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Dementia and cancer
I need major advice. My mom has dementia and was just diagnosed with stage 1 lung cancer. Very treatable, if not curable. All she has to do is go through some radiation. She is probably in stage 5 or 6 with dementia... very very paranoid about everything and anything medical all but traumatizes her. She is also a recent…
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When both parents need support!
Hi everyone, This is my first post. My parents are both almost 79 and live in a 55+ community. My mom has moderate dementia, and my dad, who has Parkinson’s (and possibly some early cognitive issues himself), is her primary caregiver. One of the biggest challenges is helping him understand that my mom needs simple, clear…
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Spending time with mom with Alzheimers
We are getting ready to put my mom in a MC facility. Physically, she is in great shape. She loves to go for walks if the weather is nice. I was planning on picking her up often from MC and taking her on walks to enjoy the beauty of Colorado. I was recently told from a friend that that was a bad idea. When we go to visit…
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Going crazy
Taking care of my mother in law and we are so lost is anyone available to talk
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Moving mom with alzheimers to a different state
My dad passed in 2020 and once he passed, my mom mentally checked out. My brother has lived with her since then and the Alzheimers has gotten worse. I live in a different state and come out every other month for a month at a time. It's straining my relationship with my family and my brother is mentally/emotionally done. We…
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Questions to ask Memory Care Facility
My brother and I are wanting to move my mom to a MCF. My dad, thankfully, bought long-term care insurance and after 5 years, we just mentally can't do it anymore. I have made note of the obvious questions to ask on my visit, but wondering if there's some questions that I may not have thought of. Also, has anyone else had…
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Seeing Two of Things
My mom has advanced dementia, about stage 5. She is constantly saying we have two dogs or two cats (we only have one). Sometimes she will double a person and say ‘Dan and Dan went there etc.’ Has anyone else encountered this doubling? Is she really seeing two of things?
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Placement/Agitiation/Aggression
My father has MS dementia. He acted out against my mother a few weeks ago and he is currently under a doctor's care at a local hospital. The issue now is that no facility will take him if he is agitated/aggressive. He is under restraints at the hospital because he keeps attempting to take IVs/feeding lines out (he refuses…
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Caring for mom with a/s of dementia
my mom clearly has signs of dementia. Have taken her to her Kaiser PCP to confirm and get HELP as I have no idea on what I need to do. Unfortunately after four visits, still no diagnosis or referrals or assistance/advice except deal with symptoms as they come! It’s really hard dealing with this. I want the best for her but…
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Caregiver
I want to be my dad’s caregiver and get paid for it. He only has Medicare. Any suggestions?
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I’m new
hi I’m new to this. I care for my dad who Alzheimer’s and I live with him. He’s 71
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Diagnosed. Total confusion. Down then up?
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Help! Dealing with Agitation, Alligators and threats of dying
My mom, 80 (living at home w/my 80yr stepdad) She has been on multiple painkillers, trazadone, Valium for years (I believe clearly over medicated)...who is been diagnosed by some drs with dementia/alzheimers ...and other not...clearly is suffering from dementia and delusions. Been in and out of MC for last 2yrs. But at…
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Dads journey
my dad is 89 got diagnosed in 2018 with Alzheimer’s my wife and I moved in with him so he could stay in his home he hasn’t gotten to a violent or non verbal stage yet but his incontinence has become more prevalent because of the Alzheimer’s no it’s 4or 5 accidents he’s a veteran was in the Air Force for 20 years working on…
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LGBTQ Eldery Father community
Hello my father was just recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s via MRI Amyloid scan. Its still early stages but as we know the eventual progression as he decided, which my sisters are aligned on, to not test the brain infusion treatments which only recently have been approved, we want to try as best we can to speak now about…
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Hallucinating and cussing at everything
Hello my mother was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s dementia about 4 years ago we have noticed lately she is hallucinating a lot and wakes up cussing at anything and everything and constantly yelling and saying I hate you,I hope you die, I’m going to kill you , and throwing out racial slurs . But more recently she took a fall…
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The denial worsens
