mom when she is mean. My Mama is a fun loving, carefree, kind and caring woman. But…
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Christmas in MC
My mom has been in MC for three months. She has never stopped telling us she wants to leave, it’s been a constant during every discussion and visit. She is approx at the end stage 5. She can still hold conversations (with added delusions and confabulations). She was obsessed with “moving” out by Thanksgiving and is now…
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Antibiotics for (presumed) UTI
I noticed on mom's last pharmacy bill that she'd been prescribed an antibiotic in mid November. I had heard nothing about this so I contacted the NP who provides care at mom's MC. She replied that the med was prescribed "at request of staff due to some behaviors." I also heard nothing from MC last month about unusual…
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Really Need Help With My Mom and Dad, Could This be Dementia? Dad’s Behavior
Hi, I’m 49 and living with both of my aging parents. My dad is almost 80 and has been obsessively bringing up my mom’s past—accusing, interrogating, then apologizing and repeating it again. It started suddenly in early May. He has also: Forgotten recent events or where he placed items Told the same old stories repeatedly…
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Mother wanting to leave AL - arranging movers
I just moved my mom into AL the day before Thanksgiving - not even two weeks ago. That day she said she’d “sleep on the couch” (I haven’t sold her condo yet). I said she was moving that day, and she had to stay there. She’s been in the decision-making process of where to go. I tried to pick the best possible place, and…
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What Should I Say?
I am visiting with my parents for a few days and my Mom is very confused. She has Alzheimer’s . She often does not recognize my Dad and thinks he’s an imposter. She is scared of him. He will tell her it’s him. My brother lives with her and he says “that’s Dad.” My Mom is very confused. She says the only two people she…
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Need suggestions on responses, please...
I am new here, and I have been reading through some posts and it is really comforting knowing that I am not alone and this is reasonably "normal". However, I could really use some advice: My mom is now in a memory care unit, she believes it to be a hotel. She will keep asking me if she needs to go to the front desk to pay…
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Electrical work
Hi. This is my first post. I have a relative who is in the middle stages of cognitive decline and is waiting for an appointment to receive a more official diagnosis. Their spouse insists that he live at home. Over the years he's done most of his home repairs. He believes he is still capable of doing such repairs and helps…
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New here. Need help understanding.
I’m at the beginning stages of learning about dementia and how to help my mom navigate dementia. She recently became aggressive toward me and accused me of stealing some dolls from her. She told me I was the devil and she was going to shoot me with a gun. Although I wasn’t in any real danger, it was still scary and it…
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Medicare Question
Hi everyone, My mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's (mild) state. She currently has Medicare under an Advantage Plan - United Healthcare. Because of her new diagnosis, we are considering moving her back to Original Medicare in order to have more options for care. Does anyone have advice about this (i.e. having Original…
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Trying to adjust
Wife 78 years old has dementia first noticed problems 4 years ago last year she was afraid to be alone and I quit job to care for her. Now she is at the stage where she can’t speak coherently and gets upset when I can’t understand what she is saying, Entered a memory care facility 2weeks ago after making sure for years…
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Emotional Support
I am living for 2 years now with my 78 year old mother who currently has dementia. She is now prone to falling cause she often gets confused while walking in our apartment. She had fallen last month cause she bent down to pick her glasses up off the floor. She then fell earlier tonight cause she didn't understand when I…
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Decline when placed in Memory Care
Regret regret!!! My LO was placed in a Memory Care facility just three weeks ago. They were living alone and after three weeks needs wheelchair, has fallen four times, wears diapers, can hardly feed self and mumbles. He walked with walker into the facility on the day he was admitted.... what happened! Is it the change that…
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Bible Verse to Lift You Up 12/19/25
TODAY’S INSPIRATION THE LORD IS WITH YOU AND ME Psalm 3:5 New Living Translation I lay down and slept, yet I woke up in safety, for the Lord was watching over me. me: Our lives might be a struggle, but you and I are never alone without help. In Psalm 3, David writes the Lord is our shield and our glory; He hears us and…
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Neuro Pyscological Testing
Well, mom's new pcp is on top of her game and I am so pleased. After mom failed her SLUMS test, the doctor finally was able to get my mom a neuro consult. She has an HMO, so annoying referrals are required.😢 Anyhow, referral obtained, appt made. Mom saw the neurologist today for them to review her MRI from July and consult…
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Care conference
Mom moved to snf about 6 months ago. She is doing well for the most part. Her memory isn’t too bad, but she struggles with executive functioning, logic, and has bad anosognosia. She presents herself very well. I have a letter signed by two doctors stating she is not capable of making medical of financial decisions for…
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Driving with MCI diagnosis
I am 77 years old and recently diagnosed with MCI. I have few symptoms. My husband went to a support group recently and was told I should not be driving. Because any symptoms I do have are not really difficult from those typical of “old age.” I hate giving up driving. Any thoughts?
