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Legal Repercussions
Hello, I am new to this site. My mom was recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She was previously diagnosed with Mild Cognitive Impairment. For 5 years I have been paying her bills for her because she asked for help and could no longer do it herself. She still has access to all of her funds and we have only had a couple…
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Elder law appointment
I finally have an appointment with elder law 5/20. The initial consultation is free for 1.5 hrs. I am taking my mom there and discuss her will, setting up a trust fund, Medicaid planning and estate planning. Mom is very concerned about the lawyer fees. I am afraid she will not proceed with the lawyer after the…
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Just need Support - My Dad fell and is in the hospital
Hi- I just need some support at this moment. My dad with dementia fell and smacked his head on the pavement. He now has a traumatic brain injury with bleeding occuring in his brain. I just spoke with him tonight and he sounded so slow when speaking to me that I am worried its now a permanent condition due to the TBI. Just…
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Meeting her in her reality doesn't always work.
Most of the time when my mother says things that aren't true, I can just go along with it and meet her where she is, but how do you handle it when she doesn't recognize my father, and wants to know who the man in her bed is? Or asks where her husband is when he's right there with her. Any advice would be appreciated!
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Don’t know what to do
My mom is 87 and quite stubborn and very mean, uncooperative and vindictive. She has enjoy of her wits about her to know when she’s doing as well as saying things to irritate me. She can say some very mean and hurtful things. This has always been her way like u hit me I’m going to hit you as hard as I can. She has always…
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Impossible Mom
Hello. I've been dealing with my mom for a few years now and am becoming desensitized and hopeless. I'll try and stick to the main details otherwise this will be a book. Background on mom: she'll be 87 in August. She had Lupus for years in the 70s and 80s but went into remission somewhere around the end of the 80's. Back…
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Moving Advice
Hello, My mom was diagnosed with major neuro cognitive disorder in November. She has a follow up with a neurologist for further testing in August. She has no idea that there’s anything wrong with her which is making helping her just impossible for my sister and brother and myself. She is refusing to let one of us be at her…
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Dealing with possible anosognosia and FTD
We have been living with my MIL for about 6 months. She was diagnosed with FTD approximately 5 years ago. I could not say definitively what stage she is at as my SIL managed most of her care previously as she lived closest but was not able to move her into her home. The decision to have her move in with us was prompted by…
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Falling Risk
I am at a loss as to what to do with my father. He has early dementia and bad balance problems. He is now falling and hitting his head every couple of weeks. One time he broke 3 ribs and now he has bleeding in his brain from his most recent fall. I don't think he should go into a nursing home just for fall risk, right? You…
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Awareness and denial in those with A/D
My situation is that my mother-in-law has some level of dementia, whether it's early or later stage I have no idea. My wife and I live 3 hours away from my MIL and we visit regularly to try to help support her and the family members that live very nearby, and deal with her every day. Because we are so far away, we don't…
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Dad not adjusted to care home
My dad has vascular dementia, blood cancer and a head injury. He is wheelchair bound and earlier this year we had to put him into nursing care. Dad is verbally abusive to staff and keeps trying to get out of his chair and bed as he hates the nursing home.The family shares visits so we all get a break. We all feel upset and…
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New obsessive behavior
My 94 yr old mom with dementia has always enjoyed listening to music, especially the music of her youth. She sings along often, remembering the lyrics. I have searched for and found about 25 CDs of very old music that she enjoys. In the last couple of months, she has started clapping with the music instead of singing. It…
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I don’t know what I’m doing
Hello, I am 25 years old. My mom (58) was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer’s recently. She was originally diagnosed with FTD last year, but due to genetic testing that discovered she has 2 copies of the APOE4 gene, her neurologist changed her diagnosis to EOA. Both her parents passed in the last few years from…
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Ethics of car buying
We put my parents in memory care months ago. Dad has a relatively new used car, while my car is getting old. I want to buy his car, in fact family and neighbors have told me I should. I am Dad's POA, so bill of sale will be between me as POA and me as me. Check will go from my account to parents' account which I use to pay…
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literally impossible mom
Hello. This is my first time here so please let me know if I'm the right group. I'm looking for advise and or to hear from other people regarding my impossible mom. I don't want to type out the whole story unless I'm in the right group. Is this where I would tell my story and see who has input, similar problems ?
