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The Right Answer
My Mom is in early stages of Dementia, lives along and is very stubborn. My sister and I are her care givers. We have seen her decline while making bad decisions. Our current situation is that she would like to go visit her friends in another state for a few weeks. She has visited early this past summer and things went…
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Depression and Alzheimer’s
The last few months my mother has been really battling depression. She was on a mood stabilizer for awhile, but she wanted to stop that because it was causing her to feel tired all day long. Recently her neurologist prescribed an antidepressant called Auvelity. I’m hesitant to give it to her because of all the potential…
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Zoom Group Meeting?
Is there any way we could all get together and chat on zoom maybe once a week, or every two weeks? I feel so absolutely alone, and I'm sure many of you do too. It would be nice to make friends with others who are struggling with the same collection of difficulties. I have a zoom link that we could all use. Anyone…
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Loved one is pretending
Hello! Just frustrated today. I have caught my Mother-in-law pretending to shower a couple of times now! She turns on the water so I hear it running; she comes out with her "dirty" towels and throws them in the laundry, but when I check the towels are not or barely wet. Maybe she is doing a sponge bath but I doubt it. How…
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Say something/Don't say something?
Background: I went through dementia with my husband so I'm aware of the brain changes that happen. I notice when something is suddenly "off". I have lived with my mom since my husband passed 3 years ago. She loves Christmas so we have done big time decorating for the grandkids. A year and a half ago we did a HUGE project.…
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My parents are stubborn
Hi! This is my first post here. My dad has ALZ. I'm not sure what stage because his neurologist hasn't told us. He's progressing. My mom, my dad's caretaker is really struggling with accepting dad's behavior changes. My dad did a lot, all the driving, yard work, filled the car with gas etc. She's not a confident driver so…
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Geriatric Psychologist
Hi, My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. She is still in stage 1 and can be independent. Has anyone gone to a geriatric psychologist and did it help?? I appreciate all the help I can get. Thank you!!
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When siblings do not help
Hi, I have a mother who was just recently diagnosed with Alzheimer's. I have 2 other siblings, but they do not move unless I remind them. I am annoyed and frustrated. What can I say or do for them to help out?
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Rexulti , insurance wont cover it
hi there, have a prescription for Rexulti for my mom w dementia & Alzheimer’s, however the pharmacy says Humana will not pay for it, & it’s $1,400.00 if I pay out of pocket. Does anybody know a Canadian pharmacy they trust? Thank you M
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My Mother's Siblings
I have a question, what should I do about my mother's siblings who are coming from out of state and want to spend all day at our house? I think that it's too long and offered a 3-4 hour visit yet they complain. Any thoughts?
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Dad, strained relationship
My dad has just been diagnosed with dementia. He and I have a strained relationship, but my sister and I are helping him as much as we can or as much as we can handle. our mom died November 20 22 and within the last year we’ve both noticed a decline in our Dad so we’ve had him tested. His memory is OK but his impulse…
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LO Needs External Help But Won’t Accept It
Our 88 year Mom, who lives alone and, was recently diagnosed with moderate Alzheimer’s. Mom’s drivers license was revoked following her diagnosis, and her children moved her car out of her home so she would not attempt to drive. The social worker assigned to help us, following Mom’s diagnosis, advised us that Mom should…
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Not there then right there
I’ve noticed that when I arrive for a visit, my mom is usually a little confused until I acclimate her. She recognizes me, but is not exactly sure who I am. Occasionally, especially if we talk a bit (meaning I talk about normal stuff in my life and she listens attentively), she says REALLY lucid things! Like today, I asked…
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Favored daughter of three
I’m the middle daughter of three sisters, and I’m struggling with the challenges of caring for our aging mother. I’m a licensed mental health therapist, and I can see signs that my mom may already be in the mid-to-late stages of dementia, but my sisters won’t acknowledge it or pursue a diagnosis. The youngest, who is the…
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Brand new here; question about ptau217 test
My mom (68) was evaluated by a neurologist last month for suspected cognitive impairment. She performed poorly on the cognitive tests that were administered. The doctor ordered bloodwork, and today we learned that (a) she is an ApoE3/4 carrier and (b) her Quest PTAU217 level was 0.19. The note on her e-chart stated that…
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Maintaining my marriage
My MIL has not been diagnosed that we know of but she is extremely forgetful, paranoid, and just plain cruel. She swears the doctors have told her she does not have dementia but refuses to let any family or her husband go into the doctor's office with her so we seriously doubt that is true. My husband (her son) and I are…
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Moving Mom
My sister and I are getting things ready in my mom's new room in Memory care. She will be moving in on the 2nd. Any advice from those that have already moved their parent? What things did you find helpful? What didn't go so great? Necessary items for the room? Any advice would be helpful!