Hi, new to the group. My Dad was diagnosed 3 years ago. My Mom is showing early signs and we know we are in early stages. She is currently a caregiver. After a Doctor visit, it was determined she has memory loss but stage unknown. Bloodwork and MRI. She refuses to do anything. The MRI is scheduled for this Sunday. There is…
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Parent getting meaner, no joy left
I am new to this forum and new to learning about Alzheimer's. My dad has had a steady memory decline but it finally was diagnosed as Alzheimer's. Recently I've noticed things have gotten way worse. Nearly every time we visit, the tension builds and he has an angry outburst directed at my boyfriend. This time he took a…
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Newly Diagnosed and I have questions
Hello this is my first time posting and I have questions. Of course I didn't think of these while we were in the doctors office today and won't be back until Oct. Anyways, my mom was just diagnosed with Alzheimer's today and was told to take 2 different medications. They are memantine and donepezil. My first question is…
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NHTD waiver for my Mom living with me Stage 6 Alzheimer’s
hi everyone, I’m pretty new on this forum especially posting a discussion so I’m not really sure if I’m doing this correctly. I live in upstate New York and I am my mom’s soul care provider. I moved my mother into my home eight months ago and I’m still trying to tap into NHTD waiver services in our area. Is there anyone…
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Plan B
Hi guys! Again, I am so eternally grateful to have found this group. I have learned so much in a short space of time. One of the biggest lessons learned is that a pwd can live 15-20 years with this vile disease. Anyone who has interacted with me before, knows that in December, my DM was diagnosed with MCI/Early Dementia.…
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Alexa assistance
Good morning! I am new to this community. My father, who lives in Florida, was diagnosed last fall with Mild Cognitive Impairment. Upon further testing, it was determined Alzheimers related. I'm in Wisconsin. He lives independently, but has a partner he spends his days with. He does not live with her. She is 85 and has…
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Paradoxical Lucidity
Over the past couple of weeks, my mother has declined rapidly. After another evaluation from a different provider, she qualified for hospice this time. She's incontinent, refusing to eat regularly, and sleeping most of the day now. Her ambulation has become more unstable with the shuffling gait so common with dementia. I…
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Memory Care closing
I received notice today that my mother’s memory care facility is permanently closing. She moved in September 2024 and has finally started to learn her way around and trust the staff I am angry and stressed. I know a move will not be good for her. And I am alarmed by this change. Is anyone else going through these sudden…
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Hygiene Issues
Recently my MIL has developed hygiene issues to the point she has a bad odor. She had given up using her walk-in tub and was doing a good job washing up in the sink. But within the last 2 weeks or so she hasn't been washing up and it's noticeable. Her use of antiperspirant doesn't help. She also isn't brushing her teeth or…
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Much Worse in Last Two Weeks
First post. My father died 21 months ago, and my mother was unable to care for herself due to declining health. She wanted to go to an assisted living facility, as she didn’t expect me to be able to take her in and meet her needs. This was and is true. Things started out rocky, as she would call me all times of the…
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Paranoia and delusions in AL
Hi all. My 84 yr old mother has exhibited paranoia for the past several years so I would say her Alzheimer's only exacerbates it. A year ago she moved to AL. She is not happy there (this place is crazy nice). She calls me daily yelling that staff are coming in her apartment at night using her coffee maker. This has been…
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Things are rough.
Moved my mom in a couple of weeks ago on the advice of her doc, who she used to love, but now refuses to go see. Said he only suggested because he and I were “in cahoots.” He said she needs to stop driving and let me help with meds. We “lost” her car keys during the move, but she has been obsessed looking for them for…
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Managing care
Hello, first post here. I am my dad's daughter and medical/durable POA. He has mid-stage LBD. He is physically pretty healthy except for chronic UTIs which we finally have managed. He is in a wonderful RCF with a nurse on staff and loving caregivers that adore him. But lately it seems like so many little things are…
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Garbled speech
Curious about garbled speech and wandering. Mom’s in MC, probably stage 6. Miraculously, her moods are good and she’s extremely well taken care of. The past few months I’ve noticed her speech is more garbled. She frequently uses mashed up words, and most sentences don’t make sense. She’ll repeat syllables almost like a…