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What do you need to provide for a live-in caretaker?
I am considering hiring a live-in caretaker for my father. I am having trouble finding much information about what sort of living environment you need to provide for the caretaker. Any guidance would be appreciated. To provide some context, my father's house is not in good repair. I would not want to live there but my…
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Getting support for my dad who is my mom's full-time caregiver
Hello, first post here, hoping to get some different perspectives. My mom was diagnosed with early onset alzheimer's nearly 8 years ago (I think) right around 60 years old, though she likely could have been diagnosed earlier, she had been showing symptoms for a few years at that point. My dad has always promised her he…
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Suggestions for remaining patient with a parent?
Hello, I'm new here so here's a little introduction before my question: my 87-year-old mother has dementia after several years of living with MCI. My sister lives close by and handles my parents' finances and a lot of other tasks that are too much for them. I live on the opposite coast and do what I can from here, and I…
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Help! In need of a break
Hi, I am a new caregiver. About 2 months in, my husband and I took over care of his mother from another state, living with us now in our home. She was so much worse than we were led to believe. She needs to be watched 24/7 and we are well aware that it will only get worse from here. We are looking for some kind of…
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Mom Making Up Stories
HELP! My mom has dementia. I don't know what type, because her primary doctor has been treating her for "memory" issues for several years. She began with taking donepezil and now memantine has been added. She is also on an anti-depressant and mood stabilizer. She knows all her family, so that hasn't been an issue. However,…
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Anyone with a parent living for their pet?
Hello to all…I have SO many different things to talk about, but one thing that has been weighing on me since we moved my mom into our home one year ago today is this…we think she is living for her pet. Like most people with pets, it's family. Of course! I have pets of my own and have almost my entire life and can't image…
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Artis Senior Living Boca Raton
Hi all - I am considering moving my mother to the memory care center at Artis Senior Living Boca Raton. We had a good visit there and spoke with family members of residents. Does anyone have first hand experience with this facility that could provide some thoughts?
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Suggestions
Hi, I am a new to this group and need any advice or direction as to how to better assist my 86 year old mother that was diagnosed with dementia back in 2023. She had a stroke that affected her short term memory, she couldn't tell you what happened last year of anything at the moment but constantly talks about things that…
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My mother doesn't remember my brother died; suggestions for path ahead?
Hi all, I am a new member here. My mom, who is 95 and lives with my family, has significant cognitive decline and has trouble making new memories. Several weeks ago, my brother died of cancer after having been ill since last summer. Mom knew he'd had cancer and she visited him a number of times in his last days. She also…
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Just a Little Advice Needed
My mama is 75 and her PCP has officially diagnosed her with dementia-close family members knew this for a while now but she is really hard-headed and she has to make the decision as to the doctors she wants to see. We are waiting on them to make her an appointment with a neurologist. I feel like smudge. I am calling to…
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Book for Caregivers of Neglectful/Abusive Parents
Happy Holiday season to everyone celebrating everything. My therapist recommended this book and I found it super useful: Doing the Right Thing: Taking Care of Your Elderly Parents, Even If They Didn't Take Care of You:
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Maintaining independence during early stages
Hi, my mom (58 years old) was recently diagnosed with mild dementia. My siblings and I are trying to navigate this new reality and find a balance between keeping her safe and allowing her some independence. She’s on medical leave from her job because her performance had been declining. This means she’s home 24/7. Seeing…
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New to group
My mom is 80 years old and is in her second year of diagnosis. She is the church organist at our church but needs my brother or I to prompt her when to play. She can no longer do they planning or get up in time to make it to church so the church says she has to retire which I understand. However, some days she remembers…
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This journey
It’s been 3.5 years since my dad passed and I became my mom’s caretaker and her dementia took a fast slide. She moved out of state to be close to me 2 years ago. Many of you have been right there with me on this journey. Staging: she was probably stage 3-4 before dad passed, 5 when she moved here. Now she’s in stage 6 in a…
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New here Caregiver for my Mom
Hello all! I have really been struggling and looking for support and I am very happy to have found this community! My Mom is 77 diagnosed in December 2024. She lives with me and my husband in an in-law that we put on for her. I have so many questions but the biggest issue right now is she has been online shopping,…