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Vascular Dementia and hyperactivity at night
My mom has been very active at night, talking to herself, calling me, can’t settle down etc. anxious any suggestions? she is on 100 mg of Trazadone, rispiridal, buspar, visteral and nothing is helping her to sleep! She was also recently diagnosed with stage 4 kidney failure from an arthritis medication side effect. i feel…
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Dad with Dementia.
This is my first time posting here. I care for both of my parents. My dad has been living with dementia for nearly four years now. Over the past week, his aggression and anger have increased significantly. Usually, when he becomes upset and fixates on something, I’m able to redirect or calm him down. But this week, nothing…
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Alternatives to MC for later stage Alzheimer’s
We recently checked my mother into an MC and are very happy with the activities. But I still wish she were home with us. She still knows all of us. She just gets very confused at times and we took the step because she was having terrible delusions. They seem to have subsided, likely due to all they added activity in her…
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How to inform your parent of major home maintenance plans
Does anyone have advice on how to inform a parent about major necessary home repairs? My siblings and I live out-of-state from my mom. While she still lives independently, she has trouble with executive function, particularly finding and hiring people to do home maintenance. Her roof is old and is in a state of total…
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Father in hospital, begging me to set him free
This is my first post here. My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's disease 3 years ago, and I have been his caregiver ever since. I am his sole caregiver, and we have no family nearby. He had declined to the point recently where I began arranging a room in a nearby memory care facility for him. The weekend before his…
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Entering the fun new phase of paranoia
My mom has been in AL for just over 2 weeks. She finally had her doctor's appointment there with the doctor on staff to establish her as a new patient. It was a very painless exam, he just wanted to go over her medications and he could not have been nicer — she complained about how one of her pills is not delivered to her…
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Need resources & ideas
Hi, My dad was diagnosed with Dementia in October of 2025 but it has progressed rapidly and he is living in an unsafe situation at home. He falls frequently at night, has hallucinations and can be very agitated and aggressive. My mom is is caretaker and is with him 24/7. I’m extremely worried about her health and well…
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Guilt and Obligation
Not sure why this posted twice but I can't delete so please reply to the other post.
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Parent in MC Talking about Dying
My dad, now 92, has been in MC for almost two years and is in stages 5-6. He is a generally optimistic person. In the past two weeks he has begun telling me, matter of factly, that he will be dying soon. I have tried different responses, depending on the situation, such as: (1) “Since you are human, you will die someday,…
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Things have calmed down
So I made a few posts here earlier this month about my mom and how my parents were struggling. I think we've gotten past the crisis point that occurred - my dad has said he's doing a lot better at keeping things calm at home with my mom. I do think at least some of the worst of what was going on was due to my dad's hip…
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Mom doesnt listen
My mom is early onset Alzheimers and is experiencing some cognitive decline but not to the extent that I can contact the agency on aging for a caregiver. She can still bathe herself, etc. However, she does not listen to or obey what I tell her no matter what the reasoning. Right now, I am the only one available to take…
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Mother lives across country and has early stage dementia
Mother lives across the country and insists she is taking her medications regularly, but her BP says something different. She tells her doctor that she is taking her meds and feels that the doctor is calling her a liar. I know she is not taking them regularly, and she meets the criteria of loss of memory for the early…
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How fast does Zoloft work?
My mom is 83yo, in mild to moderate Alzheimers. I don't know which stage exactly, just that she has plaque on several parts of her brain. The neurologist says her stage is dependent on her behavior and abilities. She's been taking donepezil for about 2 months now. Took 6 weeks to get her to 10mg. She has been getting…
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Moving my mom - which is best
My mom was told she has Alzheimer’s about 2 weeks ago. I think it is early. We have noticed trouble with remembering she has told us something and I know it took her 2 hours to pay a bill not remembering whether she had told us something call the bank or call the credit card company. My friend, who is currently helping…
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No Appetite
My mom hasn’t been eating or drinking for a few weeks. We brought her to ER for IV fluids and the PT recommended a rehab facility to get her eating, drinking, and moving again. Great plan except that she has no appetite and everything tastes bad to her. Even foods she loves. She is excited to eat it and then stops after a…
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Bedridden mother w/dental issues
Hello. I care for my 89 year old mother who has severe Alzheimer's and has been bedridden since falling and breaking her hip in February of last year. She has visiting hospice nurses twice a week, and (by the grace of God) is doing well, overall for her circumstances. My Mom has a full upper partial, which had previously…
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How do I respond to my parent talking about me as if I were someone else?