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How to answer questions about going home.
My lo is in assisted living for past 3 weeks, she constantly cries that she wants to go home. She has moderate dementia and is 95 years old
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How to Respond to Family/ Friends who mean well but their comments are a bit much at Times
A family friend says tell your mother Hello, even though she may not remember me. Or I heard she is really bad off.
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Should you tell mom that her brother has passed away?
New to the group here. Mom has late stage dementia, is 93 and her brother who lives in another state passed away. My dad who is 94 insists on telling her. I don’t think we should. I’ve gotten advice from medical professionals explaining the risks (and lean towards not telling her). I have to respect my dad‘s decision, but…
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Bathing why it’s a struggle
I’m new to all this and the group. Yesterday was a bad day for me I have never reached out before but mum for the first time ever got so angry and nasty to me it was a shock never has she done this before in my whole life and I’m 52. All because I’m trying to get her to bathe. I hope and pray she doesn’t start to associate…
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I don’t think I can do this
My mother and stepfather had both been in decline for several years and I have tried multiple types of interventions and been spending about half of my time with them at their house 2 ½ hrs from me for about a year. Two months ago my stepfather became ill and he died a week ago yesterday. I had been at their house pretty…
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The move from Al to a SNF
We moved mom yesterday. We told her about a week before the move (my brother insisted). When we got there she had packed up everything in the room. My brother insisted we bring whatever she wants, that there is room for. When I asked mom what boxes go she points to a pile. I bring them to my car and they have sewing…
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Directions
My lo has moderate dementia and cannot follow simple directions such as locking her door. How do I handle that?
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Where to Start???
I have hundreds of questions… Where do I start? My mom lives with me and has dementia. She needs assisted living and help with finances. Where do I start? She owns a home in South Carolina that I don’t want to sell, but may be my only option. Is there a way to protect the house? I believe she would qualify for Medicaid.…
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Equipment for dementia or ALZ patients
Dad is a fall risk due to frequent UTI issues. Having ALZ adds to the difficulty. We have part-time caregivers and my sister and I are there often but there are times he is alone and is generally ok. When he suddenly get a UTI he falls and is weak. We have went through a few devices with fall detection to no avail:…
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Medications
So we started my Aunt on Aricept and we are waiting for approval from insurance company to start Kisunla Infusions. She had a very bad day today and Im not sure if it is due to overload from family being in this past week or because we started the medication. She is having hallucinations and paranoia. Has anyone else…
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Meds - dumb question?
we finally got my mom to go to a Dr for a “well” checkup. Before the appt we were able to give the Dr a heads up about the memory issues, paranoia and anger towards my dad. The Dr was great. Never mentioned us contacting her and tried to be as comprehensive as she could while dancing around the memory/dimentia concerns so…
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It's obvious I'm not alone...
Though I feel very alone. I have been helping my 83-year-old mother who has had symptoms of dementia for at least 2 years. She had lived alone for 10 years after my dad passed. I kept trying to get her to move closer to me. In February she had some sort of psychotic event and I had her transferred to a memory care near me…
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Mom's New Diagnosis
Hello All! I can't tell you how happy I am to find this discussion board! My mom (76) was diagnosed with dementia a few weeks ago following an episode that involved her wandering the neighborhood at 3am and a horrific fall that landed us in the ER with a head injury. She told me that someone had stolen our furniture and…