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It’s finally real
I’ve known my mom has dementia for at least a few years but we finally got the official Alzheimer’s diagnosis a couple months ago. I moved her into an assisted living community a little over a year ago because it wasn’t safe at home but we were dancing around the dementia issue and focusing on getting her heathy otherwise.…
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Dementia Paranoia Psychosis
My dad is in the hospital for a real physical ailment. But he is getting extremely angry and combative with staff. He is convinced they are all out to harm him. I don't know what I can do because I can't help him when he is delusional. I feel hopeless and out of control of the situation. He literally is refusing medication…
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Accusations
My mum is still officially undiagnosed but has been assessed by social workers and has confirmed memory loss. She always loses things (so do I) but it is literally everything with my mum. Unfortunately she accuses other people of taking things. She has accused my brother of stealing money and his daughter of stealing…
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Lost My Father Tragically - Learning How to Move Forward
Hi everyone, My father died as a result of dementia. During the night, he became confused and unsafe, something dementia had been causing more and more often. He left the house, and by the time my mother found him in the morning, it was too late. Writing that still feels unreal. What I am struggling with most now is guilt.…
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Supplements?
Hi All, This is my 2nd question here I’m posting. Knowing now that my dad has dementia, I’m now interested in taking any conceivable preventative actions to benefit myself. To my knowledge there are (at least) 2 well-known OTC Memory Supplements on the market. One of them is Prevagen and I’m not sure offhand the name of…
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Capgras Syndrome
I believe my mother has Alzheimers. She is 78 years old. My father is her primary caregiver. The challenge is she often seems to have Capgras Syndrome. She will go through periods where she does not recognise him and thinks he is an imposter. My brother lives with them and tells her this is Dad. My Dad tells her it's him,…
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found out
I just found out today that my mom has Alzheimers. she's in her 60s and yes im in my 30s but its still a shock. I had to tell my 17yr old son today. The doctors caught it early on, however its still hitting me hard. how does someone cope with this news?
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Refusing to shower
I have tried everything under the sun to try and help my mother (70) to shower. I have read articles, books, these discussions, you name it. I've tried things like a shower chair, washing her hair in the sink, washing her face in the sink, baby wipes. NOTHING helps when it comes to showering. Every time we approach the…
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Dad won't let Mom sleep (or clean or be on the phone)
Hello all, Apologies if this is somewhere on the forum already, I wasn't sure how to search for it. My dad was diagnosed with dementia about 2 years ago. He wants my mom's complete attention and so she has trouble going to care for her sister or being on the phone or internet or cooking or cleaning or sleeping! We help as…
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In pain, exhausted, and resentful
There is no one thing that I need to get off my chest. I'm just super annoyed and emotional. No matter how many of mom's doctors I give MY number to, they invariably or intentionally call hers. She cannot relay a straight message, and I am finding communicating with her to be a grand waste of time. This is a woman who was…
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Finally at Peace
First of all, I want to thank everyone who makes this site possible and to all of you who have been my lifeline for the last 3+ years as I have navigated this ugly disease with my dad. I could have never gotten through it without all of you. Dad passed last evening around 5:30. It was so peaceful. No one knew it was coming…