As life would have it, my parent who I just moved over a thousand miles is now seemingly fuzzy about who I am (her only daughter). She 100% recognized me back in late January. When healthcare professionals ask, "who is that sitting next to you?" She will answer "my daughter" and say my name and act like it's a ridiculous…
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Mom at my wedding?
I would really like my mom to be at my wedding but thinking about the logistics is a lot. She lives in memory care 1 hour from the venue. I would help her with getting ready and getting here there but I’m worried about everything after when I won’t be as available for bathroom help, reorienting, keeping her from wandering…
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Grieving the living
My mom has Alzheimers. I moved in with her and my dad 2 years ago. At first my dad was taking the brunt of the abuse. She is so mean to him and occasionally hits him. Normally my mom is sweet, conservative, and very religious. Now she is mean, conniving and the complete opposite of who she was. We finally heard of medicine…
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Mom struggling to remember my late Dad :(
I was really taken aback today. My father passed away in December. My mom has been heavily grieving him ever since— I know she would look at his picture every day and have a good cry. We moved her from their home into AL near me this past week. Today I had lunch with her, and I was thinking "Wow, she seems really with it…
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Breaking Point
My Mom (78) was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s MCI about 2 years ago via Blood test, MMSE, MOCA. I don’t recall anything other than normal aging from the brain MRI at that time. She has not yet had a neuro psych evaluation. I was not terribly impressed with the neurologist that we saw. My Dad passed away in late February.…
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Memory care placement too early
I am checking my mother into a memory care unit tomorrow. My 87-year-old father cares for her today but she’s had so many delusions lately and fixations! She’s become aggressive with him as well. Cognitively it feels too early for her! I’m choosing a respite option so I can potentially move her out if I realize it is too…
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Resentment
I visit mom once a week and take her out to lunch most weeks if the weather is good. Yesterday before we left she told a friend she would not be down for lunch because her daughter was taking her out. The friend made a comment about how lucky she is that she gets to go out so much. Mom replied my son takes me out a lot…
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Thinking of moving my mom out of care facility
My mom, 87, is in the later stages of Alzheimer's. She was never formally diagnosed, but it has been at least a decade and probably closer to 15 years since she first started noticing she was having memory issues. Unfortunately her concerns were dismissed as just normal aging memory loss. She lived with my brother until…
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How to find case/social worker to help
My parents have many health issues, including my father who has dementia. All of my siblings and I live hours away. We have set up in home care, but it was dependent on my mother being there to regulate/direct my father. We have each spent weeks living in our old bedrooms trying to make the in home care work without us. It…
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Bad visits are just so disappointing
I would say about 1/3 of my visits to see my parent in the hospital are very poor though I shouldn't complain because she is never mad at me which is a blessing. It's just so disappointing to have a terrible visit because the drive is terrible, a geriatric psychiatric unit is just not an easy place to be even a well run…
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My mom has EOAD… need advice/support
Hi People, I have never had the courage to ask this question of the health professionals, I feel disloyal even asking it, and every time I have to verbalise my family’s situation, I burst into tears, but here goes. My mom was diagnosed almost 4 years ago at 46 years old during my freshman year of college, she still lives…
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How to handle hurtful lies
How do I handle my mother making up extremely hurtful lies about people? I can handle lies about minor things but she will say her car was "stolen from her" (my best friend's son bought it). She also told me that my cousin couldn't have children because she'd had an abortion in the past. When I ask how she knows this, she…
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Help needed - dealing with delusions
My Mom is 91 y/o, living alone, with dementia/Alz. She is convinced that her neighbor is getting into her condo and "ruining my Mom's Life!" Anything that is missing, marked or newly noticed by my Mom is her neighbor's doing. Over time, we have added 3 deadbolts on her front door and a motion camera in her foyer (which has…
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Dad newly diagnosed
hello everyone! My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s last September 2025. He’s still very functional on his own, but I’m definitely noticing changes. One big question I have is is it common for people with Alzheimer’s to withdraw socially? My dad has never been one to be outgoing at family events but lately he leaves…